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Hello Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm
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host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful
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journey called life. If ever you feel stuck if ever you feel
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Yeah, you can move on. If ever you feel your dreams are just
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too far off and you will never be able to reach them if ever
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you feel frustrated with the people around you, or whatever
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else might be weighing down on your soul, reach out to me and
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we can find out how I can help you never hold back you can
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contact me on Facebook or an Instagram. Aurora Eggert is my
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Aurora Eggert coaching, also on Facebook.
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Today, I want to talk about your sexuality.
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Yes, I'm not shy
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about talking
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about sexuality and intimacy, sensuality, it's such a big part
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of our lives. And when we talk about self care when we talk
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about
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a healing, when we talk about getting to know ourselves better
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when we talk about wanting to improve the relationships
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in our lives. We cannot exclude sexuality because it makes us us
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to know what you desire to know what you need to know what your
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preferences are, give you a deep sense of self. And the more
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clear you are with yourself about what you need, and want,
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the more confident you're going to be, the more clear you're
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going to be with the people around you. And the easier those
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relationships are gonna be flowing.
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So
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if this is not for you,
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I encourage you to listen to another episode. There's lots of
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episodes on my podcast that you can search up under www the
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Borealis experience.com There's a search bar where you can type
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in a title and find enamel episodes
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about the topic that you're interested in. If you don't find
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the topic that you'd like an episode about, please reach out
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to me and request it. This is how it works. People requested
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over messenger on Facebook on Instagram. And it's just super
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inspiring. And I love connecting with you guys.
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If you are still listening, if you are interested in this
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episode, then hello, hello and welcome.
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So when we first explore our bodies, we usually in our teens,
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some people are younger, some are a little bit older. But we
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find out that we can give ourselves pleasure and that is
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so incredibly powerful, exciting, and healthy. I'm all
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for
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self exploration and finding out what is best for you. Again, the
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more you know what gives you pleasure, what makes you feel
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great, the better connected you are to yourself and the more
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confident you can be.
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There's a lot of people out there who are feeling shame for
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what they desire for what they feel. And that is a shame.
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For people to feel shame, that is a shame because then they
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start suppressing it and start feeling weird about it and start
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hiding and start not being honest with people around them.
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And this is when all the BS starts. And depression can even
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start by you suppressing a very important side of yourself.
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Of course, no one is getting harmed. You are also not harming
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yourself. And there's consent
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with the practices that you desire, right and cannot be.
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Yeah, let's say too far.
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are off, where people are getting hurt, animals are
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getting hurt, or you are getting hurt.
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In that case, seek out help. But find a way to talk about us
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there is groups out there
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where you can meet and talk about your preferences. And if
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they're not totally socially acceptable, that at least you
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can talk about them and find people who can listen. So there
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is ways to channel that energy out.
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If you are
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very sexual, and you have to suppress it, because maybe you
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are with a partner who is not, or maybe you grew up in an
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environment, where it's totally not okay to express sexuality to
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even talk about it, you are suffering internally, and you
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might not even
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be aware of it, you are shutting out a big part of yourself, you
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are trying to tame and suppress that
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strong energy that is inside of you. But it will come out and
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weird ways it will come out and you know, weird.
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It can be pretty much everything when we when we suppress our
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sexuality, sexuality, you can become sick from it, you can
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become a very awkward person around the people that you are
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attracted to, you can live in total isolation because you feel
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so much shame.
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So it is really important to be curious about it. And to, to
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find out what is it that you like, and then how to
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communicate that to your potential partner, or to your
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partner right now. And those relationships don't have to be
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rigid relationships are meant to flow and change and move. And
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sometimes when we open up to a partner world something, it
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changes the whole relationship for the better. Yes, sometimes
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you might
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face rejection. But you have to have that willingness to face
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rejection, you have to have that bravery, that courage to face
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react, rejection, to, to stand up for yourself and to know,
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yes, this is what I like, this is what I'm into. And this is
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what I'm going to communicate to you if the other person is not
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into it. Of course, you will not be able to live it so to say,
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but at least you have expressed it then. And that alone is so
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incredibly powerful. And with most partners will increase
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trustworthiness, when they know what you're all about, what
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gives you pleasure, what is good for your body, then they can
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either choose to engage in it and help you out. Or they can
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say no, this is absolutely not for me and yeah, we will have to
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find a solution here to to reconnect on a different level.
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So what I want to encourage with this episode is
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become curious about your sensuality, your sexuality,
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again, explore, read, watch little videos, there's tons of
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information online and find out what it is that brings you joy
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and pleasure. It is an area in your life that is
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or can be very nurturing, very healing. And yeah, it can deepen
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the relationships with yourself and with the people around you.
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And to start, I would say,
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enjoy and accept your body fully, just like it is when you
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have a shower. Be grateful for your beautiful and healthy body.
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Be comfortable walking around naked in your house. Be
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comfortable
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showing up in front of a mirror and looking at yourself and
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laughing at the parts that you don't really like.
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The more we accept ourselves the more we will be accepting with
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others and help others to be accepting of their bodies to and
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that is so incredibly powerful. It
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If you get to help somebody to like their body better, my God,
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it is a huge
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bonding, it is a huge trust that can spark between two people.
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So try to live in full acceptance with your first self
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first. And then maybe you can help your partner to do the
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same. If you are single, focus only on yourself and give it all
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to you enjoy yourself and really explore what feels nice.
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You need to let that energy out, you need to, yeah, find a
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channel on how to express it. And you know, I've talked about
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it.
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And season two or three, I think, where I was observing
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Mick Jagger, for instance, or
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prints, or other musicians that are out there, where you can
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clearly see that they pour all their energy into their
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instrument or into singing, it is their sexual energy that they
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learn to use to create. So this is another thing that you can
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learn to do when you're single, but also when you're in a
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committed relationship is that you find ways to channel that
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beautiful energy into something creative, and authentic and
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something that reflects you 100%.
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Sometimes people say yeah, when you masturbate a little bit too
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much, then you waste energy. Yes, you reach climax, you reach
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your orgasm, and it gives you pleasure, but only for a short
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amount of time. Sometimes
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giving yourself pleasure and not reaching an orgasm. And instead
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channeling that energy into a creative project, something that
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you want to build something that you want to.
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Yeah, gift to others. So to say it can be art, it can be music,
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it can be something that you
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build out of wood and metal and stones, whatever it is, people
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can sense that it is very genuine, it is very pure. It is
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very unique to you.
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So I think all I want to say today is that.
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Be curious. And if you were suppressing it, find ways to
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channel it out. As always, feel free to reach out to me and if
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you want to,
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like request another episode about this topic, too, for me to
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go a little bit more into depth. Don't hold back. I just wanted
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to let you know that yes, this topic is extremely important
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when it comes to our mental and physical health. And it is very
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exciting to explore. That's a good thing.
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Stop suppressing. Stop feeling shame and guilt and learn to
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talk about it with like minded people, with people that you
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trust.
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This is me for now. I have a guest here soon where we will be
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talking about masculine sexuality. He is a coach. He is
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a facilitator for man circle for man's work. And I'm so
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incredibly blessed to be connected with him because I
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learned so much from him and I invited him onto the show for
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you to learn from him as well. All right, take really good care
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of yourself. Don't forget to subscribe. Don't forget to leave
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me a rating on Apple podcast or a review. I always appreciate
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that. And I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye
