In this episode of "The Dead Life," I am joined by my youngest daughter, Sophia DuBois, as we delve into the profound complexities surrounding grief and the experiences of those navigating the emotional turbulence of loss. Our discussion centers on the physical manifestations of grief, particularly as they relate to the passing of loved ones, offering listeners a deeper understanding of how such emotions may express themselves in the body. We address the perplexing claims circulating on social media regarding spirits and their nature, emphasizing the importance of discerning credible sources in the realm of mediumship. Through call-ins, we provide guidance and insight to our listeners, aiming to alleviate their emotional confusion surrounding life after death. Ultimately, our departed loved ones continue to exist in a benevolent form, providing comfort and support from beyond.

Welcome to the Dead Life.

Here's world renowned medium Alison Dubois.

Welcome to the Dead Life.

I'm Alison Dubois.

I inspired the hit television show Medium.

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Welcome to the show.

Thank you.

It's always good to have you here.

I know.

I'm happy to be back.

Little insight from Soph.

People love hearing your insight.

So we got some callbacks from listeners and call ins from the past so this will be a nice follow up for some of them.

Okay, why don't we go ahead and start with the first one and take it from there.

Okay.

Hi Alison, I am a fellow Phoenician, My name is Jennifer and I have a quick question for you.

I was scrolling through TikTok and there was a woman being interviewed and she was claiming that she's a clairvoyant and that she says that all spirits are demons and that mediums are not seeing or reading our loved ones, that these are just demons that are seeding off of our weakness and that they have been studying us and our parents for our lifetime and they're the ones that are coming through and giving you those answers and feeding off of our your customers weaknesses.

I was just wanting to know if what your thoughts are on this and how do you think about someone claiming that they're demons.

Spirits are demons.

But I really love your show and keep doing what you're doing and you have a beautiful family and thanks so much.

Bye bye.

So because this is TikTok based obviously I wanted to include your perspective because I spend no time on TikTok and you're familiar with it, the platform.

So how funny.

Clairvoyant that claims Spirits are just demons.

Yes.

That's far more believable than our loved ones presences just exceeding the lifetime of their body.

So I'm curious how this clairvoyant drew the conclusion that spirits are demons.

I think there's probably a lot of crackpots on TikTok.

Yeah.

And given the source, it, you know, everybody's got a microphone now.

A lot of people didn't have to be tested like I did.

They weren't doing readings on television where your accuracy was displayed.

Yeah.

They're just out there saying, this is who I am, this is what I do, and this is, you know, what is.

And I would say take that with a grain of salt, because she sounds like a crackpot to me.

She obviously doesn't know what she's talking about.

If she calls herself a clairvoyant, does she consider herself more of a psychic and not a medium?

Like, I don't really know.

But even if she was, she's not a good one.

And it sounds like she has a dark side if everything's going back to demons for her.

Well, that's what I'm saying is, first of all, TikTok.

I don't know if this was like one of those street interviews you saw, because I see a lot of those on TikTok, or is just like a random person or if this was set up from her.

But like, you're saying if she calls herself a clairvoyant, but she only sees demons because obviously she's saying she can talk to them and see them.

Well, that's interesting.

Okay, so now is she saying that she's evil, too?

Like, you know what I mean?

Like, if she can only see demons, but then there's all these mediums out there that are bringing through loved ones, and they have accurate, you know, depictions and details.

There's something wrong with this girl.

I agree.

When I do readings, dark information and anything demonic is not mentioned in readings.

The other side is light, and it's us being free of our wounds and flaws and mistakes that we made in the physical world.

It sounds like she doesn't know what she's talking about, so she spins it into talking about demons because nobody can verify, prove, or substantiate that they are demons or aren't demons.

So there's some people that are out there that are just saying things that can't be tracked.

Yeah.

And people are out there bored, apparently.

Watch these people.

So, Jennifer, find a more reliable source.

Oh, that's why she's here.

I get it.

It's unfortunate.

Tom And I, Tom McMullen, for those of you who listen to the show, is my resident astrologer.

And you've pulled up tiktoks before of astrologers that are like 20 on TikTok that don't know what the hell they're talking about and we laugh our asses off.

So I'm just saying if somebody's an actual medium, they would hear this person and things that they say and know that this is an individual that's got issues who is going down a dark path.

People who specifically talk about demons at length tend to have dark energy themselves, which is why this is what rules their mind and why they.

It's a way of explaining things away.

Maybe why she can't do readings, maybe why she can't do mediumship readings because.

Or why she's not accurate or getting.

Details because they're all demons trying to misguide us.

Right?

Yeah.

So it sounds like an excuse and a way to get attention.

That would be my take on that.

And I'm really sorry that those people are out there.

It was hard enough 20 years ago.

