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Welcome to parenting ourselves with wisdom and kindness.
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This is a little meditation where we can zoom out from our lives and we can be that wise parent
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that just gives us that little bit of advice we could do with occasionally
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when somebody else comes to us with a few issues in their lives. We sit down and we go, do
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you know what? This is what I would do.
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So begin by just allowing your body to become comfortable.
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Allow your shoulders to relax.
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And become aware of your breath.
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You don't need to do anything with your breath.
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Your body knows how to breathe.
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You don't have to do anything with your shoulders or arms.
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Only your body. Your body knows how to relax.
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You've just got to allow it to happen.
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Just like you allow this moment to be what it is.
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You may notice your breath becomes slightly slower.
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Your body becomes more relaxed. And
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your mind becomes more open and quiet. It
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all happens just if you allow it to happen. Breathing in calm. Breathing out relax
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Breathing in calm. Breathing out relax
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And if there is any little pockets of tension, anywhere from the top of your head right down to your
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toes,
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just recognise it and then allow it to relax. Allow
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it to soften.
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Then bring your awareness back to your breath.
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You're breathing in
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And you're breathing out.
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And if at any time you get distracted in this meditation, that's fine. Just smile and bring it back to
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the breath.
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And the next instruction, you may miss something and that's okay.
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So just imagine zooming out on your life.
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Seeing what you've done today or what you've done this morning. As
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if you're just observing and watching it.
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It could be as a parent or a coach or just a friend.
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And just see yourself going about your business and what you normally do.
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How do you spend your time?
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How do you treat your body?
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Are you being kind to your mind?
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And just pause to see how you're doing and what you're doing on a daily basis.
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I would like you to pick on something in particular that you normally do. It may be to waste time.
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It may be scrolling on your phone or watching Youtube clips.
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Or it may be something to your body, the way you're eating something that's not quite healthy.
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Or maybe doing something to avoid thinking.
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Whether it's drinking or anything just to avoid the
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sitting here being alone with your mind. Pick
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one of those things and just really watch.
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And now imagine yourself watching as a loving parent.
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You're not going to intervene for a minute, you're just watching.
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You're observing to get the best way in which you might be able to help.
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It's not to be critical or harsh. You're
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there to be kind and supportive.
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And what one thing would you advise yourself to do differently? What
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one thing can you mention or bring up?
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What one thing can you do differently that would really make a difference to your life?
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It's not to judge or say you're doing anything wrong. It's just to go as a wise parent and
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a loving parent just to, well perhaps we can do this something a little different.
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Perhaps we can turn the Tv off now or turn it off more regularly. Perhaps we could read a bit
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more of the book or eat a little less when
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it comes to the nice things that we're eating.
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And now just imagine what it would be like for you to carry that food to the future if
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you did this one thing different every day that
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the parent within you is encouraging you to do. What
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if you just change that one thing every day? How much different would your life look in a week or
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two weeks?
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That kind, loving encouragement.
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And just bring it back to your breath now and this moment.
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And put that wise parent within you as well and that child and that you. And you're all
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part of the one. And
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just imagine looking
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at your life occasionally during the day, just stepping back and going, what would the parent do now?
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If I had a wise, loving parent, what would they advise me now?
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And this is how we can make little changes in our lives. We have all the wisdom. We have all
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the knowledge. We know what we should be doing. We've
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already read that book. We've already got the advice. We already know exactly what we need to do. But
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yet we sit back and we very often just don't do it because we just haven't got that structure. Or
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we fear doing it for some reason
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when we just allow this moment to be what it is and we look upon what we do on a
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daily basis from the parent's eyes, from the parent's wisdom,
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we can then change how we do a few things.
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And if you imagine it now as part of your everyday life, how
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does it feel to live with this shift?
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So in a moment I'm going to come back from five.
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But just before we return, just really appreciate your body and appreciate this moment.
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And just thank yourself for opening up and being vulnerable.
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We're just going to return to the room and return to this moment.
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Five, four, gently open your eyes. Three, just shake out your arms, wiggle your fingers
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and toes. Two, look around the room and just imagine your life now as integrating that wise
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parent
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tells you at 11 o'clock in the evening, just turn the Tv off. Or just read a bit more of
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that book. Just like you would your younger self. Let's read a couple more pages sending
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those small little changes. We know what we should be doing. But we don't very often get out of our
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own way. We don't very often see it from the outside. We don't have to wait till the consequences are
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too late, too many late nights watching Tv or too many hours doom scrolling. And
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I'm guilty of these things. And this is why this has come up for me and I thought what a
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wonderful thing to do. Just be a wise parent to ourselves.
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So thank you. Thank you for your support. And I really do appreciate you've been part of this journey.
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You can find all my links and you can donate and help at StevenWebb.uk. Thank
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you and take care. Bye.
