If you’ve been doing everything “right” when it comes to your mindset, healing, or emotional work but still feel stuck in the same patterns with money - this might be why.

In this episode, we’re gently looking at a pattern many high-achieving entrepreneurs fall into without realizing it: moving emotions away as quickly as possible instead of actually feeling them. It can look like journaling, tapping, or taking action… but underneath, there’s still avoidance.

This isn’t about doing anything wrong. It’s about understanding what’s really happening and creating a different kind of safety with your emotions and your money.

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We're gonna talk today about what I'm calling hot potato your emotions.

So especially if you were somebody who is in the personal development

space, but also more of like the spiritual space you've got,

modalities that you were using.

When emotions come up, feelings come up, all of those things.

We have tools in our tool belt, really personal development space in general.

And when we are hot, our hot potato wing, our emotions, what we end up

doing is it's another form of avoidance or, um, fear's not really the right

word, but like we're still managing to avoid the thing under the disguise

that we're doing what we need to do.

So let's get into it.

This is Money Simplified, the podcast where I help female

entrepreneurs go from stress and struggle to unstoppable with money.

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I'm your host, Aimee Cerka.

Welcome.

I'm so glad you're here.

Welcome back to Money Simplified.

and I'm pretty excited to talk about this today because it's something.

That I think a lot of us are doing and we don't even realize that we're doing it.

And it's fun because, well, it's not fun, but it is fun at the same time.

All right.

And I'm calling it hot potato wing, your emotions.

Okay.

So especially those of us who use different tools, modalities, if you are

feeling emotion, we, we can also do this with tactical strategies though, so I

don't wanna give just that example, but.

This is where we are using all of the good tools as an escape mechanism

still as opposed to like healing.

Okay, so if you listen to the last episode, you heard me talk about shame

and criticism and I'll link it for you.

If you haven't checked that one out, I would listen to that one.

But this episode we're gonna talk about the moment, like when that shows up.

So for example, last week there was.

Stuff going on.

I was sitting at my desk working, and all of a sudden I was very much

in this like, shame, guilt, like being hard on myself, being critical,

going into fear, like, and then like beating myself up for going into fear.

Like all of like those crazy emotions.

Okay.

And I could feel it coming on and it's like, well, I, I know what to do, right?

Like.

I can go tap, I can journal, I can go for a walk, I can go

ground outside, like whatever.

Like I've got the tools in my tool belt, breath work, all the things.

And my instinct there was like, okay, let's go do this thing.

Let's go handle this.

Let's go take care of it.

But that was hot potato wing, my emotion.

So instead of sitting and actually like.

Feeling the feelings, right?

Acknowledging them, feeling them.

It's like, oh my gosh, I don't want it, I don't like it.

Like let me get rid of it.

I don't like it.

We're hot potato with the emotion.

Like we catch it and it's like, oh my gosh, get rid of it.

Like let me go do that so we can do this disguised as productivity.

Let me go reorganize my offer suite.

Let me go, um, work on this thing.

Let me go attend this coaching hall and we can jump from thing to thing to thing.

And we do the same thing with those healing modalities that we use, right?

We are not allowing ourselves to actually feel and process that motion

without letting it mean anything, without going into the shame, which

again, I said I was starting to do that.

So feel the shame, feel those things without creating

additional meaning around it.

Because if we just hot potato it, we deal with it.

It goes.

Underground, but it feels productive, right?

Like you're doing something with it.

You're doing the things we we're tapping, you're doing, um, what is that called?

There there's like specific movement that you can do that is like

helpful for somatic reassurance.

I cannot remember the name right now.

Is it just somatic movement?

I know you're probably like shouting this at me right now, or laughing.

Um, I think we'll go with somatic movement.

Like, or you're walking, we're journaling, you're doing a new strategy, you're

doing a meditation, you're doing a self-hypnosis, like all of those things.

Is this like, oh my gosh, I can't feel this.

Like, I've gotta get rid of it.

I know.

I've done that, especially with the EFT tapping, like that's probably my thing.

It's like, I don't wanna feel this.

Let me start tapping.

Like, I don't like this.

So it's like, instead of honoring it.

Feeling, feeling it, recognizing it and releasing it.

It's like, let me just get through this.

I just gotta do it.

I just have to get through this.

And really like, it's a form of protection and especially our

overachievers, um, hyper achievers, whatever we wanna call us.

Like, Hey, there's a dopamine hit.

Like, I'm doing the thing, this is what I need to do.

And action feels safer, right?

Action feels so much safer than just sitting with it.

Like, oh my goodness.

Ugh.

Especially as entrepreneurs, right?

We have all these things we have to do.

You don't understand, Aimee, I just have to get this done.

I have this deadline.

All the things, but we're not.

Clearing out all of the emotion.

