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Today on the deadlife, we're going to keep it a little bit lighter than the last two weeks missing persons cases.
Allison:Halloween is on the horizon, so we're going to talk about haunted experiences.
Allison:If you have a paranormal story of your own, call in and share it for next week's Halloween episode.
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Allison:You can watch me on YouTube to see fresh and past episodes of the deadlife.
Allison:Well, Sophia, welcome back.
Allison:Halloween, pretty fun.
Sophia:I know it's like your month.
Allison:It is.
Allison:It is.
Sophia:It's my month.
Allison:I think it's a little bit more fun looking forward to Halloween when you're young like you, and you just dress like slow animals.
Allison:Although you didn't this year.
Allison:And it's just funny when you have daughters and everyone out there who has them knows what I'm talking about.
Allison:Somewhere in high school, they go from being a cute little princess to putting something on that makes you want to put a raincoat around them, which grandpa Mike actually did to me, by the way, when I walked out the door for Halloween at 14 dressed like a french maid.
Sophia:Oh, I get it.
Sophia:I get that.
Sophia:Yeah.
Sophia:I was the purge this year.
Sophia:So if anyone has any last minute ideas for costumes and they don't know what to do, just do the purge.
Sophia:You just put a mask on and wear whatever you want.
Allison:It actually looked really cool because it was like neon lights and it really popped.
Allison:So that was cool.
Sophia:Shout out, party city.
Allison:And then your friend Ashley, your roommate, she did Audrey Hepburn, which is always a good one.
Allison:As long as you have a black dress and some pearls, you can make it work.
Allison:So this time of year, it makes me think about.
Allison:Because you're watching scary movies, and we all have our favorites, like hocus pocus, practical magic.
Allison:You know, we watch all of our standards, but it also, as it's scary for everyone else.
Allison:I love graveyards, and I love this time of year, and I don't find it scary at all.
Allison:It actually thins the veil for communication for people who want to connect with the other side.
Allison:And I think people can't underestimate that, especially with Scorpio sun, you can start feeling it coming in because this airs Tuesday, and I believe it's the next day that it goes in.
Allison:Tom said the 23rd.
Allison:Today's 21st.
Allison:So, yeah, Wednesday.
Allison:It should be fully in sun and Scorpio.
Allison:And people are going to have a lot more experiences of their own, feeling presences and seeing things.
Allison:And I don't recommend seances for people who are amateur, because they can let things in.
Allison:If you have a weak mind or if you're not used to controlling some of what the other side has to bring, it can be a bit of a portal for mischievous to come through.
Allison:Mischievous entities.
Sophia:Yeah.
Sophia:No Ouija boards.
Allison:No Ouija boards.
Allison:Now, unless you're a bunch of professional mediums and psychics.
Allison:And I've had that moment, too, and that was a blast.
Allison:One of my favorite stories was when we lived in the Maryland house.
Allison:It was me and Jana, and we were at the house having cocktails and people who knew my friend Jaina.
Allison:She was a tarot reader and a psychic herself.
Allison:And the electricity went off.
Allison:So it wasn't even that we were in the dark.
Allison:It's that the electronic gate around our house wouldn't open.
Allison:So we were actually stuck on the compound of the house with no light.
Allison:So what did we do?
Allison:Cause we're all woo.
Allison:So we lit a bunch of candles and started flipping tarot and started seeing if there were any presences in that house.
Allison:Now, if you remember the basement where your sisters were.
Allison:I know that sounds bad, the basement, but it was this, and I'm from Arizona, so we didn't really have basements.
Allison:But in this particular neighborhood, you can't build a second story.
Allison:So the people that built it built an entire story underground.
Allison:And we thought they'd love it not.
Allison:And then it turned out that the people we bought the house from, his wife had died in a car accident, and it was her.
Allison:Did you not know this?
Sophia:I didn't know this.
Allison:This is my first time hearing this.
Allison:And their 14 year old daughter was living in what Aurora's room was.
Allison:And I'm sure she had a great deal of sadness, losing her mom.
Allison:And then her dad remarried, so there was all this tension down there.
Allison:So no wonder Aurora, I mean, she was already something, but I don't think.
Sophia:Yeah, but Aurora didn't mind it.
Sophia:Balinh.
