Shownotes
After trying to unsuccessfully rebound after a few divorces, Coree finally figured out the importance of becoming a whole person through healing with God. She shares her passion to help those who have gone through the pain of divorce find the healing journey that puts them in a position to thrive.
Episode Discussion Points
- Funny story of a snake while she was helping a woman in Paraguay on a healing journey
- What Coree thought life would look like for her when she was in high school
- Her first marriage ended in divorce after 10 years and why she shouldn’t have done a quick rebound marriage, and another marriage.
- Coree finally realized she needed to do some healing before she moved forward, but she had to hit rock bottom to figure out she needed to heal. She realized the common denominator was her.
- AFter reading a book about the Law of Attraction she realized she was attracting what she was putting out there: “Two broken people attract each other.”
- In order to attract a whole and healed person, you need to be a whole and healed person.
- How once she came back to church and started learning the truth and developing a relationship with God, that God was able to help her heal.
- She also found it was important to have a good support group of friends.
- Half way through her healing she got a coach to keep her accountable.
- God designed us to have relationships with others—because in relationships with others is where we grow.
- How Coree likes to make quiet time in the morning to connect with God. This usually includes prayer, praise music, talking to God about what she should do that day and how she wants to do what He wants her to do that day. “Help me to stay out of my agenda and do Your agenda today.”
- How she has learned to give God the troubles she is facing and how she asks God to help her with those.
- At the end of the day Coree likes to write things she can celebrate from the day or how she has seen God’s hand. She also records the answers she gets.
- Because there is always bad happening, recording and looking for good has given her a “different pair of eyes” to see and attract good in her life.
- “If you really want change in your life, you’re going to have to be intentional about making it happen.”
- Inner peace takes time to achieve, but now Coree is in such a better place and has awesome friends.
Advice to Divorcees
- You’re not alone in your journey—even though it may be unique to you, God is with you.
- Allow God in to help you heal. Healing is worth it in the end.
- Treat your heart like a garden and pull out the hurtful things there: fear, rejection, hatred, anger, shame and guilt so we can let the flowers grow.
- Be realistic about where you are and start right there at the crossroads
- Be intentional—don’t just wander. Know what you want and where you want to go.
- Be real with yourself about where you are in your journey.
- Set goals. (Example: Don’t tear down your former spouse because God loves them and it won’t make you any bigger.)
- For the really hard days—Set a goal to do one thing for yourself every morning before you leave home (ex: make sure your clothes match or that you get a shower).
- Read a declaration for you and your life daily. (Check out the Patricia King’s book she used for her declarations here.)
- Replace the Adversary’s Negative thoughts with Positive Affirmations. Write positive affirmations all over to remind you of your worth, for example: on your phone, on your car visor, on you mirror.
- Make new happy memories: Once you tackle little things start setting bigger goals to tackle places or things you are avoiding because of memories (like visiting certain restaurants). Hack: To make it easier, take a good friend with you.
- Remember the car windshield analogy: the front window is so much bigger and broader that always looking through the little rearview mirror. Move forward to bigger and better things with God’s help.
- Build a core group of friends you can be real with on the days that are hard. You can even have them pray with you over the phone or perhaps they will drop everything and come and help. (And return the favor for them too).
- Don’t forget the power of prayer—the Holy Spirit can help pull you up.
- Work to ensure your self-talk is positive. Don’t say things to yourself that you would never say to anyone else. Give yourself grace. Invite God to teach you what He has to say about who you are and your worth.
Bible Verse
Jeremiah 29:11
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Transcription
You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/coree-sullivan-dont-rebound-after-divorce-heal-thrive
