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Messy, Beautiful Journey with Jen Fugo
Episode 1815th November 2021 • The Natural Evolution • Michael Roesslein
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Jennifer Fugo, MS, LDN, CNS is a clinical nutritionist empowering adults who’ve been failed by conventional medicine to beat chronic skin and unending gut challenges. She has experience working with conditions such as eczema, psoriasis, rosacea, dandruff + hives — with clientele ranging from regular folks to celebrities + professional athletes. Jennifer is the founder of Quell skincare + supplements specifically for people struggling with these chronic skin issues.

She holds a Master’s degree in Human Nutrition from the University of Bridgeport and is a Licensed Dietitian-Nutritionist and Certified Nutrition Specialist. Her work has been featured on Dr. Oz, Reuters, Yahoo!, CNN, and many podcasts and summits. Jennifer is a faculty member of the LearnSkin platform, an Amazon best-selling author, and the host of the Healthy Skin Show.

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Mike Roesslein:

And we're live.

Mike Roesslein:

I am recording now with my good friend, Jen Fugo Jen.

Mike Roesslein:

Thanks for doing this.

Jen Fugo:

Thank you for having me.

Jen Fugo:

I'm excited for this.

Jen Fugo:

This is like a totally different kind of conversation that I normally, yeah.

Jen Fugo:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

We found you on a couple of times to teach

Mike Roesslein:

us about skin and gut things.

Mike Roesslein:

And we're probably not going to talk a ton about that today.

Mike Roesslein:

So it'll be, it'll be fun.

Mike Roesslein:

This will be more like conversations we have, like we've had for the

Mike Roesslein:

last hour when we weren't recording.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, I've known Jen a long time.

Mike Roesslein:

Our audience probably.

Mike Roesslein:

Most people are familiar with your work, but if somebody's not, I'm

Mike Roesslein:

going to go through a little short introduction and then we'll get

Mike Roesslein:

right into your, your own story.

Mike Roesslein:

So Jen Fugo is a clinical nutritionist, empowering adults.

Mike Roesslein:

Who've been failed by conventional medicine to beat chronic skin

Mike Roesslein:

and unending gut challenges.

Mike Roesslein:

She has experienced working with conditions, such as eczema, psoriasis,

Mike Roesslein:

rosacea, dandruff, and hives with clientele ranging from regular folks to

Mike Roesslein:

celebrities and professional athletes.

Mike Roesslein:

She's the founder of quail skincare and supplements specifically for people

Mike Roesslein:

struggling with these chronic skin issues.

Mike Roesslein:

And she holds a master's degree in human nutrition from the

Mike Roesslein:

university of Bridgeport and is a licensed dietician, nutritionist

Mike Roesslein:

and certified nutrition specialist.

Mike Roesslein:

Her work has been featured on Dr.

Mike Roesslein:

Oz, Reuters, Yahoo, CNN, many podcasts and summits.

Mike Roesslein:

And she's a faculty member of the learn skin platform and Amazon best-selling

Mike Roesslein:

author and the host of healthy skin show.

Mike Roesslein:

Not a lot there and just a couple of pounds.

Mike Roesslein:

I didn't even realize you gotten your dietician license

Jen Fugo:

yeah.

Jen Fugo:

In Pennsylvania, you, when you register as a nutritionist, you become a

Jen Fugo:

licensed, it's an LDN licensed diabetes.

Jen Fugo:

And I saw

Mike Roesslein:

that and I'm like low dose naltrexone.

Mike Roesslein:

That's cool.

Mike Roesslein:

That's a lot of schooling.

Mike Roesslein:

I remember when you were in your master's program.

Mike Roesslein:

Um,

Jen Fugo:

yeah, I almost quit.

Jen Fugo:

I almost quit.

Jen Fugo:

I glad that I pulled through.

Jen Fugo:

I'm glad I had a really great study partner that was like, no, don't quit.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I was actually, uh, talking today and I don't know if this'll just be

Jen Fugo:

like slightly helpful for your audience, but I used to be the type of person

Jen Fugo:

that would just I'd start things.

Jen Fugo:

And then I would quit.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and I felt like I was a really good, like a, what do

Jen Fugo:

they call that personality type?

Jen Fugo:

Like the quick starter personality type

Mike Roesslein:

that like,

Jen Fugo:

The last, I would say maybe five years.

Jen Fugo:

I have realized that when I used to say, that's the way that I am, it was almost

Jen Fugo:

an excuse to not do the work that was necessary to stay the course of things

Jen Fugo:

that I was really passionate about.

Jen Fugo:

And now I can say that that's not the case for me because I have a

Jen Fugo:

podcast that now is like 200 episodes.

Jen Fugo:

So there's moments when I'm like high five, Jen, good job actually like learned

Jen Fugo:

how to stay the course, see things through and continue the level of enthusiasm

Jen Fugo:

you need to, um, you know, just make it ha it's not just like, just showing up.

Jen Fugo:

It's like, I actually genuinely love what I do, which I feel

Mike Roesslein:

really grateful for.

Mike Roesslein:

It might have something to do with you finishing this thing.

Mike Roesslein:

Finishing the things that you actually liked, the no, but that you actually

Mike Roesslein:

liked the things that you're doing.

Mike Roesslein:

It leads to more finished.

Mike Roesslein:

It does.

Jen Fugo:

It does.

Jen Fugo:

Although I will admit that, like I loved what I was studying in school.

Jen Fugo:

It was just so much, you know, like there's a lot of times in life where

Jen Fugo:

you feel like you have this layer of every day stuff you gotta deal with.

Jen Fugo:

And then you're like, oh, I'm going to do this.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm going to do that.

Jen Fugo:

No, I'm going to go back for a master's degree and I'm going to, and it gets

Jen Fugo:

to a point where you're like, It's really hard because you feel like

Jen Fugo:

you're being pulled in 1,000,001 directions and you started to say,

Jen Fugo:

well, like what can I take off my plate?

Jen Fugo:

And you begin to lose interest in things.

Jen Fugo:

I at least start to become resentful when I'm pulled in

Jen Fugo:

too many different directions.

Jen Fugo:

I start to like get angry and.

Jen Fugo:

I feel like my life and my time is not my own.

Jen Fugo:

And, um, that's not, that's not a healthy,

Mike Roesslein:

I can absolutely relate.

Mike Roesslein:

And I am right now in two professional trainings, running two

Mike Roesslein:

businesses, launching one of them and planning an international move.

Mike Roesslein:

So I'm in that.

Mike Roesslein:

And then when I get resentful or angry, I am reminded lovingly that I am the one

Mike Roesslein:

who chose all of these things to be doing.

Mike Roesslein:

And so that, um, there's nobody to be resentful to my own choices.

Mike Roesslein:

So, um, there's lights at the end of the tunnel though, both my training's

Mike Roesslein:

over in the fall and the move.

Mike Roesslein:

And then I'm not allowed to sign up for any new things until next year.

Mike Roesslein:

So, um, luckily I have someone who keeps me in line in this

Mike Roesslein:

regard, so I totally get it.

Mike Roesslein:

And I'm glad you finished school too.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um, The podcast has been a huge success.

Mike Roesslein:

I know a lot of our people listen to it and I see posts about it

Mike Roesslein:

in our Facebook group sometimes.

Mike Roesslein:

And our own, usually people beat me to it.

Mike Roesslein:

Like I tag you or put your website when people post in our Facebook

Mike Roesslein:

group asking skin related questions.

Mike Roesslein:

And now it's got to the point where our people will usually

Mike Roesslein:

respond to it faster than I do.

Mike Roesslein:

And so we have really nice to hear people in our community that, that

Mike Roesslein:

link you in our group to your stuff.

Mike Roesslein:

When people ask for skin advice.

Mike Roesslein:

Well,

Jen Fugo:

that makes me really happy because I can't do it myself.

Jen Fugo:

As you know, like that's part of the reason why, like when you started, um,

Jen Fugo:

you know, rebel health tribe was, is great because you have such a great community,

Jen Fugo:

but you realize like in the grand scheme of things, we have so much control over

Jen Fugo:

our life, but the truth is for ideas to spread and for change to really happen,

Jen Fugo:

we have to work together as a community.

Jen Fugo:

And so having a community that really does support and look out for

Jen Fugo:

others around them, I think it's.

Jen Fugo:

I think there is an importance in life to being somewhat selfish, but

Jen Fugo:

in the same respect, we also have to look out for those around us and have

Jen Fugo:

a, uh, a sense of like a stake in realizing that other people who are

Jen Fugo:

ill, who are not well does impact us.

Jen Fugo:

It might not be directly.

Jen Fugo:

It might be, but it might not be.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and could we do something even if it's just passing along one piece of

Jen Fugo:

information or an article or a podcast or whatever, to it, it might not immediately

Jen Fugo:

lessen that person's suffering, but it may open the door to a path that

Jen Fugo:

they never even could have imagined.

Jen Fugo:

So I just think that's really

Mike Roesslein:

cool.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah, for sure.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

Our group is super active.

Mike Roesslein:

I mean, it's, it's great.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

People post questions and other people answered the questions and then I

Mike Roesslein:

stumbled upon the post four days later and it's already been solved.

Mike Roesslein:

So it's a very low-maintenance Facebook group to operate because they're so

Mike Roesslein:

proactive and knowledgeable themselves.

Mike Roesslein:

So it's great.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, and when we first met, I don't think you, you weren't skin, you

Mike Roesslein:

were gluten-free was your focus, which was your first step though,

Mike Roesslein:

in your, in your journey though.

