Today's episode is not about being able to grow with the changing times. Strategies in order for you to grow regardless of what is shifting and providing a constant state change in your life will make any individual or business more prepared for what’s ahead. How do we exactly do that? What are some of the areas in which we can create meaningful strides to have “evolving change”? These questions are some of the building blocks that will not provide engaging opportunities for becoming more proactive, but to insulated from what may lie ahead.

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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs

Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 111 of Speaking from the Heart.

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It's about evolution.

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It's about the vast

opportunities that lie ahead.

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It's about us being able to understand

that when we evolve, we have not only the

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things that we have yet to look ahead to,

but also the things in which we might be

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able to help others to also look ahead.

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These are some of the things that we

can do to not only help us understand

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how we can grow, but also how we can

achieve success in today's episode, and

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yes, this is building upon what we've

talked about in episode 109, in which I

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mentioned the fact that our relationships

are the most important thing in order

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for our businesses to evolve, but now,

since we talked about our businesses in

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that past episode, let's talk about you:

the personal individual that you are and

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how we can fit this context of how we

can evolve into this ever changing world

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into our own framework in which we're

able to learn and grow in a way in which

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we might have never thought possible.

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I'm sure you've already dismissed the

fact that you're never going to evolve

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and you're about ready to tune out on

this episode after listening to just a

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minute, and don't worry, I'm watching you.

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I know how long you've been

listening to these episodes.

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Stop cutting me off at just one minute,

because let's face it, there's so much

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more than what meets the surface of just

one minute, and even if you do consider

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the fact that many people don't want to

talk about this topic at all and just

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avoid something like this altogether,

maybe you might want to ask them to

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tune in to this episode, because the

strategies that we might talk about might

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resonate with some of the people that

might be resisted to constant change.

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Every time that we set up New Year

goals, which by the way, have you

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been doing well on your goals; those

might be ways in which we can check

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in to make sure that we're making

that meaningful stride to be able to

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evolve into a cosmos of our own kind.

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Whether we want to be a cosmos

or not, we oftentimes are pushed

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into situations in which we have

to evolve; we have no choice.

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Especially in the society that

we live in today, I'm sure that

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many of us can relate to the fact

that we have to be able to grow.

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We have to be able to learn to adapt to

the variety of different changes that

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are occurring, whether that is from

an economical standpoint, which we're

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cutting back, but maybe to even new

skills for that matter: aI, artificial

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intelligence, being one of them.

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When you think about the fact that

with all these things happening all

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at once, what are some areas in which

we can create meaningful strides to

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be able to have that evolving change?

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I think that important question helps us

to understand the opportunities that will

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help us to circle around not only becoming

more proactive, but being insulated to

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many of the negative changes that usually

happen because it's all about mindset.

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There's varying amounts of thought

and even discussion from the coaching

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community about what that even entails,

so even if you want to talk about today

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the importance of learning and growing

from a variety of different perspectives

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when it comes to your own mindset, keep

in mind that every person's mindset

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ultimately starts from being a child,

which one of my guests, which will be

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coming up here in a future episode, talks

about the three seats that we sit in;

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the opportunities in which we might be

able to learn a little bit more about

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why we sit in each of those chairs, which

I won't go too much into today, but I'm

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just going to leave it with this: maybe

with some of the things that we talked

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about, even in a previous episode about

our childhood, have severe ramifications

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about the ways in which we're able

to navigate through these challenges.

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Being able to evolve doesn't

necessarily mean writing down what

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we are today and then what we want to

be tomorrow and comparing it, seeing

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if we're making that percentage gain.

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How boring.

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Ugh.

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I'm sure that many of you are even

letting out an audible, "ugh", because

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I know that that might be frustrating,

because who wants to do that kind of work?

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Let's do it this way.

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Think of an image in your head

of what you would look like if

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you have been able to evolve.

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Evolution can come in

many different strides.

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We even talked about in the previous

monologue episode about the importance of

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looking at your business from a variety

of different angles: your branding, your

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ability to look at the bigger picture,

bringing other people in that will help

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you to think along the lines of what

you're trying to achieve, but what if

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you were able to draw a mind map, or even

a mind picture for that matter, or even

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use AI for that matter, which the variety

of different things available from DALI,

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you could create that image in your head.

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What would it look like to be successful,

whether it's in the physical assets,

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whether it's in the mind picture that

you have of your thoughts, feelings,

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emotions; what is the feeling that is

connected with it, and I want you to

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just spend a second to think about that,

even if you have to pause the episode.

