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Forgive Yourself & Become Free, with Dewi Maile Lim
Episode 221st February 2024 • Say YES to Your Soul • Tessa Lynne Alburn
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In this podcast, Dewi Maile Lim joins host Tessa Lynne Alburn to discuss her personal journey of transformation and how she has learned to release attachments and “shoulds” to live authentically. Dewi talks about her experiences with a spiritual path, forgiveness, and the importance of trusting oneself. She shares a specific story about needing to forgive herself for not fulfilling a promise made to her father. Dewi emphasizes the power of being true to oneself and highlights the importance of trust and courage in navigating life's challenges. 

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  • Dewi’s inspiring journey from spiritual commitment to self-discovery
  • Learn how to let go of past promises and commitments that no longer serve your authentic self.
  • Forgiveness is a tool for self-liberation and embracing your inner innocence.
  • Explore renegotiating your commitments to align with your true path.
  • Releasing judgment and going on your courageous journey of self-discovery

About Dewi Maile Lim:

Dewi Maile Lim (“Day’-wee My-lay Lim”) helps guide trailblazing, luminary women to stand-out as thought leaders, build flourishing communities, grow partnerships and thrive during this time of great change on the planet.

As a Visionary Artist and Transformational Coach she works 1-to-1 and in groups and leads online and in-person workshops, masterminds and Painting Vision Quests.Dewi is Founder of New Earth Luminary and Rebel Heart Creatrixmind. She is passionate about the intersection of creativity, consciousness expansion, sovereign living, and planetary awakening.

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Tessa Lynne Alburn believes that every woman has the ability to learn to express their true voice, be heard, and fulfill their dreams.  

As a Feminine Energy Coach and Soul Connection Mentor for women, Tessa supports you in having the freedom you crave and strong connections with others, as you live powerfully with joy and a sense of adventure.

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Tessa (00:11):

Aloha. Today, I have a lovely woman who is here to enlighten us to have some fun. I know for sure she's always fun to be with and inspiring, creative....her name is Dewi Maile Lim and she helps to guide trailblazing, luminary women to stand out as thought leaders, build flourishing communities, grow partnerships, and to thrive during this time of great change on the planet. And as a visionary artist and transformational coach, she works one-to-one and in groups, and she leads a lot of things online and in person workshops as well. She does masterminds and painting vision quests. And Dewi is the founder of the New Earth. Luminary and Rebel Heart creatrix mind. She's passionate about the intersection of creativity, consciousness, expansion, sovereign living, and planetary awakening. So Dewi, I am so glad to have you here. My aloha sister. Welcome to Say Yes to your soul.


Dewi (01:26):

Hmm. I say yes and thank you. Thank you Mahalo, and aloha everyone. And Tessa's beautiful community. I'm so grateful and honored to be here with you.


Tessa (01:39):

Well, we're excited. And we were, you know, you and I have been getting to know each other more and more over the last few years, and every time I hear about some part of your journey, I'm like, oh yeah, that's so great. I can't wait to have her on my show, <laugh>. And so I know you've got kind of a big personal story around something you'd been focusing on and focusing on, and then you had a big breakthrough around it. And so I'd love for you to just go ahead and share that part of your story with us, Dewi.


Dewi (02:12):

Yes. So I'm originally born and raised in Hilo, Hawaii, and that is where I'm currently based. And I did live for about 20 years off island. First in California for college. And then I wanted to live in a big city and I chose New York City. And through that time of living in New York, I was actually even bi-coastal. I did my first spiritual training through a university called the University of Santa Monica. And I got my master in spiritual psychology in 2004. And I was one of the younger people at the time in the group. I was in my twenties. And shortly after that, or during the time of that program, it was really an awakening, a time of awakening for me. One of my awakening times. And I met a spiritual teacher in New York City through a friend who she realized she had anger issues and she started going to meditation.

(03:20):

And she told me about the meditations and I was like, starting to get into yoga. And so I started going to this meditation center in New York. Fast forward, you know, 13 years later, I was an ordained minister with that particular organization. And I had decided to join the seminary and get my master in Divinity, which would've been my second master at this point, with a spiritual focus. And five years into that experience, I literally got sick and this was a time where I was working hard to try and get the thesis abound and shipped off. I had already gotten the written part approved. But yeah, my health just started to go down. And at the third time of the, trying to get it printed the third time, 'cause it had like media in it, I created a whole online show with my spiritual teacher about, um, the teachings.

