This episode is a follow-up to the last one — so if you haven’t listened yet, go back and start there.

In the previous episode, I shared how I was actively choosing to take control of my decisions in real time instead of letting my circumstances dictate my life — specifically navigating business growth, motherhood, and having no consistent childcare for my almost two-year-old.

In this episode, I share what happened after I recorded that conversation — and how one simple, intuitive decision completely shifted my reality.

What This Episode Covers

• Feeling claustrophobic in your own life and NOT letting circumstances take the driver’s seat
• Running myself through my own process instead of staying stuck in victim mode
• Why my brain convinced me childcare was “impossible” — even though I’ve made it work before
• How verbally processing with trusted friends unlocked a solution I couldn’t see alone
• The moment I realized I could trade childcare for coaching — and why my brain resisted that idea
• How sneaky limiting beliefs hide even when you know your service is valuable
• Trusting yourself in the micro decisions that shape your entire life

I also announced the pre-launch of my 4 week Live Experience Claustrophobic to In Control that is available NOW for pre-sale HERE - We kick off early next year! People who get in now get instant access to the pre-game and the community + bonus trainings happen before we officially start!

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Hi guys.

Thanks for joining me for another episode.

Okay, this is a follow up to the last episode that I recorded.

So if you haven't listened to the last episode, go back and listen to the one right before this.

Okay, so in the last episode I was talking about being like in control of your decisions in real time and how I am like actively doing that in real time.

So.

So I shared with you a story about how I was kind of feeling victimy and feeling, as I like to say it, like kind of claustrophobic in my own life, like letting my circumstances control my life and the fact that I don't have consistent childcare for my youngest.

I'm really ramping up the time that I'm spending in my business and the output that I'm putting out, as well as solidifying offers and all the things.

And anyways, it was just becoming very difficult to navigate his napping with drop, drop off, pickup, half day Fridays, all the things.

And having, you know, an almost two year old who literally gets into everything kind of sort of independently plays every now and then.

But like always one's mom if I'm around.

And we're just in that season and I've been in this season before, so this isn't new, but in the past I've always had like a little bit of help with the baby of that age.

My youngest started daycare, obviously during COVID We had like a whole upset of like not having any childcare help, but I did like take steps back from my businesses in those times and.

Or shifted the way that I worked.

Um, anyways, long story short, the episode was talking about how I was going into solution mode and I was running myself through my own process of validating where I was at feeling, feeling the shitty feelings, having myself the pity party and then really getting clear on how do I want this to feel and moving into that, like getting in touch with myself, what do I need?

Trusting myself, going into solution mode.

All parts of my process that I take people through in different capacities within the programs that I am soon to be launching.

And one in particular, which I'll tell you about in a minute, which is launching literally within days.

So super exciting on that front.

But one of the things that I shared with you was how I was going to shift some things that I was doing to maybe bump nap time up or work in the car.

Well, I had this conversation with a friend and I was trying to come up with solutions for this problem.

And it was very soon after I recorded the episode, this last episode, that this popped into my head as I was speaking to her was I was like, well, I've thought about posting on Facebook groups that, like, maybe I'd be open to a trade.

Like, what if there was someone that was willing to trade childcare for something?

And I was like, well, what could I trade?

Could I trade like, you watch my kid one day, I watch your kid one day.

But I was like, I don't really want to do that, but I'm not like, writing off these things, but I'm just kind of going through my mind of like, eh, that sounds less plausible, that sounds more plausible, blah, blah, blah.

So then one of the things that popped into my head was, well, what about like, meal prep?

Like, I'm really good at that.

I could.

I could swap meal prep or something like that.

But I'm like, but that takes time.

That's time that I could.

That I would still have to put out.

And like, it just.

It didn't feel quite right.

It still felt clunky.

And then all of a sudden as I was speaking, I was like, well, what if I traded childcare for coaching?

And it just was like.

And I said it kind of like, hahaha, hypothetically.

Like, well, I could do that.

And then as it came out of my mouth, I was like, yeah, why I could do that?

Like, why the fuck haven't I thought of that?

And in my mind I was like, well, the people that follow me on Instagram kind of understand, like, the language that I use.

And maybe they're like, you know, I've.

I've primed them because my content over there is different.

