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Through time and space, these things we call good and evil, these
Speaker:moralities and ethics that we learn, sometimes murky, they're a little gray.
Speaker:This particular week I'm going to talk about revealing the truth
Speaker:about all the traits that you might have as a human being.
Speaker:And you probably think, what, how's that going to be related to? Well,
Speaker:in most cases,
Speaker:people are trying to get rid of half of themselves and trying to only be
Speaker:one-sided. And as a result of it,
Speaker:they're becoming elated and proud when they're one side and shamed on the other
Speaker:side,
Speaker:and they split themselves apart and disempower themselves
Speaker:perception of themselves.
Speaker:And I'd like to address that topic about human behavior and traits,
Speaker:because it's very pertinent. At first you may not think it's significant,
Speaker:but it's very significant. And I'd like to give you a background on that.
Speaker:About 38 years ago, I was realizing, well,
Speaker:prior to that, up until about 38 years ago,
Speaker:I was realizing that when I would interact with people and I would judge people,
Speaker:sometimes silently inside,
Speaker:I would look down on people or look up at people.
Speaker:I didn't always want to admit it,
Speaker:but I was too proud or too humble sometimes to admit what I
Speaker:saw in them inside me. But I didn't want to speak up about it.
Speaker:But I was realizing that what I was saying to them many times was for me.
Speaker:And the thing I was thinking about them was also about me and it was making me
Speaker:reflect on my own life.
Speaker:So I was realizing that instead of waiting for somebody to push
Speaker:my buttons and initiate a reaction that would hook me with
Speaker:an elation or depression or an infatuation or resentment,
Speaker:and then have them occupy my mind and run me,
Speaker:I thought that maybe I might want to go to the dictionary.
Speaker:And I went to the Oxford English dictionary because
Speaker:could find. And I went through and I underlined or circled,
Speaker:mainly underlined,
Speaker:every possible human behavioral trait that I could find in
Speaker:English. And there may be other ones in different languages, but in English.
Speaker:And I underlined them.
Speaker:And put a little dot out next to the dictionary.
Speaker:And then once I underlined them, there were 4,628 traits I found.
Speaker:Now, Gordon Allport, who's a psychologist that predated me,
Speaker:I didn't know until a few years ago that he'd done something similar.
Speaker:He was looking at traits and he wanted to know what are all the human traits too
Speaker:in the English language. And he came up with 4,000 at the time,
Speaker:so possibly because of his time, the number of words have expanded,
Speaker:but I came up with 4,628 traits.
Speaker:Now these were like nice, mean, kind, cruel, labels,
Speaker:you know, considerate, inconsiderate, honest, dishonest, outspoken,
Speaker:withdrawn, considerate, inconsiderate, as I said.
Speaker:But any possible trait, deceptive, integral, you know,
Speaker:forthright, holding things back, procrastinated, hesitated, you name it.
Speaker:I went through 4,628 traits,
Speaker:and I underlined them. And then I thought,
Speaker:who do I know when I think of that trait, who comes to mind,
Speaker:who do I think of that's got the most extreme display of that trait,
Speaker:that when I think of that trait, I think of them?
Speaker:And I put their initials out to the side and kind of wrote their name out to the
Speaker:side. And then I looked inside myself,
Speaker:and I probably wasn't as thorough as I would be today,
Speaker:but I looked at where do I and when do I display that trait?
Speaker:And I found when I was honest,
Speaker:and some of them were painful and some were pleasureful,
Speaker:some I was proud of owning and some I was ashamed of owning.
Speaker:But I went and I realized, I got them all.
Speaker:I had all 4,628 traits.
Speaker:And even when I looked under murder,
Speaker:I realized that I was murdering personalities in my work with people.
Speaker:They'd have a persona and I would challenge them and
Speaker:transform them in my programs. And I was murdering their personas,
Speaker:their identities, and transforming their lives and I thought, wow,
Speaker:I'm a murderer too, in that respect, at least metaphorically.
Speaker:But I owned every one of those traits.
Speaker:And therefore when I would see them,
Speaker:instead of me reacting and being too proud or too humble to admit what I saw in
Speaker:them, I looked at myself and I had a little less reaction,
Speaker:I can't say I eliminated the reactions,
Speaker:but I noticed that at least I was reflective enough to
Speaker:and kind of pause and think a bit with my executive function a bit,
Speaker:before I reacted. Sometimes I just reacted, and then I had to go, oops.
Speaker:And by hindsight, look and see, oh yeah, that's me too.