Sophia:Yeah, she was so scared of the downstairs.
Allison:It was a little too vast for kids of that age.
Allison:I think there was too much space.
Allison:And Aurora being down there with her wasn't helping anything.
Sophia:Well, then there's no, like, windows like they had.
Sophia:They kind of did where it was like a window that went out to that area.
Sophia:You know what I'm talking about?
Sophia:And then the sun kind of came down.
Allison:Yeah, I liked it.
Allison:I liked it.
Allison:Well, of course, you sort of dim.
Allison:You know, I thought it was cool.
Sophia:She was, like, nine.
Allison:I know, but her room looked like a big pony stage.
Allison:We made it as welcoming and sweet as we possibly could, and it was a really cool downstairs.
Allison:But anyways, I always could feel a little something in the house.
Allison:And I always wondered if it was the mother that had died because he remarried.
Allison:And since no one knows who he is, I think I can speak freely.
Allison:She was a bit of a hooker, the woman he remarried, and he had a baby with her.
Allison:So he basically.
Allison:Her mom dies, and he just kind of snows, starts his life over.
Allison:And so I didn't really like the energy of the house anyways, so Jaina and I are having a seance because we thought it'd be fun.
Allison:And we started talking to spirits that would be in that house.
Allison:And, you know, that was a pretty big house.
Allison:So, like, it was pretty scary with no lights and just candles.
Allison:And we started feeling a presence.
Allison:And all of a sudden, every fireplace in the house lit itself and went.
Allison:And these fireballs went up the chimney, in each chimney at different times.
Allison:And Jaden and I were like, oh, my God.
Sophia:I was gonna say I was screwing.
Allison:Oh, my God.
Allison:And there wasn't much we could do about it because it was torrential downpour outside.
Allison:It might as well have been a movie.
Allison:Torrential downpour.
Allison:Lightning, thunder, and spontaneous fireplace fireballs going up the chimney.
Allison:So she and I are like, well, we're here.
Allison:Let's just have a good time with it.
Allison:So we just started writing messages down from the spirit that was coming through until the electricity was turned back on, which was hours.
Allison:I think it was, like, 4 hours.
Allison:It was a long time.
Sophia:Were we home?
Allison:No.
Allison:Oh, no.
Allison:I don't know where you and dad were, but I was with just Jaina in the house.
Allison:It was just the two of us.
Allison:So I'm not sure.
Allison:Cause it was a long time ago.
Allison:Jana, if you're listening, Colin, if you remember, because it just.
Allison:This storm came out of nowhere, and it was basically she and I were just gonna kick back and compare notes of our clients and the experiences we had in our readings, which we would do.
Allison:We would decompress.
Allison:We didn't really expect it to become a thing.
Allison:And then at some point, you and, like, dad and you girls came home.
Allison:But by then, the gates were working.
Allison:We were just sort of filling data in on what happened.
Allison:He's like, oh, only you two.
Sophia:Nothing shocks that man.
Allison:Not after you.
Allison:I know.
Allison:I know.
Allison:So that was actually kind of a cool experience.
Allison:I haven't been afraid or spooked by any ghosts.
Allison:I have seen mischievous ghosts.
Allison:I don't like them.
Allison:I don't like the way they look.
Allison:And it's interesting because I saw those when I was starting out professionally.
Allison:So I made a leap from being a childhood medium where I was pretty much attracting people from the other side who felt like they needed to protect me.
Allison:So I always had this protection energy around me.
Allison:I was never afraid of it.
Allison:You were a baby, so you're in the nursery next to our bedroom, and we'd hear things because there was a baby in the house.
Allison:You.
Allison:They really like children, especially babies and especially motherly women who'd passed.
Allison:And your dad and I started hearing the rocking chair next to your crib.
Allison:Rocking.
Allison:You could just hear it squeak, squeak, squeak.
Allison:And dad said, who is that?
Allison:And I said, it's just your grandmother.
Allison:It's fine.
Allison:She likes babies.
Allison:She's just keeping an eye on Sophia and protecting her.
Allison:So I actually felt really good knowing she was there because she was so sweet and that she was attracted to you because you were such a little bright light.
Allison:And I kind of was hoping maybe if you woke up, she might even put you back to sleep.
Allison:Right?