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Think about what that would look like

in your mind, of all the different

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things that you have available to you,

as a result of achieving success; that

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success that you create inside of you.

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All those things just manifesting

into this wonderful picture of who

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you are now, which not even as close

to what you might have been writing

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out or even picturing, especially as

you created this image of yourself.

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I know.

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That seems a little sad,

because you're not there.

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It might be a little depressing

to wake yourself up from reality

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and now know that you're not

there, but not all hope is lost.

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The whole purpose of even having

coaches for that matter is to

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understand that we are looking at a

mindset of today that is holding us

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back, to help us understand what we

can do to become a bigger, brighter

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version of ourselves down the road.

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It means understanding and creating

the opportunities, especially in even

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challenging times, to learn and prosper

from the different ideas that we can

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bring to the table, and how many times

have we brought these ideas to the

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table, which I know some of you have,

but you haven't acted on them yet?

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What's holding you back?

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What's really holding you from the

opportunity to see yourself evolve into

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something else, and that's something

that I really want to explore in

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this latter part of this episode,

which is about the concept of fear.

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I think that fear is what really holds

us back from not only achieving the

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values that we want to ultimately

have, but also the success that we can

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ultimately see right in front of us.

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Whether it's a good, whether it's a bad,

whether it's something in between, I

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think that regardless of what we see,

no matter what kind of changes are

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happening, regardless of what things

mean, if we're taking those strides

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in the right direction, means that

we have to understand the building

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blocks that we're standing on, because

if they're not built from the right

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material, that's why fear will creep in.

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Now, those building blocks that I'm

talking about, meaning that you actually

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have to construct things that allow

you to move from one place to another.

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I talked about in the last

monologue episode about the

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importance of relationships.

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Those are really the biggest foundations

that I will argue to the very end of

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time will help you get to the next

point in another, and I know this

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guy, who's talking to you right now,

that doesn't do a good job of that

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sometimes, and I'm working on that.

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Yet, at the same token, when we look at

the other side of the coin, relationships

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are only just one component of it.

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On the other side of that coin, you

have to look at all the things that help

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to contribute to that success, whether

those are people might be just one

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consideration of the overall solution.

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It might be the money

that you need to have.

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The capital that you need

to invest in something.

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Whether that's buying a house.

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Whether it's being able to get groceries.

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Whether it's even being able to buy

that trailer that you always wanted

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to have so you can take those road

trip adventures across the country.

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All of those have to have

some kind of plan behind it.

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Being able to create those meaningful

strides, though, means being able to

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walk yourself back and forth into the

existence of knowing that one day,

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maybe not tomorrow, maybe not thirty

days from now, but maybe six months

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to a year or even longer, that you're

going to be able to achieve things.

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It's almost as if you're

getting a college degree.

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It takes a long term plan of four plus

years, although for many cases it's

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usually five for the traditional degree,

to be able to achieve that piece of

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paper, in order to have those designations

necessary for you to achieve success.

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All those things, I know that for many

of us, can be very daunting, and even

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today's culture is moving away from the

paper degrees and allowing us to get

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actual skill; to be able to apply that

skill almost immediately to the variety

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of different challenges that exist,

not only in today's culture, but in the

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industries that we're trying to serve,

but the strategies to allow us to grow,

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regardless of whatever is shifting, means

that you have to overcome your fear.

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I can tell you of numerous examples

of clients that I've had, or continue

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to work with, along with the variety

of different people that I interact

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with, on a daily basis, about the

importance of not only looking at and

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staring fear in the eye, but when you

know that that fear is coming, what are

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some ways in which we can process it?

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We actually walk through in my coaching

about what that fear looks like.

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What is the worst case scenario

that could occur, and try to develop

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strategies so that those fears are not

necessarily standing in your way, but

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you could at least acknowledge them,

because they will always be present.

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We want the relationships to be

healthy, but we also don't want them

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to be unhealthy either, because when

we're feeling unhealthy, and I've even

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mentioned this on previous episodes, we

will start to feel sick in the physical

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sense, but also the mental sense.

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I can't tell you how many times

with people that I've known, even

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myself included, that have walked

down that slippery slope about not

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feeling good about ourselves, let

alone each other for that matter.

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Fear is a nasty four letter word that

I think paralyzes us to the core,

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and oftentimes creates the stigma of

not being able to do our very best.

