So much of day-to-day living is tied up in finances: having enough money to do what you want to do, feeling fulfilled (or not) with your work, not having enough to get everything done, wanting to make changes to fix your financial situation, all of that. I started this discussion in Episode 22, and today I’m going to go deeper.

It doesn’t matter what your relationship with money has been in the past, or in your family history. Your relationship with money and wealth is an ongoing relationship that takes work.

I have some mindset myths to debunk today, and some truths to explore:

• Putting your work ethic on a pedestal
• What is going to get you to your next level
• How much your ancestral money wounds are affecting you now
• Asking for what you desire and deserve
• 3 reasons why your money situation isn’t what you want it to be

If you’re feeling tight or restricted or fearful about money, especially as we move further into this recession, I can help you inside The Money Audit Masterclass:

Share with me what inspired you in this episode! Tag or DM me via IG @ashinspires, or visit my website at ashleyjohns.com

If you’d like to enjoy my view and watch me speak, you can find It’s Still Happening on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL-DEkWk49Q_oTeCh2_ZCYLLrcklWndfIk

May you walk your path with courage and compassion!

with love, trust and devotion to my path,

Ash x

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All right, so welcome back to It's Still Happening podcast y'all.

this will be interesting.

I mean, what episode isn't, let's be honest.

For those of you who are listening to the regular audio recorded podcast, you

don't know, but I will tell you, I'm also video recording this episode for the

first time and it's going up on YouTube.

So if you like to experience podcasts with seeing the person, which

is basically like, I don't know.

Visual podcast and then head over to my YouTube channel.

I'll leave the link in the show notes so you can actually watch me.

Swing in my outdoor office chair, as I'm looking out into the jungle and

enjoying the warm breeze of South Florida's weather in this episode.

So, if you guys don't know, and if you're listening in real time, you

will know that I took a week off just to reflect on our first month back

to this season, this final season of its Still Happening podcast.

And I really enjoyed taking a little bit of pause to look at not just the data.

Of the podcast, but also what all I have to say.

There's so many different topics that we're covering, that it was just

beautiful to go back and actually listen to the episodes myself.

if you ever, you know, notice like in season one and season two, I think I

mentioned that I never go back and listen to the podcast, but this time I did.

And.

And listening to that, I just was like, oh my God, we have to talk about something

that I haven't talked about in a while.

So, that's what this episode is all about.

So in last episode, I walked y'all through.

If you did not listen to it, I highly suggest that you go back and do.

I talked about the different phases of the healing and the empowerment journey

that I know every woman goes through.

Like I have not met a woman who has not moved through these different

phases of empowerment, growth, self-development, self-acceptance.

and the reason I was so inspired to even document that and share it

is one, it's a big component of my upcoming book, paths to Freedom.

And also I keep hearing and seeing people talking about how hard it is

to break generational patterns, how hard it is to create the life of their

dreams, how lonely they feel doing life differently than their mothers, their

sisters, their aunties, their fathers, their family members, essentially.

And I was like, gosh, this whole like, loneliness, belonging, fear of being.

Left behind or leaving people behind because you're choosing to create

the life that's aligned with your souls calling, and that brings all

the juice and the blessings and the joy back into, or into your family,

your lineage at a different level.

And so I was like, gosh, like we really need to outline this whole situation.

And in that episode, like I don't, I'm not gonna recap the whole

episode for y'all, so you should definitely go back and listen to it.

But, And one of the biggest insights, uh, I've witnessed in my life and also

in my clients, is that the beginning of that journey most times is either,

um, I wanna say fueled by, inspired by, or even hindered by money, right?

Either you have the money already and you're like, you know what?

I love my career, or I've been loving my career, but I feel very unfi.

And because I have some savings, cuz I do have a good job or I do

have a trust or I do have family support, I can go and explore.

I can start signing up for therapy.

I can go on a sabbatical, on a trip, I can go on a women's retreat, um, I

can start exploring my spirituality, you know, things like that because you

already have the financial support.

Oftentimes it's also that, lack of finances is what's making

you be like, you know what?

I wanna become an entrepreneur.