So they understand, like, coaching and the reason for coaching and people on Facebook, like, in my brain, I was like, my Facebook followers don't know what I do, and they wouldn't understand it and they wouldn't want it and.

Or like, it just wouldn't be valuable to them.

Like, in my mind I was like, the people that would want to help me with childcare were not the same people that would want my coaching.

That's what my brain told me subconsciously to, like, not even come up with this solution.

So as it was coming out of my mouth and I was realizing, okay, holy shit, I can actually do this.

I was like, having all of these weird thoughts, and it was so interesting because it was like, I was like, watching it happen, like, watching my brain think the thoughts, and I was like, analyzing the thoughts as they came in, and it was like, it was.

It was so wild because it was like I was coaching myself.

As these thoughts were coming in and it was happening so fast, but it was like, why did I think that?

Why did my brain decide that people that would be open to helping me with childcare were not the same people that would like, want my help with coaching?

And so I was like, okay, I'm going to do it.

Like, I'm going to post this post on Facebook.

And I was trying to think through like, what to say, how I wanted to word it.

And I'm thinking through what, like how to word this post.

And what popped into my head was what, what did I say?

Unique request in all caps.

Just like catch people's attention and let them know that like, I understand this is different.

And then in search of a unicorn.

And it was funny because like, as I thought about that phrase in search of a unicorn, I instantly had this like, I don't want to say like, vision.

It wasn't like I had like an, like I could see it or like I don't get like visions, visions.

And it wasn't like a premonition.

It was just like a download kind of.

Of like I feel like I'm going to post this with the word in search of a unicorn, like unicorn being like one.

And I'm going to get a bunch of responses like I just had this feeling.

I was like, I just think I'm actually going to get a bunch of people responding to this.

And the fact that I even thought that this was a unicorn in the first place is going to be laughable.

Like there's actually going to be quite a few people interested in this trade because it's a bomb ass deal.

Like come help me one or two days a week, like watch my baby and like get coaching from me for free.

And it was again going back to the fact that my brain was telling me that like my coaching wasn't valuable enough or like it wouldn't make sense for a trade, even though I literally charge money for coaching and then I literally pay money for childcare.

So it was so wild to me how like consciously looking at this I can be like, that doesn't make any sense.

But my brain was still doing it.

And damn, our brains are sneaky.

Like our thoughts are sneaky and our subconscious conscious, like limiting beliefs.

And blocks are so fucking sneaky.

So anyways, I have this like vision that I'm like gonna post this and get a bunch of comments and I posted it and I posted it in three spots.

I posted on two different moms groups in my area and then on my personal page and guys, that's exactly what fucking happened.

I got a bunch of responses, and not just from like, randos that I was like, I don't know, I don't really know you.

I don't really know if I want you watch my kid.

Like, you know, because that happens too when you're like searching for help.

Or not even that there's anything wrong with those people, but just like, I don't know, the vibe feels off.

No, like, really fudgeing, fantastic, fabulous women that are like, in my field, like, they're birth workers, postpartum doulas, they're like lactation consultants, their moms, they're crunchy moms.

Because I.

Well, I did post one in the crunchy mom group.

So I'm like, these are people that are like, aligned with my beliefs and I'm chatting with them in the DMs.

I'm finding out like, one of them I hadn't met before and she lives like eight minutes from me and her story is just incredible.

Another one I had met in the past and her and I have a connection in like the birth world.

And it was just like, holy fuck.

And then I also got this download that I was like, well, what if.

And there was no like ulterior motive here, but it was like, what if the people that aren't even really interested in the trade because they don't have time to help me with childcare or they're not interested in childcare or whatever, they're still gonna like, see my services.

Cause I did drop my Instagram in the post.

Cause I was like, if you wanna come check out more about my service to see if this would be something that you would even be like worth trading for if it's like up your alley.

So I was like, what if people just see the description to my service and they're like, hey, I'm not interested in a trade, but your service sounds really fucking awesome.

I was like, wow, this is so cool.

And it just like, it kind of blew my mind because it was so fucking simple and so fucking obvious and in front of my face as like an easy solution to my problem.

But my brain was feeding me excuses.

My brain wanted to be like, childcare.

So hard to find.

Childcare is expensive.

