Being embarrassed is often avoided like the plague, but what if I told you it's the secret sauce to business success, especially for ADHD entrepreneurs?
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In "Why Embarrassment is the Way to Business Success," I'm exploring how putting yourself in uncomfortable, potentially humiliating situations could be the catalyst you need for explosive growth.
Embracing public mistakes is a badge of honor in your entrepreneurial journey.
Let's get real—people have a lot of preconceived notions about what makes a business successful.
You might think you need an MBA or be an expert salesperson, but the truth is far more uncomfortable: the willingness to embarrass the hell out of yourself.
We dig into those cringe-worthy moments from childhood, those school assignments you aced wrong, and how those early experiences with embarrassment shape your adult fear of failure.
The podcast also touches on the challenges of social media vulnerability, the fears around launching new business ventures, and even the anxiety of having family members ask about your "little business."
This episode isn't just about laughing at our mistakes—it's about learning to use those mistakes to propel yourself forward.
After listening, you will walk away from this episode with:
00:00 ADHD can lead to embarrassing mistakes.
03:26 Fear of embarrassment can trigger survival instincts.
06:39 Professor corrected Greek alphabet mistake, leading to desensitization.
11:49 Push past fear and announce your business.
15:15 Social media embarrassment is cringeworthy at first.
18:20 Impulsive email campaign mishap due to distraction.
21:55 Brené Brown's shame and vulnerability in public.
24:33 Embrace embarrassing moments to achieve success.
27:13 Unique support for ADHD clients; different approach.
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Squirrel. Squirrel. In this episode, I'm going to tell you why
Speaker:embarrassment is the way. I'm Katie McManus, business
Speaker:strategist and money mindset coach, and welcome to the Weenie cast.
Speaker:Squirrel. People have a whole bunch of
Speaker:beliefs about what it takes to be successful as a business owner. Lots of people
Speaker:believe that you have to be good at talking about yourself. Others believe that you
Speaker:have to be good at selling. While more will think that you have to have
Speaker:an advanced degree, like an MBA or something, none of
Speaker:that's true. Here's the number one most important quality
Speaker:that will lead to your business success. And it's the willingness to
Speaker:look stupid. It is the willingness to embarrass the
Speaker:out of yourself. And I'm not just talking, like, using the wrong
Speaker:word occasionally in a conversation. I'm talking full on Bridget
Speaker:Jones humiliation, which, by the way, I can't even watch those
Speaker:movies. I get so much secondhand embarrassment for her that, like,
Speaker:as it's playing, I have to, like, get up and walk it off. It's like
Speaker:my. But I get so anxious in my body for her in those movies that
Speaker:I'm like, ah, I gotta go make popcorn. Gotta go. Can't
Speaker:sit still, can't do this. That is what it takes to run a
Speaker:business, which I will say is
Speaker:incredibly hard for people in general and is harder for people with
Speaker:ADHD. Because we all have had
Speaker:experiences growing up where we didn't understand the
Speaker:instructions or not that we didn't understand the instructions. We stopped
Speaker:paying attention to what the instructions were about two minutes in, and then we did
Speaker:the activity wrong, and then we did it differently
Speaker:than everyone else, and everyone looked at us funny.
Speaker:Growing up, I did so many assignments wrong. I
Speaker:remember I watched the wrong french movie and wrote a paper on it.
Speaker:I still got credit for it because I wrote a paper on a movie, but
Speaker:I definitely miswrote down what the movie was. There were
Speaker:projects that I had to present to the class that I did it on the
Speaker:wrong thing. And every person with ADHD has some variation
Speaker:of this, you know, and it could be something from school. It could be
Speaker:showing up to a party and wearing the wrong thing or showing up late, showing
Speaker:up at the wrong time. I had a friend who once showed up to my
Speaker:birthday party the day before it happened. Like, we jived on that we
Speaker:were buddies, we both had adhd, but it's that attention to detail that we
Speaker:sometimes just kind of gloss over. We're busy paying attention to
Speaker:other things and it doesn't really jump out at us. And it's
Speaker:embarrassing because it points out that there was a moment where you weren't
Speaker:100% like everyone else, was able to do it right and you didn't do it
Speaker:right. And kids are mean. When you do something wrong as
Speaker:a kid or you do something that's different, other kids can make fun of
Speaker:you. Sometimes teachers and adults can make fun of you as
Speaker:well. So we grow up being extra sensitive
Speaker:to doing things wrong, being extra sensitive to making mistakes
Speaker:and looking stupid. Because sincerely,
Speaker:growing up, when you make a mistake publicly, you're made
Speaker:fun of for it as a child. It does kind of undercut your
Speaker:sense of safety because it is a form of rejection.
