I wanted to address this problem for a larger group because it keeps coming up with my clients and people that want to work with me or another business coach, mentor, guide, healer, etc. Some of them have just found me, others have been on my email list for years, and they want to work with me but for whatever reason they can’t afford to. I’ve been in that situation myself and I want to support you in overcoming this for yourself.

If you’re finding yourself unable to invest in the programs or mentorship that you desire, this episode will help you:

1. Unpack some blocks that may be keeping you from investing right now
2. Vet and learn from mentors in some less common ways
3. Clarify what you’re actually searching for and whether this person can help you get there
4. Energetically balance your business relationships
5. Avoid splicing your energy

Any work you do before you begin working with a mentor is healing, even if you haven’t started the program yet. You are still healing money, worthiness, and trust wounds just to get that far. 

I have some supportive materials I've prepared for you if you're not feeling how life is life-ing right now inside ACCESS. To join, visit ashleyjohns.com/access. 

Share with me what inspired you in this episode! Tag or DM me via IG @ashinspires, or visit my website at ashleyjohns.com

May you walk your path with courage and compassion!

with love, trust and devotion to my path,

Ash x

Music: Cafe Lounge by FASSounds | A Podcast Launch Bestie production

Okay, so I am really feeling, this particular episode is really

important, and I'm so glad that I'm doing it now because this is something that

I have been, I don't wanna say avoiding talking about, but I would always just

address it and help people on a personal basis, , as opposed to actually having

an episode or a teaching specifically, dedicated to this particular issue.

So today we are talking about.

what to do when you can't afford a program or you can't afford to

work with a elder, a mentor, a guide, a coach, a healer, whoever.

and you really, really want to, and you wanna work with them to

help solve the issue of not being able to work with them, right?

Essentially.

And so when I talk about this most times, you know, what would come to mind is

essentially I really wanna work with a business coach or a business mentor

or getting this business or messaging or marketing program, but I actually

don't have the money to pay for it.

Or I really wanna work on my body and get healthy.

But I don't even have like, not only the finances, but I don't.

the money or the finances to buy the materials to even participate fully.

I might be able to get in the program, but all the things that

I have to purchase to be part of that program would be a stretch.

Or I really wanna learn about business and be mentored by business.

And I have the money, but I don't have the time cause I have to go to my day job.

But I do want to learn about business so I can quit my day job.

You know, any experience where essentially there is this chicken and egg experience

where you want the support, but there's, the thing that's stopping you

from getting the support is what the support is supposed to help you with.

So meta, it's so meta, I wanna talk about that.

I get a lot of people reaching out, wanting to speak with me, wanting

to connect, want to work with me, following me online for a long time.

Even being on my email list for years.

And like every now and again.

actually, quite often I will get messages from people being like, I really wanna

work with you but I can't afford it.

Or I really wanna work with you, but the time zones, or, I really wanna work with

you, but I've already committed myself to this or, I really wanna work with you, but

I feel like I've already spent my money on these things and I need to change my

money situation in order to work with you.

You know what I mean?

So I just wanna dedicate a whole entire episodes of this experience

because my heart truly mm, goes out to those who are in that situation.

I have been in that situation personally myself.

I know what it feels like and I want to guide you, support you talk about

how I transform that experience for myself and give you some tips on

how you can overcome this yourself.

So before we get started, I wanna talk about something else, slightly,

and that is that when we're gonna do a quick tune in and just kind of.

Ground ourselves and get into this episode.

But two is that I do have an entire money course coming out.

It is, maybe by the time you're listening to this, it's already out,

so just check out the show notes.

But it's called The Old Money Course, and it's a journey of healing and transforming

your relationship with money, finances, abundance, and generational wealth

by doing the work to do that, right looking at your old money wounds, your

old money, beliefs, patterns imprints, blockages, all the things that's

preventing you from relating to money in the way that you want to, whether

it's you have the narrative of it's not enough or that it's gonna go away, or

that you have to work hard for it, or that it's evil or that it's bad, or that

it ruins whatever your storylines are.

And there's like a million of them out there.

But there's some key ones that.

Seem to resonate or circled around most often with people.

That's what this program is about, and it's my take on it.

You know, there's a lot of money courses and programs out there, but

I've never done one or put one out.

I have worked with private and group clients on this inside of the container

or the program that we were in.

So money and business always come up, but I've never put anything out that was a

hundred percent like we're just gonna talk about your personal ancestral relationship

with money, finances, abundance, and wealth, and what you want it to be.

So check that out.

The information's in the show notes.

I'll be talking about it a bit more as we move through the podcast.

But here's the first public, if you will, invitation to explore

it, if that resonates with you.

Okay.

So let's tune in for a bit and set the tone for today's episode.

I feel like I came into recording with a lot of energy, and while that feels

really good and it's like exclusive and just like really good energy, I actually

wanna bring it down a little bit.

Let us get into our cozy receptive, energetically aligned

energetically open posture.

That's the word.

Get in your receptivity posture.

Ah, I invite you to take a couple breaths with me in,

hold it for two seconds.

And out,

and we'll do another one.

And as you continue breathing and just get yourself ready to receive what

I'm here to teach and share today, in this episode, I wanna invite the

energy of compassion and understanding.

And I wanna say the energy of teaching, right?

And so feel the vibration of what I'm gonna be talking about and let it be

medicine to you and where you are.

Let it be medicine to someone else.

If you choose to share this episode with someone with who this would resonate and

support . Essentially what I'm saying is let this be an invitation to truly

feel and receive what I'm telling you.

Even if the words and language sounds like I've heard this before,

because you may have heard it before.

This is something that I know to be very true and I have learned.

You may have heard something before.

You may hear it every day on social media and the internet, but you haven't

maybe heard it from me in the vibration of who I am today might just be the

day you need it to hear it again, for it to truly click in and and

support you and transform your life.

All these other variables and circumstances have shifted

because it's a new day.

It's a new energy, it's a new, it's new.

Like we haven't never been in today before.

So turn your receptivity lens on and let this meet you where

you're at and where you wanna go.

Okay, so, I wanna tell you guys a bit about my own healing and skill

development journey to date, because I talk about this all the time in

my group programs or even in like my master classes when I offer them.

And in my email list, if you're not on my email list, I talk about

how I work with elders and mentors and teachers and coaches now.

Like to date, you know, I know sometimes we can find someone on the

internet resonate with their energy and their work, see them as a mentor,

a teacher, an elder in which we are in, which I most definitely am.

But we assume that they're not like doing their work.

And I always tell people I teach by living and I'm always still working

on myself, growing, getting to my next level, evolving, deepening,

leveling up, like all of that stuff.

And.

. I've been doing personal development, healing, growth, bettering myself, work

my whole life, but especially since like my teenage years when everyone was

running off and listening to the latest albums and CDs, like I wasn't allowed to.