I can't afford it.

How can I be a business owner and have an almost two year old and have pickup and drop off and sick days and vacation days and snow days and like, how am I going to make this work?

And even though I've made it work before, I'VE literally been an entrepreneur my entire duration of motherhood.

I've never existed as a business owner outside of motherhood, but I also also haven't hit some of the financial success that I wanted either.

Right?

So there's like that limiting belief of, like, well, you haven't hit those numbers that you really, really wanted to hit in the past.

So it's like my brain was feeding me evidence of like, why this couldn't work.

But the second that I, like, walked myself through my own process, which included conversations with, like, trusted friends and like verbally processing what I was going through, because that's sometimes part of it, it likes, something just clicked.

Something just shifted.

It was like, no, here's the super easy solution.

And then again, that's exactly what happened.

I had people commenting on that post, which, now that I'm saying this out loud, I'm like, I need to go back and like, follow up with them that were talking to me about like, being interested in that trade if they lived closer or if they weren't about to have a baby or whatever, Whatever.

So if somebody's interested in that trade, that means they must be interested in my service.

Right?

So, like, could I still help them and not.

I'm not saying this from like a pushing sales on people that don't need it.

I'm saying this from a place of these people were curious about my service.

And I'm in the industry of helping people.

So if I can help people, whether I'm exchanging my service for money or I'm exchanging my service for trade of another service, it doesn't matter.

It's an equal energy exchange.

And so now I'm like, simply by me, solving my problem by finding a solution.

Because I didn't stay victim to my circumstances and I decided to not stay claustrophobic in my own life.

And I decided to take, like, control of my decisions and take control of what I could control in my life.

Because I can't control that.

I have an almost two year old that's climbing on everything and getting into everything I can't control.

Pick up and drop off schedule.

There are things in my life that I cannot control.

And this was one of them.

And obviously in the last episode I talked about like, okay, working in nap time, putting him to bed, an earlier nap and having longer time, you know, working in the car if I have to.

Different other solutions that I presented, but then this one dropped in after I recorded that podcast and it was so amazing that I was like, I have to record a follow up episode to talk about this too.

Because not only was it, like an awesome solution, but it also, like, broke open my mind to the fact that, like, my service is valuable.

And of course I knew that.

But even in knowing that, there was still this weird block that I had.

And this just, like, unleashed, like, a block.

Like it, like, opened up this doorway that was closed, or at least that was like halfway open.

Or maybe it was like the screen door, you know, like, you could feel the breeze but, like, couldn't walk through it.

That's kind of how it is.

And I like, opened it all the way up and I was like, hell yes.

And I started having conversations with women that now want my coaching for this trade.

And this is allowing me to now flex my coaching muscle with these women I get, you know, I get to practice my trade and hone my craft while I'm getting supported.

While they're getting supported.

Like, it's just like, so beautiful in so many ways that I'm just, like, blown away.

Truly, it's.

I'm blown away by the simplicity of this and also, like, how profound it is at the same time.

Like a simple in search of a unicorn that happened to not be a unicorn at all, that happened to give my brain evidence to how valuable my coaching is, that it's worth someone trading their valuable time to come care for my child is like, holy shit, it's really cool.

And it's really cool what can happen when you decide to not let your circumstances run you.

And I'm not saying I will say this all the time in my world.

This is not about toxic positivity.

This is not about bypassing.

This is not about, like, weaponizing your gratitude against you, which I'm going to do a whole episode on.

Like, this is truly sitting in the shit for long enough to let that vibration move through your body and truly feel it so you can, like, let it go instead of it, like, being weirdly stagnant because you're choosing to, like, not feel it.

And you're choosing to be like, oh, no, I need to choose a better thought.

This isn't good.

No, just, like, feel shitty for a second.

Let that shitty, like, move in and out.

And it gets faster, guys.

Like the sitting in the shit pool, as I used to call it.

It used to maybe last.

I don't even remember, but it could last a week and then a couple days and then a day and then an hour and then five fucking minutes or then 30 seconds.

Like some of these shit pools, if you really allow yourself to just go there and like have the pity party, they can, you can move through them so quickly that you almost like, by the time you move through them and you get to that solution, you're kind of like, I even like let that solid stump me.

Like, that's how I feel about this.

