In this Mindset Boost episode, you’ll be reminded that your first attempt at anything is rarely pretty—and that’s exactly how it should be. Confidence doesn’t come first—courage does. Through real stories and simple mindset shifts, you’ll see why starting messy is the only path to mastery, and how to quiet that voice that says you’re not ready.
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Transcripts
Speaker A:
Now, whoever said you have to feel ready before you begin has clearly never done anything bold. Because here is the truth. You rarely feel ready. For example, do you ever feel ready to have a kid? Hell no.
You just reach a moment when you say, it's time. I'm doing this. I sure did not feel ready at 29, head down in my third year of law school, drowning in case reviews and legal briefs.
Meanwhile, John was planning back-to-back Europe vacations because, well, we all heard it, right? Enjoy your life now, because once you have kids, it's over. So did we squeeze in two trips to Europe in one summer? Oh, yes, we did.
And you would think we were ready to settle down after checking off the bucket list with adventures. Not even close. But we had the courage to say, that's it. We're doing this, ready or not. And here's the truth. You don't need confidence to start.
You need the guts to be bad at something, the heart to keep going, and the courage to begin anyway. Because confidence doesn't come first. Courage does. And every person you admire, they started messy.
And if you are waiting to feel ready, you are going to wait forever. So grab a chair. Hey, my friend, and welcome to the Anya Garcia show.
Here we will explore the science of learning, the art of parenting, and the mindset shifts that help you simplify your journey to amplify your growth. You see, I thought I would find purpose in courtrooms until motherhood showed me it was waiting at home.
So I traded my attorney briefcase for the beauty of homeschooling. Depositions for diapers and settlements for sensory play. I stepped off the legal path so that I can walk it too with you.
Because parenting doesn't come with a manual or legal briefs. So no wonder it can feel overwhelming and messy. But I see you showing up every day, even when no one is watching.
And that little voice, am I doing enough? I hear it too. But here is the truth. You don't need more to be enough. Because more doesn't create peace. Alignment does.
Progress matters more than perfection. And when you stop doubting, you start leading with confidence. And before you know it, you have created a space where you and your child thrive.
Because humans are born with this natural desire to learn and grow. And I am here to help you harness that. Your child's potential is limitless. And so is yours. We just need to unlock it.
Welcome to the Mindset series, where we dive deep into rewiring the way you think and feel and show up. Because intentional living starts with intentional thoughts.
This is where we quiet the mental noise, shed the self-doubt, and rewrite the stories that keep you stuck. Here, you trade overwhelm for alignment and fear for clarity.
So if you're ready to live with more calm, confidence, and conviction, you're in the right place. Now. Seriously, tell me, do you remember your first try at makeup? Too much foundation, blue eyeshadow, and blush that could stop traffic.
Or your first date, the sweaty palms and overanalyzed everything. And what about your first meal? The one that definitely did not taste like mom's, but you served it anyway.
Or let's take a little stroll down memory lane. Your first baby steps. Oh, they were gloriously bad. You fell a lot, but you didn't quit walking. You kept going.
You couldn't even say the word perseverance. You lived it. And then came the first time on a bike.
Scraped knees, wobbly balance, someone holding the back of your seat until suddenly they let go and you were flying. You see? All of it shaky, messy. Maybe a little embarrassing, but you did it anyway. Because you cannot master what you never start.
And the first day of homeschooling, it's rarely picture perfect. Crumbs on your laptop, a toddler crying during circle time, and you're googling how to teach phonics with one eye twitching. It's not bad.
It's the beginning. And beginnings are supposed to be bumpy. The first is rarely pretty, but it is the only road to pretty.
You see, you don't start with the rhythm of a seasoned homeschooler. You grow into one. One sticky-fingered science experiment at a time. One meltdown, one breakthrough. One brave morning after another.
So if today felt messy, good. Here is your tool for today. When the voice in your head says, I'm not good at this, you answer back, I'm not supposed to be good yet.
I'm supposed to be starting. That's where the magic is. You see, confidence isn't the beginning. It's the reward for choosing courage. And courage.
Courage looks like showing up when it's messy, trying again when you're tired, whispering, I don't know how, but I'm doing it anyway. So let's stop glamorizing the end result and start celebrating the start.
Because your number 100 attempt only happens because you dared to do your first. So if today felt chaotic and clumsy, I want you to celebrate. It means you showed up. It means you started.
You see, every masterpiece began as a rough sketch. And no one becomes confident without first being courageous. So today I want you to embrace the mess. Honor the shaky beginnings.
And know that you are building something beautiful, even if it's still under construction. Because, my friend, your great is coming. But it only shows up after your first. So stop waiting to feel ready and start messy.
Till next time, my friend. And remember this. Michelangelo did not build David. He saw him already there, trapped in the marble.
And he simply carved away everything that wasn't him. That's what this messy beginning is. You're not failing. You're chiseling. One brave, imperfect swing at a time.
The masterpiece isn't waiting for you to be perfect. It's waiting for you to begin. I'll see you next time.
