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CONVERSATIONS ON AGING: CAREGIVING & THE PRIVATE HOME CARE INDUSTRY
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Episode 3 features a professional caregiver in the private home care industry. Learn more about her caregiving journey!

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The Science of Successful & Healthy Aging with Dr. Dilip Jeste

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A Conversation with the California Commission on Aging Legislative Director, Leza Coleman

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The 36-Hour Day

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Kimberly:

Greetings and welcome to this special conversation on aging.

Kimberly:

You know what we say, we're never too young to think about the aging issues

Kimberly:

and all that goes along with that.

Kimberly:

I'm Kimberly Gunn.

Kimberly:

I'm your host for today's conversation and executive director of Zoom Catchers.

Kimberly:

We are gonna be joined by a private caregiver who is going to

Kimberly:

tell us her caregiving journey.

Kimberly:

Super excited to have her be a part of this conversation.

Kimberly:

Welcome,

Guest - Elle Tee:

welcome.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Hi, how are you?

Guest - Elle Tee:

I'm doing great.

Guest - Elle Tee:

How are you?

Guest - Elle Tee:

I'm well, thank you.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I just finished my first week in a new job, so rather excited

Kimberly:

and, and, and perfect timing for this conversation to, break down what

Kimberly:

goes on in the world of, of caregiving.

Kimberly:

And, first I wanna just put a, a golden spotlight on all the

Kimberly:

caregivers that are out there.

Kimberly:

They are holding down the fort.

Kimberly:

For millions of Americans, according to my research, there's 4.5 million

Kimberly:

direct care workers that provide care for people in homes, residential care

Kimberly:

homes, nursing homes, and hospitals.

Kimberly:

And by 2028, the need for a direct paid care workforce is expected

Kimberly:

to go by 1.1 million people.

Kimberly:

So, Elle, you are in the perfect job because there is a, a huge need for it.

Kimberly:

So please tell us more about yourself and how you got into

Kimberly:

the private caregiving industry.

Guest - Elle Tee:

well it was actually by accident.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I've always been in the corporate world and sort of dreamt that when I

Guest - Elle Tee:

was going to finish with that part of working, I'm not the kind of person to.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Stay home and sit on the sofa and just watch tv.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I always thought I would love to get in the private home service industry

Guest - Elle Tee:

more like being a, a Major Domo or a Butler or something to that effect.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And I lost my job in 2008 during the financial debacle and one day my

Guest - Elle Tee:

really secure job, went up and smoke.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And, there were no jobs.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I mean, no traditional jobs.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Companies were downsizing, people were laying off.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I couldn't even get a job for $10 an hour, and it was a little distressing.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I decided that, I guess that was the time that I should, explore what

Guest - Elle Tee:

I thought I was gonna be during my.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Semi-retirement to go into it now, and it took me a while because when

Guest - Elle Tee:

you're in private care, you have to have a minimum of five years

Guest - Elle Tee:

references of working in the home.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So no matter your level of education or your experience, That you have to offer.

Guest - Elle Tee:

they say, well, that's all lovely and wonderful, but if you don't have those

Guest - Elle Tee:

references of working in homes and they're, you know, a lot of artwork

Guest - Elle Tee:

and, people have to be secure that the person that they're letting into

Guest - Elle Tee:

their home is safe and, has a great background and has those references.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So it took me five years of accumulating these references.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And then I had, I was living in Atlanta at the time.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And then I had an opportunity to move, back up to New York, which is

Guest - Elle Tee:

really, where that industry in the private home service was thriving.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And I've been doing that ever since 2011.

Kimberly:

Wow.

Kimberly:

So you've, you've clocked some, some years and you have a, a wealth of

Kimberly:

experience and we really appreciate you being here to discuss that.

Kimberly:

As I said at the top of the show, the need for caregivers is really gonna

Kimberly:

be growing, both in the, the public sector, public caregiving, and the

Kimberly:

private caregiving sector as well.

Kimberly:

I do wanna put a spotlight on the public caregivers.

Kimberly:

I wanna highlight I H S S caregivers and they're providing, support for

Kimberly:

like a half a million Californians.

Kimberly:

So super excited to be able to talk about that.

Kimberly:

I do want to though, make a distinction between the public caregiving side

Kimberly:

and the private caregiving side.