Speaker:It is a form of ostracization. Right. That's the
Speaker:word. I'm just going to say that again so I don't mispronounce it.
Speaker:It's a form of being ostracized. Speaking of
Speaker:embarrassing yourself and making mistakes. Squirrel, squirrel, squirrel. And growing
Speaker:up, it really can affect your sense of worthiness. So it's
Speaker:completely understandable that you're sensitive to embarrassing yourself.
Speaker:Right. Because in your mind, even though you know it's not logical,
Speaker:when you embarrass yourself, you're showing the world that you're not
Speaker:capable. You're showing the world that you make mistakes, that you weren't
Speaker:paying attention, that you do stuff wrong. And your subconscious takes that
Speaker:as, oh, my God, they're going to kick us out of the tribe, and then
Speaker:we're going to have to go and survive alone in the woods with the bears
Speaker:and the lions and the tigers, and we're going to have to be sure not
Speaker:to eat the mushrooms that'll kill us. And if we have pets or children,
Speaker:we're going to have to take care of them, too. And that's really scary for
Speaker:us. That kicks in a whole bunch of survival instincts.
Speaker:But here's the thing about starting a business and
Speaker:reinventing your life and doing something that you've never done
Speaker:before. You're going to get it wrong. You're going to make
Speaker:mistakes. Those mistakes will often be publicly viewable.
Speaker:And there's no way of building a business without doing that.
Speaker:There's no way of doing something you've never done
Speaker:before without fucking it up.
Speaker:So in 2019, I decided that I wanted to upgrade my
Speaker:business. So I invested money I did not have in a coach that was
Speaker:way more expensive than anything I had ever invested in in my life.
Speaker:And at the same time, I went to Italy for the month of October.
Speaker:I was doing a nomad year. It was fabulous. I highly recommend, if you
Speaker:run a business that is virtual, go and do this whenever you can.
Speaker:It really changes your perspective on life, but just
Speaker:setting the stage. So I just started this program. It was all about
Speaker:putting yourself out there and, like, producing yourself in the world.
Speaker:And I remember I was doing this zoom call with the
Speaker:cohort from my little kitchen in my roman
Speaker:apartment that I had gotten for my stay.
Speaker:And behind me, there was this mural, this
Speaker:beautiful mural of, like, an agora. And there are just people, like,
Speaker:milling around this fountain, this square. And my
Speaker:coach pointed to it because I had asked a question, said, write
Speaker:a post about that. Write a post about that painting in
Speaker:your kitchen, in your little roman apartment. And he said this just as
Speaker:an example of, like, anything can be content. And I was just
Speaker:getting my feet wet with social media. I was just getting my feet wet with
Speaker:posting online, because I'd really built my business up until that point by
Speaker:networking in person, by going to happy hours
Speaker:and networking events and talking to people through
Speaker:LinkedIn, really connecting with people one on one. I hadn't really promoted myself
Speaker:on social media yet, and so this is a whole new thing for me. And
Speaker:I was terrified. I was terrified of posting something stupid. I was
Speaker:terrified of writing something and having people react
Speaker:badly to it. And so my coach really pushed me. He said, you know what?
Speaker:Like, as soon as this call is over, I want you to sit down, I
Speaker:want you to take a picture of that thing, and I want you to write
Speaker:a post about it. And so I did. And I had just arrived in
Speaker:Rome, so I was really jet lagged. I'll also own that I was in Rome,
Speaker:and I was cooking, and I was drinking some wine, so I
Speaker:wasn't drunk, but I also was not really sober. And so I wrote this post,
Speaker:and, like, it was a very, like, abstract painting, and there were, like,
Speaker:these symbols around it that I didn't recognize. And I kind of, like, made an
Speaker:offhand remark in this post about the symbols meaning something, whatever.