I need to make more money.

I'm tired of this dead end job.

Or feeling like I have to negotiate for raises or feeling like as

soon as I make money it goes out.

But there's a lot about our identity, our path of healing, our path of

freedom that is centered around our relationship to money, receiving

it, having it, holding it, enjoying it, and changing our relationship.

And so, in that episode, I talked a lot about that, especially at the

beginning of my journey and my career.

And I wanna go deeper into this today because again, I also have talked about

in a previous episode how many people have said, oh Ash, I found your work.

Or I know someone who worked with you and it was life changing and

it was so amazing, but I can't afford to work with you right now.

Or, But if I pay for working with you right now, I'm afraid I won't have enough

money for other things that I need and want, or whatever the story may be.

And I've definitely personally been there.

I have paid payment plans to work with some of my most amazing

elders and teachers and mentors.

I've paid in full for things.

I've had to, you know, oh, pay half now and half later

I've had to do other things.

So I have a whole episode devoted to that.

If you didn't listen to it about, think it was episode 21 or 20.

Go back and check that out.

But in this, I wanna go deeper into our relationship with money because it is

such a crucial experience of the woman who's becoming the empowered woman,

who's breaking generational patterns, who's creating what she really wants to

see in her life, and is the first in her family to do it in a long time as I am.

And as I assume that you also.

Are.

So the journey of being resourced financially, emotionally, mentally, and

community like resource is not something that we can, skip over or ignore.

And a lot of times we're self resourcing and other times we

do need to resource externally, especially as it relates to money.

So this episode, the Money audit is all about that, and I will tell you,

I feel a lot of things about money.

I have a lot of opinions about money.

but what I know for sure is that all of us, it doesn't matter what your

relationship to money looks like.

It doesn't matter what your relationship with money, how

it's looked in your family.

this is an ongoing relat.

To the energy of abundance, to the energy of currency, to the energy of

provision in many different ways, right?

So in fact, as I was doing some research and reflecting over all the things I

know about money and what I wanna share with you, I was actually listening

to a podcast episode of a woman who I really like so much so that I got her

book, as an audio book and listened to it and loved it and I loved how clean

and like straight to the point it was.

And then, I actually went and bought the physical book cause I just

wanted to have the physical, I'm more of a physical book person, but.

Sometimes, you know, you just wanna get through the audio and audio

books are so easy to do that with.

so anyway, I bought the audio book, I bought the real book, and then,

I was thinking about something that she was saying and it, it really teed

up this conversation around money and even our relationship to work.

And when I started looking at like, her platform and like digging into a little

bit more of like who she is, there was something that really stood out

to me and I know it's gonna resonate.

But in it, she was talking about how hard she's worked to get to where she

is and how proud she is of that.

she was talking about how, you know, she's a bestselling author, which she is.

She's got like a billboard in New York Times and.

Amazing things that she's done with her life, but over and over and over

again, whenever she tells her story about her books and her life, she

talks about how hard she worked and how she came from a single parent home

and, you know, she worked her butt off and nothing has been, given to her.

It's all been earned.

And you know, I get it.

I came from a single family home and.

She also talked about how like, yeah, she's no stranger to having a work ethic

and so many people want things without putting in the work, which let me tell

you, my own mother reminds me of that.

There's a lot of people who have come to me or found me on the internet who

really admire what I do, but they don't see all the things that go into it.

Even people that I've hired.

Externally as a client or even as just seeing me online, they're like, oh my

God, and I loved your email sequence and I loved your videos, and, but

then when it's like time to actually work in the business, they're like,

oh my God, you make it look so easy.

Or your team's made it look so easy.

How do you guys work like this?

Again, we don't work really hard, but I'll get back to that in a second.

I'll ask, get back on this.

and like a year ago, if I would have came across this particular author's platform

and listened to what she was saying about working hard and coming from a background

and like putting your all into it, and I wouldn't even use the word like grind,

but just like in it, you know what I mean?

Like in it, I know how to make something happen.

For my effort, I would've been.

Nodding my head, I would've been like a man, sister with my hands.

You know what I mean?