Kimberly:

If you could just talk a little bit more about your private caregiving

Kimberly:

experiences and the difference between those two, that'd be great.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Well, I, actually started out in housekeeping.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I, was, as I said, trying to strive to be sort of like a major butler, major

Guest - Elle Tee:

Domo house manager, and, the situations that I ran into because of the increased.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Aging of our population.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I was always, seemed to be working for some seniors in some capacities, 60,

Guest - Elle Tee:

70, 80, and I just sort of ended up.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Being promoted into taking care of someone in their family,

Guest - Elle Tee:

someone's husband, someone's wife.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And then that became my expertise.

Guest - Elle Tee:

It wasn't really my intention, but it's turned out to be

Guest - Elle Tee:

a very rewarding position.

Guest - Elle Tee:

and, private home care though is a bit different than, The, residential

Guest - Elle Tee:

caregivers, there's a difference in, in wage for sure, and, I work

Guest - Elle Tee:

for families that can afford to pay, For the care of their loved ones,

Guest - Elle Tee:

which is really very, very important.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Not that, this, these families can afford to pay for it, but the percentage

Guest - Elle Tee:

of people who can afford it, I'm sure is a lot smaller than the percentage

Guest - Elle Tee:

of families that are now discovering.

Guest - Elle Tee:

That they did not prepare for either their parent or their, spouse to be

Guest - Elle Tee:

in a health crisis that does require care, and then all of a sudden the

Guest - Elle Tee:

finances hit them and it can be very, very overwhelming and expensive.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And you

Kimberly:

know, you, you touched on a really important point cause I think,

Kimberly:

you know, I would imagine a lot of caregivers end up in this industry because

Kimberly:

they kind of fall into it, or outta necessity, maybe, didn't necessarily

Kimberly:

plan for it, but life circumstances kind of, Got them into those positions.

Kimberly:

And I was wondering if you could, talk more about the duties and responsibilities

Kimberly:

that, a caregiver has and what your, what a typical day might look like for you.

Kimberly:

If there is such a thing as a

Guest - Elle Tee:

typical day, I.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Yeah, there, there is.

Guest - Elle Tee:

the first thing, if you're interested in getting into this kind of field, cuz it

Guest - Elle Tee:

is gonna be growing, the demand will be there and you can earn, a living is, you

Guest - Elle Tee:

never could ever say, that's not my job.

Guest - Elle Tee:

There are a variety of things that will crop up.

Guest - Elle Tee:

You're taking care of an individual and when you're dealing with private homes,

Guest - Elle Tee:

some of these homes have other staff.

Guest - Elle Tee:

They might have a a cook or they might have a laundress, but when

Guest - Elle Tee:

you're dealing with the individual and the family, many times you end up.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Taking care of their personal needs so you can, assist them in the shower

Guest - Elle Tee:

if they're not that mobile and they, you know, they have to sit in one

Guest - Elle Tee:

of those chairs in the shower and, and you have to help them bathe.

Guest - Elle Tee:

you have to help them dress.

Guest - Elle Tee:

You clean their clothes, you, you wash their clothes because they're just,

Guest - Elle Tee:

they, they're your individual unit.

Guest - Elle Tee:

A lot of times you prepare their dinner.

Guest - Elle Tee:

and a lot of times I've, I've cooked, not that I've had to cook, but.

Guest - Elle Tee:

They're been on a special diet and they only can they have to do a low salt or

Guest - Elle Tee:

a low sugar, or there's certain things they can and can't eat, and you learn

Guest - Elle Tee:

that and you're almost like a guardian so that you make sure that the things that

Guest - Elle Tee:

will help to keep this patient happy.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And alive and functioning.

Guest - Elle Tee:

It sort of rests on your shoulders.

Guest - Elle Tee:

you manage their medicine, you make sure they take their medicine,

Guest - Elle Tee:

whatever the requirements, daily, three times a day, every other day.

Guest - Elle Tee:

you have to notify whomever it's is in the family that's possibly

Guest - Elle Tee:

managing the doctors, and you can tell them that they need, you know,

Guest - Elle Tee:

Advise them what you're running out of and what has to be, renewed.

Guest - Elle Tee:

But after a while, it all, when you, when you do a good job, next thing you

Guest - Elle Tee:

know, you're pa basically doing all the jobs, but it's, you know, taking care

Guest - Elle Tee:

of one person is, can be challenging because in my position, I usually

Guest - Elle Tee:

live it in the home and that means that I can be there for, five nights.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Five days, five nights, and I'm basically living there.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I have my own private room in a private bath, and I do have a few

Guest - Elle Tee:

hours off per day, but I'm actually living with the patient and caring

Guest - Elle Tee:

for them, at a day and night basis.