Speaker:And one of my old professors from
Speaker:college commented on the post and said, those are
Speaker:letters from the greek Alphabet, like, the symbols, like,
Speaker:calling out that I'd made this really stupid, dumb mistake.
Speaker:And I remember this woman, Sharon, who was also in the
Speaker:cohort with me, dmed me as soon as she saw it. She's like, are you
Speaker:okay? Because I'm sure she saw that, and she's like, oh, my God, I
Speaker:would die. I would die if one of my former professors came
Speaker:in and called out such a stupid
Speaker:mistake, right? And in hindsight, I'm like, oh, my God, of course, that's
Speaker:the greek Alphabet. But my brain was not on the level at that moment.
Speaker:And I realized in that moment that this was just the first of
Speaker:many embarrassing moments that were going to happen. If I wanted to have a business,
Speaker:if I wanted to be sharing stuff online, if I wanted to promote myself and
Speaker:put myself out there, and it really desensitized me
Speaker:to future mistakes. Now, of course, there have been many embarrassing
Speaker:moments since then.
Speaker:There are endless ways to embarrass yourself as a business owner,
Speaker:especially when you get into email marketing, let me tell you. Because
Speaker:when you post something on social media, you have the control to go
Speaker:in and either edit it if you had a typo, or delete it if it's
Speaker:just a huge mistake. Embarrassment. Embarrassment
Speaker:is the way you live to
Speaker:win another day. If you accept
Speaker:that. Imagine if you have an email
Speaker:list of about 1000 people and you send out an email
Speaker:blast and you do something wrong in that email. Like
Speaker:you copied and pasted some stuff and you have like the same sentence three times
Speaker:in a row. Or maybe you had a really dumb misspelling,
Speaker:or maybe you, like, left in some lorem ipsum language from
Speaker:the filler. I've done it all, let me tell you. And
Speaker:there's nothing like that sinking feeling and
Speaker:the heat just rising in your face as you realize, oh, my God, what did
Speaker:I just say? People, like a thousand people
Speaker:just got an email with me that makes me look like an idiot. Oh, my
Speaker:God. And I remember the first couple times this happened, I would
Speaker:call one of my business besties, Kelsey Letko, and I'd
Speaker:be freaking out, and she's like, dude, it's fine. Absolutely fine. You're
Speaker:gonna send them like a funny gif. You're gonna make fun of yourself.
Speaker:You're gonna own it and laugh it off.
Speaker:And honestly, every single time I did that, I got better
Speaker:responses because people, like, appreciated that I was a human
Speaker:who made mistakes. And what's funny about this is that Kelsey has
Speaker:done this too. She's done something embarrassing, you know, along those lines, sending
Speaker:out the wrong thing. And she calls me freaking out
Speaker:so we can remind someone else that it's okay, it's not a big deal,
Speaker:but when it happens to us, it's still humiliating. It still triggers all
Speaker:that for us. So I just want to share this because there's no way of
Speaker:avoiding it. Something that you're going to have to be comfortable with as you grow
Speaker:your business and really embarrassment is the way
Speaker:I want you as a business owner. If you really want to be successful, if
Speaker:you want to be a public figure, if you want to grow this business to
Speaker:multiple seven figures, then I'm sorry to break
Speaker:it to you, but you're going to have to embarrass yourself to that
Speaker:point. This really unfortunate
Speaker:truth about starting a business, your level of
Speaker:success will always cap at your level of shame. If
Speaker:you're too ashamed to post on social media, if you're too embarrassed, guess
Speaker:what, that's gonna be a really low level of success.
Speaker:Cause that's the bare minimum, you know, if you're too ashamed to pitch
Speaker:yourself to new segments, then guess what? You're not
Speaker:getting on tv. Okay? That's going to be the cap of your success.
Speaker:If you're too embarrassed to ask people for referrals, guess what? You're
Speaker:not getting referrals. Your success will be capped there.
Speaker:So let's talk through all the embarrassing, well, not all of them. There are
Speaker:just endless embarrassing situations. But let's talk through some of the most popular
Speaker:embarrassing situations that you will find yourself in as
Speaker:a business owner, especially if you're a business owner who's offering a service and
Speaker:promoting yourself online.
Speaker:Let's start at the very beginning when you decide you want to start this
Speaker:business. Oftentimes when you decide to start a business, it's a big jump.
