When trying to help a friend or family member through their loss journey it's important to remember not to try too hard. The simplest of gestures will make as much of a difference and often times more. Don't try to compare your experience, instead, show understanding what they may be feeling and offer to be there for them as they need. Make your offers of help specific and easy for your newly grieving friend to more easily accept. Make it less of a chore for them to think of how you can help and more of a helpful gesture that is easily accomplished.