Speaker:But it really did assist me in being more broadened in my
Speaker:perspective and less narrow and rigid about my reactions to people.
Speaker:Because then I realized that when I was pointing my finger at them,
Speaker:I was looking back at myself. There was a Romans in the New Testament,
Speaker:there was a Romans statement under Romans 2-1 or,
Speaker:you know,
Speaker:chapter two verse one or whatever about that whatever we judge and others we
Speaker:have in ourselves, and you know, who are you to judge basically,
Speaker:got a pointing finger out, three pointing back. And I realized this was true.
Speaker:I saw it firsthand. And then I realized, wait a minute now,
Speaker:I have been programmed from childhood, from mothers, fathers, preachers,
Speaker:teachers, conventions, traditions, school teachers, you name it,
Speaker:that I'm 'good' if I'm one side and I'm 'bad' if I'm another,
Speaker:and I'm trying to get rid of half of it.
Speaker:And I thought that's an interesting thing. You know, your mom says, be nice,
Speaker:don't be mean, be kind, don't be cruel, be positive, don't be negative,
Speaker:be generous, don't be stingy, be positive, you know, be peaceful,
Speaker:don't be warful. And yet, I found that everybody who was telling me that,
Speaker:it's almost like they were talking to themselves because within minutes or days
Speaker:or hours or whatever, I would find the hypocrisy of that.
Speaker:They would end up being yelling at dad or they'd be being negative,
Speaker:or they'd be, you know, inconsiderate. And I thought, wait a minute now,
Speaker:we're all going around pointing our fingers,
Speaker:we're all living by these so-called social idealisms, these moral hypocrisies,
Speaker:but yet no one's really living it.
Speaker:I remember reading Alasdair MacIntyre in his history of ethics showing that the
Speaker:purpose was moralities were things that we all strive for but never obtained.
Speaker:And then I thought, but why?
Speaker:Why are we striving for something that's not obtainable? I,
Speaker:when I was 18 years old, I started reading books on positive thinking. And I,
Speaker:no matter what I did, I still had negative thinking,
Speaker:and I couldn't seem to get rid of it, and I would try to cancel it out,
Speaker:I'd try to negate it. I would try to pretend like it wasn't there.
Speaker:I'd try to put on a facade that I wasn't negative,
Speaker:but the truth was I was negating people and negating parts of myself and
Speaker:negative towards certain things in the world.
Speaker:And then I started to meet the individuals that were supposedly positive
Speaker:thinking leaders, you know, the Norman Vincent Peale,
Speaker:I met all these top leaders in the area of positive thinking,
Speaker:and I got to meet them and hang out with them and I found out they weren't
Speaker:positive thinking, they were positive and negative. So was I. And I thought,
Speaker:well, wait a minute now.
Speaker:Then it reminded me of something I read when I was 18 by Paul Dirac;
Speaker:it's not that we don't know so much, it's that we know so much that it isn't so.
Speaker:So I thought, well wait a minute,
Speaker:are we being hoodwinked by these ideas that we're supposed to be one-sided?
Speaker:And I tell people in my seminars all the time, you know,
Speaker:if you're trying to get rid of half of yourself to love yourself,
Speaker:it's going to be futile. You're not going to get rid of it.
Speaker:And I ask people in seminars sometimes,
Speaker:how many have been trying to get rid of negative thinking?
Speaker:They all put their hands up. And I said,
Speaker:how many of you still have negative thinking? They all put their hands up.
Speaker:How many of you been trying to get rid of anger? They all put their hands up.
Speaker:How many of you still have anger?
Speaker:And I found out you don't really ever get rid of anything.
Speaker:You just suppress it and then it explodes.
Speaker:Or you pivot over into a form that you're denying in your mind because you don't
Speaker:think it's the old way. And then you realize that you have all these behaviors.
Speaker:And then I kind of went, wait a minute now,
Speaker:are these behaviors really bad or good?
Speaker:Because if I go and study comparative moralities around the world,
Speaker:what's good in one country is bad in another. In South Africa, the leader,
Speaker:Zuma the president a few years back, was married to I think nine wives.
Speaker:In America, you go to prison for it. But over there you're honored as a king.
Speaker:That's interesting. What's good over there is bad over here.
Speaker:And then smoking I saw in France for many years still continued even though
Speaker:America had made it banned in restaurants, but they were doing it there.
Speaker:So I thought, well now we're, if you raised in that period, you think, well,
Speaker:that's a bad thing and over there it's, you'd see it's a good thing.
