In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, Tammy Vincent dives into one of the most powerful concepts in healing and personal growth:

👉 the stories you tell yourself—and how they’re shaping your reality.

Following her conversation with Dr. Karen Parker, Tammy breaks down the idea that you don’t just have a story… you are living inside of it. These internal narratives—what she calls “tape loops”—can keep you stuck in repeating patterns, even when you’re doing the work.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re growing, learning, and trying… but still experiencing the same emotions or outcomes, this episode will help you understand why.

Tammy walks you through:

1. What a “tape loop” is and how it keeps you stuck
2. Why awareness alone isn’t enough to create change
3. How your stories are stored not just in your mind—but in your body and energy
4. A simple, powerful exercise to help you rewrite your story in real time
5. How to begin shifting from survival patterns into a more empowered identity

This episode goes beyond insight and gives you something you can actually do—right here, right now.

Tammy also connects this work back to the body and energy, explaining how unresolved stories can show up as patterns in your nervous system. Through biofrequency voice scans, she helps clients identify exactly what their body is holding so they can move forward with clarity and intention.

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hello everybody and welcome back to

Tammy's Takes number eight, where

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we turn powerful conversations

into practical strategies you

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can use right here, right now.

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So today we are talking about

my last episode with Dr.

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Karen Parker, and we talked

about something that hit so.

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Deep, and she did such an amazing job

of explaining that if you did not hear

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yesterday's episode, I highly recommend

that you go back and listen to it.

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So it's about the stories we

tell ourselves, and not just the

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stories, but how those stories

are actually shaping our reality.

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Because she said something

that really stuck with me.

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Is that we don't just have a story.

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We are actually living inside of it.

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And if you still feel

stuck, this might be why.

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So she talked about

something called a tape loop.

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And I love this because

I see this all the time.

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It's the story you've told yourself

so many times, you don't even

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realize you're still living it.

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It sounds things like I've

always been the one who do.

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This always happens to me.

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I just can't seem to blank.

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Have you ever told yourself those stories?

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Probably.

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But here's the truth.

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Every time you retell that story,

you're reinforcing it not just in

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your mind, but in your body and

in your energy, and you know how

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much I think and care about energy.

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How we have to keep our frequencies

high and everything else.

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So every time you tell the story, you

are reinforcing that negative energy.

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And the reason is because your brain is

literally wire wired to look for proof.

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Not good or bad, but to look for proof.

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So if your story is saying, I'm

not enough, I have to survive, or

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I have to prove myself, your brain

ener and your energy will go out

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and find evidence to support this.

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This is why you can do all the work.

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Go to therapy, read the books

journal, use all the tools, and

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still feel stuck because you're

still running the same pattern.

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So what do you have to do?

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This is where it becomes powerful, and

this is where the work comes in, but

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there are things that you can do to change

this and really what it means, and Dr.

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Karen did such a great job of

explaining this, is you just

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have to change the story.

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You don't heal by just understanding it.

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You have to actually rewrite it and

not in a logical way, not on paper or

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in a way that you convince yourself

that you actually did this, but in

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a way your body can actually feel.

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I'm gonna give you an

exercise to do today.

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I want you to try it, and I want you

to let me know how it worked out.

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I don't want you to do it tomorrow.

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I don't want you to

wait till you're ready.

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I literally want you to try this today

first pro well, or the first time

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you catch yourself in this tape loop.

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So I want you to notice step one is

noticing a moment where you say something

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like, this always happens to me.

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I'm just not good at this.

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Or, of course they didn't choose me.

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That's your story.

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So write it down, take a couple

minutes and write out what happened.

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A good example might be, I spoke up

in a meeting and no one responded.

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So how did I feel?

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I felt ignored.

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This always happens.

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I'm not confident enough.

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I shouldn't have said anything.

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Just anything that is going

through your brain as you're

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saying it, just write it down.

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Step three, rewrite it.

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Now we are going to take the exact

same situation, the same moment, and

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we are going to give it new meaning.