Sophia:You're like, oh, we'll take all the help we can get.
Allison:Yeah.
Allison:Yeah.
Allison:So that was nice.
Allison:And then one night, we heard boards creaking next to dad's side of the bed, like somebody was pacing.
Allison:And your dad wanted to know who was there.
Allison:And I said, it's just your dad.
Allison:You know, he has something to say.
Allison:But I was exhausted.
Allison:I had three kids under five, was working and going to school.
Allison:So he said, ask him what he wants.
Allison:I said, I don't really care.
Allison:I just want to go to sleep.
Allison:But then I did ask him, and I had relayed to your dad, I said, your dad says he sets alarms off to get our attention.
Allison:It's his sign.
Allison:So of course, your grandpa Jim would have something just super annoying, can't avoid me sign to let us know that he's around.
Allison:So our home alarm went off a lot, right?
Allison:So what do you do?
Allison:You call in the repairman.
Allison:So the repairman's on a ladder in my closet, and he's climbing up to the box that's mounted at the top that lets you know if there's something going on.
Allison:And it was up really high.
Allison:And I said, I don't know what it could be.
Allison:It's just the alarm keeps going off, you know, in the middle of the night, like, every night, and it was waking your sisters up, and it just popped in my head.
Allison:I said, I think the yellow wire's loose.
Allison:And he opened the hatch to the box, and the yellow wire had come loose, and he looked at me as though I was some psycho housewife that was lonely and, like, did that just to get his fine physique over, I guess.
Allison:But, yeah, that happens.
Allison:So in the beginning, I'd get more mischievous entities around me as an adult because I didn't know how to set up borders and boundaries to make sure I was sifting out the ones that I really didn't want around.
Allison:So that's when I had these experiences with the mischievouses.
Allison:But they.
Allison:Mischievous entities.
Allison:Their faces look kind of white and milky almost.
Allison:And almost, I guess skeletal shaped is the best way to say it.
Allison:But they'd peek their head around the side, the corner, and they'd look at me, and they'd laugh, and then they'd pull themselves back around, move immediately.
Allison:They'd go with me, so it wouldn't have helped anything.
Sophia:See, I would hate that.
Sophia:I would.
Sophia:I don't know, get a priest over.
Allison:Yeah.
Allison:Yeah.
Allison:Well, then I did ask a medium who'd been doing it for years, and she was like, you have to set your borders and boundaries.
Allison:And I had never done that before.
Allison:I didn't know you needed to do that.
Allison:Which is why I wanted to talk about this, because there's a lot of you younger people out there who might experience some of those negative or dark entities or the mischievous ones, which were basically, in my opinion, this is what they feel like to me.
Allison:People who lived a life of chaos, who really don't have a reason to cross because there's nobody there for them to connect with.
Allison:So in the meantime, they just seem to bother people that they can access, which is why children probably experience them a lot.
Allison:No borders and boundaries, you know?
Allison:So that was interesting.
Allison:And I know you've had experiences over the years.
Allison:Do you want to talk about yours?
Sophia:Yeah.
Sophia:So speaking of borders and boundaries, I remember, and for anyone listening out there that remembers that we did, what was your YouTube series?
Sophia:Buried emotions.
Allison:Yes.
Sophia:Where it was during COVID And she thought it would be a good idea to help the people who lost somebody over Zoom.
Sophia:And then, you know, we put on YouTube so people could see what a reading was like, things like that.
Sophia:Anyway, a lot of people don't know that I was the one that was vetting them, and I got all the submissions in, and I had to talk to everyone individually and see, you know, who'd be the best fit and things like that.
Sophia:Anyway, there was this one boy who died and was brought through.
Sophia:And I lived alone at this time.
Sophia:He was around my age, though, and I think he had some sort of connection to me because we were similar in age.
Sophia:And I knew so much about his mom and him and everything, that I would wake up in the middle of the night.
Sophia:It was like four in the morning, every single night.
Sophia:And I would just knew it was him.
Sophia:And I remember one night, I just looked down my hallway.
Sophia:Cause my door was open.
Sophia:And I said, what do you want?
Sophia:What do you want?
Sophia:Just tell me and I will tell your mom.
Sophia:But after this, you need to leave me alone.