Speaker:And the same thing at one time in church, they used to say,
Speaker:you're not allowed to eat meat on Fridays. But then people ate meat on Fridays,
Speaker:they changed it,
Speaker:and you weren't supposed to have businesses open with
Speaker:until after a certain time or any time during the day.
Speaker:And then finally 7-11 and all these businesses came on,
Speaker:and then it wasn't evil. So I realized that through time and space,
Speaker:these things we call good and evil these,
Speaker:these moralities and ethics that we learn sometimes murky,
Speaker:they're a little gray.
Speaker:And then you've got situational ethics and situational ethics makes things that
Speaker:were normally not good, okay.
Speaker:And then I started realizing that we're going around and judging ourselves and
Speaker:other people based on murky information. And sometimes,
Speaker:when you look at the moralities and the ethics on there,
Speaker:sometimes they're just created by those that have power and things that they
Speaker:don't like, in their needs,
Speaker:even though it's supposed to be democratically
Speaker:has anybody here ever decided the morals and ethics of society?
Speaker:And nobody puts their hand up unless they're in politics or in some sort of
Speaker:legal area. And then I realize that it's kind of an illusion.
Speaker:There's only a handful of people that are actually selecting those things we
Speaker:call good and evil, and it's a social contract that we label.
Speaker:And so these judgments of these traits are social contracts that we think is
Speaker:going to make society more functional. And some of them seem to be, you know,
Speaker:running a red light is not to our advantage, so we put a rule in there,
Speaker:if you run a red light, you get in trouble. If you don't red a red light,
Speaker:but if there's nobody there and you're in middle of nowhere and you run a red
Speaker:light, nobody gets hurt. So, but ideally that's sort of an ideal.
Speaker:It's a social idealism,
Speaker:it's a social contract that we think is going to be very helpful and it serves a
Speaker:lot of purposes. But it also, when it comes to judging personalities,
Speaker:it can also cause a split in your personality and make
Speaker:And by the way, when you're proud,
Speaker:you're exaggerating yourself and not really being authentic.
Speaker:And when you're shamed,
Speaker:you're minimizing yourself and not really being authentic.
Speaker:So those moralities and those social contracts are
Speaker:keeps people from being authentic. And then we say, so help me God,
Speaker:I'm being honest,
Speaker:but really it's these personas that are basically displaying these perceptions.
Speaker:We know that when we are actually perceiving things from these personas,
Speaker:we skew our reality and what we think is opinion, we think is truth.
Speaker:It's actually just an opinion and it's subjectively biased.
Speaker:And there's a lot of subjective bias.
Speaker:There's about 170 different types of subjective biases that we have on labeling
Speaker:these things. So what am I saying here?
Speaker:What if you found out that every trait in a human being was part of our journey?
Speaker:And what if you found out that if it didn't serve, it would've gone extinct?
Speaker:Just like vestigial organs in our body, you know, if they don't have any use,
Speaker:they tend to diminish their function. Kind of an evolutionary necessity.
Speaker:But these traits we still have.
Speaker:If we go read Sumerian Doctrines and Doctorate you know,
Speaker:and we read Egyptian, you know, scrolls,
Speaker:or you read some of the temple walls, or you go and read the Greeks,
Speaker:you'll see that some of the same behavior is hanging out in 2,000,
Speaker:3,000 years ago. Hasn't changed. We haven't gotten rid of those traits,
Speaker:but we label them bad in our society, but they're still there.
Speaker:So what if you found out that every trait was part of a journey?
Speaker:What if you didn't need to get rid of any part of yourself to love yourself?
Speaker:What if all of the traits, at times, have a place?
Speaker:And knowing when to use them is wisdom. You know,
Speaker:if all of a sudden somebody's about to attack your child,
Speaker:you may want to use force and brute and bit aggressive and beat somebody or
Speaker:protect a child or kill somebody even. And then under those situations,
Speaker:situational ethics, you might find, well, that's a good thing,
Speaker:but that's an arbitrary thing, what they want verse what you want.
Speaker:And these are murky and they're very murky situations,
Speaker:and you could go and go down and play with these things until you're,
Speaker:drive yourself crazy with all the, you know, the situational changes.
Speaker:But I'm just going to make a statement here.
Speaker:And I've been doing the Breakthrough Experience Program,
Speaker:which is my signature program for 34 years.
