Dr Demartini reveals why we can be quick to blame others, and the valuable feedback that the “blame game” can offer you on your journey to master your life.
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So, is there a karmic
wheel? Well, yes and no,
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:because our perceptions that are
imbalanced are not the actual truth,
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:they're our misperceptions about reality.
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:You've probably heard of the term
from the eastern mysticism, karma.
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:And today I'd like to talk
about karma and the idea,
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: is there a cosmic boomerang,
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:Is there some sort of a feedback to us
about our behaviors and our actions?
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:A causality, a cause
and effect relationship?
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:So if you have something to write
with and write on, it would be great.
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:But every time you perceive
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:somebody else in a way that
you put them up on a pedestal,
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:and minimize yourself relative
to them, by the law of contrast,
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:you exaggerate them, you minimize you,
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:and you feel ashamed or less
than compared to something you
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:admire, that you think is more than,
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:that diminished self is stored
in your subconscious mind.
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:Because you're actually
creating a valency,
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:a judgment on yourself
and negating yourself.
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:You're putting a negative charge on it
and you're putting a positive charge on
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:them.
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:So you're assuming that they caused you
more pleasure than pain in the sense of
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:you're admiring them,
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:but at the same time you're comparing
yourself to them and so you're causing
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:yourself more pain than pleasure
and minimizing yourself.
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:You can also see somebody and look
down on them, and put them in the pit,
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:not on the pedestal. And now you
are exaggerating their negatives.
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:And now you puff yourself up
and exaggerate your positives,
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:and you think they're causing you your
pain and you think that they're the cause
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:of your pain. And you think that
you're now the cause of your pleasure.
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:So anytime you exaggerate somebody
else and minimize yourself,
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:or minimize somebody else and exaggerate
yourself, you have an imbalance.
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:And whenever you are too humble to admit
what you see in these people you admire
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:inside yourself, you
have a deflected part.
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:And whenever you're too proud to
admit what you see in them inside you,
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:you have a deflected part. So
every time you judge somebody,
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:you have deflected parts, you
have deflective awareness.
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:That means you're conscious
of the positives and
unconscious of the negatives in
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:them, and conscious of the negatives
and unconscious of the positives in you.
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:Or conscious of the negatives in them,
and unconscious of the positives in them.
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:And conscious of the positives and
unconscious of the negatives in you.
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:So anytime you judge, you split your
full consciousness, mindfulness,
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:into conscious and unconscious halves.
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:You also disown part of what you see
and therefore you have deflective
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:awareness. When you have deflective
awareness and those disowned parts,
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:those are emptiness. That's why
whenever you judge somebody,
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:you have an emptiness inside.
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:Now when all of a sudden you see
that whatever you perceive in them,
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:you have in you, and you're not
putting them up and minimizing you,
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:but leveling the playing field and have
reflective awareness, where the seer,
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:you, the seeing, the process,
and the seen, them, are the same.
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:This reflective wa awareness
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:has a level playing field and you
have equanimity within yourself,
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:you're balanced in yourself, and you
have equity between you and them,
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:they're equal and there's an equilibrium.
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:And now you don't have an emptiness,
you don't have a void there,
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:you have fulfillment. So when you
actually have a balanced orientation,
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:have reflective awareness and get to
love the part of them and get to love the
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:part of you, and are not
exaggerating or minimizing you,
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:which is inauthenticity, or exaggerating
minimizing them, which is inauthentic,
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:you now have a balanced orientation.
This balanced and loving orientation,
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:reflective awareness is the dharma path in
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:the Eastern mysticism. And every
time we judge is the karmic wheel.
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:Because anything we infatuate with
or resent we keep dealing with.
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:You probably tried to sleep at night
somewhere in your life and you had
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:something that was really,
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:really resentful on your mind that you
really resented, somebody resented,
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:and you really put them down and
thought, oh, I would never do that,
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:and you're too proud to admit
it. And then you can't sleep,
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:'cause it's regurgitating in your brain,
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:it's intrusive with thoughts
and you basically constantly
going through the mind
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:and has difficulty sleeping.