(04:32):

And it was like my first push to create content online. I had 10 episodes and it actually, I believe it still airs now to this day on cable access in New York City.


Tessa (04:45):

And Oh my goodness, that's incredible.


Dewi (04:48):

Yeah. Yeah. That was a part of it. And so this thesis was the written part about this journey. So it already like basically got all of the content shipped and it was already out there. And I realized, you know, I took a break at that point because I was trying to get it done by the end of the year. I got sick, I took a break. And I realized in that process when I was back in home in Hawaii, 'cause I would always come back for the winters that my reasoning for finishing the program and finishing the degree was just because I started it and I should finish it.

(05:31):

And there was a should in there that I became very aware of like, what, why do I even want to do this? You know, I didn't feel like I needed the degree. And so I decided to let it go. And I also let go with all of my involvement at the same time with the organization and just decided to really take time to reassess my life. And so that became like a four year, four and a half year next phase of my life. I was in a relationship.


Tessa (06:14):

As you were speaking just now, my eyes were tearing up because I mean, I understand the commitment and everything you must have been going through, first of all, to even choose something, right. To go to get your master's in divinity.


Dewi (06:38):

Yeah.


Tessa (06:38):

Or here it is so active and you know, you had to have been listening to yourself and you're working with your meditation teacher and all these things. And then going through the struggle of the content for the thesis, just over and over three times. I mean, that's a bit much. And then suddenly though, somehow you knew like, my heart's not in this. It's feeling like a should, like, tell us more about that. Like what were some of those signs and what was that moment like for you when you were like, oh, it's a should?


Dewi (07:15):

Yeah. Well, at the time I had gotten into a new relationship and he was very helpful for reflecting back to me. Just like, you know, not in a way where I just started to ask myself some questions, basically inspired by my partner at the time. And what I really started to look at was, yeah, just, you know, why am I doing this? You know, what's in it for me? And, you know, I believe that with my education, 'cause I've always been a consummate learner and I loved always being in programs and courses, and I just realized, like, even with saying yes to being a minister, it wasn't really something that I was like, Ooh, I wanna be a minister of this path. You know, it was like my teacher at the time was encouraging me to do it, and I didn't really, like, I did it because I believed because he asked me to.

(08:21):

And of course I have free will and I take full responsibility for that decision. But even with the joining the seminary and the, the ministerial process, like, it was like, well, this is the path I'm on and this is where it's leading and let me follow through. And then I was just like, no, I don't have to. Like, there was something that shifted in me where I just let go of any judgment about me stopping quitting, if you will. I mean, you could look at it as quitting, but I just decided it was no longer in alignment. And, the key was Tessa, that I didn't make a story about it.


Tessa (09:09):

Love that. That's beautiful.


Dewi (09:10):

Yeah, it was, I had to be free in myself with the decision that I was gonna be at peace with it. And that was really crucial for me. Like, I didn't make it mean anything about who I was or, and that actually has really stuck with me since then. Like I've been unraveling meaning around like stories and what it means about myself if like I don't follow through or, I've really released a lot of that additional, the weight that comes if something happens to us or, there's a point in our journey where it's like a pivotal moment and maybe we shift course and it's a completely different outcome than we would've expected. Like, and maybe it's an outcome that we wouldn't have preferred necessarily, but I really have become my own best advocate in that way where I'm not making myself wrong for any of my past, you know, and that was really a crucial moment for me when I decided to do that.


Tessa (10:21):

That's beautiful. So I'm hearing a couple of things between the lines here. So part of what you're saying is around not attaching to the identity of the learner or the one who achieves the degree or the one who is the,  maybe even the apprentice or the mentee of the leader. So you were letting go of stories and meanings around doing, and you listened to yourself and you were also asking some really interesting questions, it sounds like along the lines of your values, right? Like what, why am I doing this and what does this actually mean to me? And at some point that all just fell away.