Speaker:And I've been taking people that come in to the program and I ask them to take
Speaker:somebody they admire and take somebody they despise and identify what specific
Speaker:trait,
Speaker:action or inactions that they displayed or demonstrate that they admire most or
Speaker:despise most, they label good or bad, they're attracted to repelled from,
Speaker:impulsively or instinctively. And then I go, okay,
Speaker:let's take that trait we admire and let's find the downsides,
Speaker:and let's take that trait we despise and let's find the upsides.
Speaker:And I've taken well over a hundred thousand people through that process.
Speaker:And surprisingly, even though the program says otherwise,
Speaker:our conventions, traditions and mores say one thing,
Speaker:the truth is we can find downsides to things that we are enamored
Speaker:with and we think are good and we can find upsides.
Speaker:And when you actually look at it, you can actually see both sides.
Speaker:And when you see both sides, you're more neutral and objective about it.
Speaker:You know, Plato used to, in his dialogues,
Speaker:there's a story of a man saying something and you know,
Speaker:he was condemning Plato and the guy was saying,
Speaker:this is good and what he's doing is wrong.
Speaker:And Plato way outwitted him and basically asked him some questions to make him
Speaker:realize that maybe the thing he was thinking was good, was bad.
Speaker:And then the guy thought, well, Plato was actually brilliant,
Speaker:and he was just oversighting.
Speaker:And then Plato turned around and then showed how it was bad again.
Speaker:And then he was, then he was confused,
Speaker:and then he showed him how it was good again.
Speaker:He took him back around on this dialogue, back and forth until the guy goes,
Speaker:I know not which is good or bad in this situation.
Speaker:And Plato was trying to point out that the broader the mind, the less you judge.
Speaker:In a narrow mind, you make it black or white.
Speaker:But in a broader mind you see kind of a gray. You see both sides.
Speaker:You have a relativism instead of an absolutism in your perspective.
Speaker:A narrow mindedness is very black and white, but a broad minded is more gray,
Speaker:more sees both sides, simultaneously. Wilhelm Wundt, the psychologist,
Speaker:about 1896 said, that when you see simultaneous contrast,
Speaker:you have full awareness, you're mindful. When you see sequential contrast,
Speaker:where you see the positives without the negatives,
Speaker:or the negatives without the positives, you don't have full awareness. See,
Speaker:when you're infatuated with somebody and you think they're all positive and
Speaker:good, you're blind to the downsides. You're unconscious of the downsides.
Speaker:You're ignoring, blind, and missing information.
Speaker:So what you think is an opinion and you're now reacting to it emotionally.
Speaker:And what you think is bad thing is something you resent,
Speaker:you're conscious of the downsides, unconscious of the upsides,
Speaker:and you're ignoring and missing information about the upsides.
Speaker:And your intuition is trying to whisper to you the both sides.
Speaker:So you can see both sides.
Speaker:So you can be set free from the thing you infatuate or resent,
Speaker:because it occupies space and time in your mind. But once you see both sides,
Speaker:you're poised, you're present, you feel purposeful,
Speaker:you see the hidden order in what was happening,
Speaker:you've extracted the mean out of the, the meaning out of those experiences.
Speaker:And all of a sudden you realize that, you know, it transcend it, it's
Speaker:metaethical. It's beyond the pair of opposites,
Speaker:beyond the positive and negative, beyond the good and evil,
Speaker:beyond the right and wrong. It's just, two sides, simultaneously.
Speaker:And therefore neither side.
Speaker:I wonder what would happen if we actually saw that in all of our traits.
Speaker:In the Breakthrough Experience I have people, like I say,
Speaker:come and they are infatuated with people or resentful to people. They walk in,
Speaker:they have one opinion, when they walk out,
Speaker:they see both sides and they have tears of gratitude and they feel love and they
Speaker:feel more present and they feel more certain that they can embrace this
Speaker:individual for their wholeness,
Speaker:instead of their subjective biased interpretation that's usually, you know,
Speaker:socially, you know, mothers, fathers, preachers, teachers, conventions, mores,
Speaker:traditions, telling them about how this is good and bad.
Speaker:But the truth is it's not. It's just an event.
Speaker:I'd rather see life as specific events and then extract out both sides
Speaker:of it, see it for what it fully is, what's actually there,
Speaker:instead of what I realize through my senses,
Speaker:which is subjectively biased in many cases,
Speaker:and then I'm impulsively attracted to it and I'm run by it extrinsically,
Speaker:or I'm instinctfully avoiding it and I'm running extrinsically.
Speaker:And then the world outside me runs me. And if I have to be run from the outside,
Speaker:that means I have to be governed and controlled from the outside.
