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Why a Prenup Might Be the Best Gift You Give Your Marriage
Episode 63 • 17th July 2025 • Saddle Up Live Podcast • Lesa Koski
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📝 Episode Description:

Can a prenup actually help prevent divorce? In this quick Saddle Up segment, Lesa Koski breaks down Tuesday’s episode with attorney Melissa Miroslavich and shares why prenuptial agreements might be one of the best ways to build a stronger, smarter marriage.

Whether you're single, engaged, divorced, or remarried, this 5-minute episode challenges the myths about prenups and explains how they set couples up for deeper commitment and clearer communication.

⏱️ Timestamps:

(00:00) Recap of full episode with Melissa Miroslavich

(01:20) Why prenups get a bad rap


(02:05) How prenups clarify your commitment legally and spiritually


(03:18) What most couples don’t realize about marriage and the law


(04:35) Final encouragement to think differently about prenups

âś… Key Takeaways:



  • A prenup isn’t planning for divorce—it’s planning for clarity



  • Most couples don’t realize marriage is a binding legal contract



  • Discussing a prenup shows emotional maturity and builds trust



  • Working together on a prenup may actually strengthen your marriage


🎧 Listen to Tuesday’s Full Episode:

Can a Prenup Actually Strengthen Your Marriage? – with Melissa Miroslavich


🏷️ Tags/Keywords:

prenup, marriage advice, relationship tips, divorce prevention, marriage mindset, legal marriage planning, saddle up segment, Lesa Koski, Doing Divorce Different, faith and marriage, communication tools, premarital preparation

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Welcome friends.

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This week on doing divorce Different,

we had Melissa Miel, Slavic.

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She's an attorney, she's a

sweetheart, she's a become a friend.

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Um, but she was on and she

was talking about prenups.

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We made it a two part series.

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So go back and listen to Tuesdays

episodes, we talk about prenups, and then

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in the upcoming week we're gonna talk

about postnuptial and collaborative law.

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And here's the thing.

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This podcast is helpful whether

you're single, maybe thinking about

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getting married, whether you're

divorced and maybe gonna get remarried

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because prenuptial agree agreements.

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Melissa talks about how they actually

strengthen a marriage, and I think

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maybe they can get a bad rap, right?

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Because you think about like.

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I don't know, like the movies that you've

seen where the rich guy or the rich lady

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makes someone sign a prenup and then they

leave 'em and they're left with nothing.

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So that's not really what it's about,

especially if you do it collaboratively

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and really an important, uh,

point to have attorneys involved.

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Um, but it is a way.

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To really be serious and

thoughtful about your marriage.

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And I'm looking to do a study, so if

anyone has any information, and I'll

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keep digging, um, to find out whether

or not people with prenups divorce more

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or less than people who don't have them.

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But here's the thing that was

kind of eyeopening to me, is that.

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When a young couple is getting

married, they often don't realize

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the extent of this binding agreement.

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I mean, it's a binding agreement between

the two of you and God and the law.

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So it is like a partnership and you

wouldn't go into a business partnership.

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Without writing down how things would

go, um, how they're gonna work, how

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it would go if it, if you separate it.

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Because here's the thing, you

get to do it and God help you.

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I don't want you to end up divorced.

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And I think that the kind of people who

do prenups together collaboratively are

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often planners and working together.

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So I feel like.

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They've got a better start

to their marriage already.

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But it helps you look at when you're at

a point when emotions aren't high and

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you're at a point in time and you can

talk about what your thoughts are at that

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time for what would happen in the future.

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And we know things can change and,

and you can groove with that, but.

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It's so helpful, one to make

you realize what a important

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commitment you are making.

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I think it's huge that it's be

that God is your is there and he's,

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you know, binding you together.

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But you also have to

realize the law is there.

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And I'm gonna be honest friends, I have

so many couples that come to me angry.

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Why can't we just say we

wanna be divorced and be done?

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You can't because you are in a legal.

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Legally, you know, written up partnership.

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And so you can't just

break away that easily.

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You have to go through paperwork.

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So take the time to really look

at it and set yourself up to a

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great marriage, because couples

who can communicate together.

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About what they would want in a

prenup, how they would want things

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to be if they did end up divorce.

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Looking at, well, if we have kids,

what would we want it to look like?

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It is going to help you.

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God help you.

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You do get to the point

where you need a divorce.

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At least you can look back

and say, you know what?

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This is what we agreed on.

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Because when emotions run

high, it's really, really hard

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to use that prodigy brain.

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It's hard to reason.

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It's hard to make really good decisions,

and we do everything we can to help you.

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I try to help you through

mediation to keep that brain.

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Um, that prodigy brain working so you

can make good decisions, but if you had

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talked about it in in advance, you'd

be set up and I think you might have a

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better chance of not getting there because

you're already showing that you're working

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together, that you can communicate well.

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That's a big part of what you need

in a great marriage, and you're

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going in with eyes wide open.

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You know what this partnership looks

like and it's not gonna be a surprise

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if something NFU happens and you,

you've gotta change things around.

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So I agree with Melissa when she said

prenups can build stronger marriages.

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Go listen to the episode.

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It's so good.

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And she's so awesome.

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She's a great teacher.

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Thanks for being here.

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