The primary focus of this discourse centers around the introspective notion of non-action and its profound implications on self-acceptance and personal agency. We delve into the psychological ramifications of avoidance and the pervasive "what if" questions that often plague individuals, stemming from their reluctance to confront their choices and the resulting consequences. The dialogue underscores the dichotomy between the inability to face oneself in the mirror due to inaction and the arduous journey of accepting one's past decisions, be they commendable or regrettable. Furthermore, we explore the societal influences that perpetuate this struggle, as individuals frequently yield to external expectations rather than embracing their authentic selves. Ultimately, we contend that the path toward self-acceptance is fraught with challenges, yet it is imperative for fostering genuine personal growth and fulfillment.
Takeaways:
The reluctance to confront oneself in the mirror is often rooted in a lack of action.
The question of ‘what if’ frequently haunts individuals due to missed opportunities and choices.
Acceptance of one's past actions and their consequences can be an arduous journey for many.
The influence of societal programming can lead individuals to struggle with self-acceptance and authenticity.
Both non-action and acceptance pose significant challenges that individuals must navigate throughout their lives.
Ultimately, the struggle to look in the mirror reflects deeper issues of identity and societal expectations.
What's an example of somebody not being able to look at want to look in the mirror because of non action?
Speaker B:
Can you think of an example mental
Speaker A:
off the top of the head?
Speaker A:
I can't because I, you know, well,
Speaker B:
hey, I, I, you want want me to help you and everybody out here and listening land this question will be easy for everybody who hears me to answer.
Speaker B:
When you hear the question.
Speaker B:
When it comes to why you don't want to look in the mirror because of non action, all you have to do is ask yourself, do you have anything?
Speaker B:
Anything?
Speaker B:
You ever wonder what if?
Speaker B:
Your what if question that you have sitting in your heart, you have that because of non action.
Speaker B:
What do I mean?
Speaker B:
What if I would have did this?
Speaker B:
What I would have did that?
Speaker B:
What if I would have insert your what if now guess what everybody, you got to take that to the grave with you for the most part.
Speaker B:
True,
Speaker C:
True.
Speaker B:
Hey, because that's an answer you will never be able to answer.
Speaker B:
What if, what if?
Speaker B:
When that my ex asked me for my phone number, I would have kept on walking.
Speaker A:
What if, what if, what if, what
Speaker B:
if, what if I would have left this person at this certain amount of time.
Speaker B:
Oh, let's take it off relationships.
Speaker B:
What if I would have buckled down in school and did my work and I skip out?
Speaker B:
Hey, let's take it to sports.
Speaker B:
What if I would have went to the gym and worked out and actually did what I had to do to where would I be?
Speaker B:
Would I have got that college scholarship?
Speaker B:
Would I be in the NFL or NBA or whatever?
Speaker B:
But now you're 37, you gotta take that to the grave with your chief.
Speaker A:
It's always the what ifs and that's
Speaker B:
why you don't want to look in the mirror because of non action.
Speaker A:
So true.
Speaker B:
Now here's the question.
Speaker B:
Which one is harder?
Speaker B:
Non action?
Speaker B:
Not being able to look out in the mirror because of non action or because of knowing and acceptance?
Speaker A:
I think they both have my opinion.
Speaker A:
I think they both are hard.
Speaker B:
Yeah, I agree with you.
Speaker B:
Pick one.
Speaker B:
Mr. Libra.
Speaker B:
Get off the fence.
Speaker B:
How about you?
Speaker B:
Let's let the Libra think about that for a minute.
Speaker B:
Mental.
Speaker B:
Which one, which one you think is harder to take to the grave?
Speaker C:
Probably acceptance.
Speaker B:
Knowing and acceptance.
Speaker C:
Yeah, Because you know if you, you could always, if if nothing bad turned out, you, if you're like, okay, well you know, what if I would have did this or what if I would have did that?
Speaker C:
You know, you look at the, the time period, you're like Well, I still turned out good, you know, no, no harm, no foul.
Speaker C:
But, you know, accepting that you just.
Speaker C:
Or not just, but you did some heinous.
Speaker C:
And you trying to, you trying to, you know, you're trying to, you know, make, make right right.
Speaker C:
You feel, you know, like, like maybe if it was like physical injury that really somebody else up drunk driving, for instance, all right, you know, drinking, had too many that happened, you'd have killed somebody.
Speaker C:
Here we is 10 years later, you still thinking about that shit, you know, you know, accepting it's done.
Speaker C:
You know, you, you, you trying to right your wrongs.
Speaker C:
You know, I think, I think accepting is harder than just wondering about a what if.
Speaker A:
See, now you just gave the prime example of the reason why I said both was hard.
Speaker A:
You gave prime example because you can accept that, but you're still going to go to your grave with that what if question.
Speaker A:
What if I didn't drink?
Speaker A:
What if I didn't do drugs?
Speaker A:
What if I didn't do that and that person wouldn't have died.
Speaker A:
What if.
Speaker A:
What if.
Speaker A:
So we can, we can put that
Speaker C:
question, we can insert that question for anything, though.
