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Feeling stuck in midlife? Whether it’s divorce, diagnosis, or becoming an empty nester, this episode will help you reconnect with your worth, rediscover your calling, and embrace the next chapter. Midlife transitions can feel overwhelming—but they’re also filled with opportunity. In this Saddle Up segment, Lesa Koski recaps her powerful conversation with Florida divorce attorney Heather Quick and dives into key takeaways about finding joy, working in your purpose, and healing through hard seasons.
Lesa shares personal insights about writing her book, embracing imperfection, and how pivoting—whether in career, parenting, or life—is not failure, but faith. If you’re craving clarity, courage, or just a reminder that you’re still meant for more, this one’s for you.
Whether you’re starting over after divorce, navigating an identity shift, or simply ready to feel better—your comeback starts here.
⏱️ Timestamps:
- (00:00) Introduction: Why this episode matters for midlife reinvention
- (02:04) Recap of Tuesday’s episode with attorney Heather Quick
- (04:13) Embracing your calling (even when it’s hard work)
- (06:45) Why “purpose” doesn’t have to be perfect
- (09:20) Redefining your worth: “You’re a daughter of the King”
- (12:34) Coaching tip: How to sit with your feelings and move through them
- (15:55) Pivoting isn’t failure—it’s learning
- (18:42) Parenting decisions, career shifts, and embracing divine timing
- (21:30) Closing encouragement + listen back to Tuesday’s full episode
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Your calling may not always feel easy—but it will feel right.
- You are worthy because of who you are, not what you do.
- Pivoting is not failing—it’s trusting the next right step.
- You don’t have to love every part of your purpose to live in purpose.
- Your words to yourself should match God’s love for you—gentle, honest, and full of hope.
🔗 Resource Links:
- 🎧 Full episode with Heather Quick:
- 💻 Divorce & Parenting Plan Course:
- ✍️ Book Coaching & Life Coaching: lesakoski.com
- 📸 Follow Lesa on Instagram: [@livebetterwithlesa]
🏷️ Tags/Keywords:
divorce coaching, midlife reinvention, find your purpose, women over 40, life after divorce, faith and healing, identity shift, how to pivot, finding your calling, empty nester, personal growth podcast, Heather Quick, Lesa Koski, Saddle Up Live, parenting through divorce, co-parenting tips, emotional resilience, self-worth, life coaching for women
Transcripts
Welcome listeners.
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I'm so thankful you're here today.
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And today I'm going to do the saddle up
segment with, which is just going over
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key takeaways from Tuesday's episode
where we had attorney Heather quick with
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us and she is a Florida divorce attorney.
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But that wasn't really why I had her on,
and I maybe threw her a little bit for
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a loop, but it was a great conversation.
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I really wanted to talk
to her about empowering.
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All women, because I wanna help,
of course, I wanna help, um,
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women through divorce and beyond.
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I mean, I'm still doing divorce coaching.
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I also have that online
parenting plan course to help
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couples divorce well together.
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But I really am changing the focus of.
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To just help women in general
when we go through something hard.
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I've been through something hard and
you know, sometimes just the little
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things in life are hard, like maybe.
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Becoming an empty nester maybe.
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Maybe it is a divorce, maybe it is
a diagnosis, but whatever it is,
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I just want you to know it's not
too late to start feeling better.
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And what Heather kind of talked about
for feeling better was to working.
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Basically with your calling, like finding
something that you love and doing it,
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and you know, I, I have always focused
on that probably since my late forties,
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but I want you to know that sounds so
dreamy, but there were always pieces
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of it that I didn't love, like I loved.
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When I was doing mediations, I
loved helping people work together.
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I loved doing the podcast.
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I didn't love sitting down and
going through divorce paperwork.
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I didn't love every aspect of
couples who could get kind of
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gnarling gnarly at each other.
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And now as I journey through life.
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It's even more important to me to
find that joy, to find that ease
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and that just like love of myself
and just being okay with what I.
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Like, and what, what I
value and not judging it.