Guest - Elle Tee:

and when you do that, the nighttime is something that people have to be very

Guest - Elle Tee:

aware of because the, the standard equipment is some kind of a, a sensor.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So if your, person that you're taking care of is trying to get out of bed and

Guest - Elle Tee:

they could possibly fall, this sensor rings a bell in your bedroom, and

Guest - Elle Tee:

that can be anywhere from 2, 3, 4, 5 o'clock in the morning more than once.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Which means you've gotta get up, go check, make sure they're okay, and, uh, get

Guest - Elle Tee:

them resettled, find out what their need is, and then go back to sleep maybe for

Guest - Elle Tee:

two hours before that bell rings again.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So, there's, you know, but, and, and there's probably a lot of

Guest - Elle Tee:

things I haven't even mentioned.

Guest - Elle Tee:

You just have to really be open and accepting, to care for the person

Guest - Elle Tee:

that you've been hired to do so for.

Kimberly:

And I think that, cause I'm also a caregiver for my aunt,

Kimberly:

you ran through a list of things.

Kimberly:

I'm like, I, I do that.

Kimberly:

Check, check, check.

Kimberly:

You know, and it obviously can sound, or it obviously sounds difficult and,

Kimberly:

and, and can be challenging at times.

Kimberly:

But, you've been a private caregiver for a while now.

Kimberly:

What would you say are some of the most rewarding aspects of this kind of work?

Guest - Elle Tee:

it's, you know, it's not like I would really

Guest - Elle Tee:

think a lot of the jobs that I'm doing, I would find as rewarding.

Guest - Elle Tee:

What is rewarding is when you are hired by very concerned family members

Guest - Elle Tee:

who are worried about their, their mother or somebody in the family,

Guest - Elle Tee:

their husband, whoever could be their child that, they're so thrilled.

Guest - Elle Tee:

On the job that you're doing, that you're making a lot of people relaxed

Guest - Elle Tee:

and feeling very comfortable that, their family member is being cared

Guest - Elle Tee:

for, and that that patient is also very happy that you're there taking

Guest - Elle Tee:

care of them because they trust you.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So that, that's the most rewarding thing, is when you gain their

Guest - Elle Tee:

trust and, their appreciation.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Then you just keep going on.

Kimberly:

And you know, to go along with that, what would you

Kimberly:

say are some of the, the biggest challenges that a caregiver faces?

Kimberly:

I know that, you know, there are a lot of people out there, they have a big

Kimberly:

heart and they wanna do this kind of work, but what kind of advice would you

Kimberly:

give for, for a caregiver that wants to get into this industry, in this field?

Kimberly:

as far as things that they could expect and anticipate.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Specifically, I am in the private home.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I've, I, I don't work in nursing homes or in residential

Guest - Elle Tee:

houses or anything like that.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I am walking into a family's private home and there could be a

Guest - Elle Tee:

lot of dynamics going on in there.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And I add.

Guest - Elle Tee:

To it by just existing and while you're existing, you have to learn to not exist.

Guest - Elle Tee:

It's almost sort of trying to be as calmly, non-existent while walking

Guest - Elle Tee:

around doing what you have to do.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Many times the family member has.

Guest - Elle Tee:

They're the person that I'm taking care of in a separate wing of the

Guest - Elle Tee:

house, maybe in a separate apartment.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So we may not, interact with the rest of the family, every day.

Guest - Elle Tee:

But, you have to deal with a multitude of personalities and

Guest - Elle Tee:

sometimes even the, person that you're caring for can have, An adjustment.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I'm trying to be very diplomatic here in their attitude

Guest - Elle Tee:

towards you from day to day.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that has to do with the condition of their health or, primarily what really is

Guest - Elle Tee:

going to be the largest sector to care for going forward is Alzheimer's and dementia.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that is a, very, very grueling.

Guest - Elle Tee:

tireless, position because you're now, dealing with a person who is not

Guest - Elle Tee:

remembering who they are or, how to act or how to be, and you have to,

Guest - Elle Tee:

approach them and deal with them in a very gentle and non catastrophic.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that really is a word that is used when you're dealing with people

Guest - Elle Tee:

that have ongoing, developing dementia is you could say something simple to

Guest - Elle Tee:

like, well, why are you doing that?

Guest - Elle Tee:

You've never done that before.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that could set them off, into some angry tirade.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that's not who that person used to be, but that.

