hey there,

Check out this book

 the five levels of attachment , 

toltec wisdom for the modern world by Don Miguel Ruiz JR.

Which attachments are you fiercely clinging on to ?

Being too attached to believes will bring separation and suffering into your life if we are not aware of them.

Also,

when it comes to racism, as ugly as it sounds, I believe we have to approach it with assertive curiosity and try to dissolve this destructive fear from the inside instead of shaming from the outside. Just a thought :)

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host, Aurora,

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it is Sunday afternoon. And I'm very happy to be spending some

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time with you today. I hope you're doing well have you get

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some time to rest and relax, reflect and connect? Today I

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want to talk about identity, how attached are you to your

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identity, I'm just reading this awesome book that I will post in

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the show notes. It's called the wisdom of the toltecs have four

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attachments, four levels of attachments. And it really made

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me think and reflect about my behavior and but the behavior

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some people out there. And yeah, that's why I'm going to talk

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about this with you today. How attached are you, to your

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habits, to who you think you

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are.

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Maybe you are a smoker, and you strongly identify as a smoker,

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this is who you are, this is who you were in the last couple of

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years, and you will be in the next decade as well. Maybe you

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are a vegan, just recently you decided to not eat animal

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products anymore. So not every time you dream about a sandwich

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with ham or a juicy steak, you feel extreme guilt and rage

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against you. And the same with people who live around you and

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are eating whatever they want. You feel resentful towards them.

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And you don't want to have anything to do with them because

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they don't know what they're doing. They're being careless,

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and so on. Maybe you are a person who is very successful in

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life when it comes to their career, and you are just a goal

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getter and accomplishing one thing after the other. And on

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days, doesn't have to be a Sunday, but on some days where

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you don't feel like you can really bring it to the table.

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You feel guilt and shame and off about yourself. And maybe you

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binge eat then or punish yourself in the gym. Because you

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have to be that person, you have to play that role. And maybe you

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hear in the voice of my tone already that I'm being not

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sarcastic. But I just want to show you how some people get

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really ingrained in something. And then they only see black and

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white. Same goes for religion and politics, as people who are

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very lean back and open minded and are very curious and

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interested in hearing what other people think, especially from

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opposite angles. But then there's people out there who are

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very, very judgmental and opinionated. And they really

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close themselves up to the beauty and juice of life. If

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they become so narrow minded because of one little aspect of

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their lives, make it such a big deal. And become very selective,

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very harsh. And it is really very, very important to think

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about it. What identifies you do you identify as a very sporty

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person and you look down on people who are more artistic and

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not very sporty. Or are you are musician and you just can't wrap

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your head around soccer player who's only about his soccer.

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Maybe you can see already how it can deeply separate people if

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they are too attached to a habit and too attached to some beliefs

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that they have. So maybe you want to think about a girl who

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was always skinny and sporty. And now she just became a mom

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and she put on a little bit of weight. And as therefore her

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children as a wonderful wife of one to four person in the

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community, but she just can't get over herself that she's not

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that high strung sports woman anymore and fields shame and

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guilt towards her body and is very closed up when it comes to

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sensuality and sex because of that was not such a sad story.

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And it is only because she is so attached to the body she wants

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had the body that brought her success, and maybe even approval

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from others. So, it is very important that we become aware

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of what we are strongly attached to. and soften the lines, if we

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find out that we are very attached to something, it is

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really very important, especially nowadays, to see that

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there's always the opposite. What I mean by that is, maybe

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your brain is wired to think of worst case scenarios all the

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time. While you also have to know that the best case could

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happen. And the same thing is with opinions that a person who

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is part of a Conservative Party has the same motifs the same

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intentions as the person from the Democrats, they both have

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families they want to feed. And they might have grown up in very

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different ways. So that they have these ingrained beliefs now

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that separate them from other people. And to mention, politics

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is very weak. I know. And it's, it's just something that came up

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in my brain. But the one example I like best is the person who

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became a vegan and is now totally judgmental towards

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others and doesn't see that every person is doing their

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best. Yeah, I might be eating meat. But maybe I don't use

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plastic bags, and maybe I'm super careful with my water

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consumption. Maybe I don't drive a car and stead like you can be

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passionate about something. But you cannot run around man and

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make other people feel shitty, because they didn't make the

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exact same decision, you have to see that every person is living

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her or his own battle. And if you want to share with that, do

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you have a good experience being a vegan, and if you're super

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healthy now and you overcame sickness because of changing

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your diet, then that is inspiring. And that's when

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people are gonna listen. But you can't force other people to see

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the world the same way you see. And to create separation that

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way. Because all we do in cleaning to our attachments, and

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our identity is pushing people away that might not have the

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exact same beliefs and values. And it's sad because we are made

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of, of so many different parts. So many little mosaic stones,

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that we would terribly miss out. If we were to push people away

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who are not on the same page with us, we can learn from them,

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we can be curious about them, and then have a even better view

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on the world. And this is really something I want to achieve with

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my little podcast here is that we reflect about every little

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angle that there is when it comes to behavior and

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relationships and approach people with different beliefs

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with curiosity. And if there is a person, for instance, who is

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racist, and you think they're making racist remarks all the

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time, and you're just so annoyed by them. Well, instead of

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calling them out, or of course call them out. Yeah, it has to

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be talked about, but instead of making them feel shitty right

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away, try to understand what that person went through. Racism

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is the one number one thing where people react out of fear

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and out of uncertainty and are aggressive and shitty with each

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other. And in order to overcome that we have to bring curiosity

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and understanding to the table and then we can dissolve that

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fear that fear will not be dissolved and calling them bad

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people and yeah pushing them into one corner

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labeling them we have to go in there as ugly as it seems and

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ask questions and be curious and dissolve that fear from the

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inside instead of trying to destroy it from the outside so

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take a couple minutes now and be with yourself and think about

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all the things you might be attached to and those things you

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might have very dear and close to your heart but are pushing

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other people away and preventing you from living a juicy

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fulfilled life thank you so much for listening to the borealis

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experience and i'll be out there again bye