Dewi (11:23):

Yeah, yeah. It was a real time of kind of release. And I was doing a lot of work too with my family of origin. And it was interesting too, because even though I had been a part of that spiritual tradition for 13 years, I still had trauma from within my family history that to me was untouched. And it wasn't a focus to do the emotional work in that path. It was more like focus, focus above. Like don't, you know, if the feelings and the thoughts come up, like that was, it was a refocusing technique that I would do. And I still had that work to do. I still had work to do that was unhealed. And so that also was kind of a light bulb moment to me as well. Like, oh, like I am not actually quote as far along as I thought in terms of my own emotional maturity. And my nervous system around like the anger, sadness, and fear that I still had in my body that I was still experiencing. And so that was also like, oh, okay, like, let me focus here now. It was a shift in my own inner reference point of like what I then the inner work that I started to do from that point on shifted into more of this trauma release focus.


Tessa (13:04):

Well, that's amazing that you were able to, you were really conscious of what was happening and it wasn't the family way, the traditional way to directly look at those things. And you'd been, as you said, you looked above, like I'm imagining that's a reference to like looking to spirit. Yes?


Dewi (13:27):

Yeah. And, so the focusing point was on the upper part of the third eye. So it was like, you're going to that.


Tessa (

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Tessa (:

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Aloha. Today, I have a lovely woman who is here to enlighten us to have some fun. I know for sure she's always fun to be with and inspiring, creative....her name is Dewi Maile Lim and she helps to guide trailblazing, luminary women to stand out as thought leaders, build flourishing communities, grow partnerships, and to thrive during this time of great change on the planet. And as a visionary artist and transformational coach, she works one-to-one and in groups, and she leads a lot of things online and in person workshops as well. She does masterminds and painting vision quests. And Dewi is the founder of the New Earth. Luminary and Rebel Heart creatrix mind. She's passionate about the intersection of creativity, consciousness, expansion, sovereign living, and planetary awakening. So Dewi, I am so glad to have you here. My aloha sister. Welcome to Say Yes to your soul.

Dewi (:

Hmm. I say yes and thank you. Thank you Mahalo, and aloha everyone. And Tessa's beautiful community. I'm so grateful and honored to be here with you.

Tessa (:

Well, we're excited. And we were, you know, you and I have been getting to know each other more and more over the last few years, and every time I hear about some part of your journey, I'm like, oh yeah, that's so great. I can't wait to have her on my show, . And so I know you've got kind of a big personal story around something you'd been focusing on and focusing on, and then you had a big breakthrough around it. And so I'd love for you to just go ahead and share that part of your story with us. Dewi.

Dewi (:

Yes. So I'm originally born and raised in Hilo, Hawaii, and that is where I'm currently based. And I did live for about 20 years off island. First in California for college. And then I wanted to live in a big city and I chose New York City. And through that time of living in New York, I was actually even bi-coastal. I did my first spiritual training through a university called the University of Santa Monica. And I got my master in spiritual psychology in 2004. And I was one of the younger people at the time in the group. I was in my twenties. And shortly after that, or during the time of that program, it was really an awakening, a time of awakening for me. One of my awakening times. And I met a spiritual teacher in New York City through a friend who she realized she had anger issues and she started going to meditation.

(:

And she told me about the meditations and I was like, starting to get into yoga. And so I started going to this meditation center in New York. Fast forward, you know, 13 years later, I was an ordained minister with that particular organization. And I had decided to join the seminary and get my master in Divinity, which would've been my second master at this point, with a spiritual focus. And five years into that experience, I literally got sick and this was a time where I was working hard to try and get the thesis abound and shipped off. I had already gotten the written part approved. But yeah, my health just started to go down. And at the third time of the, trying to get it printed the third time, 'cause it had like media in it, I created a whole online show with my spiritual teacher about, um, the teachings.

(:

And it was like my first push to create content online. I had 10 episodes and it actually, I believe it still airs now to this day on cable access in New York City.

Tessa (:

And Oh my goodness, that's incredible.

Dewi (:

Yeah. Yeah. That was a part of it. And so this thesis was the written part about this journey. So it already like basically got all of the content shipped and it was already out there. And I realized, you know, I took a break at that point because I was trying to get it done by the end of the year. I got sick, I took a break. And I realized in that process when I was back in home in Hawaii, 'cause I would always come back for the winters that my reasoning for finishing the program and finishing the degree was just because I started it and I should finish it.

(:

And there was a should in there that I became very aware of like, what, why do I even want to do this? You know, I didn't feel like I needed the degree. And so I decided to let it go. And I also let go with all of my involvement at the same time with the organization and just decided to really take time to reassess my life. And so that became like a four year, four and a half year next phase of my life. I was in a relationship.