Speaker:So therefore religion and politics have to run my life instead of me
Speaker:intrinsically, with my physiology and psychology running my life.
Speaker:I'd much rather have my physiology and psychology running me and be autotelic
Speaker:instead of the sociology, politics and theology,
Speaker:religions running me with things that may be outdated and may polarized.
Speaker:We see on the social media a lot of polarization and misinformation campaigns.
Speaker:I don't want to be run by misinformation. I'd rather see things objectively.
Speaker:You know,
Speaker:it's like balancing out the mathematical equation and seeing a more abstract
Speaker:awareness of both sides than being caught into the trivia and
Speaker:trivial pursuits, if you will. So what I'm saying in this,
Speaker:this little dissertation here,
Speaker:is that you have inside you the capacity to ask questions,
Speaker:to make you consciously aware of what you've been unconscious of and see both
Speaker:sides of an event and take the traits that you've been judging as positive or
Speaker:negative, and see both sides and see them neither positive or negative,
Speaker:and see them as just essential components of your being and part of what makes
Speaker:you whole.
Speaker:And stop making yourself proud or shamed and bipolarized,
Speaker:and allow yourself to love yourself for both sides. You know,
Speaker:when you get in a marriage you may start out with an infatuation.
Speaker:You may go vacillating back and forth with some resentments,
Speaker:and infatuation resentments, and eventually you settle down and realize,
Speaker:there's things I like and dislike about the individual.
Speaker:There's things you're going to like and dislike about yourself,
Speaker:but primarily because of the social,
Speaker:injected mores that you have taken into your life from mother's,
Speaker:father's, preachers, teachers, and then you thought,
Speaker:well that's why I'm liking and disliking.
Speaker:But what happens if you transcended that and loved all of it?
Speaker:What happens if you love the time when you're kind and cruel?
Speaker:I have people when they support my values, I'm nice as a pussycat.
Speaker:When they challenge my values, I'm mean as a tiger.
Speaker:I used to want to get rid of that one side and be only one side and put on a
Speaker:facade,
Speaker:but I kept attracting events that forced out the other side that I was trying to
Speaker:repress. And most psychologists know that there's this suppression, repression,
Speaker:conscious or unconsciously of these sides that we think we're supposed to
Speaker:getting to fit into society for socialization. Well,
Speaker:I stopped doing that about age 30,
Speaker:about 38 years ago when I realized it was futile.
Speaker:Because when I really did an inventory on myself on my life,
Speaker:I found I had all the behaviors. I was sometimes nice, sometimes mean,
Speaker:sometimes kind, sometimes cruel, sometimes generous, sometimes stingy.
Speaker:You supported my values, I was very generous, challenged my values,
Speaker:I didn't pay for it. People come to me and ask for money for charity,
Speaker:if it didn't match my values, I go, no thank you.
Speaker:If it came and matched my values, I was very generous. I watched my values,
Speaker:which underlies all behavior, dictate how I was responding.
Speaker:But I wasn't nice without being mean. I wasn't kind without being cruel.
Speaker:I wasn't generous without being stingy.
Speaker:I wasn't being honest without being dishonest. When I was honest with myself,
Speaker:I had dishonesties too.
Speaker:And I finally realized what's the benefit of those sides?
Speaker:And I found the benefits of all those behaviors that I thought were wrong.
Speaker:And that liberated me from the illusion of one sidedness.
Speaker:The fastest way to control the masses is to create a
Speaker:social idealism,
Speaker:a moral hypocrisy that nobody can live by that everybody feels guilt trying to.
Speaker:So then,
Speaker:then they make decisions by offloading them onto authorities that like to give
Speaker:you those rules so they have governance over the country or governance over the
Speaker:religious group.
Speaker:So beware of the moral hypocricies that you may trap yourself in and be aware
Speaker:that all the traits inside your life may serve a purpose,
Speaker:or they might have gone extinct. And I found out, in order to love myself,
Speaker:I got to love all the parts.
Speaker:How you going to love all of you if you're trying to get rid of half of you?
Speaker:How you going to love the person,
Speaker:the individual you're married to if you're trying to get rid of half of them?
Speaker:And your kids, and your friends, and the world?
Speaker:You can be very ungrateful for the world because it's not matching the fantasy
Speaker:or you can be grateful for the world in understanding that it has both sides.