Guest - Elle Tee:

That's who that person is turning into now.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And so that can be, that could take a lot of energy and you have

Guest - Elle Tee:

to be prepared, to, to give that.

Kimberly:

And to follow up on that, um, do you or did you get specialized

Kimberly:

training specifically to deal with Alzheimer's or dementia patients?

Guest - Elle Tee:

No, I just.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Ended up having somebody who had early onset dementia, and I learned

Guest - Elle Tee:

while doing the job, and it got to the point where I was, exhausted.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Because I, I don't know, I'll talk to the mothers out there, but I the fathers too.

Guest - Elle Tee:

When you have a new baby coming into the house, all of a sudden

Guest - Elle Tee:

you don't sleep soundly anymore.

Guest - Elle Tee:

You always have one ear kind of open to listen to the baby crying

Guest - Elle Tee:

or something, and you respond.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Well, when you're dealing with a person of dementia, they can get

Guest - Elle Tee:

up in the middle of the night and go roaming all over the place.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So again, you are, you're just, you know, you're listening and you're always.

Guest - Elle Tee:

On, and, someone recommended a book to me, and the name of

Guest - Elle Tee:

the book is 36 Hours in a Day.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I, I don't know who the author is, I don't remember, but I did read it and

Guest - Elle Tee:

there were a lot of terrific tips in there on how to manage situations, how

Guest - Elle Tee:

to prevent these catastrophic reactions, maybe to the way in which you speak

Guest - Elle Tee:

to them and one of their primary.

Guest - Elle Tee:

items that they kept pounding into in, in this book is that you

Guest - Elle Tee:

need to take care of yourself.

Guest - Elle Tee:

If caregivers do not take care of themselves, they're going

Guest - Elle Tee:

to, collapse because you could be doing this all the time.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So, And especially I would think that this book would be very beneficial for

Guest - Elle Tee:

family members who have found themselves to be the caregiver because they can't

Guest - Elle Tee:

afford to have somebody work 24 hours and then that family member becomes isolated.

Guest - Elle Tee:

they don't go out anymore because they feel they can't, they

Guest - Elle Tee:

don't make arrangements to have somebody fill in for an afternoon.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So they could even just go sit in the park and breathe air and, and

Guest - Elle Tee:

not have to worry about constantly being on and constantly caring.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So it was very helpful to, to have that kind of, enlightenment in this

Guest - Elle Tee:

book cuz I was just going along and then this book helped me realize some

Guest - Elle Tee:

of the things I needed to do and some of the things that I was reacting to

Guest - Elle Tee:

that was normal and how to fix them.

Kimberly:

And, and thank you for, for bringing that up, that the whole

Kimberly:

issue of self-care, it's sort of like, take care of yourself before

Kimberly:

you can really take care of others.

Kimberly:

And I think Yep.

Kimberly:

when we're dealing with, patients or clients that have ongoing, needs that your

Kimberly:

clients might, or my aunt or other family members, it can be really difficult to

Kimberly:

keep that in the forefront of our minds like, I need to take care of myself.

Kimberly:

You know, how do I take care of myself in the midst of taking care of other people?

Kimberly:

And how, how do you decompress from, from a long, work shift?

Guest - Elle Tee:

well, I don't do those anymore.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So, this recent job, I, I sort of for three years have been

Guest - Elle Tee:

designing a job only in my mind.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And, my agent's been laughing at me because she thinks I was dreaming

Guest - Elle Tee:

and I actually, found a great job.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Then I do quite a lot of hours, but it's in three days.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Full-time, 24 hours.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And so I basically book a week's worth of work in a small period of time.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And, it's easier for me to decompress because I now have more time at home.

Guest - Elle Tee:

if a lot of people are working the way I used to work, which is five days a week.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Sometimes 24 hour shifts.

Guest - Elle Tee:

sometimes I, I wouldn't come home just because by the time I came home and I

Guest - Elle Tee:

slept, I had to get up and go again, and it's kind of like a waste of time.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I would stay.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And then when I did come home on my two days off, I was working for myself,

Guest - Elle Tee:

housework, mail, bills, groceries, laundry, whatever it is that I didn't

Guest - Elle Tee:

do for the week that I was away.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So it was hard to decompress.

Guest - Elle Tee:

when you're working that kind of a schedule, I mean, you know, think of

Guest - Elle Tee:

nurses, you know, sometimes they're gone for six days and it takes a couple of days

Guest - Elle Tee:

just to realize that you're back at home.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I'm not sure I decompressed really well cuz I was always moving.

