Why do good people sometimes say things they later regret?

Why do we shut down, snap, or go into fight mode when pressure rises?

In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we explore a powerful idea:

Sometimes it’s not weakness.

Sometimes your threat system is driving the bus.

And when that happens, we can find ourselves reacting in ways that don’t reflect who we want to be.

A practical and compassionate reminder that awareness creates choice… especially in difficult moments.

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QS2 When the Threat System Takes Over

[00:00:18] [00:00:20] airplanes, people just seeming to be driven by their threat systems. I looked at that as [00:00:30] their threat systems were just driving the bus and that they were being swept along for the ride and, who among us [00:00:40] hasn't had their threat system take over and have them do things

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[00:01:03] This one's about why we sometimes react in ways we later regret.

[00:01:22] So maybe just notice this week, When pressure rises, what signs tell you your threat system might be taking [00:01:30] over?