And, but I was allowed to read books and I've always gravitated towards self-help,

self-discovery, personal development, healing, spirituality, religious studies,

like all of that, the esoteric arts.

And so because of that, I have done everything from free programs.

I've done things that were low price.

I've done things that cost me literally five figure investments for one month,

five figure investments for one session.

I've done things that I needed to pay off over a year, things that I had

to pay off a year and a half, like.

, just a whole range.

And then I've also grown in life based on life, like trusting myself to take a risk,

be receptive to listen since spiritually and intuitively what life was teaching me.

And so I just wanna say first that you don't always have to pay for

personal development and growth, wisdom and knowledge, but it is

always imparted or invoked or initiated into you via something else.

Whether it's your inner self, your higher self, initiating yourself,

whether it's God, whether it's Jesus.

If you believe in that, your de.

The elemental spirits that you are attuned to and belong to, whether

it's your ancestors, whether it's a mentor, an elder, or just life itself.

Like there's always going to be a relationship between a minimum of two

things that are gonna teach you something, whether you're going to pay for it with

financial money, cash money, credit cards, barter system where you're trading

a trade for a trade, which, you know, I have thoughts about that, but whatever.

I've done it before, I won't ever do it again that I know of.

Or if it's a quote unquote free, but you're paying for it through

your energy, through your chores and your giving back, your volunteering,

your time, your sacrifices, right.

. One of the lessons that I've learned that allowed me to harness the energy of

courage and authority was trusting myself to take the risk to quit my day job when

I did back whatever years, number, years ago, and allow the experience of doing

so be my teacher on trusting my path, taking a leap like I know how to take

leap after leap after leap because I've done it multiple times because one, I

desired it, two life, universe, spirit.

This human experience presented the opportunities for me.

I took those opportunities and I let that experience, that process from beginning

to end and the outcome teach me, right?

And it didn't cost me anything other than making the choice.

Working through my fear, staying grounded in my body, speaking life

into myself, holding myself st.

You know what I'm saying?

Like everything is always gonna require an exchange.

Whether it is again, energy, time, money, those are the main three, you know?

But there are other ways of exchanging something valuable for something else.

So I say that to say you don't have to pay anyone, me or anybody else for anything.

God, life, your ancestors, your spirit, your higher self, all

those versions, right of entities.

We'll teach you what you need to teach, but we do not do life alone.

It's not an isolation.

So if you don't wanna pay someone, or you don't wanna invest in

yourself financially, you will be investing in yourself in another way.

And I want us to understand that because, you know, this is a free

podcast and I'm teaching literally for free, quote unquote right now.

. But in order for you to apply and really metabolize like, digest and metabolize

and get the nourishment of what I'm even teaching now, you have to choose to apply.

You have to choose to step into it.

And that's not always the easiest thing.

Like we can't always see ourselves in that way.

Okay.

I don't wanna go too, too, too far, but I just wanna invite you into

looking at when are you wanting to.

Pay with your time and energy and without money in other ways.

And when it's time to invest financially, monetarily in a program and a

coach, and a mentor and a teacher, and an experience essentially that

will help you transform your life in a way that you actually desire.

It's so funny, my doggy right now, just came onto and he's like, burrowing

himself into the blanket so he could be close to me while I'm talking to y'all.

All right.

We're all nice and cozy.

Okay, so that was perfect.

And like the reason why that's so important is look at this, we're

like 14 minutes in and I haven't even gotten to the actual teaching.

This is gonna be a good.

. I've had people who didn't necessarily discredit my price point or what I

charge or what the experience cost.

They weren't doing that.

They're like, charge what you're worth.

I get it Ash.

And I'm like, I really actually don't believe in that entire

ideology of charge what you're worth.

Like, I'm a hundred percent priceless.

There's only me in this one life, this one time looking this way to do

this mission, to have this energy, to walk in this field this one time.

You know?

So that is, there is no amount of money that could ever surmount to my worth.

I am literally off the Richter scale.

There is no scale for how much I'm worth.

So the charge, what you're worth thing, I think is bullshit.

It's played out, it's old and it's not true.

And it, it actually triggers everybody's worthiness issues but we can get into

that when I have some more episodes about entrepreneurship and my journey and that.

But for today, I just wanna talk about.

You don't have to pay again.

Let me, let me wrap up this thought fully, cuz like I still haven't fully landed

the plane in the way that we want to.

And that is that you don't have to pay for anything in cash

and money and credit, right?

But you will have to pay with your time and effort.

You can quit your job, take the risk, go out, leave social media for a while, sit

in the, in the woods in the nature and let spirit and life teach you that way.

And then come back, go sit with an elder in the middle of

nowhere, an indigenous group.

Go travel across the lands and you know, like do that.

And then come back and integrate it and offer it.

And sit in your wisdom and your knowledge.

And it doesn't cost you what it costs.

You.

Stay in the comforts of your home with your cable tv, with your TikTok, with

your internet, doing your day job, being able to go and eat out when you want.

Having the luxuries to shop what you want, like somewhere you're gonna have to

give in order to receive what you want.

. So there's that.

Okay.

And I could even unpack that further, but for now, that's enough . But yeah, I

mean, I remember when I was first getting my very, very first, and this is like

years ago, I feel like it was like 2011 my first reiki initiation attunement.

And like I, I was living in Chicago at the time.

I had just moved back to Chicago from New York City leaving advertising agencies

and moving into like a smaller agency.

And I remember looking at the flyer for a while.

I think it was like 250 bucks or something.

I can't remember what the price was, but I was like, okay,

this is gonna be an investment.

I really want to become Reiki attuned.

And it makes me giggle now because I literally saved.

The flyer and just kept looking at it and looking at it and meandering

over it and like marinating over it and like, thinking about it.

And am I really, I like missed a couple of the signup dates

because I just was a little afraid.

I didn't think I could afford it.

I thought it was expensive, but I really wanted it and I just kind

of let, I held it for a while.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

Like, one of the tips that I want to share with you, and I'll go back over all of

them succinctly as we move through this episode, but like, if there's something

that you want and you for whatever reason, feel like you can't afford it

right now, or you are afraid to pay for it even though you can't afford it, or

you are nervous that if you pay for it, then you're gonna suffer in some way.

Or you don't know if you're gonna get your money's worth by sending

for whatever reason that you know you want it, but you're not taking action.

Pin it up on a vision board, like keep it folded up in your wallet.

If you have a budget tracker, add it into your budget tracker before

you're even ready to pay for it.

So you can just get used to that money is coming into you and that money is

gonna go out for the thing that you want.

I do future budgets for myself all the time.

I play around what it's gonna feel like to make a million dollars in a

day or a million dollars in a month.

Like I play around with these numbers and like what would I spend it on?