Mike Roesslein:

Cause that was probably the first step you took back in your own journey.

Mike Roesslein:

That was like, oh, this makes a difference.

Mike Roesslein:

So, um, I'm curious on that evolution sort of, but more on like your own

Mike Roesslein:

evolution was, um, did you want to be like a nutritionist and health

Mike Roesslein:

person when you were growing up?

Mike Roesslein:

Was this an interest of yours?

Jen Fugo:

No, not at all.

Jen Fugo:

No.

Jen Fugo:

Um,

Mike Roesslein:

only one to said yes to that question.

Mike Roesslein:

So far, it's funny.

Jen Fugo:

I actually wanted to be a fashion designer, which is

Jen Fugo:

something that I actually pursued.

Jen Fugo:

I did end up pursuing.

Jen Fugo:

I was very, um, gifted in science and in art when I was in high school

Jen Fugo:

and to the point where I had the science and art science and art.

Jen Fugo:

Yes.

Jen Fugo:

And I had the like head biology professor in my school, my high school.

Jen Fugo:

And then like the head of the art department who were like fighting over

Jen Fugo:

where I was going to go to college and what I was going to, um, I, I did, I

Jen Fugo:

was very proficient in both, um, with the exception of physics and chemistry.

Jen Fugo:

I hated physics and chemistry.

Jen Fugo:

And still to this day, chemistry is the bane of my existence, biochem.

Jen Fugo:

I love, but not the chemistry, not so much.

Jen Fugo:

And, um, I.

Jen Fugo:

You know, I, I think to some degree I was sort of a sheltered kid

Jen Fugo:

in that I lived in the suburbs.

Jen Fugo:

I wasn't from the city.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, we're not far from the city, but fashion design is a, it is an

Jen Fugo:

incredibly toxic environment, which for anybody who's seen, like I wished

Jen Fugo:

in hindsight, I had wished that I had read or the, the book devil wears Prada

Jen Fugo:

had existed before I went to college.

Jen Fugo:

I would've made a different choice because

Mike Roesslein:

it was very clothing industry.

Mike Roesslein:

Yes.

Jen Fugo:

And when I read that after I graduated, I was like, oh wow.

Jen Fugo:

I would've probably made a much different decision, but I love, I love history.

Jen Fugo:

I love art history.

Jen Fugo:

I, I really love design.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I actually am a very proficient crochet or when I have time, I hate

Jen Fugo:

knitting, but I love to crochet.

Jen Fugo:

Uh, I learned as a child

Mike Roesslein:

and pretend like I know what the difference.

Mike Roesslein:

One hook

Jen Fugo:

versus, and, um, I, that was what I wanted to do.

Jen Fugo:

Uh, but nine 11 really like threw a huge wrench in that.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, in hindsight, I, I don't know that I've ever said this before or

Jen Fugo:

thought of it, but maybe I'm kind of grateful that that happened.

Jen Fugo:

Just not, not in the grand scheme of things, obviously, because it was

Jen Fugo:

horribly traumatic, but it did push me in a much different trajectory because

Jen Fugo:

the fashion industry was kind of falling apart at that point because of what had

Jen Fugo:

happened in New York, we had the super warm winter and I was forced to basically

Jen Fugo:

go back home and my dad was a doctor.

Jen Fugo:

And so I ended up working back.

Jen Fugo:

I ended up working in healthcare, believe it or not as like his.

Jen Fugo:

I guess an aid, so to speak.

Jen Fugo:

I would work in the rooms with patients with him.

Jen Fugo:

And I got to like see the disaster of a healthcare system that we have, and

Jen Fugo:

just like how awful people's health, if their, um, health situations

Jen Fugo:

where, cause he worked mostly with elderly folks, our population was

Jen Fugo:

predominantly black and Hispanic.

Jen Fugo:

And so I got to see firsthand just like, you know, diabetics coming in with like

Jen Fugo:

missing part of their foot or part of a leg and, and just curiously asking

Jen Fugo:

them like, Hey, um, what do you eat?

Jen Fugo:

I don't know why I started asking now, but I was curious and they

Jen Fugo:

would tell me, and they said that their doctor said that that was fine.

Jen Fugo:

It was okay to drink gallons of diet soda every day.

Jen Fugo:

And I was just so perplexed by the fact that no one was being encouraged otherwise

Jen Fugo:

to take a more vested interest in their health and acting as if the food and

Jen Fugo:

their dietary choices played no role.

Jen Fugo:

And so it was just.

Jen Fugo:

It was really hard to watch in a sense, because you're seeing these people who

Jen Fugo:

are wonderful individuals and they're well-meaning, they just, they just

Jen Fugo:

weren't given the greatest direction because that's the standard of care.

Mike Roesslein:

So it wasn't a thing growing up.

Mike Roesslein:

I'm going to do this.

Mike Roesslein:

I want to be interested in this.

Mike Roesslein:

And you explored some of your other avenues first, which I did too.

Mike Roesslein:

I was a teacher out of school actually.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, I taught high school for two years.

Mike Roesslein:

Well, almost two years, about a year and three quarters.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

And then went back to the service industry cause I could make more

Mike Roesslein:

money working less hours bartending.

Mike Roesslein:

Then I could teaching which speaks volumes to the American educational system.

Mike Roesslein:

But, um, It was your own, I'm guessing there was a reason that you got pulled

Mike Roesslein:

towards this, this kind of work and the pattern I'm seeing so far in

Mike Roesslein:

recording these podcast episodes is that it might've had something to do

Mike Roesslein:

with how your own health was going and how your own life trajectory was.

Jen Fugo:

Absolutely.

Jen Fugo:

Well this time.

Jen Fugo:

So I moved back home.

Jen Fugo:

I have to, I have to go work for my parents, which was like, felt at

Jen Fugo:

the time, like not a great thing.

Jen Fugo:

I didn't want to move back home.

Jen Fugo:

I wanted to be like in New York and I began.

Jen Fugo:

So I'm seeing, you know, all of this pattern is happening with the

Jen Fugo:

patients and whatnot and realizing the system not really messed up.

Jen Fugo:

And I started about.

Jen Fugo:

I guess a year or two later beginning to have like really bad health problems.

Jen Fugo:

And, yeah, so I had moved back around 2004.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I had, I had a pretty, and I'm not, I'm not necessarily shy about

Jen Fugo:

this per se that I had, like, I really struggled after nine 11 mentally.

Jen Fugo:

I was in times square when all of that went down and it,

Jen Fugo:

it was my worst nightmare.

Jen Fugo:

And so I had to leave New York city for a while, and I was not sure that

Jen Fugo:

I was actually ever going to go back because I just was so traumatized by

Jen Fugo:

everything that I saw and witnessed and everything I'd have nightmares.

Jen Fugo:

And like, I couldn't, even for years, um, 4th of July was like hard.

Jen Fugo:

I would like freak out and I didn't, I tried to be like, no, it's just

Jen Fugo:

fireworks, but like, It just sounded like bombs going off, which, I mean,

Jen Fugo:

that's essentially what they are,

Mike Roesslein:

but you

Jen Fugo:

know, it just, it would elicit this response and cause

Jen Fugo:

me to cry and be really upset.

Jen Fugo:

It was just, you know, and so I did eventually go back, but I, it

Jen Fugo:

wasn't what I wanted to do anymore.

Jen Fugo:

And, um, anyway, so fast forward I had to move home.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I didn't know what I was going to do with my life.

Jen Fugo:

I spent the last, like four years planning on this one thing and I'm working

Jen Fugo:

for my parents, which was not great.

Jen Fugo:

And so I started to have worsening diarrhea and gas and bloating

Jen Fugo:

and feeling really exhausted.

Jen Fugo:

I had blood work done and my doctor who's great.

Jen Fugo:

I love him, but he like, didn't know what to make of it.

Jen Fugo:

He's just like, you look fine and I didn't feel fine.

Jen Fugo:

I knew something was wrong.

Jen Fugo:

Like stomach problems run in my family.

Jen Fugo:

So it just kind of felt like it was normal to have to go

Jen Fugo:

to the bathroom after you eat.

Jen Fugo:

And, um, I just couldn't get anywhere.

Jen Fugo:

I wasn't feeling better.

Jen Fugo:

I was probably also over-exercising and I think that was partially a way

Jen Fugo:

to cope with feeling out of control.

Jen Fugo:

Like, I didn't know what I was doing in my career, in my life.

Jen Fugo:

I had no trajectory.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I just didn't really have a plan.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and that was the one thing I felt like I could really control

Jen Fugo:

is like, I could go to the gym for four hours and that's too much.

Jen Fugo:

I'm going to tell you now that's just too much.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and so I ended up a cousin of mine is really into, um, holistic health in LA.

Jen Fugo:

And I went out to stay with her for about a week and she connected me

Jen Fugo:

with a nutritionist who was this.

Jen Fugo:

Uh, these are not normal symptoms.

Jen Fugo:

And then like, ask me, like, do you know what gluten is?

Jen Fugo:

I've never heard of gluten before.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm like, um, you want me to cut out all the foods that like, I'm Italian?

Jen Fugo:

Like what?

Jen Fugo:

So I, I did it, I did do it.

Jen Fugo:

And I noticed a huge improvement in my symptoms within just like three days.

Jen Fugo:

It wasn't like a miracle, but it was pretty substantial for me to stop

Jen Fugo:

eating gluten, um, in a short period of time because it stopped a lot of

Jen Fugo:

the GI distress that I was having.