Like, you know, you've got this cup and it's like basically almost overflowing.

You're sitting like just below the overflow line.

So every little thing keeps setting you off and you feel like you're

doing the process, like you feel like you're doing the tapping, the

meditation, like all of those things.

But it's not, you're not clearing the cup out.

Like it's just, we got a little like, I don't know, tea shovel or something like.

Moving just a little bit and it's not actually going anywhere 'cause

we're not getting to the root of it.

It's just, oh, that feels better.

'cause we're not overflowing.

Now

we keep reaching for the tools, but nothing's shifting

because your cup is still just about to overflow.

Like your money relationship is still in that survival mode.

You're still reacting.

So what if.

It's so much easier said than done.

I'm gonna give you that caveat right now because I know this.

Been there, done that.

Still going through it, like I said, it was my reaction that sparked this

conversation and then it came up the next day on a coaching call with a client.

It's like, what if I could just sit with this for a minute?

Just give your this.

Give yourself the space to feel the emotion.

Without beating yourself up, without shaming yourself for

whatever the choice was without shaming yourself for the emotion.

Just let yourself feel it.

Let yourself cry.

Let yourself do whatever it is that you need to do without trying to move it.

Don't make yourself do it.

Just sit, pause, name the feeling what?

What is this?

Let yourself feel it.

Don't create meaning around it, and just keep.

Going.

This is all of the work that we do inside Money Mastery Academy and the

Unstoppable Experience, specifically within the Unstoppable experience

because this is the part, like all of the strategy in the world isn't gonna

work if your cup is still about to overflow and you know, it could work.

It's not gonna work as easily.

You're not gonna feel unstoppable when you implement the strategy because you just

feel like you are reacting to everything.

There's just this nonstop thing because your cup's just this close to overflowing

all the dang time, and we can clear the cup out, but we have to actually

let ourselves feel those emotions.

And it might take a little bit of time, like, how long have you

not been feeling your emotions?

And you know, people in my world, if you've been around, you probably know

this, like I am an emotional person.

I experience so much of the emotions, and I know how much it is tied

into my purpose and my passion.

Like it's the way that I'm designed, it's the way that God designed me, and I'm

here to fulfill a need in that manner.

But I had to go through the process of learning how to feel my emotions

myself and to actually feel them.

'cause I could be crying and not feeling my emotions.

Two different things.

You can show the emotion without letting yourself feel it, but you have to feel

safe enough to let yourself feel it.

And that's what takes the programming.

And when we're going to our tools, which are amazing, and I still use and

love my tools, but it's why I don't create the hard, fast routines anymore.

Like my ru like the habit routine.

Like I brush my teeth, I make my bed.

Like those things are important.

Yes, we do all those things, but whether I'm journaling or whether

I'm doing a hypnosis or if I am.

Anchoring back into my bliss experiment, doing a gratitude exercise, all of

those modalities, the tapping, it's not a hard and fast thing, like it

has to be done X, Y, Z, because then we're just going through the motions

and getting the dopamine hit from the action as opposed to actually using

it in the way that it was designed.

If you can train yourself like you're okay, so.

My challenge for you.

Uh, first off, I wanna hear if this lands, because I think I'm gonna call

this episode, at least on the podcast, like hot Hotting, your Emotions because

it makes so much sense when you feel it.

It's like, I can't feel this right now.

I don't have time.

Let me do something with it.

Whether it's going to take action, whether you're going to the tools,

tools in your tool belt, tool belt for the breakdowns, I see it all the

time with like high productivity.

Entrepreneurs like this is what we wanna do.

So this is like, it's our coping mechanism.

So I wanna hear if this resonated because I know when I learned this

concept, it was like mind blowing for me because, you know, I was

emotional for all of these years.

I've always been an emotional person, but I still wasn't

letting myself feel my emotions.

And there's a total difference.

And you know what?

This is crazy.

And I like hesitate to say this a little bit because I don't want

you to get into, uh, let me do it this way so I can get through it.

When you just let yourself feel the emotion without all the

other stuff, we don't add all the stuff to it, no meaning to it.

You just feel the emotion.

It goes away so much faster.

Like it's done.

You, you felt it, it dissipated, it served its purpose, and then you're done.

All right.

And then of course, if you were ready to go deeper, if you're like, I need

support with this, I'm gonna put the link below in the show notes.

This is the work that we do inside, uh, my signature programs, money Mastery Academy,

and the Unstoppable Experience, of course, inside the Unstoppable Experience,

we've got the more hands on, you've got more time with me for us to work

together and really go through this work.

Both of those links are gonna be in the show notes for you.

If you wanna check those out, I would love to welcome you inside

either one of those programs.

All right.

That's what I've got for this one.

Remember, you've got this and I've got you.

We'll see you next time.

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