What would I do with it?

Like what would get taken care of?

Who would I give it to?

How would I save it?

How would I invest it?

What is the first thing I'm gonna pay off?

Like I start to talk to money in the frequency and energetics of money

to tell it what I would love to do with it, with it being in my life.

And sometimes I'm making a list of all the things that I wanna experience

and then assigning a dollar amounts to it, such as a vacation back in

the Mediterranean, going to Cyprus, going to Italy, so on and so forth.

I'm like, based on what I wanna do, these are the monies that I know I want to have

available to me to have this experience.

So there's nothing wrong with doing that.

I've had people who said, I've been on their vision board for years,

and they were so excited when they could actually work with me.

Like, that's awesome.

That's a long-term way of manifesting.

That's a long-term way of preparing to work with someone.

And personally, I feel like it's such an honor that you deeply wanted something

enough to keep it in your peripheral until you were ready or you felt like

you were ready to actually experience it.

That's really beautiful, right?

So everything doesn't have to be now, now, now, now, you know, like I have

an image of my future and I, I think we do this a lot actually when it

comes to big ticket items, like big material items such as buying a home or

your dream car or like your engagement ring or, you know, stuff like that.

But we don't do it when it comes to like, personal development or things

that will help us in our day-to-day.

Like I had a picture of housekeeper and a nursing support doula.

I have pictures of things like that that will allow my day-to-day

experience of life prosper.

Pictures of being able to hire the right team.

Pictures of . Yeah.

Like investing in myself.

I want a new mentor at Elder Comp.

There could be an image or a line item for how much I want to invest in

myself with that experience way before it's time for you to actually do that.

So here's an invitation for you to explore that.

If there's something that you want and someone might be marketing about

it right now, but based on where you are, you feel that it's not attainable,

then just go ahead and put it on your ledger, put it in your notebook,

write about it every month or every week or every day that you journal.

Like do that.

So anyway, I did that with my reiki first initiation, and then finally I

did get it and it was beautiful when I was like, okay, I'm gonna pay this $250.

I'm gonna do the one or two day session.

I can't remember if the first, I think the first attunement is just a one day, right.

It was so long ago.

I feel like, I don't remember, but it's okay to do that.

. I know with social media and how everything is speeding up, we feel

like we have to do it right now.

We start experiencing fomo and like a lot of people will ask me, are you gonna offer

this again to almost soothe their nervous system, which is a good thing, soothe

your nervous system and the decision making, but it's also like you don't

have to do that if you want it right now.

Like if you're gonna make an excuse, even though you have the money

right now, but the fear is bigger than your ability to actually take

action and pay for what you want.

If you're asking, are you gonna offer it in the future to give you an excuse

or a way out so that you can do it when it's more convenient for you, you're just

delaying your own growth, in my opinion.

Not to say that you can only grow with me or someone else, but it's not

even about the person or the program.

It's truly about you.

What you are essentially saying to the universe is that I do not value

my own growth, not just what this program or person are, are willing to

teach and share and bestow upon me.

But I also would rather hold onto my scarcity and my limitation than to stretch

myself into what doing so will teach me about my money, about my finances,

about my faith, about my abundance.

Because there's two things happening.

It's the actual program and what it's, and the person or what

they wanna help you with or what you want them to help you with.

But it's also your relationship to money that's happening at the same time.

So you have an opportunity to heal multiple things or

evolve in multiple things.

If you make a decision that you do really want something and you are gonna

call in the finances or do what is required to have the finances or the

energy, or the time or the space, right?

Or the focus to commit and show up to that thing, right.

So, let me backtrack a little bit cause I've already started giving you some

of the things I wanted to cover and I love that it's flowing out organically.

And I know that this is hitting somebody out there to kind of

call you on your BS lovingly.

Cuz I have been here.

I even returned here when I have big investments that I'm making and I'm

working with like a more, a leader.

You know, I've worked with some people that like, seriously, I, I won't go

into all of that, but like, there's levels to this and I've shake it and

this investment of being like, oh my God, the business is just now in like

this incredible overflow and abundance and now I'm gonna go and take this

huge chunk of cash to invest further into me and in the business right now.

Like, I'm really gonna do that.

I know that feeling.

So I know it when you're beginning.

I know it's when it's in the middle.

I know it when it's now at this level.

And to be honest with you, there's people who's, well, this

isn't even about being honest.

I think we all know this.

There's people way beyond me.

Like I feel like I'm a baby in the game, even though.

From my skillset and my wisdom and my knowledge, I'm very

much so an elder returned.

But anyway, back to the very first thing I was gonna teach and share with you

about what to do when you cannot afford a program or to work with a person and

you really wanna join and work with them to work on a particular problem in

your life or to transport something in your life, but you can't even afford to

work with them to work on the problem.

you get what I'm saying?

It's getting like a little bit of a tongue twister, but we're on the same page here.

So first thing, I want you to actually ask yourself why you want to join the program.

Why do you wanna work with that particular person?

Why like truly, and do not.

Go to their sales page or their post or what they told you.

Don't go to my sales page.

Don't go to what I told you.

Don't tell.

Don't go to what I marketed to you.

I want you to take the time in your own words and your own energy and your

own desires to write out or say in your own head why you actually wanna

work with me or someone like why?

, is it that you feel like that they've walked the walk and now they can help you?

Is it that you feel very safe and nurtured and you feel like you can be

yourself and you want a space for someone to witness you and you feel safe with?

Is it because they have a step-by-step process and you feel like all you

have to do is follow that process and you're gonna get results?

Is it that you've been isolated and you're ready to come in communal,

you know, teaching and learning?

Again, is it that you've been in a bunch of communal and like theoretical

book teaching stuff and you wanna have an experience of embodiment

that is personalized to you?

Is it that you wanna partner in building your, like what is the real reason why

you feel drawn to the program and the person and what do you want from it?

You have to know that for yourself and what you're

searching for, because then the.

, aperture, it's one of my favorite words right now, widens, and you can

start to attract the right teacher, mentor, coach, guide, healer, author,

whatever, and program that is going to meet the needs of what you want

and need in your life right now.

As opposed to you seeing someone talking about something and trying

to see if you trust yourself to make the sacrifice to step out there, to

work with them or to sign up, right?

Like get clear on what you want so you can draw to you plenty of options that

will help you move through your journey and move through your journey, not

based on their life or their process or their program, but in my opinion

and what my work is really focused on is this is a program or a processor.

Working with me is about helping you unravel your stuff that's unique to

you and your lineage in your life and your calling and your legacy.

Not that it's the same thing as mine, cuz it's not like this is not a

cookie cutter experience, so, That's another thing to talk about at another

time, but just ask yourself why, like what are you actually searching for?

What do you des desire and what do you need help for?

And why are you drawn to that particular person?

