Show Summary:

• In Episode 16, Beth and Mel discuss the importance of feeling safe when developing your spiritual practices
• Mel talks about enhancing communication with spirit guides and your higher self and the importance of being grounded, connected, and protected for spiritual openness.
• Beth and Mel discuss the relationship between fear, manifestation, and our actual desires and the contrast between manifesting from a space of fear versus a space of abundance.
• We touch on understanding the true nature of our desires and how societal influences helped to shape them.
• And why it's important to reevaluate our personal goals and the definition of success.
• Beth and Mel also discuss the power of consistency in all that we do!

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Good morning, Mel. Good morning, Beth. How are you today? I'm good,

thank you. What does it say on your cup? It says, the future is in

your hands. Oh, the future is tea.

I love that. I don't. What's my mug? My mug just says, world's best

nephew. So there's nothing profound going on in that. In that cup. Well, maybe you're

tapping into a past life thing

somewhere. So what's been going on with you? You've been busy with your

challenge last week. Yes, I've been busy. It was

incredible just being with all of these people

who are on various stages of their spiritual

journey and helping them really understand

how and why. And what about tapping into the intuition

and keeping the energy clear and understanding that we

do have this higher force or higher power or

higher knowing and it is available to all of us and we don't need, like,

special. We all have the special gifts and special talents. And it was one of

those weeks that every single day the same card came

up. Oh, I love it when that happens. What was the card? It's

such a good card and it's still here. I kept it out. It

is safe for you to shine. Oh, that's a nice card. And

that's a message I think everybody needs to hear. Yeah. More

than once. So I'm glad that it came out every single day. Yeah. Interesting.

Maybe we can dive into that today because I think it's an important topic. But

before we do, how have you been safely shining

just going through the. Throes of being on top of

business. Really? Yeah. Nothing to

massively report back on. Shining my light, doing my thing.

And, you know, this is what happens when we find that level of

safety that we can just go and be and don't feel that we

have to control everything and have

everything, all of our ducks in a row and make sure that everything is good.

Because I know for me, when I so say

this, this five day practice, it's the 6th time I've run it

now. And I remember the first two, three

times just being like, oh, my God, I've got so

much I need to do. And, like, just being really in my head.

And every morning I made myself go to yoga. Like, every time I'm like,

every day I'm going to go and I would go in there and I'd just

be there with my hands on my head just going, just calm down. Just get

in your body. Just get in your body. Just get in your body. Because those

first few times, I suppose there was an unknown.

Yeah. This has been over the last three years or so. And this time it

was very different. This time it was like, yep, it's

all okay. It's all going to be all right. If some weird tech

thing, like the wrong task went up one day, it's fine,

doesn't matter. Right? Yeah, right. It's perfect.

Trusting that things are as they are and being organized, you've got to be. I

didn't just wake up in the morning, like, what, today, you've still got to be

organized. But this message of feeling

safe in order to come out and do your thing is so important. I

think it's something that we don't cover all the time

in, whether that's psychic work, intuitive work,

mediumship work, or even setting up your own

business work. Yeah, I absolutely agree

that we don't really talk about not just

being safe, but just that it's okay to be ourselves and

that in us just shining our light, we are paving the way for other

people to do the same. So I definitely think it's something

that we need to talk more and more about, and I wonder

why that is. I think we're brought up as stay humble, don't brag,

that's big headed, that kind of thing. And so we forget to pat ourselves on

the back, but we do these amazing things and we might do them

just a one time thing. It could be like, graduate from university or whatever that

thing is, and then we never celebrate that again. You know, we have a picture

taken with a scroll and as family, and then it's on the mantelpiece, but then

we never really, unless you're in a job interview or something or somebody's reading it

on your cv, we're not really reliving that achievement. And I

think we should remember how amazing we

are often, and we should continue to shine our light and share our

message and repeat our message for new people to hear and new people to

be inspired by. So I love that card. Came out lots of times last

week. It was a theme. So for me,

when I'm talking about intuition and connecting with these higher

powers, one of the days, one of the subjects we talk about

is energy, hygiene and energy management and having this, knowing that

we are grounded, we are connected and we're protected.