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When we are trying to work on our very

best, it means that we have to overcome

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some of the challenges that exist.

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It means being able to understand and

capitulate in a variety of different

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ways how we can overcome that.

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It means talking out a variety of

different things that might not

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ever come to existence, but know

that we are able to overcome them

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in order to become more evolved.

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That is why we're working on

these things, and becoming so much

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better at them at the same time.

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Growing regardless of the challenges means

that we have to have a mindset that not

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only dispels fear, but the fear itself

can be used as energy to help ourselves

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grow in a variety of different ways.

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Think of it like public speaking.

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There are so many times that I've told

clients, and even have heard stories from

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other Toastmasters for that matter, of

using fear as a way in which they're able

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to express themselves in ways in which

they never thought they could ever express

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themselves in, whether that's singing,

whether that is doing a choreography of

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a dance, or maybe even doing something

that is so completely common, but yet

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they were so afraid to do it themselves.

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Acknowledging that there is something

that is sitting amongst us, is

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sometimes the fear that hides behind it.

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It's in disguise.

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It's so disguised that sometimes we

don't even see it when we're walking by,

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but yet when we're able to acknowledge

it and we're able to make meaningful

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strides towards it, we are now scaring

the crap out of what fear really is.

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Those are the things that if we're able

to build the blocks of the knowledge,

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the skills, the abilities, that's going

to allow us to climb to higher heights.

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It's going to allow us to do the things

that we normally don't do, and those are

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usually the hard skills that we learn, but

if you think about it, the soft skills,

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the things that we learn even as a child,

being able to communicate, being able to

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say please and thank you, being able to

have the right dialogue with other people,

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is oftentimes lost in translation from

one generation to the next, which have

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different ideas of how to utilize it.

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It's not necessarily

mean it's a bad thing.

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It can be a good thing in some context,

but oftentimes the negative consequences

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outweigh the positive, which is why it's

sad when we see a new generation losing

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some of the things that even previous

generations have even fought for, for

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even their consideration to be able to

become better than they already are.

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They've already done the hard work,

those previous generations, but yet

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the new generations just don't know

how to utilize those skills that

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they're learning to become better

in the grand scheme of things.

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Our competitive advantage depends on

the ability for us to not just build

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blocks that help us to transverse

the different obstacles that face

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us, whether there are rivers or

valleys or streams or even mountains.

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It means engaging in a proactive

conversation about the fears that

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we have, not only intrinsically, but

extrinsically as well; to be able

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to learn how to communicate them and

capitulate them in a way in which they

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are no longer standing in our way.

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If you can get to the core of that

strategy, you can grow regardless of

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anything that is ever moving forward

or moving us backward for that matter.

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You can stop things in their tracks if you

know how to evolve into a better person.

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It doesn't mean that you have to stop

everything and learn a new skill today,

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and it doesn't mean that you have to go

find five people and figure it out in a

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small group of, what am I doing wrong?

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What can I do better?

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Some of the damage that might have

been already done might not be able

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to be reversed, at least in the short

term, but again, as I even mentioned

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in episode 109, it's about what you

can do in the long term, so here we go.

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We're ending this episode almost in

the same way that we started it from

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the other episode, with the same

tact that fear is nothing to fear.

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We do not have to have all these

concerns on our plate that weigh

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us down almost like a dead weight.

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We have to just learn that sometimes

those thoughts are the manifestations

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of the things that we fear the most,

and sometimes they're disguised

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in ways in which we're not capable

of understanding today, but we'll

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be able to understand tomorrow.

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Progress comes when we learn that fear

is nothing that can stand in our way.

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We can learn how to adapt and evolve

if we're just willing to challenge

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ourselves in the ways in which we

don't look at things negatively,

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but we don't necessarily always

have to look at them positively too.

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All we have to do is just look at

them differently from a different

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perspective, and that's how we're

able to evolve, consistently, time

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and time again, because let's face it.

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If you look at all the things that we've

been able to ever do in this world, it's

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all because someone else had a different

perspective instead of looking at the

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cup half full, maybe they looked at it

half empty, and they were also able to

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solve some of life's challenges, let

alone, create human evolution that has

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been tested time and time again, and has

been the most successful of all success.

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I believe in you and your success to

evolve, and that is what counts the most.

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Thanks for listening

to episode number 111.

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of Speaking From the Heart,

and I look forward to hearing

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from your heart, very soon.

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