Then you need to ask yourself, if you've done all that you can to

fix, transform, evolve this aspect of your life or your whole life.

If that's the case, yourself in the way that this program or person claims

that they will help you do This is really important because what I see

in this consumerism of self-help and growth and healing and building a

business or having what are all these things is like we're getting so used

to quickly outsourcing our power and being told by experts, quote unquote,

cuz not everybody is actually an expert.

I think we know that by now.

But like we're just getting.

Trigger happy , to my opinion of constantly looking outside of ourselves

for someone to teach or tell us instead of actually applying what we already know

and getting intimate with that first, and then saying, okay, I've tried this.

I've done, you know, 30 days of journaling.

I've held myself accountable as much as I possibly can, and I have

pinpointed where I abandon myself.

I've pinpointed where fear comes in and gets the best of me.

I've pinpointed when I drop the ball every time I've pinpointed, when I have this

reoccurring pattern and I need someone to help me break that pattern and level up.

I'm looking for someone who can hold me to this, who has wisdom, expertise,

practice, proven in whatever ways, vet people for a while, right?

Who can help me in this particular aspect.

Quote unquote, the outcome.

Like right now, we've gotten so used to looking for the outcome and the

results instead of understanding what you need to be healing and transforming

in your own life and patterns and belief in psyche and body, right, that will

allow you to then get those results.

I know that selling the result is what everyone loves cuz we want

more sex, more money, more power, more freedom, time freedom, right?

More ease, more health, right?

We sell that.

But the truth is, when we sell the journey or when you are in love with the journey,

or you believe in the journey, you will always get the outcome that you want.

When you want to evolve who you are as a person and you go through that journey

of evolving yourself, honoring yourself, letting go of old things that you've

inherited and or been taught and or had to pick up to survive, you will always

get the results that you want, even beyond the ones that you realize that you want.

So we're skipping a process like you would have more success and more people

wouldn't feel like they're being lied to, or abused or manipulated by the

coaching industry, which is a whole thing.

Have to do a whole episode on that.

If you were clear about what your pitfalls are and you don't know your pitfalls, if

you don't actually show up for yourself for a bit first, you know, I, I wanna

tell you guys like full transparency, and I've never told anyone this.

I actually didn't hire my first business coach until it was

either late 2020 or late 2021.

I can't remember.

It's one of the two of those, those for some reason that that time of

year is starting to blend together.

Like I was on one timeline.

Either way is I've been doing business literally since college, like since

I was 18 and some way, shape or form.

And I've had my business since 2015 on like officially and before that

it was unofficial cuz I was doing it while I had a day job in advertising

secretively at night on lunch breaks with my coworkers and over the weekends.

So it literally, if we just count 2015 to 2020 or 2021, that's five or six years

of me being in business and making money.

And I did not have a business coach.

I was figuring it out on my own.

I was looking things up for free.

, right?

Or paying for little workshops here and there.

Before I ever invested $1,200 a month for a business coach, plus 10% of my revenue.

And then the price went up and the price went up, and the

price went up right as I grew.

So ask yourself why you want what you want.

Why do you wanna work with someone?

Why do you want to get in a program?

And then ask yourself if you've done all that you can do yourself to transform

your life in the way that you want, that this program or person is telling you.

Because it's really important for you to know that as set

point that will save you so much.

And let me tell you another reason, and this is now me.

Fully on my soapbox.

If you're interested in ever working with me or being in my field or

in my work personally, I'm not in the business of convincing anyone.

And so sometimes when people come to me in a consultation or we're having a

group call and we're doing like q and a or we're about to kick off, like,

you know, a launch of some type of program or some type of experience I'm

offering and people want me to tell them why in so many ways that they should

join a program or what the program's gonna do or why it's structured the

way that it is, or essentially sell the program to them into their life.

I'm like, nah.

Like, take that energy elsewhere.

You need to know what you want.

And it just so happened that I was launching offering, inviting

you into my world and what I do.

And so we have this synergy because we've, we've been called

to cross paths essentially.

, right?

We've been called to cross paths in that moment, but if you don't know

what you want, and then I'm offering something out in the world, in the

internet, whatever, and you're like, oh, I think that's kind of what I want.

That's one of the reasons why we keep hovering and lingering and watching and

going through an entire cell cycle and questioning if we can afford it, and

questioning if it's worth it, and talking yourself into it and talking yourself

out of it and waiting until the last day.

It's because you haven't gotten clear on what you actually want.

Because when you're clear, what you want, the universe is gonna bring it to you.

You're gonna cross paths with the right person at the right time

and just gonna be at instant.

Hell yes.

You might have to check some dots and be like, okay, how long is it?

And like, okay, is there an extra fee?

And like, can I add this or can I, you know, you're gonna work out the things,

but like it's not gonna take you forever.

When I know that I'm hungry and I want to eat something healthy, I am not

going to wait a long time to order.

When I go to the restaurant that I want, when the restaurant shows itself,

cuz I'm driving down the road and I know that I have a taste for a burger,

I'm gonna stop and get a burger.

But if I'm like, oh, I don't know if I'm hungry, or if it's just that I'm thirsty.

And meanwhile someone's like, here's the restaurant coming up.

It's, it has a bunch of slushies and drinks.

And I'm like, oh, I don't know.

And like, can you tell me if this is actually what I want?

Let me tell, you know, you're like, no, you actually don't wanna drink this.

You actually don't wanna eat this.

You're trying to figure it out.

So just keep driving down the road, until you know what you want.

And then you'll pull into the next, opportunity that serves your desire.

So this is very, very, very important and I wanna inspire you to take

this seriously and give yourself permission to get clear on what you

want and what you're searching for.

Yeah, instead of like waiting and hoping that someone's gonna

sell it to you or explain it to you or break it down for you.

. Okay.

So anyway, that was all like bonus, basically . Now I'm gonna

get into the actual teaching.

Oh, it's funny.

This is really, really, really interesting.

Yeah.

When you know what you're looking for, and let me tell you one more thing about that.

This is really good.

Sometimes the truth of what comes through when you ask yourself,

what are you really looking for?

What are you really searching for?

How do you wanna be supported and why?

You'll realize if you've actually fallen into victimhood and you're looking for

someone to save you, or if you're actually ready to be guided into your own power

and process, and that's a big deal.

Like that's a really big deal.

That's what's gonna make or break your experience and keep you in your

power so you can grow and retain what you are being taught, what you're

being shown, what you're being guided into as opposed to starting to create

a co-dependent relationship with a coach, a guide, a mentor, or a program.

It's fantastic to cross paths with someone, to learn from them.

And then when you leave, you're like, I got this information.

My life has evolved and I can like wave goodbye for a while and we may

work together again in the future.

We may not.

You've got when you need it, and you continue on your path.