Speaker:You're usually starting something that is different from what you've done all
Speaker:along. I know when I started off as a coach, like, I was coming from
Speaker:sales and I had jumped jobs
Speaker:so often, like, I was so convinced that people are going to
Speaker:see that I was announcing that I was a coach, and they'd have this whole
Speaker:judgment about, like, oh, my God, like, she changes her job every year.
Speaker:Like, how long is she going to stick with this one? I projected that people
Speaker:are going to be way meaner about it than they actually were. But
Speaker:announcing who you are now, changing the narrative,
Speaker:explaining to people what you're up to now, that can be
Speaker:incredibly embarrassing. That can trigger a whole bunch
Speaker:of negative projection on other people. And the biggest
Speaker:thing that I hear, the most common thing that I hear from people in my
Speaker:world, my clients, people who come to brave biz labs, which, if you haven't come,
Speaker:I open up this group coaching call every fourth Friday of the month
Speaker:to my whole network. So you can come and ask any
Speaker:question you have about your business, how to get clients, how to market
Speaker:yourself, so on and so forth. And if you wanted to join, I want you
Speaker:to go to weeniecast.com bravebiz.
Speaker:And we have that link in the show notes as well. But it's the most
Speaker:common fear that people will look at you and look at your announcement about the
Speaker:thing that you're doing now and say, who the did they think they
Speaker:are? Like, is this a joke? No, they can't
Speaker:do that. They've never done that before. Well, guess what? If you don't
Speaker:push past that embarrassment, if you don't, like, announce that this is a
Speaker:thing that you're doing and let people think whatever they're going to think about
Speaker:it, you're never going to have a business, right? Because people
Speaker:can't hire you if they don't know that you exist and who you help and
Speaker:what you help them do. And if you're not even willing to tell the people
Speaker:in your life that this is what you do, I mean, you're not going to
Speaker:have any clients. It's impossible. Who do you think you are,
Speaker:Batman? Let's talk about Batman for a second.
Speaker:Implausible and not implausible that this guy, like, is rich as
Speaker:all these gadgets and does a butler who sets him up to go and fight
Speaker:crime. And let's not even talk about the implausibility of
Speaker:all the villains and the weirdo they do and how organized
Speaker:they seem to be. Also, what is the property value
Speaker:in, what is it Gotham? Who would want to live there?
Speaker:It sounds like a terrible place to set up home and have a family.
Speaker:And also, like, the looting that happens. Who would want to start a business
Speaker:there? Okay, so all that aside, here
Speaker:you have Bruce Wayne, very wealthy, prominent
Speaker:individual in the community. His big secret is that he's
Speaker:Batman. What marketing campaign did they do for Batman?
Speaker:How lucky did he have to be the first couple times that he
Speaker:just so happened to show up where bad was happening and he
Speaker:stopped it. And then people were like, oh, that's Batman. Cool,
Speaker:let's call him. And then they made, like a bat light and stuff, and then
Speaker:he shows up. I don't buy it. That's not
Speaker:a plausible way of things happening, right? Unless he's, like, hanging
Speaker:out in his Batmobile, dressed as Batman, listening to a police
Speaker:scanner every night, and then maybe slipping little
Speaker:flyers under the police officer's doors, like, hey, you
Speaker:got a problem you can't handle, call Batman. Yeah, I'm just not buying it. By
Speaker:the way, Batman was my favorite superhero, and is to this day.
Speaker:But not because of how rich he is or how cool he is or
Speaker:anything. It's because bats are my favorite animal, and I thought it would
Speaker:be so cool to just design your identity around bats because they're my
Speaker:favorite anyway, just in case you wanted to know that about me. So
Speaker:the baseline of embarrassment that you have to be okay with,
Speaker:you have to be okay with people knowing what your business is.
Speaker:You have to be okay with the weird judgments that you're gonna get from family
Speaker:members and from loved ones and from friends and from former
Speaker:colleagues and former classmates from your third grade. They're all going
Speaker:to have thoughts about it. And none of those thoughts are your business.
Speaker:Your business is growing. The business, your business is putting yourself out
Speaker:there and making sure people know who you
Speaker:are, who you help, and what you help them do.
Speaker:And that's it.