Like, because again, I do come from a lineage of hardworking women.

I do come from people who appreciated putting in the work in order to receive

what you want or to create what you want.

doing like this makes me think of Doggett from orange as the new black, right?

Like praise God.

Yes.

Hard work.

Amen.

You know?

But today I am not doing that.

I'm not celebrating the hard work.

Um, and I'm not shaming her.

Anybody else who, is still putting their work ethic on a ped.

Like, because I worked hard, I'm gonna keep centering my hard work.

I'm just not doing that anymore and I wanna talk about that in

the context of receiving money.

I don't wanna work hard anymore.

I don't wanna overwork hard to receive money ever again in my life.

I walked away from that in my career and I am now transforming that in my.

And again, that does not mean to say we don't appreciate the effort that we put in

and what it has created in our lives, but what I know for sure is that the effort

and the work that I did in the past to get me where I want it to go is not going

to get me to where I want to go next.

Right.

My next evolution is not work ethic.

It actually is about trust and allowing right, and collaboration and believing,

and more about the energetics and the alignment than pure strength and.

now that does not mean that I don't show up in ways that are considered.

Work, like obviously I wrote the script, the things that I wanted to

cover in this episode, you know, I had to set up and like, look at how

I wanted to do my outdoor office for this particular, video episode.

And you have to do things like check your bookkeeping and like, you know,

write things, talk to your team about things like, yes, there is work, but

those like late nights, it's never.

Pushing, grinding, giving your all being depleted.

again, constantly looking for something to solve.

It's just a no for me.

And what I've started to see over and over again is that there is a synonymous

relationship again, because I truly believe it's because we're American.

I'm American.

Some of you listening may not be, but the Western approach to money only comes

from hard work is a spell that's over us.

Now, I'm not saying you can just lay on your back and be lazy and have

no creativity or no doing anything.

Just be a couch potato and you're gonna have bku, thousands of dollars

falling into your bank account.

Obviously not.

But there is an in-between here that when you're in a aligned action and

you're doing things out of creativity, out of love, outta inspiration,

outta curiosity, out of, bringing two things together to make something.

You can say innovation, right?

That that is the wellspring of receiving the finance and the meaning in your

life that you want to receive, as opposed to it being from, I worked

hard and now I get to receive money.

So, it's a no to me to being, you know, breaking your back to receive money.

I'm not forcing, I'm not struggling.

I'm not sweating, I'm not pushing, I'm no longer coercing or trying to do anything.

Anymore.

I am going back to being straight up ash in my creativity, in my

essence, and allowing that to be the driver of my business.

And that's like a very radical thing to say.

Like, really, we've got like Kim Kardashian, what

a year ago was like, what?

What was that interview that got.

Like so much pushback and like ridicule where she was like, work

hard, tell them to get off their asses and work hard or whatever.

And it, everyone was like flipping out.

I mean, I, there's so many to unpack, so much to unpack in that too, cuz

it's like, yeah, there's a lot of people who don't want to sacrifice

the things that are necessary in order to receive something, but at the same

time, there's a lot of people who are working very, very hard and not receiving

what they want and what they deserve.

So it's not really about effort, it is about aligned action to.

As I said, I come from women who have worked really hard, who found a way.

My fiance gave me like the worst compliment ever once where he was like,

you always work hard, you never give up.

And I was like, oh my God, bro, but I want to stop working hard.

Like I don't want to keep going.

but it's true, like sometimes we are celebrating our resiliency and, we're

celebrating, stuff that depletes us.

We're celebrating stuff that actually isn't good for us.

In fact, I wish I would've came to this conclusion in my life and in my business

three years ago, you know, that I could do less in a more inspired, authentic,

loving, easeful way, and I would receive everything that I want still, you know,

as opposed to having to deplete myself again, having adrenal fatigue, feeling

uninspired, like we can cut that.

Cycle.

Right, and that is an inherited cycle, by the way.

That is an ancestral cycle of survival of wounds, right, of if I

work hard, then I get to receive.