And as long as we're those things, we can start to feel open. And

one of the, one of the members of the group, she'd been in the practice

a few times, got various information,

but she said, I'm coming again. And it's not necessarily worked for me. In the

past and I don't know. And she joined the vip group, so we had some

conversations and when I dug into it with

her, it's because she didn't feel safe. Something happened and

I can't go back there. And so we just went into that and found another

way that we can safely find

that connection. And how we did it was

rather than sitting and waiting for an intuitive. So we work

on the spirit guides rather than sitting and waiting for this.

I don't know what voice in our. Head, come in, do

this. Rather than that. We spoke about. What about,

if you tell your guide, don't expect to listen. Don't

bring them into your space straight away. Just call on them.

Say, thank you for being here. I know that you're here to help me.

What I would love for you to do is, or what I'd really like from

you is. And so that we can start to set the parameters. Cause our

guidance team isn't here, tell us what to do, but if we

say to the guidance team, tell us what to do, we're giving it an

instruction that it may, you know, they

want to reply and they want to help us, but I think we've been asking

them the wrong questions. So by really pouring our energy

into, well, actually, what is it? Why do I want this relationship with you?

How is it that you're going to help me? And in what way

do I want you to help me? I don't want an

apparition to come and appear in my room

or something to fly off the wall. That's not what I want. Although

that would be quite.

Oh, okay, you're here. Thank you. And so we began to set

that energy, I said, and then just get your pen and paper out and start

writing. And she received the most beautiful message from her higher

self because that's who she felt safe with, her higher self, rather than a spirit

guide. My higher self is part of our guidance team.

And it was, it was incredible because I know for me, in

therapy work, that's number one. You could have the

best techniques in the whole wide world, but if your client doesn't feel safe, nothing's

going to happen. It's the same with this work.

Yeah. And do you think we often put

intuition or spirit guides or higher

power almost like above us, like it's a.

Almost like it's a. Better than us, it knows more than us, it's more than

we are without realizing that it's just part

of us. It's part of the whole. And I

think maybe that's sometimes why it feels a little bit

out of reach. Like I'm almost like, not good enough to receive that.

Or instead of, I love that you approached

it from setting that intention of, I want you to come in and I want

to work with you. And this is what we can be working on, rather than

expecting that higher power to be the thing

that gives you the answer to everything because

it's external to us or because we view it as external or separate or

whatever, when actually it's us. If we set the intention, if

we decide how we want the day to go or the life to

go or the message that we receive, then

we're loosely taking back the reins. We're picking up those reins and

saying, I'm in control. Not in a control freak way, but

in a, I'm here for it. I'm ready to create my life, my

reality, my, my version of joy, bliss, whatever

that is that you're trying to bring in exactly. For

me, I don't think the universe has a plan for us. I think that the

universe supports our plans, and many of us walk around

without really a clear plan. And even the whole manifestation

conversation is often about, well, what can you manifest? Go and get

the things. And it's not for me. And it was about that in the beginning.

I was like, oh, this is cool, and this is brilliant. And then actually what

happened with me is I didn't feel safe. I started on the manifestation route, and

then I didn't feel safe from my own thoughts. I thought my own thoughts

are tripping me up. And because, you know, we all have those

things going on. We all have the, what if this

happens? Or the Brenda, I don't know. I call it Brenda. The

Brenda voice sitting in my head telling me,

like, what are you doing? You don't want to do this? And what if this

happens? And, oh, blah. And I started to become afraid of

that because as I begin to realize my own power,

that I could manifest actual, real things, physical

things, which didn't have an explanation to that. Then

when intrusive thought came in,

like being underground in San Francisco and

wondering, oh, what if there was an earthquake now? And I genuinely thought

I was about to, like, everyone around me was all going to

drown in a thing because I had that thought. That's not feeling

safe. And so it led me on this journey

of discovery of, okay, what does it mean? And how does vibration work

and how does energetics work? And then later on, how does

this spirit connection work? So I started then getting into

mediumship and I was like, this is amazing. I can contact the dead.

I am having information, this is amazing. And it was great.

And then one day I had that thought of, oh, but what if the

man comes in and he's not very nice? And somebody said to me, oh, aren't

you protecting yourself? And aren't you doing this? And I was like, and then the

experience began to change. And so

I think that this new wave of healers, readers,

spiritually conscious, opening up, we are all

energetic, whether we're aware of it or not, as we come into our

awareness of it, I think our job is, okay, how can I create the

best parameters? Again, not in a controlly way,

but in an empowering way, how do I create those best parameters so

that I know that what I am attracting into me, I

know what I'm receiving into me, I know what guidance that's coming into me is

actually leading me into my highest and greatest good.