Kimberly:

Mm-hmm.

Kimberly:

And, and I appreciate your honesty.

Kimberly:

Cause I think, a big part of it is just, uh, big part of self-care is

Kimberly:

acknowledging, the difficulties and the challenges and, Hey, hi, I'm here.

Kimberly:

I'm a person I need, I need some care and some love too.

Kimberly:

Right.

Kimberly:

Yeah.

Kimberly:

Now what, what kind of, tips and advice would you give someone who, let's say

Kimberly:

someone's, taking care of a family member, but they want to make it more of a,

Kimberly:

profession, what would you, advise them?

Kimberly:

Do?

Guest - Elle Tee:

well, for my industry, again, private home care, that is,

Guest - Elle Tee:

you have to be prepared to, live in because a lot of these families really

Guest - Elle Tee:

are concerned about the nighttime.

Guest - Elle Tee:

some of them have.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Shifts.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So they'll have two people do 12 hour day and then a 12 hour, hour at night.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And if you have someone to work with, then sometimes you can intermingle

Guest - Elle Tee:

and you do two weeks at night and two weeks a day so that you have a little

Guest - Elle Tee:

time of, you know, you're not just working all one shift all the time.

Guest - Elle Tee:

if you wanna make money, Then it's, and and it's very sad to say that

Guest - Elle Tee:

working in like a residential home as a nurse's assistant or even working

Guest - Elle Tee:

as a caregiver through an agency that, gets the jobs and then they hire you

Guest - Elle Tee:

out for how much time this family would want, the pay is very, very low.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that's something that I think really needs to be improved with the increased.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Of aging that's going to be happening.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So if you're looking to make money in that field, you might wanna make sure that you

Guest - Elle Tee:

have all your certificates that you get.

Guest - Elle Tee:

You go to the Red Cross and you get the c p a, certificate that,

Guest - Elle Tee:

maybe you get some special training.

Guest - Elle Tee:

you can learn to give needles or to like put an iv, if you do, if you do some extra

Guest - Elle Tee:

training for yourself, so that you're not just a person who is going to be an aid.

Guest - Elle Tee:

But you are an individual that has shown that you are interested in getting

Guest - Elle Tee:

into this field and that you have, pretty good credentials behind you if

Guest - Elle Tee:

you wanna get into private home care.

Guest - Elle Tee:

what I did is in order to get the references for working in a home, I

Guest - Elle Tee:

was one of these, day I, I got jobs on care.com and I would clean people's homes.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And sometimes I did two homes a day, and that after a while, you know,

Guest - Elle Tee:

people were very happy with me.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I was in their home, and I asked the ones that I, I thought, would be

Guest - Elle Tee:

happy to write a reference for me.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And I accumulated my references that way.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And with the training that you do, that you add to yourself so that you can really

Guest - Elle Tee:

show that you have, a good credential and you have references of living in the

Guest - Elle Tee:

home, then they have, special agencies.

Guest - Elle Tee:

These are employment agencies.

Guest - Elle Tee:

These are not agencies that you work for the agency and they

Guest - Elle Tee:

take a percentage of your pay.

Guest - Elle Tee:

This is just an agency that finds, uh, that families call because

Guest - Elle Tee:

families don't really wanna be involved in the, interviewing process.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And if they feel that you match a particular family and their needs,

Guest - Elle Tee:

uh, you go to them that you interview, you get hired, and then the family

Guest - Elle Tee:

pays you and they're your boss.

Kimberly:

Okay.

Kimberly:

So all you people out there that wanna become, uh, professional caregivers,

Kimberly:

you heard it straight from the private caregiver, that there's some, those

Kimberly:

are some steps that you can take.

Kimberly:

And on the other side of that, what um, advice would you have for families

Kimberly:

that wanna hire a, a private caregiver?

Kimberly:

What, what are the, let's say top three things they should be looking out for?

Guest - Elle Tee:

Well, if you, the agency, because you really to be a private

Guest - Elle Tee:

caregiver, you have to go through one of these agencies if anybody's interested.

Guest - Elle Tee:

there's a website.

Guest - Elle Tee:

We'll, we'll give you an indication as to what the private industry has and what it

Guest - Elle Tee:

offers and the jobs that are available.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And it's called estate jobs.com.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And this is not an agency, this is, an industry clearing house.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So all the agencies that work under this, Private home care or just

Guest - Elle Tee:

private service, whether you're a, a laund or a housekeeper, a

Guest - Elle Tee:

personal assistant, many things.