I get to receive no matter what I do, how I do it, and the energy that

I do it in, and the energy that I am cultivating in myself is what

allows me to be more magnetic and more aligned and more prosperous,

and more abundant and more attractive to any and everything that I want.

Whether that is money.

A particular relationship, an opportunity, new friends, whatever it might be.

Right?

Even your body.

I think there was a science scientific experiment that showed like, The energy

of positivity helped people like burn more calories and get aligned to their

weight loss goals faster, as opposed to like being negative and beating

yourself up and like feeling like you have to keep running on the treadmill

and you have to do all the things.

You could be doing all the things, but if your mind, body, energy spirit connection

isn't there, the body won't let go.

Right?

The body also won't receive, so yeah.

It's a big, bold statement, but I absolutely mean it and I'm glad that

I'm saying it because I wanna give you permission to explore if this is a shift

that you also need to actually be making, not just liking the posts on social media.

Again, I'm not trying to shit on us or you know, not social media, but

I do feel like we are consuming so much information in quotes and ideas,

but are struggling to step into it, apply it, or embody it in our real

lives, which is what I'm here for.

So hard work has gotten me very, very, very far in my past.

It's gotten me to where I am today, arguably, but truthfully.

but it is not what's going to get me to my next level in life.

It's not gonna get me to the lifestyle that I am now creating.

the next challenge, if you will, of how I want to exist in this world.

It just isn't, it isn't about the effort, but I do believe the beginning of our.

Do require something like that.

Like in order to break through those spells and those patterns of, a

stagnation, you have to apply some effort, but then as soon as you do apply effort

and you understand what you're capable of, we need to move into the trusting

and the allowing and the beingness.

So what is gonna get me to my next level alignment?

Being open, staying.

Never leaving myself emphasis on that last one because if there's anything

I have learned about myself in this journey, and I'm talking about like right

now, relearning again, deepening, and the understanding and the wisdom here

is that, I used to leave myself abandon myself every time when it came to money.

And it didn't look like it externally.

Like my energetic vibration is very wealthy.

People meet me and already think I'm a multimillionaire.

I'm not yet, right?

or when I'm out around men or they're attracted to me, they would always

be like, oh man, she's different.

She's like high end.

She's gonna be a tough one.

She's high maintenance, or whatever it might be.

However, internally I would feel empty de.

Scarce, like nervous.

Like if I don't show up a certain way, I will not receive the money.

If I don't stay on top of myself, that man is going to take advantage of me, right?

And we'll get into relationships and men and healing ancestral patterns around

the masculine and men on another episode.

But it was always this like abandonment of myself, abandonment of my heart,

abandonment of my trust, abandonment of my actual desires relating to money.

just.

Leaving myself like, let me give you an example.

I remember sitting down doing some work one night and I needed to stop.

Like it was time for me to hydrate.

It was time for me to eat.

It was time for me to stretch my body.

It was time for me to go out on a walk, sh let go of the work for the

day and come back to myself and be with me, and that was not happening.

My mind kept saying like, screaming.

Stop working.

Stop doing.

Like, come back to me.

Come back to your body.

Come back to this moment.

And I just couldn't do it.

I just couldn't.

I was just like, wait five more minutes.

Like five more minutes.

I had given all my energy and all my time to the work, to the business

at the time and didn't see it.

And I'm like, bitch, you have to go to the bathroom.

Like you have to pee.

Like you need to feed yourself.

You need to take care of yourself.

And here you are trying to squeeze another 32 minutes of.

Right.

And next thing you know, it goes an hour.

So I have completely depleted myself, walked away from myself, not cared

about myself in the name of work, in the name of business of money, receiving

money, and I just don't do that anymore.

You know, and this, again, from like a behavioral perspective, you

can say, set a timer, take a break.

Set your day up for blocks and make sure you block in for lunch.

Like all of those tactical, tangible behavior change habit trackers,

that's cool and it'll help you become aware of your habits.

But if your wound, if your deep ancestral programming, if your deepest

belief system in your own life and in your whole lineage is that you

will only receive money by being present and hardworking in your work.

Changes are only surface level because energetically and embedded

in your whole being is that you are not gonna be wealthy without effort.