Tessa (:

As you were speaking just now, my eyes were tearing up because I mean, I understand the commitment and everything you must have been going through, first of all, to even choose something, right. To go to get your master's in divinity.

Dewi (:

Yeah.

Tessa (:

Or here it is so active and you know, you had to have been listening to yourself and you're working with your meditation teacher and all these things. And then going through the struggle of the content for the thesis, just over and over three times. I mean, that's a bit much. And then suddenly though, somehow you knew like, my heart's not in this. It's feeling like a should, like, tell us more about that. Like what were some of those signs and what was that moment like for you when you were like, oh, it's a should?

Dewi (:

Yeah. Well, at the time I had gotten into a new relationship and he was very helpful for reflecting back to me. Just like, you know, not in a way where I just started to ask myself some questions, basically inspired by my partner at the time. And what I really started to look at was, yeah, just, you know, why am I doing this? You know, what's in it for me? And, you know, I believe that with my education, 'cause I've always been a consummate learner and I loved always being in programs and courses, and I just realized, like, even with saying yes to being a minister, it wasn't really something that I was like, Ooh, I wanna be a minister of this path. You know, it was like my teacher at the time was encouraging me to do it, and I didn't really, like, I did it because I believed because he asked me to.

(:

And of course I have free will and I take full responsibility for that decision. But even with the joining the seminary and the, the ministerial process, like, it was like, well, this is the path I'm on and this is where it's leading and let me follow through. And then I was just like, no, I don't have to. Like, there was something that shifted in me where I just let go of any judgment about me stopping quitting, if you will. I mean, you could look at it as quitting, but I just decided it was no longer in alignment. And, the key was Tessa, that I didn't make a story about it

Tessa (:

Love that. That's beautiful.

Dewi (:

Yeah, it was, I had to be free in myself with the decision that I was gonna be at peace with it. And that was really crucial for me. Like, I didn't make it mean anything about who I was or, and that actually has really stuck with me since then. Like I've been unraveling meaning around like stories and what it means about myself if like I don't follow through or, I've really released a lot of that additional, the weight that comes if something happens to us or, there's a point in our journey where it's like a pivotal moment and maybe we shift course and it's a completely different outcome than we would've expected. Like, and maybe it's an outcome that we wouldn't have preferred necessarily, but I really have become my own best advocate in that way where I'm not making myself wrong for any of my past, you know, and that was really a crucial moment for me when I decided to do that.

Tessa (:

That's beautiful. So I'm hearing a couple of things between the lines here. So part of what you're saying is around not attaching to the identity of the learner or the one who achieves the degree or the one who is the, maybe even the apprentice or the mentee of the leader. So you were letting go of stories and meanings around doing, and you listened to yourself and you were also asking some really interesting questions, it sounds like along the lines of your values, right? Like what, why am I doing this and what does this actually mean to me? And at some point that all just fell away.

Dewi (:

Yeah, yeah. It was a real time of kind of release. And I was doing a lot of work too with my family of origin. And it was interesting too, because even though I had been a part of that spiritual tradition for 13 years, I still had trauma from within my family history that to me was untouched. And it wasn't a focus to do the emotional work in that path. It was more like focus, focus above. Like don't, you know, if the feelings and the thoughts come up, like that was, it was a refocusing technique that I would do. And I still had that work to do. I still had work to do that was unhealed. And so that also was kind of a light bulb moment to me as well. Like, oh, like I am not actually quote as far along as I thought in terms of my own emotional maturity. And my nervous system around like the anger, sadness, and fear that I still had in my body that I was still experiencing. And so that was also like, oh, okay, like, let me focus here now. It was a shift in my own inner reference point of like what I then the inner work that I started to do from that point on shifted into more of this trauma release focus.

Tessa (:

Well, that's amazing that you were able to, you were really conscious of what was happening and it wasn't the family way, the traditional way to directly look at those things. And you'd been, as you said, you looked above, like I'm imagining that's a reference to like looking to spirit. Yes?

Dewi (:

Yeah. And, so the focusing point was on the upper part of the third eye. So it was like, you're going to that.

Tessa (:

Yes.

Dewi (:

Some could call it a spiritual bypass kind of a technique, ,

Tessa (:

Yes.