Sophia:And then anyway, after that night, I never woke up at four in the morning because I thought it was him again.
Allison:You set boundaries.
Sophia:But I did.
Sophia:And I was just.
Sophia:I actually was physically yelling at my hallway.
Sophia:If anyone else would have been living with me, they'd be like, what is she doing?
Sophia:But I was just like, what do you want?
Sophia:I was so tired.
Sophia:I was like, sir.
Allison:And I know exactly that feeling.
Allison:I think he was attracted to you also because you're a pretty girl.
Allison:So the fact that you're a pretty girl and you're around his age.
Allison:Because often, and I tell clients this, they'll pick the medium for the reading.
Allison:So the people on the other side will say, hey, mom, respond to that.
Allison:For instance, he could have said to his mom, you need to respond to that.
Allison:She needs to do the reading.
Allison:Knowing that he was going to connect, not just with me, but then here's this other light that's similar, that can hear him, that he can talk to you.
Allison:That's his age.
Allison:How refreshing, right?
Allison:Who's alive.
Allison:So he was drawn to you?
Allison:Yeah.
Sophia:But it's funny, because growing up, okay, people don't know what it's like to be the daughter of a medium.
Sophia:And they think that I'm similar with just curiosity.
Sophia:Nope, nope.
Sophia:I had zero curiosity.
Sophia:I said, absolutely not.
Sophia:I was terrified.
Allison:Not interested.
Sophia:I was very, just not interested.
Sophia:And then I remember when we lived in this one house, this girl.
Sophia:Well, okay, I did a video, a dance video with my friend Casey.
Allison:Oh, that was cute.
Sophia:And as you do when you're twelve, right, you set up your little laptop and, you know.
Sophia:Anyway, right behind us in the video was my bathroom door.
Sophia:And as we're watching back the video, we noticed that it opened and we both looked at each other and we just screamed.
Sophia:And then we ran downstairs to where my mom and her friends were.
Sophia:And I was like, oh, my God, mom, you have to look at this video.
Sophia:I don't know what's going on.
Sophia:Anyway.
Sophia:And then this girl, she would just.
Sophia:Cause I think she died down the street, but she would open doors a.
Allison:Lot and go, I think she was in a car accident and went to chaparral or something.
Sophia:Yeah.
Sophia:And so then you asked her to leave, like, leave me alone because I was twelve.
Allison:Yeah.
Sophia:I was like, I don't want anything I can't see around me.
Sophia:But now I'll just yell at them.
Allison:Yeah, no, you got much more confident in your communication with them.
Allison:That was a really funny video.
Allison:We have to find that video.
Allison:That was pretty great.
Allison:And to see two little, like, tweens losing a mom, I'm like, what?
Sophia:You thought something really bad happened years.
Allison:Ago, but then when you told me that, I'm like, let me get my popcorn.
Sophia:Like, tell me more.
Allison:What's going on?
Allison:So that's another thing for adults to know.
Allison:You can set borders and boundaries for your children.
Allison:So when people say, how do you set your borders and boundaries?
Allison:It's nice to hear, I need them, but how do I do it?
Allison:I'm going to tell you.
Allison:So if you want to set borders and boundaries, do it like, so please block any mischievous or negative entities from coming near me or my family.
Allison:And I say that to the other side, to my dad, to all the people connected to me.
Allison:And walls go up.
Allison:So when you're setting your borders and boundaries, I've said that since you were a little girl, for you as well, and your sisters, to make sure dark entities stayed away from you.
Allison:So that's me taking care of.
Allison:I can do it for you as an adult.
Allison:I'll still do it.
Allison:I still say that mantra.
Allison:So if you're out there and you're a mom, with or without abilities, you don't need to have abilities to be able to set your borders and boundaries with the other side.
Allison:Especially if you're hearing your child say, there's someone in my room, like, I feel a presence, or I'm not comfortable, there's someone under my bed.
Allison:Things of that nature.
Allison:Go ahead and set that border and boundary and let them see you do it.
Allison:It'll make them feel better.
Allison:And it really does work.
Allison:Now, when a few years pass, sometimes that will get a little weak and I'll reignite it by repeating it again.
Sophia:Well, you remember one of my friends.
Sophia:Do you remember he told me, he was like, oh, I have this entity that follows me everywhere I move.