Jen Fugo:

And, um, that's where I started to dig in and realized that I had

Jen Fugo:

to make some different choices.

Jen Fugo:

And that was honestly the moment.

Jen Fugo:

I started caring a lot more about what those patients were

Jen Fugo:

doing beyond their medication.

Jen Fugo:

Like I started asking questions that I would've never asked before, because

Jen Fugo:

now I'm reading these books and reading websites and, and, and, and looking at my

Jen Fugo:

health in a, such a different way that I never, it never occurred to me that, you

Jen Fugo:

know, I knew something was wrong, like in telling someone, oh, you're diabetic

Jen Fugo:

have some, like, I don't know, corn flakes with milk and banana before you go to bed,

Jen Fugo:

that's a good bedtime snack as a diabetic.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, now I'm like, oh my gosh, that's a disaster.

Jen Fugo:

But, but these are recommendations that patients would tell me.

Jen Fugo:

They were told

Mike Roesslein:

my dad has been insulin dependent type two diabetics since 1998.

Mike Roesslein:

So I'm very familiar with the eat, whatever you want.

Mike Roesslein:

Just put more insulin in your shot at advice that he got from his doctor.

Mike Roesslein:

If you eat a bunch of candy or other crap, you just put extra insulin in the thing.

Mike Roesslein:

And I was.

Mike Roesslein:

This is not good advice.

Mike Roesslein:

I knew that in 1998, when I was in college, I didn't study nutrition at all.

Mike Roesslein:

Just something about that.

Mike Roesslein:

He's like, yeah, doctor says I can eat whenever I want.

Mike Roesslein:

I just needed to put more insulin in my shot.

Mike Roesslein:

And I'm like, I don't think that's true, but I'm a freshman

Mike Roesslein:

in college and he's a doctor.

Mike Roesslein:

So like maybe, and then later on I learned that it's definitely not true.

Mike Roesslein:

And then I would, and it took a long time, but he finally, um, stopped

Mike Roesslein:

doing that, which is really exciting.

Mike Roesslein:

But, uh, yeah, I've seen, and then even within like the diabetes, I

Mike Roesslein:

don't know the right organization to throw under the bus right now, but

Mike Roesslein:

the, the, the, the association that tells them what to do, we'll have

Mike Roesslein:

like a fundraising event with crispy.

Mike Roesslein:

Oh, yeah.

Jen Fugo:

Let me, let me tell you.

Jen Fugo:

So when I did eventually start my master's in nutrition, I took a, okay.

Jen Fugo:

I admit I was trying to save some money.

Jen Fugo:

So I went to a local community college for this one, like

Jen Fugo:

introductory to nutrition class.

Jen Fugo:

It was like a required prerequisite.

Jen Fugo:

It was taught by an, an RD and listen, I don't, I'm not throwing RDS under the bus.

Jen Fugo:

I have a ton of friends that are RDS, who think really

Jen Fugo:

creatively and are awesome people.

Jen Fugo:

So it's not all RDS, but the RD, this RD was like a diabetic educator.

Jen Fugo:

And she said in our class that sugar consumption and simple carb

Jen Fugo:

consumption is not responsible at all for causing diabetes and.

Jen Fugo:

Dad, you're a doctor.

Jen Fugo:

What do you think about this?

Jen Fugo:

And he's like, she's absolutely wrong.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know why on earth.

Jen Fugo:

She would be teaching people that, and that's really concerning that.

Jen Fugo:

She's a diabetic educator saying that.

Jen Fugo:

So I got this like awful information from this class.

Jen Fugo:

Fortunately, the program, um, I went to, I found through Rob Wolf's

Jen Fugo:

website and it was just like a list of programs that would think kind of

Jen Fugo:

differently, like more integratively.

Jen Fugo:

And, uh, the, it was the university of Bridgeport, which they still

Jen Fugo:

have a really great nutrition and it's, and it's accredited.

Jen Fugo:

It's a great school.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I really enjoyed the program.

Jen Fugo:

It was hard, but, um, I, it really changed the whole process of.

Jen Fugo:

I have never had severe, severe, severe, severe health issues.

Jen Fugo:

Like some of the people that I've worked with, um, I've coped with a lot

Jen Fugo:

of stuff in terms of like, I've, I've certainly had my fair share of like

Jen Fugo:

mental health issues throughout my life.

Jen Fugo:

Not in a way that I would say, you know, I've told people even, even on my

Jen Fugo:

podcast and such like I was, I was on antidepressants earlier in my life and

Jen Fugo:

my late teens, early twenties, because I have, I had, I think it's much better now.

Jen Fugo:

I think, I think my husband would agree.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I did have really pretty intense issues with OCD and trichotillomania.

Jen Fugo:

And so I didn't realize that until pretty late in my life.

Jen Fugo:

I don't think that that necessarily played a role in where I am now, but

Jen Fugo:

it's helped me better understand.

Jen Fugo:

You know how people get lost in the process, um, and just being handed

Jen Fugo:

medications and not being told any of the side effects that can happen.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I mean the one thing that I have come to learn about myself is that, and I think

Jen Fugo:

this goes back to that high school piece of like, what did I, what was I, what did

Jen Fugo:

I Excel at was creative, being creative.

Jen Fugo:

And also having this introspection of asking, like, what are the

Jen Fugo:

processes that allow for life to be sustained and created and all of

Jen Fugo:

this stuff that I'm so interested in.

Jen Fugo:

And, um, I couldn't do that with antidepressants.

Jen Fugo:

I actually almost failed out of school in college as a result of taking them.

Jen Fugo:

So, um, yeah, my story is a little bit all over the place,

Jen Fugo:

but I will say that in my life.

Jen Fugo:

I, I have witnessed such as, and, and, and having been a patient myself

Jen Fugo:

and having worked in healthcare.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm sure your wife can relate to this.

Jen Fugo:

You get lost in a system and it's very difficult to find your way through it.

Jen Fugo:

And sometimes out of it, um, I got to work in medical billing.

Jen Fugo:

I got to work in the rooms.

Jen Fugo:

I got to figure out how to connect with doctor's offices, because I worked for

Jen Fugo:

my dad and saw what he went through.

Jen Fugo:

But in my own journey, I saw this, these problems.

Jen Fugo:

I want to put that in air quotes, because I think I don't want to label them as bad.

Jen Fugo:

They're not necessarily bad.

Jen Fugo:

It's just part of my story, my journey of, of growing up and realizing that

Jen Fugo:

I was different than other people.

Jen Fugo:

And it was okay.

Jen Fugo:

It was okay to be.

Jen Fugo:

Cool.

Jen Fugo:

I was, but unfortunately the way that it was seen within the medical community

Jen Fugo:

was either here's a pill for that, right?

Jen Fugo:

So, oh, you have OCD.

Jen Fugo:

You can't get out of your house in the morning without spending three

Jen Fugo:

hours, checking everything and doing all these things and whatnot, and you

Jen Fugo:

can't function like a normal person.

Jen Fugo:

So here's a pill for that.

Jen Fugo:

That just kind of endless.

Jen Fugo:

I don't, I'm not against, I also want to say I'm not against

Jen Fugo:

antidepressants or medications.

Jen Fugo:

Everybody's journey is different for me.

Jen Fugo:

It did not work.

Jen Fugo:

It actually made my OCD and the trichotillomania problems even worse.

Jen Fugo:

Um, so I think everyone is entitled to their own journey and their own

Jen Fugo:

choices, but I never got resolution or clarity on why these things were

Jen Fugo:

happening as a result of just seeking out.

Jen Fugo:

Like, here's my labs.

Jen Fugo:

What do you think doc?

Jen Fugo:

It was always like, you look fine.

Jen Fugo:

Maybe you're just you, maybe you're just stressed.

Jen Fugo:

I've been told maybe I was too stressed.

Jen Fugo:

Maybe I just need more B vitamins.

Jen Fugo:

Maybe I need to stop working out so much.

Jen Fugo:

Which was probably true.

Jen Fugo:

I'd probably

Mike Roesslein:

did.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

Four hours, four hours of training is a lot.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

and so you said you didn't have any severe things, but I could, I would argue

Mike Roesslein:

that, um, those OCD related issues, some pretty significant digestive issues.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, I'm guessing there is some skin problems in there.

Mike Roesslein:

Uh, so eczema, digestive issues, OCD.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, I would guess that those things probably disturbed your

Mike Roesslein:

piece of wellbeing and like life.

Mike Roesslein:

In general, those are all things that affect many aspects of life.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, from you mentioned taking a long time to leave the house, but also, uh,

Mike Roesslein:

digestive responses to meals is, um, not the most convenient thing ever.

Mike Roesslein:

I'm sure that I know how I had pretty severe acne in like my teens

Mike Roesslein:

into early twenties, ish years.

Mike Roesslein:

And I know what that was like to go through.

Mike Roesslein:

It's different than eczema, but still, um, I remember the feeling

Mike Roesslein:

of going in rooms and hoping nobody looks at my face and that sucks and

Mike Roesslein:

affects quality of life quite a bit.

Mike Roesslein:

So I think if you, um, snowball all of those things into one ball,

Mike Roesslein:

that's quite a bit of life impact

Jen Fugo:

while I would agree with you.

Jen Fugo:

I also work with people whose situations with their health

Jen Fugo:

are so drastically worse.

Jen Fugo:

I just

Mike Roesslein:

want it.

Mike Roesslein:

I think it's all relative.