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:And if you infatuate with
somebody and minimize yourself,
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:the same thing can occur.
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:Anytime you polarize the mind and
exaggerate or minimize others and then
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:yourself, minimize and
exaggerate yourself, you have
that deflective awareness.
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:It's stored in the subconscious mind.
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:It becomes intrusive
thoughts or brain noise,
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:static in the receiving system. And when
you do, it just keeps reverberating.
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:It reverberating, it's stored
in the subconscious mind.
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:The subconscious mind stores all lopsided
perceptions until you bring them into
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:balance. And when they go into
balance, you have a transcendent state,
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:a superconscious mind,
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:and you have love and appreciation and
inspiration and enthusiasm and certainty
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:and presence. You're not wavering
with uncertainties, you're present.
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:So that's the dharmic path in
the Eastern Buddhist tradition.
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:And the karmic wheel is
all of those judgments.
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:So anytime you judge others
or judge yourself and
exaggerate or minimize them or
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:you, you automatically have
this idea of a false causality.
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:'Cause When you exaggerate yourself,
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:you'll feel proud and you assume that
you did something more positive than
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:negative. When you're ashamed,
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:you think you did more negative than
positive to someone. When you admire,
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:infatuate with them, you think they did
more positive than negative to somebody,
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:you. And when you resent somebody,
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:you think that they did more
negative than positives to you.
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:Anytime you have a judgment and you have
an imbalanced ratio of perceptions and
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:you have a polarization and you have a
valency, as they call it in chemistry,
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:and it's charged,
positively or negatively,
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:and you're judging and you think you're
too good or too bad relative to somebody
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:else, or they're too bad or too good
relative to you and deflective awareness,
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:that's the so-called karmic
wheel. And that does run your,
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:impact your life.
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:It just keeps regurgitating in the
brain until you finally bring it back to
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:balance. The brain stores,
the amygdala inside the brain,
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:the subcortical part of the brain assigns
the valency, assigns the judgment,
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:the hippocampus then stores
that in the memory process.
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:And we sit there and they're stored
until we bring it to balance.
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:That's why I tell people to come
to the Breakthrough Experience,
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:the seminar I do on how to
dissolve that and teach them the
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:breakthrough, the Demartini Method.
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:The Demartini Method is a series of
specific questions on how to dissolve all
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:those judgments and to liberate
yourself from all those regurgitating,
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:that brain noise and the noise in the
brain that's basically holding you back
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:and distracting you.
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:Because anything that you infatuate with
or resent is an impulse or an instinct
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:that distracts you from being present
and being certain in life and being
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:empowered in life. So is there a
karmic wheel? Well, yes and no,
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:because our perceptions that are
imbalanced are not the actual truth.
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:They're our misperceptions about reality.
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:You've met people before where you were
infatuated with them and you thought,
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:wow, they were, you've got them up on
a pedestal. And then a day, a week,
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:a month, a year, or five years
later, you look back and go, wow,
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:now that I really get to know them,
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:I find out they've got just
as many downsides as upsides.
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:And the thing you think was terrible
in your life, a day, a week, a month,
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:a year, five years later,
you look back and go, well,
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:now it's a turning point in my
life, I'm glad that happened.
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:So you can have the wisdom of the ages
without the aging process by looking now
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:and asking the right questions by doing
the Demartini Method I explain in the
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:Breakthrough Experience.
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:Or you can have the wisdom of the ages
with the aging process and age
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:The karmic wheel when you judge and
you don't neutralize it is the aging
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:process. And the dharmic path, which
is the path of purpose in life,
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:which realizes that no
matter what's going on,
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:it's actually part of a balanced act
and is trying to get you back into
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:equilibrium. See our intuition, which
is a homeostatic mechanism in our brain,
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:it's trying to point out the downsides
to the thing you think is up and to the
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:upsides to when you think you're
down. So if you're resenting somebody,
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:it's trying to whisper you the
upsides to calm down the resentment.