Dewi (:

That was the way that path was. And I learned so much from it. I'm so grateful that I was a part of it, and I'm still on good terms with the founder and his wife. And nothing bad to say about any of them. And it just no longer was a fit. And I think I like to put in context the conversations I have Tessa with these times that we're living in, you know, you mentioned it through my bio, like that the women I'm supporting, they feel like they came here for this time in some way.

(:

And so how that relates to where we are in my journey right now, in this moment with you in this conversation, Tessa, is like, I believe that it's like if we have an inner knowing that something is off, or that there's needs to be a shift or a pivot in our life, that we go for that. It's imperative that we follow that line of inspiration and that glimmer. Because if we don't, we're coming from a place of attachment to our past identity, and we have the power in any given moment to like completely rebirth into this version of ourselves that could delight and surprise us. You know, if we allow ourselves to be in that trust point, even if you've done something for 20, 30 years one way, it doesn't mean that you can't shift in, um, your whole reality, your entire focus.Yes. ,

Tessa (:

. Oh my gosh, this is so delicious.All this resonance that I'm feeling right now, like you're talking about, you know, not being in the older attachments and not the old identity and being in the trust point and something that you were referring to a few minutes ago was making me think about forgiveness.

Dewi (:

Oh yeah. I love forgiveness.

Tessa (:

Yeah. And to me that's really connected to being solid within a trust point, right? We have to be able to trust. And often one of the only ways to get to that place is through forgiveness. Would you like to add some things here around this?

Dewi (:

Yeah. Well, to give my former teacher that we've been referring to here, credit, he would say forgiveness is being for-giving to yourself. You become an advocate for your own liberation. And so those are my words, . But that's how I see forgiveness is like if there's any, and that is the power of the present moment. Like sometimes that forgiveness act is what we need to do in order to be free in the moment, you know? And I believe forgiveness no matter what, it starts with the self, because I do feel that there is this visceral experience of oneness, a field of like, we are part of the one in our own individual expression. And so when I forgive myself, you know, I'm freeing myself from the judgment or the story that I made about that other person. If there's someone else involved that I even allowed myself to get into that situation, you know?

(:

So there is the forgiveness of other, I totally believe we can get fully free just inside ourselves without even having to involve the other. And then from that point, we're able to then have that spaciousness. These days, I'm speaking to it as like returning to this place of divine innocence. 'cause if we're able to just see that we were all doing the best we were doing at the time, if there's other people involved, you know, I was doing the best given the information I had and the trauma that I had and whatever led me to that moment, right? If there's like this moment that I'm working through in the past. And so it allowing me to just let that go and start clean it's like the remembrance of that innocent part of myself that's always been in grace. So that's where I've been taking myself and those that I work with too nowadays, you know, just to tap back into that field. And I believe that, you know, the way that we've been working things on the planet obviously isn't working. And we're all part of the,

Tessa (:

It's, wait, really?

Dewi (:

, newsflash . If we weren't on the same page before, maybe we're on the same page now, everyone, here, here. Basically it's like even just doing this inner work and this inner liberation and the remembrance of the innocence, like that, if that's the only thing we do and commit ourselves to that is automatically freeing others on the planet to do the same. I mean, there's an energetic reality that happens when we get free, you know, other people.

Tessa (:

Yes.

Dewi (:

I'm sure you've heard stories, Tessa, of you know, a mom doing her inner work and then automatically the sun does his healing too.

Tessa (:

Absolutely

Dewi (:

I know right? So this quantum field that we all affect

Tessa (:

That's right! None of us is an island and the deep work that we do releases those energetic grids. I mean, that's kind of like how I think about it. Alright, this is so luscious. I just want to ask you, would you be willing to share a specific piece, a specific thing that you needed to forgive yourself for so that our listeners here today can kind of grasp it in their own relatable way?

Dewi (:

Ah, well, something that's coming up that's a little bit of a different angle here was, and I might cry with my dad, he was on his deathbed, this was back in 2015. And he was working on a project for 30 years, a coffee table book of flowering tropical plants photography book. And I'd always been like a big cheerleader for him to complete the book. And then when he left his body, or right before that, he asked me, you know, I was like, dad, do you want me to help you get this, bring this book to life? And he is like, yes. So that was an agreement that I made with him. And here I am, like eight years later and I haven't done the book. And the forgiveness piece came in Tessa, where I just made it okay that, you know, he didn't leave me any funds to do this book.