That is true self mastery, self grow, self-empowerment, and it doesn't have

to be where you are losing yourself or becoming deeply attached to someone

who's supporting you on your path.

All right, let's move on.

So here's the first thing you need to do if you are wanting to get into a

program, but you cannot afford it, whether that's money, which is the main thing

that I'm focusing on in this particular.

recording this episode, but it might be your time.

It might be your effort.

It might be your energy, it might be your focus, like you just don't have

to give or will not give what the program requires to get into it, even

though the program or the person is gonna help solve your issue with money

or time or resources or whatever.

This is what you need to do.

First thing is decide that you actually really want it, right?

So after you ask yourself why you want what you want, and have I

done everything that I need to do?

What am I really searching for?

Once you're clear about that, you need to go ahead and decide that

you actually really want this.

It doesn't matter if it shows up today, if it shows up tomorrow, if it shows up

next week, if it shows up a month from now, if it shows up a year from now.

Or the money shows up today, shows up tomorrow, shows up a week

from now, shows up a month from now, shows up a year from now.

You have to decide that you actually want that experience and

you want this experience to evolve this specific thing in your life.

Right.

And I'm, I'm saying this generally cuz you could touch this into so many aspects

of personal development and growth and healing and empowerment, right.

And leveling up.

So we're just gonna keep it general, but you have to decide,

you can't like say, I would like it or it would make me feel better.

It would create an easier life.

You have to say, I want to have a successful, stabilized, multi six figure

business that brings in 10 K plus a month minimum overnight or while I'm sleeping.

Not overnight, but like while I'm resting.

While I'm sleeping.

Passive income.

Like this is my desire.

I want this and I want someone to teach me how to do it in

a way that resonates with me.

I want, this is like, you have to get clear on this because a lot of

times we want the ease and we want the benefit, but we don't really.

Decide that we wanted, that when it shows itself, we're gonna say yes to it.

We're like a little wobbly on that and I understand why.

Don't get me wrong.

I understand we have fears.

I understand we haven't had anybody in our family show us.

I understand, like all these things, but you still have to decide in your

heart that this is something you want to come to fruition in your life.

That's it.

There is no part of me that does not believe no and has not decided

that she's an entrepreneur.

Even when I had a day job, even when I worked at my first job, which was

McDonald's by the way, like I knew I was always going to be an preneur.

It's taken me, I'm 36 now, so I started doing entrepreneurial

stuff when I was 18 officially.

Right?

So, I mean, you guys do the math, what is it, 26 years?

I can't do math.

28.

I mean, it would be 20, so 18 years, I, yeah, that sounds about right.

18 years.

math is not my thing unless it's a spreadsheet and we're looking at revenue.

Okay, , but.

. I decided that.

And there's been many different iterations of entrepreneurship of business.

Ups and downs, ins and outs with it.

Without it like making money.

Not making money, clients sign up.

Like all these things have happened.

But at the end of the day, I was still an entrepreneur.

Right?

And I did decide moments where I was like, I do need support.

I do need help.

I am ready to be guided in a way for someone to show me what I do not see in

my leadership, in being an entrepreneur and being a CEO and being a spiritual

healer or spiritual entrepreneur.

I need someone to show me what I do not see.

And I'm ready for that.

Right?

And here comes the mentors, the guides, the teachers, the

coaches that have supported me.

So decide that you want that.

That, I mean, I could.

That could alone.

Could be its own workshop on how to decide.

Cuz people think they've decided, but they actually haven't.

But anyway, moving on.

The next thing is, as I was sharing earlier, I've even.

Not only have I put things on a vision board, like people I wanted to work with

or programs I wanted to pay for, or what I was calling in as it relates to support

and guidance and teaching programs.

I even kept the tabs open for the programs.

Like I kept them in my bookmarks.

I use a Mac, so you have like the bookmarks, like,

I need to clean those out.

, there's things when I did clean out my bookmarks that I actually

did sign up for in the future and forgot that I bookmarked them.

And I was like, oh yeah, I did sign up for that and I did do

it, and it was great, you know?

So bookmark stuff, leave tabs open.

Like when I know I wanna sign up for something, but I'm not quite

ready, I'm like, okay, I have three more days to sign up for it.

I'm just gonna lead the tab open.

I'm gonna go travel.

I'm gonna take this flight.

I'm gonna go out to eat.

I'm gonna have a good time.

I'm gonna let it settle in my system.

I'll give myself three days of keeping that tab up before I go ahead and commit.

Like, give yourself a timeframe of when you're gonna commit.

Keep the tab up, marinate on it.

Get the energy of it.

Imagine being in that program.

See if it's really time and if it truly does serve you, and if it's

not, then put it on the vision board or bookmark for the future as

something you're gonna come back to.

This is really important because this kind of eliminates that pressure in my opinion,

like if you truly are in a space where you can't afford it or you can't do it, you

don't have the energy, you don't have the time, whatever the reason is, the hours

that they're meeting for the program isn't available and you've got kids, whatever,

which that's a whole nother sidebar.

Okay.

Email the person, email the teacher, the guide, the mentor, reach out to

them about the program if it's a time thing, or if you do need to see if

there's an extended payment plan, like closed mouths don't get fed.

And something that really bothers me personally is when people tell me

later on that they wanted to sign up for something but they couldn't afford

it, or they didn't have the time and they never reached out to say, is there

any way, is there any possibility?

Could you offer me, can I do this?

Like, go for what you want guys.

. And that doesn't mean that just because you ask or you offer that

you're gonna automatically get it.

Because I've done it and I've gotten a, no, people have done it

with me and they've gotten a no.

Sometimes they've done it and I've said yes, or we've worked something out.

But like you won't know what's possible if you don't do it, which

that in and of itself is, is what one of my mentors will say is free game.

Because you're doing something, you're recoding your ability to

go after your desires, receive a no, and still go for your yes.

Like you're recoding your system and your energy filled by doing that.

Like that in itself is a whole entire healing process if you allow it to be.

, but most times we don't.

We just sit back, we're telling ourselves all these stories, like,

oh, they're gonna think this about me.

Or like, what if I default or what, blah, blah, blah.

Like I had multiple people who were on multi extended payment plans

and like have to do, and that's not obviously my favorite way to work.

I love for people to be able to come right in and commit to their payments, but at

the same time, we're transforming lies.

We're in the in between, we're in the bridge.

And so sometimes you have to build bridges for you to cross over . You

can't just walk over the bridge.

We have to build it as we go step by step, plank by plank.

So I have done that and I was so grateful that not only did someone

meet me in that when they could, but I also met myself in it.

I grew as a person.

When I asked for what I needed, I did stretch.

I did, you know, get a little uncomfortable, but it was achievable

uncomfortability as opposed to like a completely oblating your belief

in yourself by going for something that is completely outta reach.

You know what I mean?