Speaker:The next level of embarrassment is cringe. Social
Speaker:media. And I know when you think of social media, especially if you haven't
Speaker:done it yet, and even if you have been doing it for a while, I
Speaker:bet you're thinking about, like, posting selfies and
Speaker:sharing reels of you talking while you're sitting in your house that might be
Speaker:a little messy, or people sharing really vulnerable
Speaker:things on social media. All of that
Speaker:can give you that sensation of wanting to, like, not just crawl out of
Speaker:your skin, but rip your skin off and, like, crawl under a rock. Now, of
Speaker:course, you're gonna get better at social media as you go, but it doesn't matter
Speaker:what it is that you're posting. The first few months where you're posting about your
Speaker:business and you're posting to social media and you're sharing about yourself
Speaker:are gonna be the most embarrassing months of your life. You're gonna post something
Speaker:that, years later, you're gonna go back and be like, that wasn't anything. Like, big
Speaker:whoop. But you're gonna post something, and five minutes later, you're gonna have
Speaker:this sinking feeling in your stomach, and you're gonna think, oh, my God, I can't
Speaker:believe I shared that. Oh, my God, what are people gonna think? And
Speaker:you're gonna have a full on shame spiral about it. That is
Speaker:the cost of doing business. If you're not willing to
Speaker:walk through that fire, you're not going to get any
Speaker:clients, you're not going to start making money, and you're not
Speaker:going to have a business. Embarrassment is the
Speaker:way. And as you start growing your business, there are
Speaker:going to be so many embarrassing moments where maybe you don't have any
Speaker:clients. One of the most common questions I get around the holiday
Speaker:season is, what do I say to family members when they ask me how
Speaker:my little business is going, my cute little side hustles
Speaker:going, and it's going bad. Cause you're not making any money yet,
Speaker:but you don't wanna tell them that because you don't want them to say, oh,
Speaker:well, maybe you should give up. Oh, that's too bad. Like, maybe you should just
Speaker:go back to having a real job. Yes, of course. That is a really hard
Speaker:conversation to have. There are definitely ways that you can answer that question,
Speaker:but you're not gonna be able to avoid the question. You're gonna have to face
Speaker:down the embarrassment of loved ones, well
Speaker:intentioned, mostly well intentioned loved ones, asking,
Speaker:how's your little thing going? And you're gonna have to find a way to answer.
Speaker:As it grows, as you build up your business with one on one clients,
Speaker:maybe you're consulting. Maybe you decide that you wanna launch some kind of
Speaker:workshop or group program. Guess what? 50% of the
Speaker:time when you launch a group program or a workshop, no one's gonna sign
Speaker:up. Another 20% of the time, only one or two people are
Speaker:gonna sign up for a group thing. And if you think no one signing up
Speaker:is embarrassing, try showing up to your first
Speaker:session with your quote unquote group, and there's only one person there. And
Speaker:then what do you say when you go to talk about it? Oh, the one
Speaker:participant that I had joined my group is doing really great. They're having
Speaker:success in whatever it is that you're teaching them. All
Speaker:that is part and parcel of growing a business. And in a moment, I'm going
Speaker:to tell you a little bit more about some of the really embarrassing things I've
Speaker:done.
Speaker:So I'm the type of person that I lay the track as the train is
Speaker:coming. So sometimes when I have an email campaign, I set up
Speaker:all the logic in my email marketing so that there was a campaign
Speaker:and I'd have, like, blank emails or emails that had, like, instructions
Speaker:for what the email should be, and then I'd go and write them, like, right
Speaker:before they were supposed to go out. And this one time,
Speaker:I don't know, I got distracted and I didn't do it. And what
Speaker:got sent out was like, email seven,
Speaker:write about this, this, this, and this. And it wasn't the, it was
Speaker:like, instruction for me for what I needed to write. And it went out to
Speaker:my whole f cking list, and it was just like, oh, my God, I can't
Speaker:believe I did that. And it was all my fault. It was literally that I
Speaker:just forgot to do it. And it just didn't play
Speaker:into any of my awareness for what I need to do in
Speaker:that day. And I got several unsubscribes, obviously,
Speaker:because that obviously is incredibly sloppy. But, you know, it's funny. You'd think
Speaker:that would be enough to push me to pre write all of my emails.
Speaker:I still don't write all of my emails in advance.