So we have to go and heal and transform that energetic and that belief in order to

change your relationship to work, in order to change your relationship to money.

So some of these money mindset programs and things like that, Our money mindset

gurus, and I'm not gonna knock them, they're helping you affirm what you

want with money, but they're not usually looking at all the different

ways you can receive money or changing your relationship with the work so

that you can receive money in any way.

Right?

You're like just focused on the money, but there's a whole relationship of

working and money that we have in this, in our Western society, especially in

this country, in the United States.

So, This is what I'm teaching and guiding the women inside of Elevate Mastermind.

It's my six slash nine month.

You have an option, um, mastermind that I hold every single year, and it's really

amazing to see how your desires money, for example, are so interconnected to other,

and embedded to other survival mechanisms, things that you didn't even imagine.

Like, do I even believe I can hold on to money and hold money?

What does it mean to be the first woman in my family who is a

millionaire, you know, in a long ass.

but this is also what I'm teaching inside of the old money course.

So a lot of you have asked me over the years if I would ever

teach about money, if I would ever teach about currency, abundance

and building generational wealth.

And I was like, eh, I don't know.

Like it's always.

A component of the work that we do when I do ancestral healing work.

And when you're working on creating the life that you want, we always talk about

money and scarcity and looking at your relationship and patterns to those things.

So I didn't ever think about having a separate course for it, like a,

you know, a specific, a la carte, but it just feels right now to have it.

So I'm calling it the old money course.

And it's such a good name, right?

Because we're literally talking about your old money patterns,

not just your own, but those that you've inherited from your family.

We're looking at how you can create old money.

Money that lasts long money that is abundant, that's staying around you, that

is sticking to your life, your business, that you can invest and do things with and

feel proud of, and have a loving, present relationship with instead of a fearful.

and I think it's gonna be a really amazing course.

If you're interested in that, definitely click the link in the

show notes and get on the wait list.

Um, let me know you're interested in it, and you'll be the first to be notified.

And if you're ready to explore right now, I highly recommend signing up for.

The money audit.

So the money audit is only 27 bucks, but it's a beautiful guided masterclass

where I take you through looking at your current relationship to money and

working and start to shift that, or at least bring your awareness to your

relationship to money and working.

So it's called the money audit.

The link is in the show notes, and I highly recommend you signing up for it.

We've already had about 40 people go through it, and I

just released it last month.

Um, so I think it's gonna be a really fun one for you to explore.

Okay, so what I most desire as it relates to work in money, right?

Especially if you are at the beginning of your healing, growth, woman

empowerment, whole life transformation journey, or you're just deepening in it.

It never stops.

Right?

we desire to have that fine balance between effort and allowing.

That's literally it.

I'm not saying that we wanna do nothing and receive all the money in the world.

Like I think a lot of us would get bored with that.

I think a lot of us enjoy working because we enjoy creating, we

enjoy, it's part of our personality, it's part of our identity, right?

But the way that we've been taught to work, to receive money and the

way that we've been shown to effort and deplete and struggle and strain.

Have these hard and high expectations.

It's not serving us, it's actually hurting us in general, but especially

as women, it's just not that beautiful, illustrious, passionate, fun yumminess

where when you receive the money on top of creating in that energy, it feels so good.

And one of my favorite examples of this is um, I remember I was doing

a relaunch of Finding Your Freedom, which is one of my signature program.

And I just didn't wanna launch it and offer it the way that I

did before, like in the past.

And I was like, gosh, like I just feel really bored.

And I was like, but I also need the money and I also wanna see

this program get to more people.

Cause I think at that time we'd run it three times and we were

moving on the fourth time, fourth or fifth time running the program.

And I was like, okay, like.

What's the creative, fun way that I could like create this launch?

Right.

And I, at the time, I think I only had like one or two, team members.

One was a VA assistant and one was a social media production,

manager, creator, person.

And so, um, I had heard about like private podcasts and I was like,

oh, that might, that might be fun.

Like what if I taught everything that's in the course in this private podcast

and kind of guided people through what it's like to be in the course.

