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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.
Now I mentioned four episodes ago when I introduced the these ABCD of iperformance. How it was a concept that I came up with as I was reading myself to coach a team in the semi finals. And the D actually came from a conversation at halftime. And it was about being decisive. And there are different situations in when you're playing a sport where you've got a number of different decisions to make. And indecision invariably results in a puff poor moment of performance. But when you're decisive doesn't guarantee the result. But give yourself the best chance because your mind straightaway locks on fixes on the decision that you've made and runs with it. And then you'll be able to review, measure that or do it well what can I adjust. But when you're in indecision, and you're kind of half making one decision on half another, then you can't really review whether you did it well or not. Because you will focus on two different things at once or sometimes more. In sporting analogy, you've got your in front of goal and a football game. And you're deciding whether you annotate one touch controller and then shoot or hit it first time or maybe going to pass it. Now if you make a split decision on which one that's going to be then go with it, or they will end up mucking it up. And the moments last year, sometimes in other areas of life, we don't have to make those split second decisions. But we can certainly draw decisions out for a long time. And like the episode I did a couple of weeks ago, when I was talking about what a downward spiral, being indecisive can be. To reach our best performance, it's that being decisive that will help us be on track and reaching our best performances because the indecision takes us on a journey where we get confused. We lack certainty. We're unable to act because fear of getting decision wrong. And then the pressure mounts.
Fed people challenged me at different times on this, like I want this decision. If I make that decision, then that will have very bad impacts. That's like potentially what will the other side of that decision result in maybe whatever decision you make is going to have some repercussions. But what's going to have bigger repercussions is making no decision at all. Because that keeps you stuck, that slowly eats away at your thought processes slowly eats away at the holistic health again, the physical, the mental, emotional, spiritual. Because any decision will get you where you want to go. And if you make one decision, you go that way and it's not the right decision and you turn around go the other way. And sure decisions have consequences. You have to make a decision ultimately anyway. And the longer you take, it's not so much about making the making the decision gets harder, it's more you're unable to make a decision. The psychology says that after each 24 hours making a decision gets 50% more difficult. So that reduces 50% And then another day 50% Another 50% Another Should we say, you're about 5% chance of making the natural decision. So within a week, the chances of you even making a decision that pretty close to nil
let that sink in for a minute. And then you're going to build yourself back up to the decision making, or you might get completely distracted because of that inability to make a decision. And that's where the downward spiral starts. And there's certainly no place for your best performance in a downward spiral. And from a leadership perspective, your team, as a leader, as a parent, maybe maybe it's in the workplace, maybe it's in a sporting area, maybe just with a group of friends, there's a certain way that you lead because you do lead in some way. You may not see yourself as a leader, but every single one of you leads in some way. But people are looking for perfection. They're not looking for it getting even getting it right. But they are looking for decisive and consistent. That makes them feel secure, that makes them feel safe, that they know what they're going to get. But indecisive just leaves them in a state of confusion as well. So if we look at it from that team perspective of performance, being indecisive will slowly eat its way at the team environment. And the easiest way to snap back is that make the decision be decisive. Do it individually, and then do it collectively as a team and away you go. That's not the size of big decisions. You don't weigh up the pros and cons and everything in between. But once you've got those all out and you've written them down, you've got clarity, then it's like, bang, here's the best decision I can make the information I have. And that's all you can do. So there we have the ABCD of high performance, accountability, belief, control, decisive. And as you notice, through all four of these, predominantly it starts with you and your ability to act in each of those four areas. And then how does that relate from a team perspective? I'd love your thoughts if you've got any other areas that are important for you. And maybe we get the whole alphabet for our high performance. So let me know. Let me know your experience with the four I've mentioned. Let me know what other areas you know are super important for your best performance. I'm already thinking. F coming to mind as in flow, because that's I know that's a big part. And then Zed the zone. Yeah, they're all part of high performance, but maybe you've got some others let me know. I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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