Sophia:And then, do you remember he showed me those photos?
Sophia:Yeah.
Sophia:And the entity was always in his photos, but it was, like, scary.
Allison:It was a man.
Allison:It was a dark face.
Sophia:It was a really dark.
Sophia:Oh, I just got the chills.
Sophia:I know, because I.
Sophia:Yeah, I'm just like, how are you so calm showing me these photos where there's clearly a dark entity of a man messing with you?
Sophia:Because it wasn't just photos, it was like, all the time.
Sophia:And he was just laughing about it.
Sophia:And I'm like, no, no, no.
Sophia:That's really scary.
Sophia:We should take care of that.
Allison:Well, there's a difference with energies of different spirits, because sometimes people will get a dread energy, the one that he had in the pictures, because I saw it, and they were a very defined shadow figure of a man that seemed a little foreboding, not like a grandfather that shows up and sits on your bed and, you know, brushes the hair out of your face and tells you he loves you.
Allison:It wasn't like that.
Allison:It was somebody watching him.
Allison:Now, I'll break that one down, too.
Allison:Because there are negative entities, dark entities that will be drawn to people who, and I mean no disrespect by this, it's just a fact, who either have a weak mind, who drink or are excessive with medication or drugs, have weaker minds.
Allison:And they tend to draw dark entities because we draw similar energy to us, typically, that's what we're going to bring in.
Allison:So, like, energy is drawn to, like, energy.
Allison:So for those of you who feel great, amazing presence and presences around you, it's because you have that energy as well.
Allison:So you draw in the good for those of you.
Allison:And I think everybody knows somebody like this, who just has sort of a weak mind that's gullible or, you know, not a not free thinking kind of person, not a common sense person, they're kind of all over the place, and they're just very accessible.
Allison:They're going to draw in people who just want to communicate sometimes in any way they can, because they know that you can hear them, and they know that they can come into your life and affect it the way you want it to or the way they want it to affect your life.
Allison:So your friend, I know you like him, but if you were to look at it from an objective perspective, did he have a weak mind?
Allison:I mean, what was he like, you know?
Sophia:Yeah, I think that his family background as well was not very victim energy, maybe abuse.
Sophia:Exactly.
Sophia:So I think it makes sense that he drew in someone like that.
Sophia:Because he would tell me he would sometimes wake up in the middle of the night and see him, like, float, like, right above him.
Sophia:And what's it called when you're paralyzed and like.
Allison:But you're sleep paralysis.
Sophia:Paralysis, yeah.
Sophia:So he would wake up with that and then just have this being above him.
Allison:Yeah.
Sophia:Which is terrifying.
Allison:That would be frightening.
Sophia:Oh, my gosh.
Sophia:And he hasn't moved.
Sophia:I'm like, what?
Sophia:But no.
Sophia:Yeah, I think it's also with, like, a family background.
Sophia:If who you surround yourself with as well have that energy, it could have.
Allison:Been the person who started the abuse cycle in the family feeling drawn to him, feeling either guilty or, you know, seeing, because we're forced to see the effects of our actions in our lifetime.
Allison:So sometimes they would even be subject to seeing how somebody broke the cycle, how long it took for that cycle to be broken of abuse.
Allison:Maybe just a guilt feeling where he actually doesn't mean him any harm.
Allison:He's more trying to apologize for starting the cycle, but you don't know until you start communication.
Allison:So I actually could have gone in there and had the little powwow there with him.
Sophia:Yeah, you can.
Allison:I don't.
Allison:I go anywhere from near there.
Allison:Sage and sweetgrass is really effective.
Allison:Go to grannymagic.com if you need it.
Allison:She grows her own.
Allison:It's verified.
Allison:It's good stuff.
Allison:I use her products as well, and it just to be able to sage and cleanse the house.
Allison:She has a YouTube video that I think is excellent for how to properly smudge your house and then how to sweet grass it afterwards.
Allison:And you have to do both.
Allison:You can't just sage it.
Allison:That takes out all energy, good and bad.
Allison:Sweet grass restores positivity.
Allison:So there's a process to it, and that can be helpful.
Allison:But for people such as myself, we'll just go in and because I'm a strong energy myself, strong figure, very strong borders and boundaries, figures such as that will communicate with me.