Speaker:You know, I just can't. It's just like, it doesn't work for me. Like, I
Speaker:have to do it as the train is coming. Now that I have more support,
Speaker:that helps me, like, get everything organized. I have things done more in
Speaker:advance. But that was honestly probably the most embarrassing thing that I've done
Speaker:with my emails. I think we all kind of walk that line as we're learning
Speaker:how to be vulnerable on social media and as we're trying to figure out what
Speaker:vulnerability we're okay with. There have definitely been times where I
Speaker:shared too much, where I shared something that I wasn't ready to
Speaker:share and people wanted to take care of me and they wanted
Speaker:to check in on me and make sure that I was good. And
Speaker:I've always just gone back and edited those, but those are easier to
Speaker:fix. And, like, once you send an email to a thousand people, there's no
Speaker:taking it back. And, like, these are minor embarrassments, but
Speaker:they still hit me like a load of bricks.
Speaker:They still made me feel that shame spiral. They still made
Speaker:me kind of jump into this panic mode of, oh, my God, I can't believe
Speaker:I just did that. Everything's going to crash and burn. People are going to
Speaker:hate me. They're going to think I'm an idiot. All this stuff. If you don't
Speaker:have the stomach for that stuff, there's way worse things that can happen.
Speaker:There's this great book by Shonda Rhimes, who's the writer creator of
Speaker:Grey's Anatomy and how to get away with murder and Bridgerton on one of my
Speaker:favorite shows. And it's this book called the year of yes.
Speaker:And she decided that she was just being too much of a wimp in her
Speaker:life. And she decided that for a year she was just
Speaker:gonna say yes to whatever people asked of her. And
Speaker:her alma mater, Dartmouth College, which is in Ivy League
Speaker:college here in the United States, if you're not from the US, asked
Speaker:her to do a commencement speech, and she hated public speaking. She was
Speaker:so terrified of it. And going into it, she was
Speaker:convinced that she would have fear snot. Like, this is what she talked about
Speaker:in her book. So she was convinced that she would get up on stage and
Speaker:breathe out of her nose and a bunch of boogers and snot would just come
Speaker:flying out of her nostrils in front of thousands of people.
Speaker:And while it was being recorded, because she was the writer, creator of Grey's
Speaker:Anatomy, and highly successful person, who people would want to see the commencement speech
Speaker:for, that absolutely can happen. We're all
Speaker:humans. We all have snot. Like, it can come out of your face
Speaker:unexpectedly when you don't want it to. It didn't happen for her,
Speaker:but it could have. There are so many embarrassing
Speaker:things, especially if you have a female body. It can happen.
Speaker:Or you're out in the world promoting your business. If you're too
Speaker:embarrassed to potentially make a mistake in your email or potentially make a mistake
Speaker:in social media, how are you ever going to
Speaker:handle it when something bigger happens? The queen
Speaker:of shame herself, Brene Brown, her Ted talk that went
Speaker:viral, her original Ted talk where she owned
Speaker:having an emotional breakdown or a mental breakdown, she
Speaker:got off stage, had a complete shame
Speaker:hangover, called her friends, panicked at them. They were
Speaker:like, oh, but, like, how many people are actually gonna watch this?
Speaker:Over the next few days, this video went viral online.
Speaker:And in the comments, like, she wants to say that she didn't look at any
Speaker:of the comments. She read every single comment. Every single comment that called her
Speaker:fat, that criticized her outfit, that called her
Speaker:stupid, and then, of course, like, she had to then reconcile. Like, oh, my God,
Speaker:I just admitted to millions of people on the Internet that I had
Speaker:a mental breakdown. I can't remember which book she talks about this, but she
Speaker:talks about, like, how she deals with most catastrophic things. She
Speaker:just binge watched Downton Abbey and ate a lot of snacks,
Speaker:which relatable. Yeah, been there, done that. But
Speaker:also, look at where she is now. She is a household
Speaker:name. I doubt anyone who's listening to this podcast has to go
Speaker:and look her up. Most of you probably have her book on your
Speaker:bookshelf or in your audible account if you want that level of
Speaker:success. Like, it's not just sometimes the fire you have to walk through,
Speaker:that is the fire you have to walk through. You have to walk
Speaker:through being seen by people
Speaker:as you are. There's no avoiding that. I want you to
Speaker:think of every single celebrity that you've seen, like, have
Speaker:a bad moment in public. Maybe they were
Speaker:drinking. Maybe something bad just happened to them and think about
Speaker:how they had to move through it. Some celebrities don't recover
Speaker:from it, and they go into hiding and they give up others,
Speaker:they push through, and that's really indicative of, like, how successful
Speaker:they're going to be in the long term. Alec Baldwin, who's had so many
Speaker:embarrassing situations and, like, awful situations in his life that,
Speaker:like, are very shame inducing. He's about to have a reality
Speaker:tv show with his wife who got called out
Speaker:for having a fake spanish accent. The lady's from Boston,
Speaker:her name is Hillary, and she had us all fooled thinking
Speaker:she was the spanish lady named Hilaria from Espana.