Guest - Elle Tee:

the agency would post a job on their website and then they pay a fee to

Guest - Elle Tee:

have it posted on this estate job.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So all the agencies post there and, and you'll kind of get a better idea as.

Guest - Elle Tee:

To, what is available.

Guest - Elle Tee:

these families do not want to, as I said earlier, deal with the, uh,

Guest - Elle Tee:

whole, uh, process of interviewing and gathering people and clearing them.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So the agency does all of it.

Guest - Elle Tee:

By the time you're presented to the family, you've had a background check,

Guest - Elle Tee:

all your references have been checked, you have been vetted and approved to qualify.

Guest - Elle Tee:

To be an applicant in that agency.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And then they sh they, you know, send you out on interviews to various jobs.

Kimberly:

It's, it's, it's very interesting.

Kimberly:

And then as we, as I said at the top of the shell, you know, we're moving

Kimberly:

closer to 20 28, 20 30, where the need is going to grow exponentially.

Kimberly:

And, with your years of experience in the industry, what have you noticed?

Kimberly:

How has the industry evolved for better or for worse?

Guest - Elle Tee:

You know, I, I, I don't feel qualified to really

Guest - Elle Tee:

answer that question because I'm not really in the industry per se.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I didn't, you know, train to be a caregiver.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I, I'm not a nurse.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I just happen to, have, The, I guess the compassion to wanna take

Guest - Elle Tee:

care of a person and to do it well.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I'm not squirmish about having to help somebody bathe or, change

Guest - Elle Tee:

them or clean them for that matter.

Guest - Elle Tee:

a lot of people are in incontinent or you have to change, bags and, so, you

Guest - Elle Tee:

know, I've learned through experience, not because I came from that industry,

Kimberly:

have you noticed any changes since the, since

Kimberly:

the pandemic in particular?

Kimberly:

Cause I know that, you know, during the pandemic a lot of caregivers,

Kimberly:

kind of left the field and, and went to pursue other things.

Kimberly:

Have you noticed any, any changes along those lines or not necessarily?

Guest - Elle Tee:

Yep.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Very, very much so.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I, my one job ended in May of 2021 and, for, not pandemic reasons, but

Guest - Elle Tee:

uh, other reasons of, um, he just really needed, uh, male attendance

Guest - Elle Tee:

cuz he needed more assistance being.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Picked up and, uh, I just, I, I couldn't continue to do that.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that was May, 2021.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And I just got a, a, a job a week ago, and we're in 2023, so that's a long haul.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So prior to, the pandemic, the jobs were posted, in private home care or.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And in the private industry, there are a lot of jobs that families that are

Guest - Elle Tee:

very busy and they have a, you know, they're CEOs or they're corporate

Guest - Elle Tee:

presidents, they're, multinational business people and they don't have

Guest - Elle Tee:

time to be dealing with the laundry and the cooking and the driving.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And so they hire people to do that.

Guest - Elle Tee:

All the executives and, and people who need to hire people in the

Guest - Elle Tee:

home would have multiple staff.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And what happened after or during the pandemic?

Guest - Elle Tee:

I think they managed to, rearrange their staff.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So if they hired somebody to be the laundress, maybe that person was

Guest - Elle Tee:

also the caregiver for their parent.

Guest - Elle Tee:

They were very hesitant to hire any additional new people to come in.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And then there was all of.

Guest - Elle Tee:

These, these issues with people who didn't wanna be vaccinated and, and

Guest - Elle Tee:

everybody, this industry, you've gotta be vaccinated if you're now vaccinated.

Guest - Elle Tee:

don't even try because nobody wants to let people come in their home if

Guest - Elle Tee:

they're not, vaccinated with the covid.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I don't mean that they have to continue being vaccinated, but at least have the

Guest - Elle Tee:

initial vaccine and, and booster that.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Definitely is a requirement and the jobs have, basically,

Guest - Elle Tee:

disappeared for the last two years.

Guest - Elle Tee:

It's only recently that they've started to come back, very gingerly.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I think people are more hesitant now to have more people

Guest - Elle Tee:

in their home than they had before.

Kimberly:

And that's, that's so interesting cuz you know, it leads into

Kimberly:

my next question about, What do you see, as the, the future of caregiving?

Kimberly:

what, what is the, what are the, the trends would you say?