Allison:I'm unafraid of it.
Allison:It's unafraid of me.
Allison:And we can squash some stuff out there.
Allison:I'm much more afraid of dark entities that are in living bodies than I am of the disembodied.
Sophia:So I could see that.
Allison:So Halloween's always been a bit of a ticker tape parade for me.
Allison:Ever since I was little.
Allison:I'm like, candy and costumes.
Allison:Yes.
Allison:Like, this is the best.
Allison:And then as a teenager, I wore those little slutty outfits, too.
Allison:I can't even judge.
Sophia:The worst part is, okay, no one come for me, I don't like Halloween.
Sophia:Like, okay, hear me out.
Sophia:It's typically cold, okay, this year, it's not that.
Allison:Okay, we're in Arizona.
Sophia:Yeah, it's typically really cold.
Sophia:You're expected to wear some little itty bitty things.
Allison:It's unfair.
Sophia:Even more cold.
Sophia:And then getting an Uber home is, like, a bajillion dollars.
Sophia:And if it even comes, sometimes they're out of them.
Sophia:And then even just picking the costume causes me so much stress.
Sophia:I'm like, oh, my gosh.
Allison:Let me point out something that my generation was well aware of with those little costumes when it got cold.
Allison:If you look cold, there's a guy around that goes, can I give you my jacket?
Allison:It's a moment.
Sophia:Not anymore.
Allison:Okay.
Allison:That makes me sad.
Sophia:Not anymore.
Sophia:Now I just bring my own.
Allison:That's not the way it's supposed to be.
Sophia:I know.
Allison:Your dad threw his coat over a puddle for me to walk over.
Allison:True story.
Allison:When we were dating.
Allison:Chivalry has to exist.
Allison:Call in and let us know.
Allison:Does chivalry exist in the millennial and Gen Z generation?
Allison:I'm so curious, because I'm Gen X, and we had our pick.
Allison:Like, we had some good ones.
Allison:They worked out.
Allison:They were cool.
Allison:They were hot.
Allison:They were funny.
Allison:There were a lot of them, too.
Allison:So I don't know what happened after.
Sophia:I think it's social media, because a everyone, since you see so many hot people on social media, even if you don't know them, you think, oh, there's gonna be someone better that comes along.
Sophia:Like, if you just meet somebody.
Allison:See, that's a big mistake.
Allison:I see people make.
Sophia:Totally.
Sophia:You hear about all this, all those, like, podcasts with those younger girls, right?
Sophia:Being like, oh, no, men.
Sophia:You know, I use them.
Sophia:And anyway, so then the men are bitter.
Allison:Yeah.
Sophia:And then they're like, well, I don't want to put an effort if you're not gonna be put in effort.
Sophia:And then it's like this whole yeah.
Allison:Thing, and there's a lot of confusion.
Sophia:And then no one is happy.
Allison:That's not good.
Allison:That's not good.
Allison:So there's hope, I think, in the generation above me that the moms baby powdered the boys butts a little too long.
Allison:Even into adulthood, I still read women whose 40 something sons are living with them.
Allison:And the husband's gone now.
Allison:Cause he didn't want that.
Allison:And I'm like, you understand he's gonna live with you until you die, right?
Allison:And then assume the house.
Allison:Like, that's your exit plan.
Allison:There.
Allison:So I think there were some mistakes made with a bit of coddling that probably shouldn't have happened.
Sophia:Will they want to be babied?
Allison:But then they made females of younger generation.
Allison:See, our generation, Gen X, already knew that women were strong.
Allison:We already knew that we could do anything we wanted to because that's what we were told growing up.
Allison:You could do anything you put your mind to.
Allison:We're like, great.
Allison:So we just went out and did it.
Allison:Right now it becomes sort of a thing, you know, where it's like, I don't need you.
Allison:It's like, well, where did that come from?
Allison:Because just as much as women need to be needed, men need to be needed, too.
Allison:And every now and then, I'll tell a client, I'm like, look, I get that you're self sufficient.
Allison:You don't need him.
Allison:But if he doesn't feel needed by you, he might move past you.
Allison:Can't you fake needing him to help you change a light bulb?
Allison:I mean, it's a small price to pay to be happy or to make him happy, you know?