I wrote chapters in my books so that people would know how to spot a reliable medium, an accurate medium, so that they didn't get taken by somebody who either had a little bit of abilities and shouldn't be doing it professionally or just somebody that was out of their mind that was coming from a dark place.

When your books came out, it was, you know, there wasn't social media with anyone could post.

Right.

Anyone can have a microphone now.

And so there's also a lot of sources out there.

Right.

That people are relying on.

But back then they could really just look it up at the library or even online of what, what books they could look into.

But now it's just the seven second content, one minute content.

And then they're like, oh, wait, okay, so that must be real because I saw it on the Internet.

This sort of reminds me of Santeria, which is more of a Latin based spiritualism.

Okay.

Where they say you've got dark energy or you have to their client that you have spirits that aren't at rest or you've got a demonic spirit or a hex has been placed on your family.

Give me $300 and I will say a spell to remove it.

So I don't know if that's where this particular tiktoker was headed with that, if she monetizes people's fear.

But whatever she's doing with it is not constructive and it's not good for people to follow someone like that down that path.

Yeah.

So I don't, I don't know if that makes sense as a medium.

I know that different.

We have different personalities and different life experiences and come from different places and that can tie in our personality, can tie into our style of readings, but this is completely different.

This is a different belief altogether where she believes that spirits are demonic and they've been watching us for our entire lives and our family for their entire lives.

It's interesting, she sounds like she hasn't been on the planet for centuries.

So I'm curious as to where she is getting her source of information for this.

But either way, it was a lot harder 20 years ago when I had to be able to prove something that could be visually monitored by others and let people draw their own conclusion.

And then there's today where people ask for no proof and they go down these roads just believing it or willingly going down these roads and seek out these people.

It wasn't like that 20 years ago.

20 years ago we probably had like four well known mediums on the planet that had a TV presence.

And you didn't have hundreds of people out there, some from Nigeria or wherever else in the world that are pretending to be spiritualists, take your money and then they leave you high and dry.

So this sounds like somebody that shouldn't be on TikTok, but I know free information and all of that.

And people are curious about people who have these strange beliefs.

I think it's pretty universal now that people believe that there is life after death and that our loved ones are around us.

And that comes from a constructive, a positive place in knowing that we matter to them and that they continue to be part of our life.

What this woman was talking about serves no one.

Yeah.

So let's go to question two.

Hi, Allison.

My name is Loretta.

And she did pass away in February.

So I appreciated that.

Heads up.

And I was able to plan for it, at least emotionally.

And I did get, you know, a message from my dad before she passed that in the dream that I had, he they were packing to go on a trip to Hawaii.

They'd never been to Hawaii.

I'd actually taken mom to Hawaii.

My, I was packing too.

And then my dad says, well, no, you can't come with us.

So when I woke up, I knew that she was going to be leaving.

And that was The Wednesday before she passed.

And I knew I needed to get to her.

And so I was able to land and be there to spend the last three and a half hours with her.

The question I have is the night that mom passed.

I have since she's passed.

It's been a couple of weeks now, About a month, actually.

I've been experiencing physical reactions that I've never had before.

And so mom had what started her process.

She fell in December, around Christmas time, and broke her right hip at her death bed.

I was actually, I think was sitting on the right hand side, and I had my hand on her leg.

She wasn't able to speak at that time, but I played music for her.

I knew she could hear all the things.

And I never left anything unsaid.

And she didn't either between us.

So I feel good with that.

But it's this physical manifestation of pain that I'm wondering about.

Like, at first I thought, oh, my God, do I have a blood clot?

Because I was on the plane, I was taking aspirin.

I've been to the doctor, and then they don't find anything wrong with me.

And so I'm just wondering how grief or why grief would manifest physically.

I know that I have been crying, but I also know that there's some tears yet that I still have to shed.

Okay, that's my question.

And also, just as everyone, I think that's called in.

I just want to give you and your family a lot of blessings and to thank you for everything that you do for us.

What a sweetheart.

I know everybody likes Loretta.

Loretta, we agree.

Everybody knows she's telling the truth.

No, Loretta was great.

And thank you for sending your well wishes out to the other call ins.

I think that's very sweet.

I'm glad I was able to give her a heads up on her mom's passing so that she could mentally prepare.

And I always tell my clients that in readings, this isn't a bad thing.

This is to prepare you for something that will be mentally and emotionally draining.

And that's the reason it helps to know ahead of time when somebody's gonna pass and what that window is.

So I'm glad that helped.

The dream where dad was helping mom pack.

I love that I was gonna say.

I love that it's so symbolic of that.

He was saying, I'm gonna have mom with me.

She won't be alone.

And I' so that Loretta knew that her mom would be okay.

But also, you can't go with us.

It's not your time.

Yet.

Right.

So I love that it was a straightforward prediction and giving her that information.

Also, she was communicating with her dad in those moments, even though it was more visual.

Experiencing the physical reactions can.