Like, I don't know.

That feels exciting.

Like, it feels like an intimate, cozy sister girl chat, training, teaching.

Right.

And it didn't feel like work.

Like I created this private podcast at about a week's time.

Launched it with a couple of social media posts, let the private

podcast run for another five days and brought in like $25,000.

You know, like it wasn't about this effort and this pushing to produce, it

was, wow, I've never done this before.

I, I'm intrigued by it.

It's a creative process.

I had to like, go to YouTube University and learn how to edit a podcast and like,

what's the, um, software I could do.

Like I did it all free.

I found like one of those Free music license things and like

signed up and it was really fun.

It was just like a fun experience and I truly believe that it was through that

aligned, inspirational energy of creating that offering and creating the portal

in which the money could come through.

But it was the energy of how I created that portal, right?

Like the private podcast.

Energy, my enthusiasm for it, my excitement for it, that allowed

people to be attracted to this offer that allowed it to penetrate through

the noise and bring in that money in such a quick amount of time.

Right?

It never felt like effort.

It never felt like pushing.

And so this whole thing of like, I need to make the money in order

to have the spaciousness or I need to, um, figure out how to make

money in a way that I love, we.

Look at our relationship to work in order to really get into this

and our relationship to work is way deeper than just a, a career or a

degree, or, you know, what we see or what we believed is from our roots.

It truly is.

Um, and it's one of the hardest things that I've ever had to do because again,

I used to have a lot of pride in working hard and receiving a lots of money,

and now I have a lot of joy in working.

Beautiful, inspiring, joyful, you know, explorational, explorational,

I'm making up words now.

That's how good I feel anyway.

I trust money to come.

It always does.

I believe that I can beat myself and share my wisdom, and it attracts

the opportunities that I desire and that I am aligned for because I'm in

alignment the way that I'm creating everywhere I go, everything I do.

Portal and an opportunity to receive money.

It's a bat signal to money to come my way in the ways that it's rightful

for me and the people that I'm called to serve and inspire and support.

I ask for what I desire and I feel that I deserve like that.

Alone is a big deal.

I'm not asking for, and this is a tip for you.

A lot of us are just asking for money just for the sake of like

to pay a bill or to pay an.

Or asking for large sons of money because it would make us feel safe.

But when we get down into healing our relationship with money and work,

but healing our relationship with money is so much more than that.

Like we need to be clear about how much money we want and

need and for what reasons.

And it can be beyond just paying for an expense.

It could be beyond just, I won't have to worry, like I want money in my life at

all times because it's a blessing to me.

It's a blessing to people who are around.

It provides for a lifestyle that is regenerative and abundant and

overflowing, and that means that I'm free to move around and share

my goodness without restriction.

Like that feeling is completely different too.

I no longer have to worry about my bills, you know what I mean?

Like when we go through the money audit, it's helping you to really

reframe and get into the energetics of what you desire in your relationship

to resource and provision.

so yeah, asking for what you, desire and what you feel you deserve.

That alone, like it, it'll kick up all your stuff, like worthiness.

Things like, what do I deserve?

I know I deserve to be able to be my full, authentic, generous, blissful

self without ever having to worry.

That's what I believe, and that's what I know I deserve, and I

want you to have the same thing.

And I manage my energy accordingly around what I am cultivating in my life

financially and experientially, right?

I'm not looking to have all these energy leaks that are the antithesis, right, or

sabotage what I'm actually cultivating in my life around money and freedom.

That's another gem.

Anything.

Anything I touch turns to gold.

This is one of my favorite affirmations that I'm giving that to

you, and it's a very personal one.

I even had a vision board, like I wanna say like four years ago,

that had this woman like touching something and it was turning to gold.

It's one of my favorite sayings, I think about the ease of being in creative

energy so that it creates beauty anywhere I go, anything that I do makes that

experience that much more beautiful.

I mean, that's a recipe for abundance.

If you ask me and you can't ask me, here are some things that I no longer do as

it relates to my relationship to money.

I don't need to demand it.

I do not beg for it.

I don't demand it.

I don't chase unpaid payments.