I'm like, I literally let that stump me and kind of get in my way for weeks of like, oh my God, how am I going to have the capacity for this business?

And I let that kind of be an excuse.

Or it wasn't an excuse because I was still making shit happen, but it was this weird looming energy of like, I don't know how I'm going to do this.

And then that subtle shift was so simple but so profound.

And this is why I want to share this stuff with you.

Because yes, like, trusting ourselves in the big stuff is important.

But trusting ourselves in these little moments and allowing, remembering that everything is an option, remembering that you are in control of so much more than you give yourself credit for.

And this is not trying to play God or control things that you can't control.

But this is truly like asking yourself the simple question, what can I control in this moment?

And taking charge of your decisions so that you stop feeling trapped in your own fucking light.

And this is a perfect segue for me to talk to you about the offer that I am launching.

It is officially either launched or going to be launched as this episode drops.

I don't know yet.

Hopefully by the time this episode drops, it's completely like long.

Like it's, it's in pre sale so you can technically get in.

Yay.

Finalizing the sales page, checkout page, all that shit.

It's so good.

But this program is called Claustrophobic to in control, take charge of your decisions, to stop feeling trapped in your own fucking life.

This is four weeks together at the beginning of the year to gain clarity on what you actually want your life to look like.

Not someone else's version.

And then have the courage to actually take the action steps to create it.

Because this is multi layered.

You have to get clarity on what you actually want.

And then you have to find the courage to actually take those action steps.

And in this, all of this is self trust piece, trusting your intuition.

And I'm so excited for this because I know so many of you probably Feel like fuck.

Like a spider web is, like, slowly tightening around you.

Like you're suffocating in your own experience, experience in life and motherhood.

And you feel kind of like the walls are closing in on you.

I don't want that for you.

Like, every single time you get up and go to that job that you're good at but doesn't light you up anymore or fudge that job you hate.

Every time you commit to that PTA event that you know that you want to say no to every time you say yes to the gathering with people who drain you.

Yeah.

Even Christmas.

Like, you don't have to say yes to everything.

Let's be real.

You don't have to do the else on the shelf if it really drains you.

If you love it, great.

But if you don't like me like that elf, you don't have to add another should to your to do list.

You don't have to spend one more day not making moves on the thing that has been on the back burner for way too fucking long.

And you know exactly what it is.

You know, like when I say that it's been on the back burner for way too long.

You know exactly what it is for you in your life.

Every time you do shit like this, it is like you are adding a scoop of dirt to the coffin that you are inside, six feet under, alive.

Yes, that's dramatic.

But you are burying yourself alive actively in your own life with your to do list, with your calendar, with your commitments, with your daily choices.

Was I doing that when I was letting the lack of childcare dictate whether I could be a CEO of my business?

Yes.

Yes, I was.

This happens to me too.

But I have a process now to get me the fuck out of it.

Because when I start to feel, feel that dirt on my coffin, I'm like, no, no, no, no, no.

Claustrophobic as.

Get me the fuck out of here.

I'm not doing this.

I choose to rise above.

I choose to not be trapped in my own life.

You don't have to be trapped in your own life either.

Go to the link in the show notes.

You will see everything you need in there about this program.

Claustrophobic to in control.

It's four weeks long and I would love for you to be one of the women that's in there.

It is high touch.

We are going to have voice note coaching.

We're going to have calls so good.

So don't, don't let.

I'm trying to think of another way to say this outside of like, don't let your circumstances run your life.

But like, if you're not loving every minute of your life on a grand scale, like, sure, there's gonna be moments that suck when all your kids need you at the same time and you're dealing with shit on the floor because you're potty training an almost two year old, but if you don't enjoy waking up in the morning because you're not actually excited about your life, you need to be in this program.

Truly, if you are outsourcing your power and asking everybody else their opinion on decisions that you could easily be making for yourself and you lack self trust in certain areas of your life, you should be in this program.

If you are fearful of upcoming situations where you might not trust yourself, you need to be in this program.

I'm sure there's other reasons, but anyways, thank you for joining me on this, like extended kind of part two ish of my last episode and allowing me to talk about the program that's coming.

I'm so excited about it and I would love to have you there.

All right, bye.

I will catch you next time.