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So instead of I was ignored,

I shouldn't have spoken.

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You're gonna rewrite it as I spoke up,

and that's something I've been working on.

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Even if no one responded,

I showed up differently.

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And that is growth.

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That is progress or something else.

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You could write what is, I'm

becoming someone who uses her voice

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even when it feels uncomfortable.

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We want to start writing things and

rewriting that story in a positive way,

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in a way that you can imagine yourself.

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Step four is where it all call comes in.

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I want you not just to write

it, but I want you to actually

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take the time to feel it.

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Pause for a second and

feel that version of you.

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Feel the version of you that spoke up

anyway when you didn't think you should.

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Feel the version of you

that didn't shut down.

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Feel what it feels like when.

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You didn't make it mean

something was wrong with you.

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Feel that how empowering in that it

feels stronger, it feels more grounded,

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and it feels more self trusting.

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And my friends, this is where

the shift happens because we are

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not trying to write a new you.

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We are not trying to do any of that.

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We're trying to bring you back to the

most amazing, powerful, confident,

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authentic person that you were born

to be before all this stuff happened.

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So how does that feel?

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Can you feel it in your body?

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I want you to picture that picture, what

it feels like to have written the story.

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Picture, what it feels like if the story

had ended up the way that you wanted

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it to, and that's what it's gonna do.

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You're gonna rewrite that and it's

gonna get wired into your brain.

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So you're really not

changing the situation.

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You still walked into that room.

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You still, those things still happen, but

you're changing what it means about you,

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and you're changing what it means to you.

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That's the best thing I can say.

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And that's, it's a very simple exercise.

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Like all of these exercises that we

give you on the Tammy's takes are, but

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you have to put some thought into it.

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And you have to really,

you have to do the work.

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You have to be able to

feel it and sit in it.

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That's the big, every single

exercise, there's one little clincher

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where people get stuck in that.

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And sometimes it's just writing it, but

not actually taking the time to feel it.

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So you wanna feel it.

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Now I'm gonna bring this back a little

bit to something that we talk all about

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the all the time, and that is energy.

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Because your stories aren't just words.

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Your stories are energy

stored in your body.

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The tightness, the anxiety, the

reactions, the stress, the anger.

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That is your system literally

holding onto the old story.

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And every time you replay it, you

reinforce that same energetic pattern.

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Sometimes the energy part

of it is what we're missing.

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We're missing the fact that when

you're trying to rewrite that story,

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you're not rewriting it the right

way because you don't know what

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your body is actually holding onto.

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You don't see where the stress is sitting.

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You don't see where the patterns

are repeating themselves.

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You don't see, honestly what your system

is even responding to 'cause it's so

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deep in your tissues for so many decades.

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So that is where the frequency scans

that I do come in and they're very fun,

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very interesting, and a great way of

seeing what's being held in your tissues.

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Because instead of guessing, instead

of overthinking, we can actually

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see what your body is holding.

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We can see stress patterns, we

can see imbalances, we can see the

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areas that are out of alignment.

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And once you see it, everything

will start to make sense.

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So if this episode hits and you're

realizing, wow, I've been replaying the

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same story, I want you to invite, I wanna

invite you to try the bio frequency scan.

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I think you'll absolutely love it.

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You can book your free complimentary

scan in the notes, in the show notes

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below, or you can come watch one live.

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It's an amazing way of really

seeing what patterns and what

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beliefs that your body is holding

onto that you are not letting go.

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So at the end of the day,

guys, you're not stuck.

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You're literally just replaying

a story that your body

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learned a very long time ago.

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The moment you change the story

and shift the energy behind

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it, that is very important.

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You have to shift the energy behind it.

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Everything will begin to change.

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I promise you.

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So give it a shot.

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Write that story, rewrite that story.

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Sit in that for a moment.

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Feel how that outcome would've

felt and let me know how you feel.

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Guys, I will see you back next time.

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Love you all have a blessed day.

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