Speaker C:
I mean, really.
Speaker A:
But, but what I'm saying is you got.
Speaker B:
Hey, mental.
Speaker B:
You know, I like to take devil's advocate.
Speaker B:
Play devil's advocate.
Speaker B:
So can I turn around and ask you, Mental, do you.
Speaker B:
Do you think that's the problem with the, with society?
Speaker B:
People don't ask themselves what if before an action?
Speaker C:
I mean, that's, that's, that's one of the problems.
Speaker C:
That's what that could, that, that could be one of the problems.
Speaker C:
Yeah.
Speaker B:
Think about it.
Speaker B:
Hey, a lot of action is done and, and, and a lot of people don't think of the consequences.
Speaker C:
Yeah.
Speaker B:
To say it, actions.
Speaker B:
But when I didn't use these words, these words came out of y' all knowing and acceptance.
Speaker B:
But when y' all said that were.
Speaker B:
I didn't.
Speaker B:
The way you used it just now, Mental.
Speaker B:
That's not how I was thinking, but,
Speaker A:
you know, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker A:
Mentor gave a prime example of how that could be two ways.
Speaker B:
No, no, I'm saying that just that word acceptance, he was saying acceptance of, hey, I drank, I killed somebody, now I got to sit here and do 10 years.
Speaker B:
I gotta accept my consequences for that said action.
Speaker B:
That's not what, that's not.
Speaker B:
When y' all was using that word, that's not how I was thinking y' all was using it.
Speaker B:
My.
Speaker B:
Mine is.
Speaker B:
Was a little different from how he just used it.
Speaker B:
Right when you was you, when you said y' all was saying acceptance, what, how you were thinking, how you was thinking, what's that word bring to you?
Speaker A:
Well, when I, when, when that word was brought up, acceptance, mine was more along the line of accepting yourself for everything that you have ever, bad or good.
Speaker A:
Accepting all of yourself is where I was taking.
Speaker A:
Accepting everything about every aspect of who you are.
Speaker A:
Because there's a saying out there and the saying goes, everything that happens to you, I don't forgot the saying, happens for you.
Speaker A:
Yeah, everything that happens to you is actually for you, not against you.
Speaker B:
So when y' all was using the word hey as acceptance, my mind went to, hey, y' all know how I always sign off, Know thyself and balance your energy.
Speaker B:
So y' all said knowing and acceptance.
Speaker B:
So my mind went to knowing who you really are and accepting that for it.
Speaker B:
And what do I mean by that?
Speaker B:
It goes back to, hey, understand you're programmed.
Speaker B:
Get off the programming, really know who you are and accept yourself for that.
Speaker B:
And, and the reason.
Speaker B:
Hey, could some.
Speaker B:
Then my mind went to, hey, the reason some people can't look theyself in the mirror is because they know that's not them, that they twisting themselves into a pretzel to try to be accepted by others.
Speaker A:
But here's the thing about it is you like how.
Speaker B:
You like how I went there with that.
Speaker B:
Think about it, though.
Speaker B:
Wait.
Speaker A:
Why should we accept what people say about us?
Speaker A:
Why should we accept that we we shouldn't?
Speaker B:
But that's the programming.
Speaker B:
That's how, that's how the Matrix is set up.
Speaker A:
You got to accept the things that you've done.
Speaker A:
You gotta accept you.
Speaker A:
You got to learn to accept yourself.
Speaker B:
Okay, Rafiki, what do.
Speaker B:
What do I mean by that?
Speaker B:
I'll give you an example.
Speaker B:
What if you are born to a family of athletes and you don't like sports?
Speaker B:
You're good at.
Speaker B:
And you're actually good at it if you go outside and play, but in all actuality, you want to be an actress or actor.
Speaker B:
Does someone know themselves that much and accept themselves that much to look at their family and say, hey, even though I can go out here and dominate these people on this court, I ain't doing that.
Speaker B:
I'm gonna.
Speaker A:
Some can do that and some can't do that.
Speaker A:
Yeah.
Speaker C:
And see, and that would go.
Speaker C:
That would go towards the wanting to be accepted by others.
Speaker B:
There you go.
Speaker C:
So, and, and, and if you, I mean, for one, your parents or.
Speaker C:
And your.
Speaker C:
Your family have to accept that that's not what you want to do.
Speaker B:
Yeah, but that.
Speaker B:
I hear y'.
Speaker B:
All.
Speaker B:
But as you look out in this matrix, what do y' all see?
Speaker C:
Yeah, that's happening.
Speaker C:
Yeah.
Speaker B:
What do you see?
Speaker B:
What do you see?
Speaker A:
You see it happen.
Speaker A:
That you see it.
Speaker A:
That the people will.
Speaker A:
They're influenced by their family because they're programmed.
Speaker A:
They don't have.
Speaker A:
They can't think on their own.
Speaker B:
Is that.
Speaker B:
Is that why.
Speaker B:
Did I ask the question?
Speaker B:
Is that why some people struggle to look in the mirror?