Speaker:Like, they have a reality tv show, they have the capability
Speaker:to withstand a ton of embarrassment
Speaker:and they're making money off of it. Like, come on. If they can
Speaker:get through the embarrassing things that they've done and still be
Speaker:successful, you can do anything.
Speaker:If you're not embarrassing yourself daily, if you're not doing
Speaker:something that's outside your comfort zone, if you're not putting yourself
Speaker:out there in a way that, like, you might get it wrong, you're not trying
Speaker:hard enough. There's no way to grow a successful
Speaker:business without embarrassing yourself, without
Speaker:making stupid mistakes, without public
Speaker:failure. So if you're not willing to fail publicly, if you're not
Speaker:willing to embarrass yourself, there's nothing wrong with that. But I
Speaker:highly recommend you do not spend the time, money and energy on trying
Speaker:to start a business. If you are willing to embarrass
Speaker:yourself, but you want to be productive with your embarrassment, you don't just
Speaker:want to embarrass yourself willy nilly all over the place and not have it get
Speaker:you anything and you're not sure what's going to help you get from where
Speaker:you are now to actually being successful in this business, then I
Speaker:invite you to book a generated income strategy call with me. Because one of the
Speaker:things that I do with my clients is I will not only help you identify
Speaker:what is your fastest path to cash, I
Speaker:help you come up with what are the things that can put you out there
Speaker:that will communicate as elegantly and as quickly as
Speaker:possible who you are, who you help, and what you help them
Speaker:do. I also edit content for my
Speaker:clients, so you're less likely to make a mistake. I don't guarantee
Speaker:no mistakes in my edits, but you're less likely to embarrass yourself with my
Speaker:eyeballs and stuff. And I'm going to show you the best
Speaker:ways for you to launch your business, for
Speaker:you to enroll clients, for you to start a group.
Speaker:So your ratio of public failure to public success
Speaker:is hopefully more in your favorite. And if you want to book a generated income
Speaker:strategy call with me. Then I want you to go to winniecast.com
Speaker:strategycall and remember, it doesn't matter what
Speaker:you felt like as a child. It doesn't matter what you felt like growing up.
Speaker:It doesn't matter how you were made to feel in former work
Speaker:environments. No one is doing things perfectly.
Speaker:And when you do make a mistake, it's not a sign that
Speaker:you're less worthy. It's not a sign that you're stupid. It's not a sign that
Speaker:you're a fuck up. It's not a sign that you can't do this. It's a
Speaker:sign that you do not have the correct support for how
Speaker:your brain operates. This is one of the reasons why I've
Speaker:evolved my business consultancy business from just
Speaker:helping people start businesses to helping people with ADHD. Starting
Speaker:businesses, right. Because there's so much
Speaker:neurotypical support out there that is great for
Speaker:neurotypicals who have an easy time following all the instructions
Speaker:and can check off the list and do all the
Speaker:things. My clients with ADHD, they need something different.
Speaker:I needed something different when I started. When you have someone who
Speaker:understands how your brain operates and what
Speaker:it needs to be able to be successful, you're able
Speaker:to let go of all the what ifs. Maybe not all of the what
Speaker:ifs. The what ifs will always come up, but you're able to let go of
Speaker:more of them so that you can actually push yourself to take action,
Speaker:even though you might embarrass the crap out of yourself.
Speaker:Oh my God, I'm so freaking
Speaker:embarrassed. No way. Cut that out of the
Speaker:podcast. Just kidding. Keep it in.
Speaker:Squirrel, squirrel, squirrel, squirrel.