Mike Roesslein:

I think if you really are trying to do is to not put your, to not put

Mike Roesslein:

yourself in that same level of someone who like can't get out of bed or can't.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

I get it.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, it's just, um, I've found that most people in this industry,

Mike Roesslein:

didn't, I'm kind of an anomaly.

Mike Roesslein:

I didn't have health issues.

Mike Roesslein:

Like I had skin issues when I was in like teens twenties.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, I haven't, I.

Mike Roesslein:

Mural always complaints.

Mike Roesslein:

I have an iron stomach, so like I can eat anything.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, I don't have any real health issues and I haven't, despite my

Mike Roesslein:

best efforts for about 15 years to get as many of them as I could.

Mike Roesslein:

I lived like if I wanted to mark off every box of how you could get

Mike Roesslein:

sick or unhealthy, I did all the things a lot for about 15 years and

Mike Roesslein:

my body's just extremely resilient.

Mike Roesslein:

And so I didn't have health issues that flipped me into this field.

Mike Roesslein:

It was more like I started, I went to grad school to my

Mike Roesslein:

late twenties, which was hard.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, funny how that works.

Mike Roesslein:

You mentioned your grad school was hard.

Mike Roesslein:

Mine was also hard.

Mike Roesslein:

And I was like, why is this so hard?

Mike Roesslein:

And my roommate at the time was like, you're in a master's program.

Mike Roesslein:

I think it's supposed to be hard.

Mike Roesslein:

And I was like, oh, and mine was in 11 months.

Mike Roesslein:

Like it was accelerated program and 11.

Mike Roesslein:

And so I didn't do anything else.

Mike Roesslein:

I did like school all day, every day, and it was mostly physiology

Mike Roesslein:

minds and exercise physiology.

Mike Roesslein:

So it was mostly just physiology stuff, some statistics, which is the one BI I got

Mike Roesslein:

in grad school was my statistics class.

Mike Roesslein:

But, um, I got into that because I wanted to work with athletes and I realized

Mike Roesslein:

right away that I didn't want to do that.

Mike Roesslein:

Like that took me.

Mike Roesslein:

That was probably the fastest I've ever figured out.

Mike Roesslein:

I don't like something.

Mike Roesslein:

And it was about two weeks and I was like, what the hell am I going to do now?

Mike Roesslein:

Because now I have this master's degree and I don't want to do the thing.

Mike Roesslein:

And I started to do some training for people who had back issues,

Mike Roesslein:

back pain surgery, like people who were really deconditioned or

Mike Roesslein:

injured and wanted to function.

Mike Roesslein:

And I found that really.

Mike Roesslein:

Like I enjoyed helping somebody like get to the point where they could

Mike Roesslein:

walk up the stairs when they couldn't before, rather than helping somebody

Mike Roesslein:

like jump a little higher or something.

Mike Roesslein:

And that led me to nutrition, which led me to functional

Mike Roesslein:

medicine, which led me to whatever.

Mike Roesslein:

Cause my clients kept getting more and more complex and complex and complex.

Mike Roesslein:

And then I have like, I need to understand brain and there's

Mike Roesslein:

an infinite rabbit holes.

Mike Roesslein:

You can jump down in this field.

Mike Roesslein:

And so I just kept getting from like fitness to nutrition, to functional

Mike Roesslein:

medicine, et cetera, et cetera.

Mike Roesslein:

I never had health issues and I'm like the weird anomaly.

Mike Roesslein:

And I always thought like, Why am I in this?

Mike Roesslein:

And I didn't have health issues.

Mike Roesslein:

And what I realized is that my health issues were depression and anxiety

Mike Roesslein:

and those kinds of things, which I only figured out in the last few

Mike Roesslein:

years, and now I'm going through trainings to work in that area.

Mike Roesslein:

And like, that's really my jam.

Mike Roesslein:

And I was just waiting to realize what my thing was really.

Mike Roesslein:

And I was carrying that the whole time I was doing all that other stuff and I

Mike Roesslein:

just didn't realize it so I can relate to the mental health piece quite a bit.

Mike Roesslein:

And how that's often, like you just push through that and do

Mike Roesslein:

your normal life like I did.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um,

Jen Fugo:

you know what I'll say about that though, too?

Jen Fugo:

I think a lot of times we are conditioned to think we have,

Mike Roesslein:

that's what I mean, like in this society, it's just something

Mike Roesslein:

that like, oh, everybody deals with that.

Mike Roesslein:

Just go ahead and do your things.

Mike Roesslein:

And it's like, everything's hard.

Jen Fugo:

Everything.

Mike Roesslein:

When you feel like shit, everything is hard.

Mike Roesslein:

Like, that was just like when I was anxious, going to a place

Mike Roesslein:

and doing a thing was hard.

Mike Roesslein:

When I was super depressed, like doing really basic things was hard,

Jen Fugo:

I will say too.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and I don't know why I did this.

Jen Fugo:

I have no idea why, but when I was in high school, this counselor

Jen Fugo:

came around to each one of our Q imagine like a county counselor.

Jen Fugo:

You know, she's like, I'm unaffiliated with the school, but I'm here.

Jen Fugo:

If you want to talk.

Jen Fugo:

And for some reason, I, well, in my school we did and I went to talk to her.

Jen Fugo:

And I think one of the reasons that, well, I'm really grateful now that I

Jen Fugo:

did, I, I feel like I started, I self chose therapy and I self chose the

Jen Fugo:

person that I started that process with at, uh, I think I was like 15 or 16.

Jen Fugo:

I was pretty, no, it was just, I didn't have any friends.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I didn't, I wouldn't say I was zero.

Jen Fugo:

I had zero friends.

Jen Fugo:

That, that would be a lie to say that, but I was very ostracized.

Jen Fugo:

I was very different.

Jen Fugo:

I was, I dealt with a lot of bullying.

Jen Fugo:

I did not fit in.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I felt very alone as a teenager.

Jen Fugo:

A lot of, it was like the OCD issue.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and so, and then we had a lot of things, you know, just going on at home

Jen Fugo:

that were very difficult to cope with.

Jen Fugo:

And, um, a lot of family dynamics and things.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, I come from a pretty, I guess, traditional Italian American family.

Jen Fugo:

My, my parents are literally second generation in this country.

Jen Fugo:

And so, um, there was a lot of dynamics that were very difficult to deal with.

Jen Fugo:

My sister was always like more popular than me and I'm the older

Jen Fugo:

sister and I just never fit in.

Jen Fugo:

I think I, there was always these ideas of how my life should be, but it

Jen Fugo:

never, ever even came close to that.

Jen Fugo:

And then I did things to myself.

Jen Fugo:

Like I dyed my hair black and I would dress strange.

Jen Fugo:

And like I did it intentionally and I got to the point where.

Jen Fugo:

It took a long time, a long, long time of losing friends, of being humiliated

Jen Fugo:

in front of people, um, being made fun of and all sorts of things for

Jen Fugo:

me to realize that the words that people would say in the worst moments

Jen Fugo:

of like, you know, being in a class of like 25 kids and being literally

Jen Fugo:

humiliated, they had no power over me and when it didn't have any power and

Jen Fugo:

I could like kind of throw a Quip back,

Jen Fugo:

it was the end of that conversation because that person was seeking.

Jen Fugo:

It was really a power

Mike Roesslein:

struggle and they don't get out of it.

Mike Roesslein:

What they're trying to get by

Jen Fugo:

doing it right now.

Jen Fugo:

Did that necessitate me like, did that mean like I want I'm great.

Jen Fugo:

I'm I'm good.

Jen Fugo:

No, I mean, I, I literally still remained in therapy.

Jen Fugo:

I actually started, I didn't know that I had OCD.

Jen Fugo:

I watched as good as it gets with my parents.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm at the end of the movie I'm standing there.

Jen Fugo:

Yes.

Jen Fugo:

I was sitting there and I look at my parents are on the couch and I'm like,

Jen Fugo:

do I see D like, literally I had no idea, never heard of this in my parents

Jen Fugo:

look at one another like, oh, oh.

Mike Roesslein:

And it spawned this whole family.

Jen Fugo:

Right.

Jen Fugo:

It's fine.

Jen Fugo:

This whole conversation.

Jen Fugo:

I started going to see a behavioral psychologist that

Jen Fugo:

then got me to a psychiatrist.

Jen Fugo:

And then I started Zoloft.

Jen Fugo:

I freaked out on Zoloft.

Jen Fugo:

So they changed it to Paxil, I think.

Jen Fugo:

And then at one point I was moved

Mike Roesslein:

to excellent.

Mike Roesslein:

What gave Joe brains apps?

Mike Roesslein:

Oh, ask him about that next time you talked to him.

Jen Fugo:

Yeah.

Jen Fugo:

And then I was on Prozac and then I moved to New York to go to college.

Jen Fugo:

And then the doctor, uh, the psychiatrist in New York just kept

Jen Fugo:

increasing the amount of Prozac that I was on because I was getting more

Jen Fugo:

angry, more depressed, more isolated.

Jen Fugo:

Um, And

Mike Roesslein:

depressants for OCD.

Jen Fugo:

So one of the treatments for, for, well, mine was a combo

Jen Fugo:

of OCD and trichotillomania.

Jen Fugo:

Basically, it's a cousin of, um, OCD and that there's

Jen Fugo:

different things that can happen.

Jen Fugo:

So you can have, um, hair pulling skin picking.

Jen Fugo:

Like I still, I still pick this thing quite a bit.