And I know that my healer friends would be aware of this.

They can manifest from.

From grief.

You can start having some physical reactions to loss.

And Diane Goldner could probably explain more specifically and how it affects different parts of your body, depending on what you're grieving.

However, I also know that when people pass and they pass of illness or they feel like their body's broken, sometimes after they cross, they'll make us feel things.

And it's how they communicate with me, too, so that I understand how they died.

Like, what it felt like, what they felt like at the moment they were passing, when they were crossing.

So her mom may be communicating through those feelings that the daughter has.

And so those feelings may be very temporary of what was hurting her or saying, baby, I hurt all over.

You know, I didn't feel good.

And it's, it's, it's.

It's a good thing that I was able to let go.

It was my time.

I wasn't going to get better.

So having a temporary physical reaction can happen when they are trying to communicate to you how they felt at that time so that, you know that they're better off now not having to feel those symptoms anymore.

Her mom may be doing that once Loretta acknowledges it and says, mom, I know you know, I'm just saying, this is me spitballing.

I know that your knees didn't feel good.

I know your back hurt.

I know it was hard to breathe.

Whatever that feeling was, once you acknowledge it, you'll feel an easing of the energy of those physical manifestations that you're getting, and they'll shift their energy to now show you what they feel like now, which will give you a sense of peace, this overwhelming love and wellness.

And so sometimes they communicate it briefly until you acknowledge them and that that's how they felt.

So that they can now show you how they feel in the present.

It's like a calling card.

Yeah.

You know, I've had a guy who was shot in the back and I felt the impact and, you know, lost my breath before.

And that's how they'll communicate that once I acknowledge the young man that was killed and how he was killed and how I was sorry that nobody grieved him, how people weren't there loving him through his life, how he had a hard life, everything eased up.

But it's how they communicate this is me thinking you'll know it's them through those specific types of pains that they communicated to you.

Yeah.

Like, I.

I get it for you specifically feeling those things because you're a medium.

That is what you're supposed to do is tell them, okay, this is how they died.

Or, you know, I.

I feel like.

And I'm not, you know, in healthcare or like a scientist or anything, but I feel like if you're so overwhelmed and obviously crying a lot and like, which can give you headaches and then make it so you're not taking care of yourself as much or eating as much or sleeping or maybe sleeping too much, you know, Dehydrated.

Dehydrated.

I could see that.

And you may be an overthinker, and I'm not judging because I'm also an overthinker.

So you might be feeling something that you've already had before, but you're just thinking so much about it because your mom did just pass away.

So now you're.

Which is actually a good thing, that.

You might be more aware.

She's more aware.

And now you're wanting to take care of yourself and live a long and happy life.

Right.

Which is good that you're going to the doctor and getting it checked out and everything.

I mean, steer clear.

But I feel like you're good and, yeah, you're just sad.

If she wasn't going to be okay, her dad would have packed a bag for her.

Totally right, though.

So that didn't happen.

Obviously, she's not passing anytime soon.

Sometimes they will make you feel things more profoundly in an ache or a need for you to go to the doctor when they're trying to get you there, to intervene on your behalf and buffer you, knowing there's a more severe problem.

So they can do that as well.

But the timing with her mom just dying a month ago, I don't really think it was that.

But I'm glad she's getting it checked out.

Yeah.

Because sometimes people will tell me they had to die in order to save someone else they love.

And that could be her communicating.

I could do that, this unwellness, just.

To get her right to the doctor.

To get her to the doctor to get her checked out.

If it turns out that there was nothing wrong, then that wasn't the case.

Yeah.

So we could eliminate that.

Sometimes people will just take on, you know, because like you said, she's not eating, not drinking, and.

And she's grieving.

And we don't realize that stress depletes our body so heavily.

Yeah.

And I think I'm thinking, right, it's so un.

Underestimated what stress does to our system.

It short circuits us.

So it.

It can be that.

For me, it's when they're communicating how they felt.

Well, and the reason why it said she was an overthinker was because she was thinking back to having aspirin on her flight, and that could cause a blood clot.

And I was like, well, okay, let's tune it.

You know, doesn't that thin your blood, though?

Yeah, but if it thinned your blood, wouldn't it not be likely to clot?

Well, that's why I called her an overthinker.

Okay.

I know I have a lot of nurses as clients.

You can email me and let me know if that's right, because I think they give you the blood thinners so you don't clot.

But anyways, yeah, she's worried.

And when somebody dies, it makes you more paranoid of your own death.

Yeah.

Your own health, your own death.

And so it's heavy on her mind, the energy of the funeral and making arrangements and life after death, even her parents being together.

So because it's so present on her mind, she may be slightly overreaching on the ailments that she's feeling or the dis.

Ease that she's feeling, you know, that unsettled nature that she seems to be in.

So, yeah, I think that answers that.

