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Working On Yourself And Why It Matters
Episode 1012th May 2022 • The Daily Podcast with Jonathan Doyle • Jonathan Doyle
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Today we discuss an interesting quote from Jordan Peterson. We can often find it much easier to care for other people than we do for ourselves. What if we could develop an attitude where we began to see ourselves as worthy of our best efforts.

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We're going to talk about a quote from Jordan Peterson.

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You'd be very familiar with that name.

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Really interesting guy.

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You know, last year I used to go riding at 4:00 AM.

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I used to do training rides pitch-black and here in Australia,

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kangaroos, I used to ride out into the Bush and, uh, it's just crazy.

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Anyway, I was listening to a 13 hour.

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Lecture series by Jordan Peterson, really fascinating guy.

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And one of the things I like about him is that he suffered he's a lot of suffering

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in his life, particularly in the last few years, medical, uh, personal suffering.

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So he he's somebody that I guess, you know, walks his talk.

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So let's jump in.

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You're gonna love this quote from Jordan Peterson.

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Let's do it.

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You are going to work to make things better for yourself as if

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you are someone you are responsible.

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For helping.

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I love this.

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I think all of this, most of us, especially the kind of people that

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watch this sort of content, this sort of channel, we're good at

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helping other people, you know, none of us are perfect, but if you

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saw somebody in a really difficult situation, I'm pretty sure you'd help.

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Like if you could do something to make somebody's life a little bit

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better, I'm pretty sure you would like, you've gotta be pretty.

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You got to have some issues to just completely not want to make other people's

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lives better in some small way of it's easy for you to do, but here's the point

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of Jordan Peterson's quote, is that we're actually good at doing it for others.

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But do we bring that approach to ourselves?

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You know, he says we need to start to work to make things

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better for ourselves, not worse.

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I mean, how many of us, me included at times do dumb stuff that hurts ourselves.

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You know, we carry all sorts of wounds and brokenness and pain from life experience.

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So we do all sorts of crazy stuff.

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We self medicated.

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We, we have a Gresham, we have, you know, we, we heard other people,

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we do all this sort of stuff.

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But this concept of self-compassion of, of, of beginning to

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treat ourselves better.

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And I like how we use the word work.

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We're going to go to work.

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We're going to get.

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For ourselves, we're going to make ourselves better.

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We're going to do what we can reasonably to heal ourselves, to make our lives

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better as if we were someone else's, if we would do for ourselves, what

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we would so easily do for others.

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I mean, if you think about the fact that Jesus famously said what

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the golden rule do unto others, or love others, as you love yourself.

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And this is kind of imperative that it's that until you can have some

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compassion for yourself, it's it's can be hard to have compassion for others.

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So practically, what does it mean?

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It means as we go through our day, We're a project.

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We need to see ourselves as a self-improvement project.

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You know, we need to see ourselves as, what are the limitations?

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What are the things that we're doing?

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What are the things that need to change?

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What help do we need?

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What book do we need to read?

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What therapists do we need to see?

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What program do we need to start with?

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Jim, do we need to join?

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How do we need to change our diet?

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How do we need to stop watching pointless things?

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You know, this concept of what do we need to do to start to go to work on ourselves?

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And I reckon if you're watching this or listening to this right now,

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you know, I know we all know, but we struggled to do it sometimes.

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I don't know whether it's because we think it's selfish or, you know,

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I mean, I'm in a phase, a lifestyle with a young family that, you know,

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there's not a lot of bandwidth, right?

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Like you're giving and giving and giving.

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We have to remember that we can't give from an empty, well,

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The work that we do on ourselves, this whole personal development space,

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the purpose of this work isn't to be the richest person in the graveyard.

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The purpose of this work is so that we can become fully who we

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are so that we can love the people that have been put in our lives.

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That's the point, right?

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We can serve and contribute.

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So let's take his words to heart.

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Let's go to work on ourselves.

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As if we are somebody that needs our help, it's a good thought experiment.

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I want you to think about in your life.

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Are you doing that right now?

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Are you doing things right now that help you to grow that help you to develop

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so you can love and care for yourself and then love and care for others?

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That's a point.

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All right.

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Okay.

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That's it got to work on ourselves?

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It says the weekend here, when I'm recording, I've got to be good to myself.

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I got to be good to myself so that I can be good to the family so that I can

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continue to contribute and create content.

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So what are you going to do?

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What are you going to do to treat yourself the way that you would treat

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somebody else that needed your help?

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All right.

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