Okay.

So put it on a vision board, leave your tabs open.

The third thing I would suggest is to do all of their free things.

, like reach out to them and ask if there are offerings that are in the

back of the house, is what I call it.

I have so many things I have created over the eight years of this business

that if someone emailed me and was like, do you have anything around this ash?

I would be like, oh my God, I totally do.

Let me send you this link, or let me have my team send this out to you.

Mentors, elders, guides, coaches, teachers, like we have so much content.

We teach so many things because we are living what we teach and we

talk about things so many different ways and then we evolve it.

And like if someone were to email me and ask for something specific and I'm like,

oh yeah, we totally taught about that.

I haven't sold it.

It's just sitting in the back.

I'll give it to you for a hundred bucks.

Or here, just take it.

Like if you don't ever ask.

What someone might have that can meet you where you are currently at.

Because what they're currently offering is outside of your price range or

outside of your resources range.

Like you'll never really know.

And also even though a website or a social media is your real

estate, you know what I mean?

Like it's your home essentially on, on the worldwide web.

We can't make everything visible.

Like you would get lost on my website if you saw every single page.

And so there's a lot of things that are available on my site

that is in the back of the house.

It's a link that is not in the navigation bar.

Like you would only get it if I was running an ad or you asked for it, or

you found one of my old blog posts and clicked on it and was able to sign up.

Like.

I remember when I really wanted to work with someone and I was also vetting

them and feeling them out and seeing if I could trust them and if their energy

was clear and if they, you know, did good work and they were trustworthy.

I was all over their fucking website.

I'm not gonna lie, like I was even typing in their website and doing

backslash and typing in just random things to see if I could find one of

their backend pages and like going through all their old social media posts

if they said anything about DM this or go to this website cuz you know, sometimes

we typed the URL into the actual caption.

I did that work and I found those links and then I would hit them up

and be like, is this still available?

Like, I literally did this to one of my mentors.

I found stuff from her and.

I did like a Facebook search of her name, and she was in all these free

groups back when groups were just coming out . And she had all these links to

things that she had done before, like I'm telling you, six and seven years ago.

And I was like, Hey, is this still available?

You offered it free.

Is it possible to come back to it?

Like, can you, and she, you know, was like, girl, that stuff is so old.

Like what I'm coming out with now, you don't, you're already beyond it.

But I was like, you're on hiatus and I want this support.

I want to learn this with you.

She's like a master Alchemist.

She's not like, she actually is so, This is what I'm saying, when you

wanna vet someone or you really wanna be in someone's wisdom or learn from

them, you don't just sit back and like get lazy about it, you know?

And I don't mean that to be an asshole, I'm just saying the truth of like, we've

gotten so comfortable with being fed stuff through social media and fed stuff.

Like, do you guys know a long, long, long, long time ago, like elders

lived on the edge of a village and you could only go to them when you were

summoned, or when you asked, or when you were like, they had to send word.

You can just rock up and click on a link and book a session and read their words.

All willy-nilly like this, like . And I just wanna bring us back to

that awareness, that care, that I wanna say reverence for taking the

time to look for stuff to explore.

This old saying goes, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

But it seems like in this modern age, people are behaving in a

way where they're like, I want the teacher to appear whenever I want.

I'm not ready.

I'm not showing that I'm ready.

I'm not pursuing, but you just need to come here and serve me and I'll pay what

I can or try to work with you for free.

And it's just not, it's not right.

And let me tell you another side note, and this is whole sermon, but I'm

gonna make it really, really short.

When you're working with a teacher, a guide, an elder mentor, and I will

even include a coach, and they are woman feminine embodied, if you will.

you wanting to receive from them without giving anything,

whether it's appreciation, money, time, reference filling out a

fucking form, which kills me.

Guys, like I'll tell you, one of my pet peeves, I'm totally ranting now,

I'm one of my pet peeves is when I create something, an offer, and my only

ask is that you fill out the feedback form and tell me what you got from

it, help you process the information.

And you can't do that.

But you say thank you in the actual call.

It's like so annoying.

It's so annoying.

. It's such a simple thing to do.

It truly is.

We really need to come back to being present in these healing

and growth relationships.

It doesn't take long to process what you received and give that information back

to a person who is willing to share their knowledge with you so that you don't

have to quit your job and run all over the world and do this stuff on your own.

They're offering it to you right now, right?

Just, just right now, you know what I'm saying?

Anyway, coming back to this.

This is really good though.

I love how this is just flowing out right now.

I know that it's gonna connect.

I know that it's gonna talk to y'all.

But anyway, I found her stuff all over the internet and she was like, you

know, some of it's available, some of it's not, whatever, so on and so forth.

Anyway, getting back to this topic do the free things.

Listen to the podcast like you're doing now.

Sign up for their stuff, ask for and explore things that are back

of house and take your time.

Just like vet marinate, prepare, you're getting into the space so

when you can work with that person.

Right.

And I get it sometimes, like the business people are always like, make

it easy for people, make it easy.

And I'm like, hmm.

Yes and no.

We can't make it so easy that you then not learn how to fish for yourself.

Right?

The whole personal development, personal growth thing is to help

you become a better person for you to have the life that you want.

And that can't be outsourced forever because someone's made

it easy for you to do something.

You're gonna have to stretch your own wings and know how to efer your own

energy in a way that most serves you.

So when you are working with a fem uh, woman a feminine embodied person, and

you're wanting to receive without ever giving anything back, that is essentially.

Doing the same thing that everyone is anti the patriarchy.

You wanna use the resources of the land, but you don't wanna take care of the land.

You want to praise it and be around its energy and leak from it, but

you don't want to sustain it.

You want to be cared for and seen and heard and poured into and

guide it, but you don't wanna give anything back, like pay for it.

Like that is literally abusing the feminine.

And so I'm not saying, you know, calling anybody an abuser, I'm

just saying look at your behaviors.

Because with this movement right now where everybody's still so anti patriarchy

and hate and men and like all the stuff that's going on in the collective right

now, I think it's so interesting that so many women are doing that, but then

they turn around and treat each other the same way that they say that they don't

want men in the patriarchy treating.

and I've seen this with white women, I've seen it with black women, I've

seen it with Latin women, I've seen it with mixed women, I've seen it with

Asian, I've seen it with all of us.

So this is not economics or or socioeconomics.

This is not race.

This is, all of us have been doing this to each other.

And I'll tell you guys, I'm gonna go on a little bit more of a rant.

I've had somebody who claim to be an apprentice of mine, a mentee.

She never received mentorship in that way or being an apprentice in that way.

She was part of a program.

And when I corrected her, I was like, no, this is how this needs to be said.

Decided to like block me, unfollow, remove.

And I was like, wow.