(:

Like, I couldn't do the book. I haven't been able to do the book up until now, and I haven't been willing to do the book. And it's just because I said I would with my dad. I had to forgive myself for in that moment of like distrust making that agreement with him because I didn't, you know, I was like, well, how are we gonna get this done, dad? Like, I was just like in that emotional state. And so I really had to do that inner work of saying, you know, I forgive myself for judging myself for in that moment. Like, you know, just point blank agreeing to this huge project that it was rough for me to let it go. And there's more to that story that I won't go into. A lot of people involved and a lot of people expecting this book.

(:

Eight years later now I just found like this amazing print on demand. The technology for creating these types of books is much more user friendly these days. So like, I just found this tool, I had to let that go and trust that like, if I was meant to do something with my dad's photography, like I would come back to it. And so I had to do that forgiveness and let that agreement go with my father and forgive myself for not doing it too. You know, like to the judgment around like, I'm a bad daughter or like, you never follow through on things or whatever, you know, that storyline that we can tap into to make ourselves wrong. And so that's a pretty like poignant

Tessa (:

Yes.

Dewi (:

Poignant one there for me. And now I am like eight years later, like I said, I'm revisiting the project. And so I found a way to make it much more cost effective. And you know, I can also work with my dad now and be like, okay dad, I'm gonna do this my way. You know, you're not here to guide the project, but I am going to, I'm going to give your photos life and bring them to the world. On on my terms.

Tessa (:

I love that. So some people might say, well, you didn't let up on your agreement 'cause you're gonna do it anyway. But that's not what we're talking about here. What happened for you was you needed to forgive yourself so you felt free inside and not trapped by the burden of a promise made through high emotions. And then trusting that it was all gonna be okay, even though there were undoubtedly many family members and other people counting on things happening a certain way, unfolding in a certain timeline, looking a specific way. And I love how when we go through that forgiveness process, like really, and I love that you also highlighted this way, that part of the forgiveness. It wasn't just like, oh yeah, I'm just gonna forgive myself for saying yes to my dad.

(:

It was like really deep stuff where you're like, wow, I really forgive my essence, my emotional self, my spiritual self, my daughter self, all these parts of me who wanted to say yes and did say yes back then, but couldn't see the bigger picture. And recognizing that you were doing the very best you could in that moment. And now you get to, because you've done all that release work, all that forgiving and finding that freedom inside yourself, now you can do it from an authentic place, not just from a role of trying to fulfill something for somebody else.

Dewi (:

Yeah, yeah. Exactly. Thank you for breaking that down a little more and kind of seeing the nuances there. I agree. And it's again, very similar, I think underlying kind of energetic to the first story told about the master's degree, you know, it's like, where are we coming from with what we're doing? Like, is it from a place of shoulds and have tos and because I said so in the past and have to push through and get it done or is that really serving? What's the fuel source? My fuel in both of those experiences were, well I said I would and this is the path I'm on, and I am almost ready to complete it and why wouldn't I? And but you know, even if we're, like I said, 20 years into something, doesn't mean we have to keep pushing through just to push through.

Tessa (:

Absolutely not. I am in 100% agreement with you on that. And I think this is important for my listeners to hear today, this message, right? This is really a message of authenticity, and trusting in the self, no matter what you think the promises are that you've made that are just unchangeable promises, they are not. Everything can be changed, right?

Dewi (:

Yeah. We can renegotiate our commitments. I like thinking of it that way.

Tessa (:

Yes. Based on truth, based on inner truth and interconnectedness and inner beingness. And this is just such a beautiful conversation today. I know that there's many more, there are many more things that you and I could be sharing and bringing to the forefront, but I think this was really juicy Dewi, to get some of my ladies really thinking about what are some of those promises they could maybe start letting up on themselves, right? Like starting to really question, just be in the question of, ah, is there another way for me to do this that would be more authentic? Or is there some way I could get more support so I can be more authentic, whatever it is to start that process in some way.

Dewi (:

Yeah. Yeah. To let ourselves off the hook, to give ourselves permission to at least even to start, if it seems insurmountable in terms of like, how am I gonna do this? And, this is my life identity, even how do I shift? Like, just to even consider the alternative. Like, you don't even have to commit to like taking a step outwardly, but if you can allow your consciousness and vision to go to the site of like, okay, what is, like, what's the worst that could happen? You know, if there is fear present with like, making a shift in our lives, like, and know, let yourself kind of go down a trajectory and then what is the best outcome that could happen? And let yourself go down that trajectory to at least let yourself see what's possible, you know?