Allison:So I don't understand.
Allison:Just like women, we'd put on heels and mini skirts because we like making them happy.
Allison:When we go on a date and they're like, she's with me, and they're all proud, you know?
Allison:I mean, it's the things you do for each other in coupledom and dating rituals, and we gotta get back to that.
Allison:The boys need to lift some weights.
Allison:I think your generation, they're starting to do that more Gen Z, and they're not going to college as much.
Allison:They're getting the vocational training.
Allison:And that's a good story.
Sophia:So you always told me that a man should always open your car door for you.
Sophia:So, like, if it's like, especially a date.
Allison:Yeah.
Sophia:So ever since you had told me that, I mean, she told me that forever.
Sophia:But now if a guy picks me up for a date and he doesn't open the door, I will just stand out the door.
Allison:Yeah.
Sophia:And then he'll be like, oh, my gosh.
Sophia:And then he'll run over and he doesn't mind at all.
Sophia:And he's like, sorry, right this way.
Sophia:And then they usually remember because you're.
Allison:Letting him know that you're willing to let him your guard down and let him treat you like a lady.
Sophia:Because one guy said that, he was like, oh, like, I would love to.
Sophia:I just.
Sophia:There's some girls out there that are so I can do myself, you know, that it's off putting and so then I was like, that's why I have to communicate what you like, because I.
Allison:Love that stuff, right?
Sophia:I'm like, yes, bring me flowers.
Sophia:It's a nice.
Allison:It's a nice gesture.
Allison:It's just a really nice gesture.
Allison:I stood outside of your dad's door when we were dating, and his friend Tim was riding with us.
Allison:And I just stood there, and your dad was in the car, and I was like, I'm just gonna sit.
Allison:Stand here.
Allison:And Tim was like, I'll get your door.
Allison:I'm like, nope, that's okay.
Allison:I'll just wait until your dad got out and opened my damn door.
Allison:Wasn't a lot to ask, was it?
Sophia:Well, I always learned after that.
Allison:No, your dad is beautiful.
Allison:As a gentleman.
Allison:It's so nice.
Allison:I just had to teach him nanners.
Allison:Wasn't big on that.
Allison:That's okay now.
Sophia:I know.
Allison:So, yeah, so Halloween's turned into something different.
Allison:And even the little kids see them, like, they don't trick or treat as much or.
Allison:So I don't understand it.
Allison:I don't understand any of it.
Allison:But, you know, I think a lot of the millennial parents are going back to the way it was in the nineties.
Allison:They want that for their kids.
Allison:Cause they had that, too.
Sophia:I think so, too.
Allison:And I really appreciate that they're doing that.
Allison:I think it's a good move on their part, because, like I said, I bring people through all the time.
Allison:Technology is never part of anything I bring through.
Allison:It just doesn't carry the emotion.
Allison:Don't put too much of yourself into something that doesn't give you energy back.
Allison:That's just an ego rub, you know?
Sophia:Yeah.
Allison:So I know it's necessary in businesses and such, but there's a lot of little kids that don't own businesses that don't really need to be on there so much.
Allison:So we'll see what happens.
Allison:I love Halloween.
Allison:I'm so proud of your sister, Fallon.
Allison:She got full size bars.
Allison:She's ready to go.
Allison:She's going to make treats for the neighborhood and chili.
Allison:So she's.
Allison:She's excited.
Allison:And I hope everybody else has their own traditions and is getting excited about Halloween, too.
Allison:I think there's one too many hauntings that I've experienced through the years between angels and mischievous entities, and feeling just souls in graveyards, which I just love.
Allison:I do.
Allison:I do.
Allison:I always have.
Allison:Even as a kid.
Allison:I can't help it.
Allison:I'm an oddball that way.
Allison:And I think if your little kid likes.
Allison:If they feel calm in a cemetery, you're probably going to be raising a medium because that's one of the first things that we'll be drawn to, where we're like, oh.
Allison:Because we feel something there that we want to connect with.
Allison:Mediums are just wired that way.
Allison:It's why some of them have bad manners and ambush read people, because they'll feel like they need to.
Allison:It's like, this isn't about us, this is about the person, and maybe they don't want to be read.