That's so interesting because again, woman to woman and black woman to black woman,

the only thing I'm requiring of you to do is tell the truth, is tell the fucking

truth and honor this work and who I am in the way that it should be presented.

And because I took a stand for that and required you to do

that and called you out on it.

right?

To make sure that the energetic relationship between us is clean and

it's represented appropriately out into the world you showed your ass.

You know?

So we need to be looking at, if we're even congruent in our relationship

to receiving support and guidance and knowledge and teaching and help, whether

it's peer to peer, client to peer mentor to mentee, student to teacher, whatever,

but there's some fucked up behavior going on that is not cool at all.

That was just a side note.

It also helps to set the tone.

, but I can also refer people back to this episode moving forward , cuz

I just couldn't believe it.

I was like, wow.

But these are the similar people who are all, you know, ranting and raving

about black women, this and women this, and feminism that, and da da da da da.

But at the end of the day, you are showing exactly who you are based on how you treat

other people, especially when they hold a high standard for you to adhere to.

So anyway, that standard, bringing it back to what I'm talking about, the

standard is even when you're doing free things, even when you're doing low price

things, even when you're exploring and finding those back of house links, if

this is a program that benefited you, if this is a person you wanna work with

and you're looking to invest further with them in the future when you can't

afford it and you do have the time and it does work out, give back, give back

because you're basically preceding.

Pre abundantly seeding what you wanna be receiving at the next level in the

future when you do work with them.

Right?

If you're not getting the gist right now, this is all about energetics.

Your relationship to asking what you want, energetically, your relationship

to finding and going after what you want.

Energetically, your relationship to deciding what you want

energetically, right?

The energy that you carry sets the precedence of what you have access to.

So working on your energy, you can start doing before you ever pay a dollar or a

dime for anything based on your character and how you choose to show the fuck up.

Next thing, yes, engage in their social media presence when you can.

I think this is a no-brainer for the most part.

I see people doing this all the time.

They'll send me a dm, they'll thank me, they'll be excited.

I've done it to people.

I still do it to people.

Listen to the podcast.

Love what you said.

Oh my God, Ashley's so great.

Commenting underneath.

, which is cool.

And really this isn't even about the person's response or their knowledge.

It's really you getting again, into their energy of what they're

teaching and just having a presence.

You are essentially saying, I'm putting energy towards this because I do

wanna work with them in the future.

I'm not gonna just like silently watch, cuz like, there's an aspect

to that as well, especially if you're not doing it with intention.

I'm watching, but I'm not investing with a comment.

Oh, but I wanna be part of a program that I can't invest in right now.

There's a correlation there.

Again, where's the opportunity to give what you can towards what you want.

If that program or person has the means or the knowledge or the wisdom to guide

and teach you towards the thing that you wanna transform in your life, in what way

do you wanna offer something towards them in exchange for what they can give you?

It's quite simple.

Okay, Five.

Give up the, I already know this and I already do this energy and mindset.

I've seen this where someone really wanted to join a program of mine and

so I did like a freebie or like a talk or something, a q and a session

about it to like warm people up.

And the person was kind of like trying to vet and understand me and

like glean as much as they could because they could not afford to

get into the program at the time.

And so they kind of came with this energy, like, I already know this.

I already do this.

So what's gonna be new in the program again, kind of that like,

prove me, I need what you've got, but I'm not certain for myself.

I don't trust myself.

I don't trust you, so I need you to prove.

And very much so on like an ego trip.

And, and you know, for me, I'm just like, I don't know what to tell you then.

If you already know this and you already do this, then you wouldn't be here.

Like your energy was drawn to this program for a reason.

And even if you think you didn't receive what you needed, I know that you

did, otherwise you would not be here.

You're just thinking that it has to look or you're looking for something.

This, this is what cracks me up.

And this is like next level, high level healing, guiding

energetic field stuff because.

. The thing is, it's about the vibration of the information, and again, the variables

and the timing that that information comes to you in your life, right?

I talked about this at the beginning of the episode, and so if you are listening

at a certain space in your journey, you're looking for something that's new, but as

the Bible says, and as a lot of different parables and elders of different lineages

say, there's nothing new under the sun.

It really isn't.

It's very simple.

There is no new, news here.

Could it be said slightly differently?

Sure.

Can it be delivered in a different kinda experience?

Absolutely.

Can we do it at night instead of during the day?

Can we do it in person instead of online?

Sure.

All those fucking formats are cool and great, and you can say it in many

different conceptual ways so that it penetrates through your trauma,

through your ancestral patterns, and into your heart, and therefore

transforming you and embodying your whole life in a different way.

All of that is true, but if you're looking for some new, new, like some secret sauce,

you fucking miss the boat, you know?

. And so when someone comes to any program being like, I already know this.

I already do this.

Tell me something new.

That's what's gonna convince me to sign up.

Or that's what, you know what I mean?

I'm like, this is not that.

This isn't about looking for something new.

This is about it actually coming into your life and transforming.

We have a lot of fucking knowledge.

We're literally coming out of the age, a Pisces age of Aquarius stuff.

And so, you know, we've had a lot of, and the age of just Gemini and internet

and technology like telling, telling, telling, like information, information,

information, hoarding information, keeping information, knowing a lot of shit.

But you haven't implemented and you haven't applied it in your life, right?

So when you're looking for how do I get the means and energy to

something and you're kind of testing it out, you need to be looking for,

can I even absorb, am I willing to receive what this person is offering?

Right.

I think this is really, really, really, really important.

If you really knew something, you would be embodying it and

your life would look different.

If they are saying something to you that you know, but they're saying it

again and you're hearing it again, then obviously you needed to fucking hear it.

, I'm saying a lot of fuckings in this particular episode.

I think that's very funny.

Anyway, give that up.

Give that up because that energy, that mentality, that mindset is blocking you

from even seeing how you could be able to afford, how you could be able to

be a part of a program or receive the knowledge that the person's giving away.

Either paid or free.

Or free, you know?

I wanna say stop bouncing around to multiple healers

and coaches at the same time.

And this is not to be on some like gatekeeping control my

people, keep people in my network community, like none of that.

Cuz honestly, I'm actually a very extroverted introvert.

I'm, I'm a, I'm deeply attractive person, both physically and energetically.

I love being around people, but I actually like being a loner and a bit of a healer

and like by myself, Rick loose kind of person coming outta my shell when

I want to disappearing where I don't.

So the whole idea, even though in the cards for me it is to

have a huge community and like be a leader and a mentor to

millions that kind of skis me out.

So just remember I said that in this episode, But the reason why I

say stop bouncing around is because you're getting into energy fields

with a lot of different people and it starts to muddy your own compass and

North star and sense of direction.

And so you start being like, well, this person said this and this person said

this, but I also want this, but I'm afraid of this and I don't know what's true.

And it's like everything that everyone said is true.