So thank you, Loretta.

Let's go on to caller three.

Hey, Allison, it's Noah again.

Always love to hear what you have to say.

I love your shows.

So my question today is when I guess I'm such a sucker in a way.

My mom is 99 right now, and she is not dead yet, but she is on her way.

And I'm just mourning like crazy.

It's hard for me to be normal right now.

I know she's 99.

She lived a long life.

I'm a mama's girl, but I'm eight hours away, and how do I tap in when it's time and she is leaving this realm?

Can I actually walk with her to meet the relatives and come back?

Is there a way for me to do it from far away?

Hopefully you could answer that question, Allison.

Thank you so much.

Bye.

So I just thought this was an interesting question, and obviously she is a mama's girl, and she may feel like she needs to be with her mom more than her mom feels like she needs that company as well.

So that's a very specific place to try and be in it seems as though when they pass, they do see their relatives and loved ones.

It seems like kind of a private moment that the only time I've heard anybody say they've witnessed seeing not only the, the mother, but other relatives that were present is near death experiences where everybody comes and says, you've got to go back and they can see them all together or a medium that brings them all through, but not the moment that they're having that crossover.

So I found that very interesting.

Well, especially since, I mean, it's not your time yet, so for you to, I mean, of course you want to walk your mom to the gates of heaven and see your, you know, dead relatives.

I, I mean, I would too, but.

It'S not like taking them to the airport, I was gonna say, but it's.

It'S also not your moment.

Like it's for her moment to have this realization of, oh, McKay, I'm crossing and being at peace with that, you know, and you said you're eight hours away.

I don't know if that's flying or driving or what, but she's 99.

Like, I would try and make it out there as much as possible, especially if you're getting these feelings right now, you know, that's good advice.

I would, I'd go out there and stay if I could.

I would too.

99.

It's a nine year this year.

Year of endings, as we know.

People are falling off that we're seeing all over the place.

People are letting go and transitioning, and that's exactly what a nine year does.

I would bet money that her mom will cross this year and that Noah needs to be there if that's what she feels like she needs to do.

But as you said, it's a very private moment when her mother crosses and sees all the people she loved that she lost throughout her life.

And there's a reunion and if we were there, it makes it about us.

Exactly.

Which is sort of, you know, can be perceived as a selfish act and we don't want that either.

Yeah.

So it's going to be hard for her to leave you too.

I mean, sure, you're a mama's girl.

Of course she doesn't want to leave you here.

But if her mom's 99 to say she's probably ready.

No, it's not worried.

Or Noah's mother is not worried about her five year old daughter being able to eat and survive.

It's different.

She'll know that Noah's going to be all right.

Well, and even the Last, I think it was Loretta, who.

Whose mom passed away a month ago.

She said that she got the closure she needed because there was not one thing that was left unsaid.

So maybe go be with her.

Say everything you want to say to her.

Listen to the stories from her as a kid or you as a kid, and just get the most out of it.

So when it is time for her to cross, you're at peace with it.

I had a friend, Dominique, you know who she is?

And I'd known her since I was 14.

And she died at 31 of cancer and before she passed.

And this is just a suggestion to people who have a loved one that's crossing.

She really wanted to go up north to Prescott.

You know, she wanted to go up there and be in nature and see the birds and the pine trees and have that experience, but she wasn't well enough to.

So a friend of mine and I brought in the plants, we opened the windows.

I even got.

I think it was a bluebird, mylar balloon, you know, to represent nature and butterflies and stuff like that, and brought it to her house and just tried to surround her and sort of say, close your eyes, you know, now, and let's visualize you taking a walk and what that would feel like.

I know it's not the same, but it is nice to ask when you know someone's going to pass.

What do you want?

Not me.

It's not about me.

What do you want?

And do those things with them.

Domini wanted a lobster for dinner before she died because she had never had lobster.

Yeah.

And so we took her out for lobster, and she ate it, and she was very happy.

But it can be something as small, as sad.

And I'm so glad we did it.

I mean, what a special memory, you know?

So I hope Noah does that with her mom.

Also, record your mom talking about anything historical in the family, especially if there's younger people in the family to pass that knowledge onto, because that information dies with that person.

And I just find it a very good idea to get older people on video to sort of encapsulate the moment and to be able to pass that along.

So recipes.

Yeah, Things of that nature.

That's one of the big ones I hear from women.

They're like, my mom didn't write her recipe down.

Did you ask?

Yeah, I was gonna say, did you even ask?

I love it.

So, anyways, Noah, thank you for calling in, and I wish you well.

I hope your mom has a smooth passing.

My sense is she will have a smooth passing.

You cannot be there at the moment that she crosses on the other side.

However, you can be next to her, holding her hand, and that's an important place to be as well.

Okay.

Well, Sophia, thank you for weighing in today.

No problem, then.

Thank you to my listeners.

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