Jen Fugo:

And I talked about that on the healthy skin show.

Jen Fugo:

Cause like it's something talking about this right now is not the

Jen Fugo:

most natural thing for me to talk about, but I know it's important

Jen Fugo:

for people to know that like you're not alone in all of this, but I.

Jen Fugo:

Could not function.

Jen Fugo:

Like I had a really difficult time.

Jen Fugo:

I couldn't like get going in the morning.

Jen Fugo:

It would take me out.

Jen Fugo:

Like I cannot stress how many hours I could not get out of the bathroom.

Jen Fugo:

I lived with like six roommates and that made it even worse.

Jen Fugo:

There was so many stressors that I, it was very difficult for me to just function.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and so yes, they do at the time, this was back in like, I guess around 2000.

Jen Fugo:

So they were treated, I don't know if that's still the case now, but they would

Jen Fugo:

use like a combination of behavioral therapy and, uh, antidepressants to try

Jen Fugo:

to get you to like, to lessen the urge.

Jen Fugo:

It didn't work, like put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it.

Jen Fugo:

Yeah.

Jen Fugo:

Yeah.

Jen Fugo:

That's not going to work.

Jen Fugo:

Let me tell you right now, um,

Mike Roesslein:

tase myself.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, yeah, like, okay, so that's twenties, twenties, and then you just started

Mike Roesslein:

seeing those people in your like teens twenties college in New York time.

Mike Roesslein:

And.

Mike Roesslein:

By the time you are working with your family.

Mike Roesslein:

Uh, a lot of that had been improved, resolved, same medicated, still

Jen Fugo:

struggling.

Jen Fugo:

I only stayed on medication for a year.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and then at that

Mike Roesslein:

point you pulled the plug on that when you

Mike Roesslein:

realize you were getting worse.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, I was failing school.

Jen Fugo:

I couldn't do my creative projects for school.

Jen Fugo:

That's a

Mike Roesslein:

problem.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

Unfortunately like the creates and I've learned to embrace this.

Mike Roesslein:

I've recently found out the last few years that I have like

Mike Roesslein:

severe add like really bad.

Mike Roesslein:

And I never knew, like, I always looked at it as something other people

Mike Roesslein:

dealt with, but I could never focus on anything and concentrate for two seconds.

Mike Roesslein:

And I was like squirrel and, um, I never put two and two together.

Mike Roesslein:

And then when I discovered it, I said something to mirror,

Mike Roesslein:

like, do you think I have add?

Mike Roesslein:

And she's like, same way your parents reacted.

Mike Roesslein:

Like, no, I don't think

Mike Roesslein:

holy crap.

Mike Roesslein:

Cause I'm, I'm in a training Dr.

Mike Roesslein:

Guevara Monte's training and he has a book on add, and we had to read

Mike Roesslein:

his books as part of the curriculum.

Mike Roesslein:

And I'm reading this book and I'm like, Okay, check, check, check,

Mike Roesslein:

check, check, check, check, check, check, check, check, check, check.

Mike Roesslein:

All checks.

Mike Roesslein:

And I'm like, oh, I have this.

Mike Roesslein:

And that actually helped me kind of have a little more compassion for myself, like

Mike Roesslein:

getting the diagnosis and things, because then it made things make sense on like

Mike Roesslein:

why I had certain issues and whatever, but I know they would have bombarded

Mike Roesslein:

me with all kinds of things to take.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, if I was a kid in school age now, for sure.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um, they're usually stimulants and if I over caffeinate myself, not

Mike Roesslein:

good, usually people on add, I guess you over-caffeinated yourself on purpose.

Mike Roesslein:

Cause then it like does some sort of a reverse dynamic tier system.

Mike Roesslein:

So I know that I would have bombed on the, the medication as well.

Mike Roesslein:

And if they give people with add sedatives, like, I don't want to

Mike Roesslein:

say sedatives, but antidepressants are kind of lessons or everything.

Mike Roesslein:

People with add are highly creative and then they're not like you can't

Mike Roesslein:

choose what you're going to muffle.

Mike Roesslein:

Like, so for those drugs, like you said, you were creative and

Mike Roesslein:

then you weren't, even if it was helping your other symptoms,

Mike Roesslein:

which it may have, but it wasn't.

Mike Roesslein:

But sometimes it does, but it's, non-selective like you can't selectively

Mike Roesslein:

numb the things it's all or nothing.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um, for some people that trade off is great and necessary and

Mike Roesslein:

essential, and it helps them survive.

Mike Roesslein:

And I also don't want to be seen as throwing antidepressants under the bus.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, but I just know that anytime I've taken anything that's supposed

Mike Roesslein:

to like calm or numb or whatever.

Mike Roesslein:

I also can't, like you said, like, I couldn't, it's like my brain doesn't work.

Mike Roesslein:

Like I'm used to it working.

Mike Roesslein:

And I, I probably would have not fared well with anything like academic or,

Mike Roesslein:

um, creative, especially creative.

Mike Roesslein:

If your schooling was involving anything creative or like creative problem solving,

Mike Roesslein:

like in those times I just kind of stare,

Jen Fugo:

right.

Jen Fugo:

And you would stay, I would stare at the paper and I'd be

Jen Fugo:

like, what am I supposed to do?

Jen Fugo:

And everything was gray, the color.

Jen Fugo:

I felt like the color and the intricacy of, of what creativity is

Jen Fugo:

had just dissolved into grayness.

Jen Fugo:

And I couldn't, I couldn't complete projects.

Jen Fugo:

I didn't complete my final, which I got an F on.

Jen Fugo:

And I know, and so I went to the psychologist, I'll never

Jen Fugo:

forget our last session.

Jen Fugo:

And I said, look, I can't keep doing this is not working.

Jen Fugo:

Right.

Jen Fugo:

I'm also getting angrier, um, like fighting with my roommates.

Jen Fugo:

I'm really agitated.

Jen Fugo:

And she's like, oh, well, you know what we need to do.

Jen Fugo:

We need to put you on a mood stabilizer.

Jen Fugo:

So maybe let's add in some Wellbutrin.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm like, no, That like, I've hit my point.

Jen Fugo:

We're not adding in more medication to stabilize my mood.

Jen Fugo:

This isn't even helping me feel any better.

Jen Fugo:

And so I called my dad and, um, I feel really lucky that my dad was a doctor.

Jen Fugo:

And I said, dad, I don't know how to get off of this medication.

Jen Fugo:

I know I can't stop it.

Jen Fugo:

Cold Turkey.

Jen Fugo:

Cause I was taking a pretty high, I was like almost at the max

Jen Fugo:

dose of Prozac that you can take.

Jen Fugo:

And so he helped me step down and get off of it.

Jen Fugo:

Um, but I wasn't medicated for a long while and I just sort of muscled through

Jen Fugo:

and I did have, I did still struggle with things, but when I got out of school, I

Jen Fugo:

started doing like, I started working with a life coach and that really helped me.

Jen Fugo:

I think better find a place of empathy for myself because

Jen Fugo:

understanding what I had, it was helpful and refreshing in the moment.

Jen Fugo:

But I didn't know anybody else like myself, I didn't know a single soul.

Jen Fugo:

What I.

Jen Fugo:

Experience, and I'm sure other people can relate to this.

Jen Fugo:

I felt alone and I felt a level of shame about who I was and why I would

Jen Fugo:

do these things that I couldn't control.

Jen Fugo:

Like people don't understand when you say I can't not do this, they

Jen Fugo:

don't get it because it really doesn't rationally make sense.

Jen Fugo:

My boyfriends wouldn't understand why it would take me two hours just to get ready

Jen Fugo:

in the morning and he didn't understand.

Jen Fugo:

And I couldn't, I can't explain it.

Jen Fugo:

I still, to this day, can't, I just would get stuck and lost in patterns.

Jen Fugo:

And it was so destructive to me being a functional human being.

Jen Fugo:

Um, but at a certain point I had, I had to take a step out of all of that.

Jen Fugo:

And I don't know if going through the trauma of nine 11, um, forcing

Jen Fugo:

me out of these incredibly stressful.

Jen Fugo:

Environments and also working to like start confronting some

Jen Fugo:

of the issues and the anger.

Jen Fugo:

And also realizing that I used anger as like, I was scared.

Jen Fugo:

I was afraid I was shame.

Jen Fugo:

I felt ashamed, but I would lash out in anger to try to protect myself.

Jen Fugo:

That was like my wall in my weapon to be able to use against people

Jen Fugo:

who I felt were getting too close.

Jen Fugo:

Um,

Mike Roesslein:

so here's almost always a secondary emotion.

Mike Roesslein:

It's always like a, it's a superficial secondary emotion.

Mike Roesslein:

Cause it's safer.

Mike Roesslein:

It's like a safety thing because to express the thing underneath

Mike Roesslein:

the anger is way more, it's

Jen Fugo:

way more vulnerable.

Jen Fugo:

It's way more scary.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, even to have this conversation, I've never really talked about this

Jen Fugo:

on a podcast before I talked about it on a little bit, but I also

Jen Fugo:

recognize that there are people going through certain things.

Jen Fugo:

And especially like, like you said, you'd never heard of some of these issues.

Jen Fugo:

So there's, I, I F I apologize.

Jen Fugo:

I have the podcast on skin picking and I don't, I think it's Derma Tila, mania.

Jen Fugo:

I think when you pick your skin and a lot of people do that, like

Jen Fugo:

you, like, even people will, like, sometimes men will pick at their beer.