Everything that you desire is true, but because you're listening and you're

in the field of so many different people, you can't figure out which

way serves you the best right now.

Cuz none of those ways are wrong.

But you're listening to too many people.

It's like the old saying, there's too many cooks in the kitchen.

, simplify that.

I can't tell you how, like, I wouldn't say annoyed, but I'd just be like,

I don't know what to tell you.

When people, someone told me, actually more than once, they were like,

Hey, I'm in between your program and this other person's program.

Which one do you think I should do?

And I'm like, well, duh, I'm gonna say my own because my shit is awesome.

Like, what the fuck?

? I was like, I don't know.

Which one do you feel drawn to?

Like what kind of question is that?

But like, they're like, well, they talk about this and you said this,

and what do you think is true?

And I'm like, I don't know.

Whatever you think is true is true.

Like that's not my job.

My job is to do what I'm doing.

And if you feel called and you feel ready and you're clear about what you

want and what you need, then you will know what resonates with you most.

I'm not, again, in the business of convincing, but the reason why this is

very important when you're trying to decide or figure out what to do when you

can't afford to join a program or work with someone that you wanna work with

and you wanna join I wanna call it like splicing of your energy ends up being one

of the reasons why you can't harness your energy towards the financial abundance you

need and want for what you want, right?

When you're clear and you have someone that you wanna work with and you have

their program on your vision board and you're like, this is what I'm working on

this whole year, and this is what I wanna see change in my life around money or

around blah, blah, blah, blah, whatever it is, your energy is going in one space.

It's trying to call in the abundance and the resources for

the thing that you most desire.

But when you're scattered around all these different peoples and

all these different methodologies and all these different ideas, your

fucking energy is, it's not as potent.

Like that's just, that's just how it is.

That's energy.

. So, you know, for me, I've actually signed up for something,

a program three different times.

The first time I signed up for it, I was like a hundred percent, and then

I kind of wobbled halfway through and didn't finish it, but I was like,

I got what I needed the first time.

Second time I was like, Hmm, I don't wanna actually participate, but I'm gonna sign

up just so I have it in my field because I know I want to cultivate this in my life.

So I'm just gonna like sign up just to have it in my field.

I'm not going to the calls.

I only pop into the group a few times.

The third time it's like I'm so focused, I'm going week by

week, homework by homework.

I'm so committed, but I've removed all the other things in my life so

I could have my energy going in the direction that I wanted to go and I

could have the energy to metabolize and see how my life reflected the

teachings that were coming in.

right.

So it's a, it's a really easy thing to do, to say, I really wanna work

with this one person, or a program on this thing, and I know who it is.

I've identified it, and so I want to call in the money, the provision,

the time, the support to allow me to have access to this thing.

It's, it's focusing your energy.

so long story short, what to do when you can't afford a program.

that is gonna help you solve the problem.

Not being able to support the program.

, you gotta get clear that you want it.

And there's a lot of practical things like this was a lot of concepts and

looking at behaviors and talking about how people behave when they

can't join things and all of that.

But this cleans up your energy field.

It really does.

So that you can call in the money that you want and need for what you want and need.

Right.

So you can learn more about money and or whatever it is.

Right.

I'm just using money as an example because that's what's been coming up

most recently in my own business with people interested in working with me.

Now, there's a lot of practical things you can also do.

I mean, this episode is already over an hour, which I'm very surprised I haven't

done a long episode in a long time.

So I will take a quick moment to say, you know, the very practical

things, can you raise your prices?

Can you ask for a raise at work?

Can you do overtime?

Can you sell something?

Can you do an extra shift?

Can you borrow it?

Can you put it on credit cards and work on your money stuff so that

you can also be okay with the debt?

And also be okay with paying it off.

Do you want to work on your worthiness wounds so you know that

you are worth calling in the money to be able to pay for something?

Like there's so many different practical and also psychological, emotional,

mental levels around healing this dynamic of desiring something but

not having the means to access it.

And I, I've just barely scratched the surface to it, but.

I will say a lot of times we are resistant to just simply asking for help.

I remember when I was first working on like my male wounds, outside of

my own ancestors and my lineage and modality, and I started going outside

of that into other aspects of it.

Someone was like, ask a man in your life that you trust for provision

to support you and paying for this to heal your relationship with men.

And I was like, oh my God, I never even thought about that.

Like, I'm so independent woman.

I'm so like six figure business woman.

Like, oh my God, why didn't I think about that?

I think that I actually just want it to be supported by a man to

heal my relationship with men.

I was doing a double dip, like a double layer by signing up.

In the program in this way was already starting to read Pattern,

my Relationship with Men and Money.

Long story short, definitely another episode.

But all that to say an example of what you're doing before you ever sign up for

a program is already starting the healing and the growth that you are desiring.

It is showing you where your deepest wounds are.

It is showing you where your great fears are.

It is showing where your reoccurring patterns are.

It's showing your opportunity for leveling up.

It's showing you if you pay attention and not brush it off.

If you see that you put off signing up for something over and over and over

again, or you keep talking yourself out of it, or you have the money,

but you are afraid that you don't, or you're trying to have the person

convince you that it's worth it.

Beyond what they've already said in their events or in their sales page or whatever.

Like, you gotta look at that and ask yourself why, cuz that's

actually what you're healing.

And when you work on that, you'll start to get all the other things

that you want in your life.

Like the money, the man, the house, the job, the ease, the confidence,

the sexiness, whatever it is, the body that you are looking for, it is

healing the thing that prevents you.

And the money is only a symptom of it.

The I don't have the time is only a symptom of it.

There is a deeper wound pattern, trauma response that you are living

by that's preventing you from having the thing that you need that will

give you access to the program.

So that's what I'm gonna leave you with today.

This was robust, it was layered, it was real.

And it also included some very personal stories and experiences that I've had.

Now, I wanna just say this before I leave.

. If any part of you thinks that I'm talking about you in this

episode, I'm probably not.

I literally have talked to thousands of people and I have so many examples

and people have done these things multiple times in many different ways.

So , I always like to give my disclaimer, and you know what, listen,

what did my Grammy used to say?

Only hurt dogs bark, or whatever.

I'm a little bit being an asshole there.

Okay.

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry.

I'm not trying to be an asshole.

I'm just saying take the medicine here, right?

I am a loving person and it's so important to just get the truth of what

I know and what I see, and let it serve you and your life for whatever it is.

That's the medicine.

That's the love.

Thank you for being here.

I want and hope and pray that not only does this metabolize in your system

and serve you, but that you also go throughout the rest of your day.

with compassion, with courage, and with the understanding that you are

absolutely meant to walk this path in your life, to heal what you're meant

to heal, to become the person, the woman, the man that you're meant to be.

I'm sending you out lots of love wherever you are.

Again, thank you for being here, and I'll see you soon.