Some of you who are listening to this podcast, I'm calling you

out with Love Owe money to me.

But if you notice, I have not asked for it because I trust that it's

coming when it's gonna come, whether it's from you or from somewhere else.

That's just how it is.

I, I've noticed a lot of people, particularly in the self-help and

development, industries are like, you signed a contract and like da, da, da da,

da, and they're like chasing people down.

And I was like, you know what?

It's super shitty when people do not keep a.

And they don't address it.

But I would rather you, and this is just spiritual hygiene, and for my own piece,

I'd rather you deal with your deficit of not paying something and not keeping

your word and how that's cycling through your life over and over and over again.

And I release attachment, so that is no longer my energetic vibration.

Can you imagine what would happen if I believed that every.

Coming to my business with lapses on a payment or wouldn't pay me.

And I was just working like, that is like a cancer.

It is.

It is a cancer.

It is, um, something that will eat up all of your abundance if you're

in that fear and then you'll keep attracting people who do that.

So, and this is not to shame anyone cuz you know, again, we've all had moments

where we couldn't afford something, but we really wanted to work with someone and or

hard times have come or like lost our jobs or I don't know, global pandemic happens.

Global pandemic, right?

But.

Being able to address your debts and be honest about where you are

and know that you've never forgotten about it, is a very powerful thing.

Whether you pay it five days later, five weeks later, five months

or five years, who cares, right?

But owning it is very important.

And as a provider and a healer, and a space holder, and a guide, and an

inspirational muse, when that happens, I'm just like, all right, something.

It'll come to me, whatever way it needs to and let go of it and move on.

So permission to do that.

Cause I know sometimes that when you're an entrepreneur or you're a business

owner, or even when you loan money or something to friends and when they don't

pay you back, it doesn't feel good, you know, and you start to question

yourself and your abundance around that.

Um, I always believe that there's more where that came from or

where it didn't come from.

Right.

There's always, my money does not come and neither does yours come through.

Only one avenue or one.

I'll do an episode on that.

That's a really good one.

Okay.

I treat my money with respect and appreciation and trust,

but I do not white knuckle it.

Oh my goodness.

I, I can tell you the number of my clients who have been like, I was so

afraid to pay you, and then I realize I really did wanna pay you and I enjoyed

paying you, which is one of my favorite mantras, that everyone who pays me enjoys

to pay me and enjoys working with me.

but they.

That experience of knowing that I deeply wanted to work with you and

that it would feel great to pay you, but still being afraid to do it was an

opportunity to open up and look at what my real relationship to money is like.

I didn't realize that Ash, and again, that ends up being like a

launching point of our intimate work together, that in whatever else

they came into the container for.

Look at how your relationship to money already is.

Are you like hesitating, even though you have the money to pay for

something, are you looking at what you will not have if you spend money

on something or invest in yourself in a certain way instead of looking at

what you're gonna gain, that's gonna let you know about your consciousness

and the energetic vibration of your relationship with money right off the bat?

Right?

So while I don't white knuckle it, I also don't just go around

spending it in ways that tells money that I take it for granted.

Like I deeply appreciate money.

I'm like, Ugh, I'm so glad that you're here again.

Like, how would you like for me to spend you?

I actually have conversations with my money like that.

Like how would you like to be spent?

How would you like to circulate in my life and in the lives of

people who are connected to me by way of their services, their.

You know, and I let money talk back to me and tell me, and I tell money

what I think I want for it, and I show money the buckets that I want

it to go into my life and savings and taxes and so on and so forth.

So it's actually quite fun in my opinion.

so here are three things I want you to know as we get

ready to wrap up this episode.

There are three reasons why your money situation isn't what you desire it to.

And of course there's many hundreds, millions of different narratives,

but it always comes down to these three things in my opinion.

One is you're not aligned or expressed in your power, in your

purpose, and in your calling.

So you're not doing your soul aligned work.

You don't really love what you're doing for a living.

It's not aligned with your energetic blueprint and who you're truly called to

be, and that will create a clog in you receiving money abundantly and easily.

