When I first started thinking about how powerful sadness is an entry point–as a huge territory–for growth, I immediately was like, “this would never make a podcast.”

I can see it now: People clicking on the headline wanting to learn more about how they too can be sad. Doesn’t have quite the marketing hook of “how to be happier by thinking positively.”

But in a way, that’s just the point. Sadness is the very inversion of happiness. We’ve been inundated by “happiness” and the power of positive thinking for at least 70 years, and I feel like last decade in the 2010s we saw a real resurgence of it (whatever that was about, it seems like it was related to the explosion of neuroscience research). 

And for some happiness researchers, like Jennifer Moss, who we had on the podcast last season, she began to turn her attention to asking questions about “what is keeping us from this elusive happiness” and she began looking into the burnout culture and the toxicity in the workplace. 

Plenty of stress happens there!

And really all kinds of emotions, right? 

But the point I’m trying to make here is that as I began to explore this space, I began to see a HUGE territory for us to explore with sadness. 

The kind of sadness we’re talking about today is not about grief or depression. Those are different territories. No matter what, of course, you don’t want to get stuck anywhere. We are not talking about “staying” in sadness. We ARE talking about letting it in.

That’s right. We are talking about the places in your life, whatever your personality structure may be, where sadness is knocking.

Time Stamps:

2:30--Sadness isn't something that we need to manufacture

4:21--What is your relationship to sadness? Shelley asks Chad

10:55--What other happiness studies showed (and how it's not so simple)

13:07--The Wheel of Emotions

18:55--Do you think of sadness as a negative emotion? Chad asks Shelley

24:16--Sadness is an important emotion that helps everyone in numerous ways

27:14--Sadness plus shame equals depression

31:03--Shame has this tendency to keep us stuck

38:20--Sadness connects to awareness in general

42:00--Typically emotions last for 15 to 30 seconds (unless you feed it a story)

44:30--We would love to hear how this lands this episode lands for people

Show Notes and Links:

Greater Good on Four Ways Sadness May be Good for You

Psychology Today on Why Its Good to Feel Sad

Harper Bazaar on Why Its Good for You to Be Sad

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