Kimberly:

I know that, you know, a lot of people are talking about, you know, the technology

Kimberly:

and how that might, um, alleviate some of the, some of the burden and, and the need.

Kimberly:

But at the same time, caregiving is a, is a high touch industry.

Kimberly:

So what do you see as the, as the future?

Guest - Elle Tee:

I, I trends, I would just see the personal care that I'm doing.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I, I don't see any trends.

Guest - Elle Tee:

one of the interesting parts of why I personally might be, more desirable for,

Guest - Elle Tee:

people to hire, uh, for their seniors, cuz I myself am a senior so I can relate.

Guest - Elle Tee:

To, people who are telling me about rotary phones or how the computer wasn't

Guest - Elle Tee:

even invented when they were a kid.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And I mean, I can relate to that.

Guest - Elle Tee:

When you have a 25 year old talking to somebody who's 90, there's definitely,

Guest - Elle Tee:

th things kind of pass in the night that there's no comprehension.

Guest - Elle Tee:

As far as technology, again, with the aged, A lot of people have

Guest - Elle Tee:

refused to deal with and accept technology maybe 50 years from now.

Guest - Elle Tee:

The young people today who are going to be seniors 50 years from now would

Guest - Elle Tee:

be a little bit more accepting of technology, but I don't think technology

Guest - Elle Tee:

is gonna be anything that's gonna be very helpful other than, The, oxygenator.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So you can put the, thing on the finger and you can see how much oxygen.

Guest - Elle Tee:

That's helpful.

Guest - Elle Tee:

the automatic blood press pressure taker, that's helpful.

Guest - Elle Tee:

But other than that, I think personal touch, personal care, and caregiving

Guest - Elle Tee:

also, encompasses a lot of companionship because you need to engage them and have

Guest - Elle Tee:

conversation and have them feel that they're still in command of themselves and

Guest - Elle Tee:

they're still a regular, everyday person.

Guest - Elle Tee:

They're not just.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Some, patient that somebody comes in and takes care of and then leaves.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I'm not sure what technology can do to fill in those kind of gaps.

Kimberly:

that's a good wave of looking at it.

Kimberly:

It's, you know, people are talking about robots and caregiver robots

Kimberly:

and all kinds of things, and I think we're, I think we're, a bit

Kimberly:

away from that in this country.

Kimberly:

I know other countries like the Japanese are, are utilizing that.

Kimberly:

So we'll see.

Kimberly:

but really appreciate you being on our program, discussing

Kimberly:

issues around caregiving.

Kimberly:

There's just gonna be such a need for it as we continue to move towards 2030.

Kimberly:

And what would you, what kind of advice would you give for families

Kimberly:

who, you know may have a family member.

Kimberly:

who is in need of care?

Kimberly:

Maybe it's not right now, but it's coming down the line.

Kimberly:

How would you advise families to start to even have the

Kimberly:

conversation to think about it?

Guest - Elle Tee:

Well, you know, there's long-term care insurance.

Guest - Elle Tee:

some of it, when you start, don't look at the cost of that insurance as prohibitive

Guest - Elle Tee:

because the cost of care when you don't have coverage is beyond prohibitive.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So financially, work out, even if it's short-term care, if you get sick and

Guest - Elle Tee:

you know that, but then the short-term tear runs out after several months and

Guest - Elle Tee:

then you're back to having someone in your family, having to take care of you,

Guest - Elle Tee:

which can really cause, some resentment even though that person doesn't.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Wanna really feel resentment their life has stopped in order to take care of you.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So the dynamics of, and also actually when you think about it, or I just

Guest - Elle Tee:

came to mind, be healthy, don't.

Guest - Elle Tee:

go down and drink lots of alcohol, which, you know, once in a while it's okay.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I have a cocktail in the evening.

Guest - Elle Tee:

all that greasy food that you used to eat when you were 25, you

Guest - Elle Tee:

know, look at it second and third time and just kind of reject it.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Start eating at really healthy diet and take care of yourself.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Exercise.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Imagine yourself unable to walk.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And that in that practice, and that thought alone should get you, jarred

Guest - Elle Tee:

enough to realize that if you don't keep yourself in an ambulatory situation

Guest - Elle Tee:

and that your blood pressure is not sky high and that you haven't eaten

Guest - Elle Tee:

yourself into diabetes and you're not overweight, and you will have a much

Guest - Elle Tee:

happier aging process than, people who.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Figure they, you know, a lot of people think that they're healthy and they

Guest - Elle Tee:

could just keep treating their body that way, and eventually it, backfires

Guest - Elle Tee:

on them and then they're in a pickle.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So there's not only a financial aspect, which is an extremely difficult one,

Guest - Elle Tee:

and, I don't even know how to solve that.