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:And if you're infatuated it's
trying to show you the downsides.
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:So if you meet this really guy
that you're really infatuated with,
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:your brain says, too good to be
true, keep your eyes open, watch out,
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:your intuition's trying to show you
the downside so you're not gullible.
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:You have enough skepticism
to balance the gullibility.
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:Then if you're resentful and you have
something that happened and your brain
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:says, well, there's got to be a
purpose to this, a meaning to this,
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:there's got to be some reason for this.
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:It's trying to bring them into balance
so you can see that no matter what
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:happens, it's actually got a balanced act.
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:So anytime you have an
imbalanced ratio of perceptions,
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:you've got emotions and
emotions are causal,
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:and they basically keep you in this
regurgitating and static in the brain and
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:this noise in the brain,
and you're trapped.
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:You're embondaged to whatever
you infatuate or resent.
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:It occupies space and time in
your mind. And so therefore,
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:the embondagement of this so-called
karmic wheel is simply our
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:inability to ask the right questions
to balance out the equation,
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:to have reflective
awareness over deflections.
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:When we actually ask the right question,
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:which is I developed in
the Demartini Method.
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:It's very precise questions on how to
take whatever you're perceiving in an
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:imbalanced way that's running your
life, that's holding you back,
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:which is limited beliefs,
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:basically if you ask those questions
and neutralize it and hold yourself
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:accountable, which means to bring
your balance sheet in balance,
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:you hold yourself accountable and you
liberate yourself from all the baggage,
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:and you're out of your karmic
path and on your dharmic path,
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:
to the dharmic path.
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:Instead of going around in circles,
you actually get focused Again.
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:That's why I tell people to come to the
Breakthrough Experience and learn the
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:method and use the method,
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:because you can weigh yourself down with
baggage and be gravitationally weighed
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:down, or you can be lightened up and
inspired by balancing out the equation.
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:It's not what happens to you in
life, it's how you perceive it.
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:And if you choose to perceive it in
a way that's leaving you empty with
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:judgment, then you're
trapped. You trapped yourself.
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:You chose to be caught
in that moral hypocrisy.
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:The things you think are terrible
actually have terrific in it.
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:It's like a yin and yang symbol.
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:And the things you think are
terrific have terribles in it.
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:Don't be fooled by facades, don't
be fooled by one-sided perspectives.
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:They're not the whole. The
whole is a balance of opposites.
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:You could say that the synchronicity and
the synthesis of all opposites is what
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:I call love.
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:And when you have an imbalance and
you've got your conscious and unconscious
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:mind split, you've got
judgments and strife. That
was made stated by Empedocles,
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:literally 2,500 years ago, he
said there's love and strife.
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:When you put the elements together and
integrate and balance the equation,
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:you have love. When you have an
imbalanced equation, you have strife.
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:So if you have a balanced perspective,
you have a balanced physiology,
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:a balanced psychology,
and you're governed,
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:and you see the hidden order in life.
When you don't, you're in chaos.
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:And so that karmic wheel, if
you will, that's been described,
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:that keeps regurgitating
in whatever we experience,
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:judging ourselves or others just
keeps recycling in our life,
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:is not because it has to be there,
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:it's not because there's some sort of
punishment and reward system really.
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:It's that we haven't loved it,
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:and it's giving us a reminder and it's
giving us feedback to let us know what we
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:haven't loved so it gives
an opportunity to love it.
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:And the quality of our life's based on
the quality of the questions we ask.
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:If we ask questions that help equilibrate
the mind and balance out the mind and
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:transform the so-called karmic wheel
into the dharmic path, we're freed,
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:we're liberated. We have moksha
in a sense, satori
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:We have a rejuvenation of our being,
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:and we're actually in the essence of our
being instead of the existence of our
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:becoming.