Allison:So borders and boundaries with the living and with the dead so important as a medium as you walk this path, if you have a child, though, that is having the difficult time sleeping, and they do, and they're sensitives, you can put the music on really light.
Allison:I say, alexa, play spa.
Allison:And she just plays my spa music because I can't sleep without it.
Allison:I've got to have something.
Allison:So it helps distract that part of our brain that communicates with the other side.
Allison:So I hope that helps.
Allison:And I am really looking forward to.
Allison:I'll be having Tom McMullen on in a week or two.
Allison:I haven't decided where I'm going to place that episode, but we're going to run the charts of more serial killers.
Sophia:Ooh, that's going to be a good one.
Allison:Yeah.
Allison:And see what other path, what alternative path they could have taken, what that would look like.
Allison:And so if that's the case, which Tom has said before, because we've done an episode years ago on running Ted Bundy and Dahmer's charts, you could see that they could have gone in a different direction.
Allison:That means there's people walking around that made a choice not to do the things they did.
Allison:So we've got people that have the energy that they have, but they never acted on it.
Allison:It's like, ah, that's a funny well.
Sophia:And for you, talking about kids that feel calm, or just people that feel calm in cemeteries, for those of you listening that do not follow her on Instagram, she is coming out with a vodka.
Sophia:And one of the vodkas is a thinning the veil vodka resurrection vodka.
Allison:I'm pretty excited about that one.
Sophia:And there's a success in money vodka, and then a love vodka.
Allison:Yeah.
Allison:Yeah.
Allison:I've been busy last two years.
Allison:Divination 22 is my new vodka company, and I took appalachian grannies, centuries old infusion of flowers, berries, herbs, whatever that particular vodka potion calls for.
Allison:And I made vodka.
Allison:And I actually am filming today for the QR code that's on the back of the vodka bottle so that you know how to set your intentions properly.
Allison:And I love that women for bachelorette parties or women that get together in general with the love potion, for instance, become a coven when you're in numbers like that, anything over three.
Allison:So if you want to get a bottle for Halloween and you're in Scottsdale or Phoenix area, you can go to one handsome bastard in old town Scottsdale.
Allison:That's my vodka distillery that I use, and they carry it there.
Allison:Or you can get a cocktail made with it and set your own intentions for Halloween.
Allison:So I'm excited about that.
Allison:So the money potion is available.
Allison:Love potion should be available in the next week or two.
Allison:And then we're going to go ahead and form resurrection vodka for thinning the veil so that y'all can communicate with the other side more easily.
Allison:So thank you.
Allison:I'm very excited, and Sophia's my incredible sales and marketing.
Sophia:I will be going to all the rest of ours.
Allison:Yes, I'm very excited.
Allison:So hopefully, maybe you'll get it into some of them before Halloween.
Sophia:That's the plan.
Allison:That's great.
Allison:Well, Sophia, thank you so much.
Allison:I always love sitting down with you.
Allison:You know, you're like my top two of people in the world.
Sophia:Well, thank you.
Sophia:I love being here.
Allison:Actually, let me.
Allison:Let me revise.
Sophia:I was gonna say that's like, top.
Allison:Four people in the world.
Allison:Cause that's you, dad, and my sister.
Allison:And your sisters.
Allison:Yeah, top four.
Allison:Sorry, didn't.
Allison:I'm such an asshole.
Sophia:So don't die.
Allison:Where can people find you?
Sophia:You know, I.
Sophia:I'm a photographer, but I also work with my mom.
Sophia:But if you do want to check out my stuff, Sophia Dubois photo on Instagram or my website is the same, so.
Sophia:Yeah, and then she always posts me on her instagram as well.
Sophia:So if it's easier to find me with that.
Sophia:That way.
Sophia:Yeah, that's great.
Sophia:I did take all the photos of the vodka, so please hype me up in the comments.
Allison:I'm very proud of you.
Allison:I don't know what I'd do without you.
Allison:So this is great.
Allison:I love it.
Allison:So.
Allison:All right, well, thank you for tuning into the deadlife.
Allison:Tune in next week for a fresh episode of the Deadlife.
Allison:And as we ease into the sun in Scorpio, Tom McMullen and I are going to talk about astrological birth charts of serial killers and what taking a different path would have looked like for them.
Allison:I'm Allison Dubois.
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