Jen Fugo:

They'll start pulling out hair is unconsciously.

Mike Roesslein:

like I would throw my eyelashes and it like pulls the eyelid

Mike Roesslein:

off the eyeball and makes this little sound, I would do it like to the point

Mike Roesslein:

where the teachers would have to come by and like stick my hand on the desk.

Mike Roesslein:

And they're like, I can't not do

Jen Fugo:

it.

Jen Fugo:

There's these compulsive behaviors that are really difficult.

Jen Fugo:

I don't have any grand message or like solution to any of this.

Jen Fugo:

I just know

Mike Roesslein:

that came out of this guy and all these things that evaporated.

Jen Fugo:

No, I mean, I I'm 41.

Jen Fugo:

If, if it's going to happen, it's still some

Mike Roesslein:

time.

Mike Roesslein:

Well, I'm curious.

Mike Roesslein:

That is a lot, like at the beginning.

Mike Roesslein:

And I totally get, you're not wanting to compare yourself to

Mike Roesslein:

somebody who can't get out of bed.

Mike Roesslein:

That's a lot, that's like, that's a lot of stuff you've thrown a lot

Mike Roesslein:

of stuff down here that you are dealing with between the digestive

Mike Roesslein:

issues and the OCD related stuff.

Mike Roesslein:

And the phase of the medication, the feeling isolated, which is

Mike Roesslein:

probably the worst of all of those things is feeling totally alone.

Mike Roesslein:

Like you said, nobody is like me and not being seen or understood.

Mike Roesslein:

And people think you're weird or they just like, just don't do the thing, like really

Mike Roesslein:

simple, like telling a heroin addict, just stop using heroin and you'll be fine.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, that type of approach is like patronizing.

Mike Roesslein:

Like it's makes things worse.

Mike Roesslein:

It makes you feel more like you're crazy, all these things and a burden.

Mike Roesslein:

And uh, like just these people have to deal with me or whatever.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um, the lashing out.

Mike Roesslein:

As a cover.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um, the venue might not like being called out on that

Mike Roesslein:

being a cover right now, but, um, cover, anger's always a cover.

Mike Roesslein:

So I can tell you the reason I'm still still carrying on the conversation.

Mike Roesslein:

I was like, is this, cause I can tell that you've done a lot of work around

Mike Roesslein:

it and you can handle talking about it.

Mike Roesslein:

So, I mean, I'm not trying to, you said you haven't talked

Mike Roesslein:

about this on a podcast.

Mike Roesslein:

I'm not trying to get you to the point where you don't ever want to

Mike Roesslein:

come on anything, but I can tell you've done a lot of work around it.

Jen Fugo:

So, so your audience and I also know you.

Jen Fugo:

And so one thing that Mike and I feel really grateful, I've known

Jen Fugo:

my husband since high school.

Jen Fugo:

We were friendly in high school.

Jen Fugo:

And so he heard a lot of the things that people would say about me and like the

Jen Fugo:

comments and things, he, he was aware.

Jen Fugo:

And so it's not like he doesn't know.

Jen Fugo:

Um, where I've been, you know what I mean?

Jen Fugo:

And where I've come from.

Jen Fugo:

And, and the one thing that's been really great as he is increasingly encouraged me.

Jen Fugo:

He's like, you got to start getting out of your comfort zone of being

Jen Fugo:

so used to pretending like the past doesn't exist, at least in how you,

Jen Fugo:

like, it's hard with like skin stuff.

Jen Fugo:

People don't necessarily, it's not necessarily like, so I don't know.

Jen Fugo:

Maybe I'm thinking it's not as connected.

Jen Fugo:

Maybe that's a defense mechanism.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I've talked about the skin picking issue, cause that is, that is important.

Jen Fugo:

A lot of people with rashes do pick at their skin as a result

Jen Fugo:

of it, but it is important.

Jen Fugo:

I recognize, and I wish that I knew someone who had the same

Jen Fugo:

issue as me when I was younger.

Jen Fugo:

Like when I found out that Olivia Munn also, so she's an actress.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know her, but I read that she had issues with trichotillomania and

Jen Fugo:

I was like for the first time, Wait, this famous actress has this issue.

Jen Fugo:

And she's like there she did, because I had no sense that I could accomplish

Jen Fugo:

anything because I felt so I'm going to nicely use the word damaged.

Jen Fugo:

I would probably use a harsher word, but I don't know what your,

Jen Fugo:

your life, but you get the point.

Jen Fugo:

Like, I did not feel like I ever had any value and I was

Jen Fugo:

constantly living in this state.

Mike Roesslein:

Like these things aren't possible for me.

Mike Roesslein:

Like I'm limited to this little thing as possible for me, which isn't very much

Jen Fugo:

didn't know until that moment when I found that out, I was

Jen Fugo:

like, if she can do that, if she can like go on TV and be in a movie and

Jen Fugo:

do all this stuff, and she has the same thing, then what's stopping me.

Jen Fugo:

And so, like I said, my husband's encouraged me.

Jen Fugo:

To share with people, especially people that I'm friendly with and stuff if they

Jen Fugo:

don't like you, if they're going to judge you or make a nasty comment about you,

Jen Fugo:

like then they're not really your friend,

Mike Roesslein:

this isn't good self identifier.

Jen Fugo:

It is, it is.

Jen Fugo:

And no one who I've ever told has ever come back to me and been

Jen Fugo:

like, oh, well, blah, blah, blah.

Jen Fugo:

Some of these people have questions and I'm okay with that because you know what?

Jen Fugo:

It is different.

Jen Fugo:

You might not know what it is.

Jen Fugo:

You might not have heard of it.

Jen Fugo:

And you might, it might actually help explain what's going on for someone who

Jen Fugo:

you do know that it is confusing, you don't get what's going on with them.

Jen Fugo:

And now all of a sudden you're like, oh, so, um, I don't, I've done a lot of work.

Mike Roesslein:

More people accept you knowing XYZ.

Mike Roesslein:

It's easier to accept yourself too.

Mike Roesslein:

Like, it shouldn't be like that.

Mike Roesslein:

Shouldn't be linked.

Mike Roesslein:

Well, throwing shit in quotes, like everything's intrinsic

Mike Roesslein:

and it comes from within.

Mike Roesslein:

And it's, you know, like how you said that at some point in.

Mike Roesslein:

Middle finger to the bullies and then their power went away.

Mike Roesslein:

The same thing goes for like other people's approval or acceptance or like

Mike Roesslein:

whatever shouldn't technically matter.

Mike Roesslein:

But the more people that like see you for you and know your things and your

Mike Roesslein:

quirks and your weird whatevers, and they're like, cool, let's go out to lunch.

Mike Roesslein:

Uh, that part of you that's concerned about like, what are they going to think,

Mike Roesslein:

or how are they going to, you know, it can kind of chill out a little bit.

Mike Roesslein:

And then that gets reinforced that this is okay.

Mike Roesslein:

And also too.

Mike Roesslein:

So he was, that was good advice.

Mike Roesslein:

I think.

Jen Fugo:

So I will also, I will also recognize that the more

Jen Fugo:

that I embrace what's different about me, the more it's okay.

Jen Fugo:

For me.

Jen Fugo:

Like it has nothing to do with anyone else.

Jen Fugo:

Just what's.

Jen Fugo:

Okay.

Jen Fugo:

What I see is okay about myself, the more I realize I can put the energy into.

Jen Fugo:

Helping others and doing what I really love to do.

Jen Fugo:

And if someone doesn't like it, that's fine.

Jen Fugo:

I don't really care.

Jen Fugo:

I'm not going to spend energy, trying to convince someone that I'm

Jen Fugo:

valuable or I'm worth it or whatever.

Jen Fugo:

I think I've spent enough of my life being like having my self-worth tied to could

Jen Fugo:

I get through the day without someone humiliating me, I've lived enough of that.

Jen Fugo:

I'm good.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and at this point, like, yeah.

Jen Fugo:

Do I still have issues that come up?

Jen Fugo:

Absolutely.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I know my mom has a lot of.

Jen Fugo:

I don't think shame probably guilt is the right word.

Jen Fugo:

Cause she didn't know how to help me as a kid.

Jen Fugo:

And I, I didn't know how much she had actually tried to do.

Jen Fugo:

She had reached out to a lot of organizations and all sorts of stuff.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, this is like the eighties, you

Mike Roesslein:

know, like, yeah, there wasn't the internet, anybody

Mike Roesslein:

under 30, there wasn't the internet,

Jen Fugo:

no internet.

Jen Fugo:

So she's writing letters or typing letters and getting pamphlets and making phone

Mike Roesslein:

calls going in yellow pages.

Mike Roesslein:

It's a book that used to have phone numbers.

Mike Roesslein:

Yes.

Mike Roesslein:

And

Jen Fugo:

yellow pages.

Jen Fugo:

You know, I didn't realize how much of a burden it was to her too.

Jen Fugo:

And I didn't realize that until I was probably in my thirties

Jen Fugo:

that my mom, it was also really traumatic and hard for my mother.

Jen Fugo:

And she, even to this day will be like, I'm so sorry.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, she's like 70 something, you know, like she's, I'm so sorry

Jen Fugo:

that this happened to you and that I couldn't help you more.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm like, mom, you just have to let it go.

Jen Fugo:

You did your best.

Jen Fugo:

And that's all you could do.

Jen Fugo:

I know one is given the, the, the, like a book to figure out how to help somebody

Jen Fugo:

who's dealing with something like this.

