The Gifts of Struggle with Abbe Meryl Feder
Episode 3725th November 2020 • Rock Your Joy • Aine Rock
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“In a way, I feel like I'm only now, after having gone through everything, finding a way to bridge all these pieces of my life together and that purpose in each and every facet of the pie brings me joy.” - Abbe Meryl Feder

When you’re going through difficult times, it’s hard to see how you will ever find joy again. Abbe Meryl Feder found herself in this position when she was going through the devastating journey of IVF. It was made especially challenging because she didn’t have anyone in her life who really understood what she was going through.

Now that Abbe is on the other side, she’s finding joy in life’s small moments and finding new purpose in sharing her story with others. She joined Aine for a discussion on the painful journey of IVF, the fear of regret, survivor’s guilt, and how she’s trying to empower more men to share their stories of infertility. Listen to the episode for some inspiration on finding gifts in the struggle.

  • (02:16) - Abbe's mission
  • (04:02) - Maculate Conception
  • (06:37) - Abbe's fertility journey
  • (11:34) - Shout it from the rooftop
  • (13:56) - The toll on couples
  • (15:21) - Creating the narrative
  • (18:01) - InCircle Fertillity
  • (19:57) - Pregnancy after loss
  • (22:03) - Raising twins
  • (26:36) - How is Abbe cultivating joy?

Abbe Meryl Feder is a writer, producer, and actress in Los Angeles. She’s an Artist in Residence at the Braid Theater in Santa Monica. Her struggle with infertility led to co-founding InCircle Fertility, a coaching business helping people navigate infertility. She is also a stylist, and is a recurring contributor to the blog What’s Up Moms. You can find her on Instagram at @absofstyle. She grew up on the mean streets of New York’s Upper East Side, graduated from the University of Wisconsin, and studied at The American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York. She is an avid mahjong and card player, an escape room enthusiast, and has been called by many friends a true "balabusta."

Aine Rock is an artist, entrepreneur, mom and High Performance Coach working on becoming the best version of herself and inspiring others to do the same. Rock Your Joy is a place for women to share the unique ways they find, cultivate, and celebrate joy. We’re often so focused on things happening to us that we forget that joy exists within us. Tune in every other week as we find that joy, together.

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