And I can't give you a simple answer,

but that's what my work is about. So I think it's important

to have that idea of what you do want,

rather than just receiving or wanting

messages to land to support you on your path.

What is it that you actually want? Are you clear on that? And then this

comes back into the know thyself. And this is why your

work's so powerful, because you're not just saying, oh, what do you want? Oh, I

want the job, or the car, or the bananas or whatever. You're

really getting them to feel into it. And sometimes when we're in that.

I was speaking about this at an event I was at the other day. We

might think we want the Ferrari and we think that I'm going to manifest the

Ferrari. And I believe that you could manifest the Ferrari and the universe will

start to bring it to you. However, if you like, if I

went into, okay, do I want a Ferrari? How would I

feel having a Ferrari? Yeah, I might feel like I'm in my lovely

car, but also I wouldn't feel safe. I'd be like, everyone's looking

at me, people are making comments when I park the car. I'm going to

want to get the biggest space in the world, and that's really stressful. I can't

just nip it in every time there's a, I don't know,

a lorry in front of me, I might think that something's going to drop in

it or someone's going to ding my car or someone might come and key it.

And that isn't the life I want to live. For me, it's about ease and

flow and safety and being. Feeling this

grounded, connected, protected. And the Ferrari, however much I

would want it, which I don't really, but if I did,

if it doesn't fit in with that. Yeah. If it doesn't fit in with that

lifestyle, the universe now has two things going

on. Yeah. Now could I do the work on myself? So I do feel safe

having the Ferrari, probably. But right now, where I am, those two

things are so disjointed

that I'm glad that one never appeared on my driveway.

Yeah. And I think this happens all the time, isn't it? This is

misalignment. There's something going on in the subconscious that is

counter to the thing that we think we want. I want to be a

successful businesswoman. My family might not like me anymore, whatever that is.

There's all of these things. I want to be in a loving relationship. I always

get hurt. There's always these mixed messages going on all the time.

And I think sitting down and thinking about what it is that

you want. And then also knowing

these beliefs that we hold is a really powerful thing to

go through. But we have to set that time. We have to do that. We

have to identify what that is. And sometimes we might

realize during that process that the Ferrari isn't the thing

that we actually do want. I've been thinking more and more. I've always seen myself

as somebody who's been quite ambitious, but lately I've been like, I just think I'll

enjoy being a mum. And I just think I want to be a grandma

and just knit. And these are the things now I'm thinking. I'm

thinking, like, I'm really happy with my life now. And

that's. I feel like that's enough right now. And these

ambitious feelings and thoughts that I had in my twenties, I'm now

thinking I can still have all of these nice things, but I'm more

comfortable and happy. I just love being family is more

important to me than a mansion. And I think we. I

don't know, sometimes I think I feel like people are striving for things and is

it actually what they want? If you thought about. I heard

this once, I can't remember what I was listening to. Some podcast or another,

probably, and they said something like, if there was no people left in the world,

would you still want the car that you drive

and the house that you think no people, if there was no one

judging, you wouldn't want the big mansion, would you? Or would

you like, just go and pick the nice, perfectly

sized. This is just a manageable garden and

the nice neighbors and a clean that. You don't have to pay

500 pounds a week for because she's got so many things.

And it is really interesting. And I was thinking, still drive the car

I want. Because the car I love is I'm a car

person. I've grown up with it. It's comfy and it's safe and it's. And it's

a little bit sexy too. But there's a lot of things. It put things in

perspective. Would I. Do I need all of these things? Why are we making this

choice? And this doesn't mean you can't have nice

things. It doesn't. And sometimes we want nice things

and I think that we deserve to have nice things. And

I think part of the human experience is so that we can

feel luxury and the sensuality and all of

these emotions and sensations. But

if we really get honest with ourselves about maybe I

don't want more. And in the business world, it's a real trap.