Jen Fugo:

If I was a completely quote unquote normal person, and I didn't have any

Jen Fugo:

of this, I might not be where I am.

Jen Fugo:

I probably wouldn't be around today, but I have a lot of empathy for people

Jen Fugo:

who feel very alone on their journey, likely because of what I went through.

Jen Fugo:

Um,

Mike Roesslein:

And that's essential for the work that you're doing now.

Jen Fugo:

Yeah.

Jen Fugo:

It'd be like the champ.

Jen Fugo:

Like I feel like sometimes I'm like, I'm the cheerleader?

Jen Fugo:

I'm like,

Mike Roesslein:

well, no, one's going to say anything to you on a console call.

Mike Roesslein:

You're going to be like E I don't know about wanting to work with you because

Mike Roesslein:

you've been on the other side of that.

Mike Roesslein:

Like you've, you know, like it's, um, that, that harsh judgment and

Mike Roesslein:

some of it I'm sure it was real.

Mike Roesslein:

And some of it was projected like you would just project, oh, they

Mike Roesslein:

think this about me or whatever, too.

Mike Roesslein:

But then there also was the ruthless people and all of that, but that

Mike Roesslein:

feeling of aloneness and feeling of damaged, and that you're limited and

Mike Roesslein:

that you can't do XYZ things like.

Mike Roesslein:

Having that experience enables you to meet people that are in that space

Mike Roesslein:

in a way that someone who hasn't had that experience can't do it.

Mike Roesslein:

And that's a gift in what you're doing now.

Mike Roesslein:

So it's an essential thing.

Mike Roesslein:

It's something I see lacking in a lot of health practitioners across the spectrum

Mike Roesslein:

of, from doctors to nutritionists, to health coaches, whatever.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, I've run into several who may be brilliant at like the

Mike Roesslein:

biochemistry and the physiology.

Mike Roesslein:

And they're just not capable of like seeing the person they're talking to

Mike Roesslein:

as a person, as a human being with all of these things rolled into it instead

Mike Roesslein:

of just like lab results and a number and a robot that they need to figure

Mike Roesslein:

out a formula to give them a protocol based on a lab test to do this thing.

Mike Roesslein:

And I think that you will not struggle with that.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, cause it's now built.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah, it gets, it's built in like, if

Jen Fugo:

you, yeah.

Jen Fugo:

It's a part of who I am now.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know if it's in my DNA.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know what it is, but it is a part of who I am and

Mike Roesslein:

well, that part of you that went through it, we'll see

Mike Roesslein:

that in others too, it gets a kind of like, uh, like seeing like, um, thing.

Mike Roesslein:

And they can feel that too.

Mike Roesslein:

Like a lot of the work that I've done over the last two years has been

Mike Roesslein:

energy-based and trust me if you're listening to this and you're like

Mike Roesslein:

energy, food, whatever three years ago from now, if you'd have brought that

Mike Roesslein:

up, I would have said the same thing.

Mike Roesslein:

And then I've had a lot of experiences and witnessed and experienced a lot of

Mike Roesslein:

things that have shifted me, but on an energetic level, which I'll keep it light.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, it's like when you walk into a room and you're like, this place is awesome

Mike Roesslein:

or you walk into a room and you're like, yeah, I don't want to be in here.

Mike Roesslein:

And nobody's centered on anything yet.

Mike Roesslein:

That is an energetic intuition that you pick up from the space and from

Mike Roesslein:

individuals there's people you'll meet.

Mike Roesslein:

And they might be saying really nice words to, and then inside your something is

Mike Roesslein:

like, eh, gross, get me away from this.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um, that's energetic intuition and with one-on-one relationships, whether

Mike Roesslein:

it's professional or not, um, there's a connection on that level as well.

Mike Roesslein:

And just having that, that you have that aspect, that's been through the

Mike Roesslein:

ringer, as far as I don't belong.

Mike Roesslein:

And people telling you, you don't belong and I'm limited, and I'm a

Mike Roesslein:

burden and I'm all these things.

Mike Roesslein:

The part of them that feels that way can tell that you're like an ally that

Mike Roesslein:

you're safe, that you can see that whether they mentally think about it

Mike Roesslein:

or consciously think about it or not.

Mike Roesslein:

I'm learning that in the work that I'm doing, that this is something

Mike Roesslein:

that's like picked up subtly.

Mike Roesslein:

And so I think that you're, well-served by what you've been through because.

Mike Roesslein:

You can bring that to the table.

Mike Roesslein:

So I am curious, uh, sorry about that rant.

Mike Roesslein:

It's just something I felt was important to, to share that.

Mike Roesslein:

I don't know if you realize that, but it's a gift that you'll then have

Mike Roesslein:

that you can transmit without trying, just by having been through the fire.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, and I'm curious, you've obviously made a lot of progress

Mike Roesslein:

with a lot of these things.

Mike Roesslein:

Your skin looks great.

Mike Roesslein:

Your digestive issues you've told me are like in the past, when

Mike Roesslein:

we've shared things like better.

Mike Roesslein:

And, um, I don't know if you still take two hours to get ready to go somewhere,

Mike Roesslein:

still, all of that type of stuff.

Mike Roesslein:

So like in short, I don't want, we don't have a ton of time left and I

Mike Roesslein:

don't want to get into like teaching XYZ protocol things, but like, what

Mike Roesslein:

were the big needle movers for you?

Mike Roesslein:

And.

Mike Roesslein:

At what point did you realize, like maybe that bubble of limitation

Mike Roesslein:

that you had put on yourself?

Mike Roesslein:

I can't do this.

Mike Roesslein:

I can't do that.

Mike Roesslein:

Like, wasn't real.

Jen Fugo:

I will say that, um, a lot of, uh, so a lot of the talk, I don't want to

Jen Fugo:

say therapy per se, but like being very conscious about meeting with someone and

Jen Fugo:

being held accountable by someone on like a weekly, sometimes twice a week basis.

Mike Roesslein:

I did twice a week for six months.

Mike Roesslein:

I it's, there's no shame.

Mike Roesslein:

There was somebody for six months, twice a week, six or four.

Mike Roesslein:

I left San Diego a couple of years ago and it's what I needed.

Mike Roesslein:

And

Jen Fugo:

there have also been, um, there's been a lot

Jen Fugo:

of moments where I've had to.

Jen Fugo:

Like, I've got a, I try my best in every situation.

Jen Fugo:

When I get frustrated now to say, what did I potentially do

Jen Fugo:

to contribute to this situation?

Jen Fugo:

Whether it's in my business or my life, or whatever, to try to

Jen Fugo:

really make sure that I'm taking responsibility for my end of things.

Jen Fugo:

Um, and not resorting back to old patterns as well.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I do know I'm not going to say that.

Jen Fugo:

I mean, I really poorly kid and a teenager and in my twenties, it

Mike Roesslein:

really is your favorite fast food taco

Jen Fugo:

bell.

Jen Fugo:

I did like talk about, I liked the, the, the potato wedges from KFC.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

Okay.

Mike Roesslein:

What is your favorite snack food that you would add?

Mike Roesslein:

Monitor yourself for eating.

Jen Fugo:

Jesus.

Jen Fugo:

I don't.

Jen Fugo:

So I can't say that, but I can tell you, I was a big honey bunch of

Jen Fugo:

honey bunches of oats, cereal fan.

Jen Fugo:

Like I used to have that every day for breakfast pretty much.

Jen Fugo:

And then my mom would make like her pot, her pasta sauce, and I would make pasta.

Jen Fugo:

Like, that was pretty much what I ate all the time fame.

Mike Roesslein:

My mom's maiden name is DeVito.

Mike Roesslein:

I grew up with plenty of pasta in the house too.

Jen Fugo:

So I mean, it wasn't, I, I do think improving my diet

Jen Fugo:

and such was really helpful.

Jen Fugo:

And I do think that I do, I did see a pretty sizeable shift when I started to.

Jen Fugo:

Um, more veal food.

Jen Fugo:

Um, I do think that you can go too far and, you know, everybody

Jen Fugo:

can find information on my feelings on access elimination,

Jen Fugo:

diets, so you can look that up.

Jen Fugo:

But, um, at the end of the day it was, I also had to do a lot of meditation.

Jen Fugo:

I had to do a lot of soul searching, a lot of self work, um, to start

Jen Fugo:

unraveling years and decades of, I mean, I was afraid to go to school.

Jen Fugo:

I lost best friends.

Jen Fugo:

I had best friends that humiliated me.

Jen Fugo:

They were the ones that would humiliate me in front of people that like I, to this

Jen Fugo:

day, have I can be in a room with them.

Jen Fugo:

I can talk to them what I want to be friends with them.

Jen Fugo:

Probably not.

Jen Fugo:

I haven't, I haven't gotten that far.

Jen Fugo:

I'm not perfect, but, um, It's been a lot of, of self inquiry,

Jen Fugo:

um, and asking questions and say, what can I take responsibility for?

Jen Fugo:

What can I forgive?

Jen Fugo:

What can I acknowledge that I just didn't know enough at the time, and I know

Jen Fugo:

better now, and I can do better now.

Jen Fugo:

And that this is a journey that I can always try every single

Jen Fugo:

day to show up a little better.

Jen Fugo:

Um, but I mean, definitely the meditation and yoga helped.

Jen Fugo:

I, I think you can go too far with that too, to some degree.

Jen Fugo:

And I think I did for a while.

Jen Fugo:

Um, but I got to a point where I found a much healthier balance and

Jen Fugo:

I understand myself probably better.