Arguably we could say you're disconnected with who you truly are, because I

truly believe when we're our, authentic selves, we do things that are authentic

and align with us as an occupation, and therefore money flows to us very easily.

So look at that.

Number two, you're allowing your childhood ancestral and cultural.

And programs to dictate how, when and what you receive as it relates to money.

So this is those things that's like, oh, my mom always said that

money is the root of all evil.

Or I realize everybody in my culture, my race, if we're black, you know, we always

struggle with money or we don't know money or, a woman can't be trusted with money.

cuz my dad or my boyfriend or my husband or my brothers

or whoever always had it and.

Whatever it might be.

Oh, I'm young and now, so if I have a lot of money, I'll

squander it away and just blow it.

Oh, I'm old, and so I don't have a lot of time to get money.

Like whatever these stories are, they are.

What's stopping you from attracting and receiving money?

The third thing is you're completely disconnected from the true essence

and energy of money and need to rekindle a sacred relationship with it.

You just don't even intimately know what money is.

Sure.

We've had it in our wallet.

Sure.

We've had it in our debit cards, our credit cards, but you haven't

actually connected to the energetics of money and understand how it talks,

how it moves, how it likes to be appreciated, like it is an entity.

Just like when you go to a home and you're looking for an apartment and

you're feeling into the energy of the home, not just how it looks,

not just the location, not just the price point, but you're looking.

energetically?

Am I aligned with this place?

Is it a place that wants to hold me?

Do I see myself growing and evolving in this place?

This is it, or it is not it.

Same way you go through that experience is similarly to money.

What would it feel like to get that raise?

Like what does money feel like to me?

How does money want to feel?

Like to me, how does money talk to me?

Like getting intimate with the energetics of money and

for what it is itself is huge.

I'll tell you guys this.

When I was moving from the states to Southeast Asia, I had to attune

to the energetics of the money, not just that $1 was a million ria.

Is that how it was?

I think it was, I think it was one US dollar was a million rubia anyway.

it wasn't just the conversions.

Like most times we just focus on that, what is the actual

monetary currency conversion?

And let me do the math really quickly to understand how to use this money.

But we never feel into the energetics of how this money wants to be expressed.

Is it happy, is it sad?

Is it oppressed?

Is it like, What is the energetics of the money?

I know it sounds weird in hello woo woo, but if you sit down and hold a dollar

in your hand, or a 50 bucks in your hand, or a hundred dollars bill in your

hand, or even just look at your bank account and what you have in there and

tune into the energetics of that money, you will receive a lot of information.

Trust me.

Oftentimes it's all three of these.

You're disconnected to what you're really called to do and who you truly are.

You've got a whole bunch of ancestral family, cultural wounds, baggage

beliefs, limiting things running around, and you're disconnected to money.

So those are the three areas of exploration, healing, overcoming

growth, deciding what is gonna be true for you in those areas that will

transform your relationship to and with.

Okay, this feels good for now.

I know that we're moving further into, this recession and I think

that's a reason why I feel called to talk about money, teach about

money, share stories about money.

cuz everyone seems to be on this weird pause, but I want

to leave you with this thought.

Those who receive the most in changing.

Like massive moments of change as we're in again right now are always

those who are willing to face and transmute their greatest fears into

opportunities and into opportunities that they desire and they deserve.

Let me say that again.

The people who receive the most, who grow, who gain, who expand, who

bust through barriers and create new things and become very abundant during

changing times, are the people who.

Willing to face and transmute their greatest fears into opportunities.

So I wanna leave you with that.

If you are feeling restricted and tight and fearful about your money or

about what's happening in the world, even if you don't wanna admit it,

even if it's like a subtle frequency.

Face that deal with it.

Climb on in if you wanna explore that.

The money audit is in the show notes.

I would love to have you go through this.

It's about.

I think it's 60 minutes of me guiding you through the audit process.

It's a very powerful, and so far everyone who's gone through it has reported back

that it's been life changing for them.

So go ahead and sign up for that.

I'd love to have you inside.

In the meantime, have a fantastic day, wherever you are.

I'm so glad that you tune into this episode.

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