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:We're not in a personal personas and
masks that we are wearing where we're
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:exaggerating and minimizing
with imposter syndrome,
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:but we're actually in the state of grace
and love and inspiration and enthusiasm
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:and certainty and presence,
the transcendental state,
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:which is the super conscious mind.
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:So we can either live in the subconscious
mind and run around in the wheel of
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:the boomerang effect in the, that they've
called it in the Eastern mysticism.
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:Or you can actually get in the
superconscious mind and be on the path.
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:I'd much rather tell people on the path.
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:That's been my mission
for 51 years teaching,
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:that why each of these
classes I present each week,
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:and that's basically a design to do that.
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:So you have the capacity to ask
quality questions to equilibrate to
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:mind and bring yourself back
into equanimity within yourself,
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:so you're authentic and equity between
yourself and others where you have
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:reflective awareness. When you do,
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:you liberate yourself from the things
that preoccupy your mind and recycle
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:around in your life and
keep running your life.
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:And the so-called karmic
boomerang, if you will,
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:and you liberate yourself and
get on with your mission in life.
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:An inspired mission is not the same
as a regurgitating and recycling
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:passions.
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:The animal passions are all the judgments
and all the emotions that are trapping
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:in us. And the inspired mission is the
path that's clear and consciously full,
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:we have mindfulness, if you will.
And that's what meditation was for.
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:That's what the Demartini Method's
for in the Breakthrough Experience.
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:That's what I tell people to come
to the Breakthrough Experience.
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:If they come there, I can show them a
methodical, scientific, duplicatable,
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:transcribable, translatable,
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:literally methodical system to help
them dissolve the baggage that's
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:holding back and running them
down and distracting them.
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:So I just wanted to take
a few moments to describe
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:this so-called karmic boomerang,
if you will, in the world.
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:And just know that you have the capacity
with the quality of the questions you
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:ask to liberate it. So in the Demartini
Method at the Breakthrough Experience,
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:I show you exactly what the
questions are, how to do them,
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:I let you experience it, and
we do it. We dissolve stuff.
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:You see the difference,
feel the difference,
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:experience the difference
right there on the spot.
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:And you learn how to use that
for the rest of your life.
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:And that's worth the
learning. I promise you.
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:I've been studying
human behavior 51 years,
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:and I'm certain you have the
capacity to transform your life.
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:You don't have to be caught, you don't
have to sit there and blame well,
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:it's because of some past life karma that
I've got this thing trapping me in my
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:life. No. Even in
multi-generational epigenetics,
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:we know that we have the capacity to
change the epigenetics at any moment.
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:We have the capacity to
change the so-called karma.
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:And that is simply by asking quality
questions that equilibrate the mind and
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:liberate us from the, the misinformation
that we're giving ourselves.
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:Just like out there in the mass media,
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:there's misinformation
campaigns going on in the media,
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:there's also misinformation
that we give ourselves.
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:And then we want to be
able to use objective.
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:That's why I tell people
to live by priority.
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:When you're living by your highest
priorities and living by what's most
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:important to you, you increase the
probability of having an objective view,
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:a balanced view, and you
have less of the karma.
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:If you prioritize your life and prioritize
what you're doing and what you're
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:eating and what you're spending
your money on and everything,
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:prioritize your life,
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:you decrease the probability of the karmic
wheel and increase the probability of
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:the dharmic path. Because your highest
value is an expression of your highest,
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:your path in life, your
teleological purpose if you call it.
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:So give yourself permission
to prioritize your life.
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:Give yourself permission
to ask quality questions.
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:Give yourself permission to live
objectively, not subjectively,
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:prioritize your life. Come to
the Breakthrough Experience.
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:Let me show you how to break through the
limitations that you may be imposing on
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:yourself and being trapped by in these
impulsive and instinctual cycles that you
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:get caught in and show you
how to liberate your life.
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:The path of inspiration is
what's possible for all of us.
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:So I just wanted to
take a moment like that.
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:I look forward to seeing you at the
Breakthrough Experience and have an
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:absolutely amazing week.