Jen Fugo:

Well, how do don't know?

Jen Fugo:

How can you not better know yourself as you get older?

Jen Fugo:

But I feel like I know myself,

Jen Fugo:

you might be right about that.

Jen Fugo:

But I do feel like at this point in time, I know I do feel like I know

Jen Fugo:

myself the best, not like I know everything, but I love, I love.

Jen Fugo:

The idea of realizing that I don't know everything and that I can be engaged

Jen Fugo:

in conversations and be challenged in beliefs and the way things are so that

Jen Fugo:

I can keep evolving who I am and the relationships that I have with people and

Jen Fugo:

hopefully, and do my little tiny minuscule part to leave this world a better place.

Jen Fugo:

And, you know, as far as like, I think people get too caught up in protocols

Jen Fugo:

and wanting to know exactly what you did.

Jen Fugo:

This is like 40 years.

Jen Fugo:

I don't know.

Jen Fugo:

There was a lot of like good things to happen and there are setbacks and there's,

Jen Fugo:

I mean, I had nine 11 mixed in there.

Jen Fugo:

I, I, you know, I don't, I don't know.

Jen Fugo:

And other people have other really serious traumas that I've never experienced.

Jen Fugo:

I think we're just all on a messy, beautiful journey I

Jen Fugo:

think we all serve a purpose.

Jen Fugo:

I think we're all here for a reason.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm just trying to do my best every single day to get up and be

Jen Fugo:

passionate about the things that I really love to help people figure out.

Jen Fugo:

And that's where I am right now.

Jen Fugo:

And I feel really grateful

Mike Roesslein:

and we could have this conversation in five years and you

Mike Roesslein:

might be somewhere else and that's fine.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, so it sounds to me I'll translate.

Mike Roesslein:

What I took out of that is that really building a relationship with yourself

Mike Roesslein:

was the needle mover and like realizing who you are and what's important to

Mike Roesslein:

you and, and, um, how you show up and interact in the world and with people.

Mike Roesslein:

And that's not the normal needle mover.

Mike Roesslein:

We get hearing talking about unhealth space and, um, I think people always

Mike Roesslein:

underestimate that aspect of like that internal world and what's

Mike Roesslein:

going on there and how it affects.

Mike Roesslein:

Physical D now I would guess that someone with a history of digestive issues or

Mike Roesslein:

skin issues, that if you get really stressed or if somebody really upsets

Mike Roesslein:

you, if you're really upset or you get pulled away from that, like connection

Mike Roesslein:

to yourself in some way, like get pulled into like patterns or unconscious,

Mike Roesslein:

like, you know, when you respond to something and then you're like, oh shit.

Mike Roesslein:

I said that thing.

Mike Roesslein:

And I wouldn't mean to, you know, when we react and then we realize it later,

Mike Roesslein:

like when you get pulled into that space, I wouldn't be shocked if some symptoms

Mike Roesslein:

of yours pop up from some, from time

Jen Fugo:

to time and anger.

Mike Roesslein:

Yeah.

Mike Roesslein:

And people don't usually equate these to look at only like, what did I eat?

Mike Roesslein:

And it isn't always necessarily what you ate.

Mike Roesslein:

Um, as someone married to a person with multiple autoimmune conditions, all

Mike Roesslein:

three of her flares, there were things in common, one being mold and one being.

Mike Roesslein:

Extended periods of extreme stress.

Mike Roesslein:

And that now that's part of the reason we're moving to where we're moving

Mike Roesslein:

and pulling her out of the emergency room is to negate one aspect of that.

Mike Roesslein:

And so, um, that work of figuring yourself out is I think as important,

Mike Roesslein:

if not more important than what you're eating or, um, things of that nature.

Mike Roesslein:

So it's, it's refreshing to see that come up in Congress

Jen Fugo:

and to be okay with doing what's different.

Jen Fugo:

You don't have to look, I don't have children.

Jen Fugo:

I made a choice.

Jen Fugo:

I didn't want that wasn't for me.

Jen Fugo:

And I know, my dad had this patient, she was, um, some sort of pastor and she

Jen Fugo:

had asked me, my sister has two children and she got, sometimes his patients

Jen Fugo:

would get us confused and that's fine.

Jen Fugo:

And she'd be like, oh, how are your children?

Jen Fugo:

And I was like, oh no, no, no, I, my they're my nieces.

Jen Fugo:

And she's like, oh, and the way I said it, she must've taken a little bit of

Jen Fugo:

an embarrassed kind of embarrassed.

Jen Fugo:

And she said, I don't know if I'm overstepping here, but it's okay.

Jen Fugo:

If your flock that you tend to is not biological children.

Jen Fugo:

She's like, I know that you work with a lot of people and your flock that you

Jen Fugo:

came into this world to tend to, might not look like what everyone else does.

Jen Fugo:

And that's okay.

Jen Fugo:

And I was like, wow.

Jen Fugo:

That was like one of the most enlightening moments of something that some person

Jen Fugo:

I'll never forget her, um, that she said to me, and I was like, you're right.

Jen Fugo:

Because it just, that wasn't my flock.

Jen Fugo:

And I'm okay with that.

Jen Fugo:

I'm okay with the things that I get to do.

Jen Fugo:

And it's okay that my life doesn't look like everyone.

Jen Fugo:

Else's, I'm really grateful for it now that it doesn't.

Jen Fugo:

So,

Mike Roesslein:

yeah, that's amazing.

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That's so backwards compared to how most people in this society

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respond to that situation, both being slightly embarrassed.

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Cause then there's usually a defensive reaction that would be a lashing out.

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And then people love to tell other people what they should be doing with their

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life and that should match what they do.

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I won't get into why I think that is, but That's great.

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That's a really cool story.

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So if anyone

Jen Fugo:

is struggling with that, there you go.

Jen Fugo:

Um, yeah, she was, I think she was Pentecostal minister

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pastor for her church.

Jen Fugo:

So I lived, I was just surprised by that answer that we all have our own flocks

Jen Fugo:

to tend to, and it's okay if you're, as does not look like everyone, else's

Mike Roesslein:

brilliant.

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Well, it was a great discussion.

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And I appreciate you sharing stuff that isn't on the top of the things

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you usually talk about on podcasts.

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Um, I know that speaking from experience, some of the stuff that I now can talk

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about pretty easily where it doesn't seem like it's a big deal to me, it used to be.

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And so I totally want to honor that and, um, Thank you for sharing

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some, some inside info on Jen's life and how you got to where you are.

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And I'm sure a lot of people can relate to a lot of it.

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Cause it doesn't have to be the same symptoms.

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It doesn't have to be the same conditions or the same

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challenges or the same, anything.

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I think most people with any sort of chronic health issues can relate to

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feeling alone, to feeling like an outcast or feeling like they can't do things.

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And that they're in this bubble.

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And like everyone else is living in this world that they get to do all

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these things and in your world sucks.

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And it's this little small world and nobody gets it.

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And so, um, I hope that they feel seen and understood from, from this conversation.

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And I'm glad you went through all those things that suck so that

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you can bring that experience to the people that you work with now.

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So.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I wouldn't have said it.

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Me too, in my, my stuff that I went through to, like, I was suicidally

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depressed a few years ago and out of that has come a whole bunch of cool stuff.

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And if you told me then, oh, you're just going through a really difficult time

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right now and it's going to turn out great and you're going to be better off for it.

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And you're going to gain all these amazing insights and think I would have

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been like, dude, go die over there.

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Like, I don't even want to hear this.

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And, um, I get it too.

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Sometimes when you're in it, you don't want to hear, like, if it was

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like right after nine 11 and your symptoms are really bad and you just

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got traumatized and all these things are going on in someone's like, this

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is going to be really good for you.

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Uh, they would've got the bully fingers, so, um, we're not

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trying to patronize anybody.

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That's going through a really tough time right now, like, and

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say, oh, it's going to get better.

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You're going to love this, whatever.

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It's just personally from both of our experience, uh, the gifts that came

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through the challenges are the things that you learn to identify when you

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make that relationship with yourself.

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And you're like, oh, I can do this.

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And, um, so cheers to us for going through a bunch of crap and, um,

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for what came out the other side.

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And I just appreciate the candid discussion and it's

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always fun to connect with you.

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And where's the best.

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I got a bunch of links they'll see below.

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So you don't have to name off everything you do, but where's the

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first and best place for people to go to check out your podcast, your work.

Jen Fugo:

Yeah, I would say, um, well it's skinned to corrupt.com, but for

Jen Fugo:

those who find that hard to spell, you can just go to healthy skin show.com

Jen Fugo:

and that will take you to the website where the ho the podcast pages, and

Jen Fugo:

you can find everything from there.

Mike Roesslein:

Okay.

Mike Roesslein:

Skincare up.com uh, actually had commented before we went

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live on how clever the name is.

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And I ended up knowing the person who helped her come up with it.

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So it's a small world, but, um, you get an, a plus for that.

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That's the most creative, original name of a website or brand of

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anybody I've ever interviewed.

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So go there, check her out.

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All the links are below.

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We'll have a bunch of links.

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So go look at those.

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You can find everything.

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Jen does over there.

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Check out her show.

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You got a lot of catching up to do.

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There's like 200 episodes.

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So, um, I want a full report back.

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So go check those out.

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And it's not just about skin.

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I'm sure.

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Jen talks about a lot of things over there.

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So, um, thank you, Jen.

Mike Roesslein:

It's always super fun and I appreciate it.

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