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Hello, darling heart, and welcome to this episode of the drink less live better podcast. This is the podcast that helps you
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to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring. I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided
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to have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back. I'm a best selling author, expert speaker,
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and life coach. I'm here to champion you with your alcohol free or drink less adventures. Give me a follow on Instagram at
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5 day drink less experiment, find blog posts, and you can choose to join the email club where I share resources, wisdom, insights,
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and glimmers of hope and joy. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Let's get straight to it. Traits versus states. I said something
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to myself the other day, and in that magic moment, I caught it. The thought that had formulated in my head was, I am worried.
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Now, I don't know about you, but I have about 11,000,000,000 t thoughts that go through my head in a day, and I don't catch
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very many of them to put under careful scrutiny. This one was a gem. I had something going on that was causing me some anxiety
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and discombobulation. I pulled the thought around for a while and then came out with a bit more clarity around it. I wasn't
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worried. I was feeling worried. I had got caught up in thinking I was a worried person versus I was experiencing a feeling
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of worry. Let's look at this with a different thought for a moment. I am anxious versus I am feeling anxious. Do you hear
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the nuance in that? I am someone who identifies as anxious, versus I am someone experiencing thoughts and or feelings of anxiety
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right now. When I had the idea of I am worried, it felt quite heavy and immovable. I am worried sounds like who I am, an identifying
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feature perhaps. Who is Sarah? Well, she is a worried person. It's just who I am, my general disposition. I can be relied
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upon to be worried. I don't think that's it, actually. I am feeling worried. Let's try that out. It's the way I feel right
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now in this specific moment in time. It might be my emotion for the next 5 minutes or maybe longer, but for sure it's going
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to be temporary and it will be replaced by a different way of being, a different feeling. So what do we have here then? Well,
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personality traits and temporary states each play a crucial role in shaping our behaviour. Understanding the difference between
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them is useful for comprehending our very complex human natures. If we were to say that personality traits are enduring and
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long lasting patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that characterize a person across different situations, and over
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time, we could say that they are relatively stable and consistent throughout a person's life. Perhaps these traits form the
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very foundation of somebody's personality and they tend to remain relatively unchanged. They could, of course, be influenced
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by life events, personal growth, and perhaps deliberate efforts for self improvement, or maybe not. Maybe they just don't
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change. In contrast, temporary states refer to transient, emotional, cognitive, and behavioral experiences that change in
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response to specific circumstances, perhaps environmental goings on or, indeed, internal factors. Unlike personality traits,
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temporary states might vary widely from one moment to the next moment or from one day to the next day. These dates are definitely
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influenced by situational factors such as stress, mood, fatigue, arousal level, what social interactions you're having, and,
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of course, external events going on all around you. We could say that temporary states are maybe emotions, things like worry,
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anxiety, happiness, sadness. They could be cognitive states, how much attention, concentration, or maybe memory we can give
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to something, or indeed behavioral states, how motivated we're feeling, how impulsive we're feeling in a given moment. And
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while temporary states might influence a behaviour in the short term, they typically actually do not have a lasting impact
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on one's true personality. Here's another example for you. We're gonna take a different thought from the other side of my
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head. I am not confident, and I switch that up for, I am not feeling confident today. If I choose to go with I'm not feeling
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confident today, it gives me the opportunity to believe I am ordinarily quite a confident person. I wonder if I'm able to
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choose more positive leaning characteristics and think that they are my personality traits and think the less positive thoughts
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I experience are states that I move through. It's one to ponder, moron. As ever, I'm delighted to hear your thoughts. You
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can always email me, sarah@drinklesslivebetter.com. And speaking of email, thank you. Thank you. Thank you for the emails
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review, and you'll have my undying love forever. Thank you for listening in today. Come back again next week. And PS, I believe in you.