In the business world we can be like, oh, okay, I'm here. I was

talking to my coach about this the other day. I said I am where

I wanted to be. I'm actually further along where I wanted to be. And then

the year before, I was further along than where I wanted to be. Does that

mean that I need to want more now? Yeah. No,

it doesn't. Especially in the business world. It's all

scaling and six k years, seven k years, how to

do this, how to do that and. Yeah, is it actually what you want? Because

with that comes lots of other things. Responsibilities and builds and

teams and automations and all of that. I actually think that when we

stop striving, I'm not saying don't have a vision because

obviously that's the world that I'm in. Don't have something that you want to go

for. But I think when you take the pressure off, the need to

strive, you actually make it easier to have more nice things because you're

no longer in that energy of, I need to reach

this next milestone. I need to do all of the things, oh, it's not happening.

So now I need to work even harder to get this. When we take the

pressure off and go, actually, I'm really happy right now with where I'm at, with

my life, with the balance, with the income, with my family,

with the things that bring me joy. I'm really happy. I can just experience

and experience more of this and being in that space

of just having full gratitude and appreciation for all of that.

Where you are right now in the present, you attract more of that nice stuff,

and sometimes that's an upgrade, just naturally the new car

or the new house, but it's not. I need

to reach a million pounds before I can have the mansion. It's a

different energy, it's a different space, and

I don't know where it is. I think we're just raised on this

energy of, you have to do your best, you have to get good

grades, you have to go to university, you have to have the nice house. You

need to keep up with the Joneses that we forget to

check in with us. What do we want? Yes,

what do we want? It's an

interesting concept. If we start to think about, am I

manifesting from the space of fear? I want to have this

because that's what they do. I need to have this so that I am

comfortable in my retirement, because I don't want to run out of money. I need

to have this so that I can pay my bills if something happens,

or blah, blah, blah, I need to make more, because what if this

stops? What if there's tomorrow? What if nobody wants to

buy my things or my employer tells me I'm not employed anymore or whatever?

I need to have this car because then people

will respect me. All of that is really coming from this

fear based. It's coming from lack,

right? Which is fine, and it

works. But if we're feeling that sense of lack and

even lack of connection to my spirit team, I'm feeling that sense of lack in

any way. It's important to notice that and go, okay, that's interesting, that this

fearsome happening. Because if I believe in the law of attraction,

then I do believe that we live in an abundant world and that there's everything

available to us. And now we've identified this discord.

Okay, I believe that, but I don't really believe that because I'm manifesting

from this. And so then our job is to begin to bring the

healing and the understanding, and where did that programming come from and where

did I find that belief? What makes me think that I can't have this and

this, or it has to be this or this, and we can start

this self inquiry. This is that. Know thyself again. Because

when we manifest from a sense of

abundance, of joy, of what's possible,

of sense of safety, from a sense of

inspired thought, then nothing's going to stop us.

I think what happens for many of us now I want to say this, the

fear is a good thing because I think what happens for many of us, we

get this inspired thought and we're like, oh,

look at what is possible. I can go and do that. And we start

to take the steps forward and then suddenly all the things that are stopping you

moving there, the law of attraction is working with you going, you do not feel

safe to do that. You can't do that. If you get here without

sorting this out, then you're just not bad things going to happen.

But you're going to have to deal with this at some point. And now you're

moving forward. If you're in your comfort zone, the fear thing will

never have come up. I move two, three steps forward, bang.

Oh, my God. What if everyone comes and takes your money away from you? Or

what if. Or, well, I need to make sure that, blah, blah, blah. I

need to now scale from six k months to ten k months to

20k months to 6 million months. I need to do that. When that

comes up, then it's our job, okay? How do I regulate? How do I understand

myself? What's really going on here? What are my intentions? What is it that

I want to really receive? And then you're in

this path of least resistance. Then you don't have the bungee rope

all knotted up behind you going, you can

go this far, but not too far because your family will

reject you or you'll be too big for your boots or everyone

will come and expect things from you or your partner will

leave you or whatever it is. Don't ignore it.

By ignoring it, you're not high vibing your way out of it, you're just

keeping the bungee rope tight. Yeah,

I think as well, consistency with that. I think

sometimes we're onto a good thing, especially in business. You

might achieve something, you might have a, you know, massive success,

and then all of a sudden you think, right now I need the next thing,

a new thing. I need to evolve into something else,

3.0 version of what I've just done, when

it's actually just enjoy what has just

happened and create some level of consistency around it.

If it worked and you enjoyed it and it was easy and there wasn't any

resistance, then why would you not want to do

more of that? And you can still tweak it. We naturally evolve

anyway, like you were saying right at the beginning, the first time you did your

challenge, it was a very, even though it was the same challenge, I'm

sure you've changed it as you've been going along, but even though the premise of

it is the same, we have naturally

evolved. You have naturally evolved just by going

through the motions a number of times and having that level of consistency. You're better

at what you do today because you've gone through those different

iterations, but you've stuck to the same message. And I think sometimes we're

so keen to just throw the baby out with the bathwater

and start something completely new

when actually we don't always need to

be striving for something so

different we can use and take

the same messages again. It's good to change, it's good

to shake things up. But there's also something that comes with a level of

consistency. When you look at anything that we do consistently,

we have that snowball compound

effect and it is by its very nature

different because we're different. We've evolved, the practice has evolved. We've got

better at what we're doing. This works. So now I'm just going to keep on

doing this and I can't change anything. And that is coming from this.

Control energy. Control energy

isn't. It comes from lack. I need to do everything because

I don't trust that the universe is going to help me grow and help me

expand. And if something comes and throws

itself in my way, it means

I shouldn't be doing this or I'm not good enough or there we go. It

proved my point. My feeling is the universe doesn't work this

way. And this comes back to how safe do I feel in my

connection and my growth and my evolution. I'm never going to evolve if you don't

feel safe in who you are or who you're

becoming. And so there's a huge conversation around that.

But if we start with this, this is what I was saying in the practice

group, we've done a lot of work this week and they're like, they're very intense

because we're there every day and we're doing these tasks and we're growing and we're

growing and it's. You didn't get to the end here and now I'm going to

give you a certificate of life going, there we go. Hit your

connection. Your higher self is now your bestie buddy.

And this is. You don't need to. That's it. Like the graduation. Yeah.

No, it's this consistency and this persistency. How

do I keep on going even when it's tough, or how do I keep

on going even when it's easy? Because then we're like, oh, life is great, I'm

stopped. No, we need. It's a practice. All of this manifestation is

a practice. You're cultivating. Peace is a practice.

Feeling safe in your body is a practice. And why is it called a

practice? Because you've got to practice it. You can't just do it while you

can't go on the retreat. I'm buzzing. And

then never do any work again. Yeah,

unfortunately. Yeah, unfortunately. That would be nice, wouldn't it?

Right Uniruv. I've done the work. I went on the course. Look at how much

money I paid. I've got this, like, image of like a british

gas when they come out and service the boilers. You don't need to do any

work anymore because, like, the spiritual serviceman's going to come out and just check that

you're at the right levels. Like, your intuition and your connection is just. You're all

dialed in. I have this, I work with a

Shaolin master, and he really does push me.

And we've had a bit of a break for a while because he needs to

go off and do it on his own. And I saw him yesterday and we

were talking about this exact thing, and I was like,

because he gave me some practices to do and I was doing the practices, but

these aren't like immediate result things. These are the tasks that you do

something. Oh, wow. I've got these energetic kind of

these things and I was doing them very well and then wasn't seeing

massive changes. And I was like, I don't know what I was expecting, like some

certificate to come down from heaven

being fireworks and celebrations. He said

to me, I can write you a certificate if you want.

I just need, I just. For me, I just needed that.

I think it was August last time I saw him. I was like, I just

needed that revisit so that I know

where I am. And then I could see, see when I let that practice

fall, how I started to slip back and I could see

it very clearly, whereas where I was seeing him consistently,

I could see the upward and sometimes downward, but mainly

the upward growth. And that was a big realization for me

yesterday, that I do the work,

but it's the work I'm resisting and I do.

Yeah. The work I'm resisting that needs the

persistence. I love that. And I love that you had that

conversation yesterday as well. So everyone who's listening, this

is your job. We find a practice. Start with one that you love

or that you enjoy or that, you know works or that, you know, your

mentor or whatever. There's plenty of practices that Beth

and I can share with you and start

it. And when it gets too hard or difficult or something comes up, that's

not the universe telling you to stop, that the universe is saying to

you, here we go. Well done. You've got this far. Now

you're strong enough to work with this thing that's come up and work with it

and just keep coming back to do I

feel safe? And your body will tell you straight away whether you feel

safe in that or not. Love that. Good advice. Okay,

Mel, until next time. Until next time. Have a super

day.