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And so, you know, one of the things you
all know, I'm, I'm writing that book
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and I do feel like that's a calling.
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I feel like that's a calling from God.
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And, and it meets my passion.
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It is what I am passionate about.
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However, there are days when I
go, like today I still haven't
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done my two hour writing block.
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Sometimes it's a little hard for me
to sit my fanny in this chair, um, or
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go in the, you know, in the kitchen,
sit at the counter and sit there for
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two hours and, and work through the
outline of the book and the chapters.
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And once I get into it, I get lost in it.
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And I do love it.
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But I just want to say like, it probably
isn't all going to be stuff that you love.
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Like let it be the best that it can be,
and I think a lot of that can be like.
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The people you work with, the environment
that you're in, do you feel like you are,
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um, helping someone and, you know, you
can help people I think almost in any job.
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You know what I mean?
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Like, I even think like I cleaned
toilets when I was in college.
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Well, I kinda help people feel better
about when they were living in the
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dorms about going in the bathroom
because they, it felt better.
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So it doesn't have to be
big, but I think that, um.
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You can find a lot of joy if you do find
things that are purposeful and um, and in
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a great environment and that you basically
feel called and passionate about doing.
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And a lot of times what she
talked about was to find,
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figure out what your gifts are.
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You figure out what your gifts
are that kind of leads you to, um.
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What you, what you're good at
is often what you like to do.
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Not always, but often it points you in
the right direction and it can make your
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life easier if you are good at something.
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So that's something to to keep in mind.
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So, you know, and another thing that.
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That Heather talked a lot about why she
wanted to get into the work of, she's
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a women's only divorce, um, agency in
Florida, and she wanted to help women
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who were divorcing feel their worth.
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I do too, and I want, I
actually want every woman.
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To feel their worth.
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And she was saying how she often will,
if they can't come up with something
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to make them feel worthy, she'll
give them, um, borrow them thoughts.
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And you know, I think one of those
borrowed thoughts that hit me when
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I was going through my journey
was, you're a daughter of the king.
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And when I heard that, I was like,
Ooh, it felt like it took off.
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Um, me trying to perform and that I was
just God's daughter and that he adored me
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and he created me, and that gave me worth.
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So do your due diligence
or work with someone.
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You can work with me, work with a
coach to help you figure out how to.
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Feel worthy.
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And you know, a lot of times it's just
sitting back looking at how you feel
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and then think, how do I wanna feel if
you're going through something hard,
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sometimes you have to sit a long time.
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I mean, I think I sat months feeling the
way I felt and I think I needed to, when I
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was going through that diagnosis, I needed
to sit and rest and um, and then I could
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move forward and start thinking about.
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How do I wanna feel?
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And then one other thing that I just
wanted to mention that she talked
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about, and I think so many times in
my life I have thought if I switched
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something, like if I changed my kids'
schools or if I switched the church
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I was going to, or the job that I was
doing, I was like, oh, well I'm failing.
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I'm making a mistake.
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I'm jumping the ship.
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This is what I want you to know.
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Pivoting is not failing.
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Mistakes are not failing.
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It's all learning and pivoting
brings you to a better spot.
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I am so thankful that I changed my
children's schools when I did not.
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All of some of them stayed.
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Some of them switched and some one
of 'em switched a couple times and
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then we found, um, that perfect.
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Fit for her, or the best fit for her.
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So don't be, don't be hard on yourself.
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I guess that's what I wanna say.
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Speak to yourself like you would to
your best friend, your sister, or
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your baby daughter, because that's
how God wants you to talk to yourself,
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and it's never too late to find the
career and the life and to feel better,
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to feel the way you want to feel.
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There's always going to be.
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50 50 of the negative and the
positive, but you are in charge of
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how you feel and you get to learn.
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If you didn't have that
negative, you wouldn't be able
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to learn what you really need.
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So if you wanna hear more from Heather
about changing careers and her law
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practice, go back to Tuesday's episode.
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It's a great one.
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Thank you so much for being here.
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You take good care.