Guest - Elle Tee:

But do some research and try and prepare yourself for that part of it,

Guest - Elle Tee:

but also take care of yourself so that, You can be 85 and still be playing

Guest - Elle Tee:

poker and having a good time while you're drinking your bottle of water

Kimberly:

and your cocktail.

Kimberly:

Right?

Kimberly:

Yeah.

Kimberly:

Well watered down cocktail

Kimberly:

Great.

Kimberly:

That, that's great advice because you know, I think.

Kimberly:

For, for many people the issue isn't the chronological age, but it's the

Kimberly:

condition of your physical body, right?

Kimberly:

Yep.

Kimberly:

And you know, hopefully, hopefully for those people out there that may

Kimberly:

need, a caregiver in, in their golden years, they'll be lucky enough to find

Kimberly:

someone like you or, or you personally.

Kimberly:

So, you know, we, we really want to lean into, the idea that we all need to, a, be

Kimberly:

mindful of our health, but also be hopeful and plan for, for our caregiving needs.

Kimberly:

Needs either for ourselves or for our loved ones.

Kimberly:

Mm-hmm.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And there's a lot of great, you know, this website

Guest - Elle Tee:

care.com, has really, grown.

Guest - Elle Tee:

I would tell a lot of people about it, and everybody seems to know about it already.

Guest - Elle Tee:

So I guess it's been out there long enough and you really can find.

Guest - Elle Tee:

caregivers, you, register your job and you put in your radius of miles.

Guest - Elle Tee:

You want somebody to work, come and work in your home that's

Guest - Elle Tee:

within 10 mile radius of your home.

Guest - Elle Tee:

And you'll be surprised the amount of people that are registered on care.com,

Guest - Elle Tee:

they do background checks and it's, you know, anywhere from 25 to $30 an hour.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Sometimes you can get someone at 20, but, it's not really lower than that,

Guest - Elle Tee:

but still there's a lot of very nice and, compassionate people out there

Guest - Elle Tee:

that are already in the industry waiting for you to select them.

Kimberly:

There it is, folks, all you, caregivers or future caregivers.

Kimberly:

You, you have some options out there.

Kimberly:

It was a state jobs.com and, and care.com and also, you know, just

Kimberly:

keep a, an eye out for opportunities that may come up also in the

Kimberly:

public healthcare giving space.

Kimberly:

Elle, it has been a pleasure having you on any final parting words or

Kimberly:

thoughts, for all of us who are probably gonna be in need of care.

Guest - Elle Tee:

You know what?

Guest - Elle Tee:

When you become the patient who needs the care, be kind to your caregiver.

Guest - Elle Tee:

we all get cranky and we all change in some way.

Guest - Elle Tee:

As we get older, we get mad at ourselves and then we end

Guest - Elle Tee:

up getting mad at the world.

Guest - Elle Tee:

But don't be mad at your caregiver.

Guest - Elle Tee:

Really.

Kimberly:

There it is, everybody.

Kimberly:

Don't be mad.

Kimberly:

Your caregiver, love your caregiver, and and they'll love you back.

Kimberly:

They'll probably love you anyway, but they'll, yeah,

Guest - Elle Tee:

they'll love you anyway, but they'll be, they'll, they'll be able

Guest - Elle Tee:

to, they'll go home and decompress nicer.

Kimberly:

Absolutely.

Kimberly:

Elle, it has been a pleasure having you on.

Kimberly:

We really appreciate your service.

Kimberly:

I know that you have been in this industry for, for years, and I'm sure your

Kimberly:

clients and the families and the people.

Kimberly:

The lives of the people that you've touched, it has made a tremendous

Kimberly:

impact for for many people.

Kimberly:

So thank you once again and thank you for being here and joining

Kimberly:

us for this special presentation.

Kimberly:

Conversations on Aging.

Kimberly:

The caregiving component is a huge part of that and it will continue to be, to do so.

Kimberly:

And for those people that want to find out more information about the,

Kimberly:

information that that el provided, there'll be links in the description.

Guest - Elle Tee:

you're welcome.

Kimberly:

And that's a wrap.

Kimberly:

Folks.

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