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And, and that way too, going down that path of like, okay, what's the worst that could happen? Like, you've exercised that potential reality, but you don't have to have that be what happens, you know? But it's like addressing the fear beforehand so that you can be like, okay, that's what that would be like. And this is what I choose and okay, what is it gonna be like at the highest level expression and timeline and outcome, you know, what would I prefer?

Tessa (:

Mm-hmm. .

Dewi (:

So that would be a great place to start just to that as an exercise.

Tessa (:

I love that. And you know, I was gonna ask you for a tip or guidance, but I think you just said it.

Dewi (:

There we go, .

Tessa (:

Exactly. Right. Like, and this is a very powerful practice, this piece about the imagining of the worst, what could happen, and then imagining the best that could happen and seeing what new possibilities come in and new feelings and new openings into another reality.

Dewi (:

Yeah. Yeah. Give yourself that gift, you know, and then you get to decide from that place of like, the spectrum of experience. Like, okay what do I prefer? And it is a trust process, you know? It is because even at that highest level vision that you would prefer, it's probably not gonna look exactly like that, to be honest. , at least like you can hold that vision, but the way that it unfolds, like it might have some shifts and turns and meanderings and

Tessa (:

Yes. Messiness.

Dewi (:

The messiness. Yeah. And the key is like, okay how am I being with myself and am I, you know, does require that checking in that litmus test, like continual, you know, it's like a course correction along the way, and it's a big trust. Like whatever we're being called to right now is a big, big capital T trust. You know, it's to be able to like if it's important to you to be the fully expressed version of yourself in this lifetime and to do the work, or if even to be who you came here to be is like a soul having a human experience, then there is a lot of courage required in that to be able to maybe go against the grain of, you know.

Tessa (:

Hmm. Yes, and I wanna thank you because you've been vulnerable and courageous here today in the telling your story. 'cause I know you weren't planning on telling all of that.

Dewi (:

No. .

Tessa (:

And yeah, I really just wanna acknowledge you for your courage here today and sharing that with our listeners Dewi.

Dewi (:

My pleasure. Tessa. Yeah.I pray it helps the exact woman or listener whoever's listening, I pray that it's reaches those that could be touched and supported by this.

Tessa (:

Yes. Thank you for that. So Dewi, how can our listeners get in touch with you if they'd like to connect?

Dewi (:

Yeah. So I love connecting, Tessa knows this about me with women who feel like they came here for these times. There's like some inner nudge or awareness that you're here to be a bridge builder in some way, that you're aware that this is an awakening planet. And so coming back to the self is the way that we're going to need to get through this , the time of the outer guru is, I believe, no longer it's really, we need to become our own that for ourselves and to source from that intuition and inner knowing. And so I have a free gift that can assist you to do this. And it's actually a play-shop. So my background is as a transformational artist and guide, and I love working with a process that I've learned along the way called intentional creativity.

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So I use art as a way to connect within and to process and access consciousness within myself that might not be able to be accessed in other ways. And so this gift is called "You Oracle," create your handmade oracle deck, and it's a beautiful play date that you can schedule with yourself or with a friend. And I provide the material lists and you can go ahead and create your own deck and based on a story that you're looking to transform. And so, whatever has come up for you during this conversation today between Tessa and I, you can actually, if you thought about how this applies to your own life, you can actually use that story to find the oracle of your own inner wisdom within it, through this experience. So the link to it will be in the show notes, it's bit.ly/Oracledeckworkshop, and then I'm also very active on LinkedIn and you have a YouTube channel as well. And so those are the couple places where I most like to play, and I would love to continue if this resonated with you, reach out and let me know. I would love to meet you.

Tessa (:

Hmm. Well, Dewi, we are so glad that you were here today and you opened your heart and you just speak so fluently. I just love the wisdom that comes from your youthful being, and I am really enjoying getting to know you even more as a sister here to usher in women into the greater trust of themselves. Thank you and mahalo

Dewi (:

Mahalo. Thank you. Thank you. I so appreciate you Tessa.

Tessa (:

Hmm. Lots of light, lots of love. And thank you for saying yes to your soul. Bye-bye for now.

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