Speaker:There's honesty and dishonesty and kind and cruel and positive and negative and
Speaker:peace and war, and there's all pairs of opposites. The global peace index,
Speaker:which you can go and read up on it,
Speaker:which basically looks at 99.7% of the world's population,
Speaker:use 23 parameters about peace and war and looks at each country and the ratios
Speaker:of peace and war that are going on, keeps a nice balanced slate. Support,
Speaker:challenge, build, destroy, just like in our body, anabolic catabolic.
Speaker:In the Breakthrough Experience program,
Speaker:what I do is I help people love all parts of themselves.
Speaker:I help them love the people around them that they've been having difficulty
Speaker:loving. I show them how physiology, psychology, physics,
Speaker:everything points to the understanding of understanding and appreciating both
Speaker:sides.
Speaker:Trying to get rid of half of your life or anybody else's life is going to be
Speaker:futile. If you project your values,
Speaker:self righteously onto others because you're too proud to admit what you see in
Speaker:them is inside you and try to get them to live in your values, it's futile.
Speaker:If you minimize yourself and try to be like somebody else that you admire and
Speaker:you think you're too humble to admit what you see in them is inside you,
Speaker:you're trying to be like them, it's futile.
Speaker:But if you love all parts of you and all them, you have utility, not futility.
Speaker:And utility creates a sustainable fair exchange and allows you to grow.
Speaker:And in the Breakthrough Experience, I teach people how to have utility.
Speaker:I teach people how to love both sides of themselves and others.
Speaker:I teach them how to see it and be fully conscious,
Speaker:mindful as the Buddhist described. I teach them how to have the, you know,
Speaker:turn the cheek and embrace the people in life because they're challenging you.
Speaker:I explain to you how whenever you're addicted to one side,
Speaker:you attract the other to break your addictions.
Speaker:If you're addicted to to protection, you attract the aggressive.
Speaker:If your addiction to the peace all the time,
Speaker:you end up with somebody that plays the confront. Why?
Speaker:Because you don't grow on one side.
Speaker:Maximum growth and development occurs when there's both sides.
Speaker:And the more you're addicted to one side,
Speaker:the more you attract the opposite to break the addiction, to give you,
Speaker:to correlate the two sides simultaneously, as Willhelm Wundt said.
Speaker:So I'm here to teach that. Because I found the other was futile.
Speaker:So I'm not here to try to make you one-sided.
Speaker:I'm not here to try to get rid of half yourself.
Speaker:You don't need to fix or improve yourself.
Speaker:It's time to love and appreciate yourself.
Speaker:And that's why I teach people the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:That's why I teach them the Demartini Method.
Speaker:That's why I help them get into their executive center where they're more
Speaker:objective and live in their forebrain,
Speaker:which is the most advanced part of the brain where they're able to have
Speaker:foresight and see things from a balanced perspective.
Speaker:That's when you have true objectives.
Speaker:That's when you're not pursuing fantasies and then having nightmares as a
Speaker:compensation. That's when you end up loving yourself in life.
Speaker:That's when you have more gratitude, inspiration, enthusiasm,
Speaker:certainty and presence in life.
Speaker:That's why I tell people to come to the Breakthrough Experience every week when
Speaker:I do these little programs,
Speaker:because I'm absolutely certain that the information there can liberate people
Speaker:from all the years of self-judgment, self depreciation, fantasies,
Speaker:and their phobias, their anxieties. They have more resilience,
Speaker:they have more adaptability, their physiology rallies,
Speaker:all areas of their life are impacted by it. I've been doing it for 34 years,
Speaker:I've watched the repercussions of it.
Speaker:I see what happens and I get thousands of letters showing that.
Speaker:So I speak up about it because it transformed my life 38 years ago when I
Speaker:realized I had all the traits,
Speaker:and you don't need to get rid of any part of yourself to love all that.
Speaker:So if you'd love to love all of you and love the people around you and love your
Speaker:life and the world for that matter,
Speaker:instead of sitting there and being caught in the vicissitudes of all the
Speaker:emotional games that different people with their highly subjectively biased,
Speaker:try to impose on life and all the worries that they create and all the fantasies
Speaker:that they promote, why not get grounded? The magnificence of the way life is,
Speaker:the magnificence of the way you are, is far greater than all those delusions.
Speaker:As Paul Dirac said, it's not that we don't know so much,
Speaker:we know so much that it isn't so.
Speaker:So I wanted to take a few moments to just remind you about all of the human
Speaker:traits that you have serve.
Speaker:And that may go against everything you've been taught, but that's okay.
Speaker:Contemplate it, think about it,
Speaker:and join me at the Breakthrough Experience so I can prove to you how true that
Speaker:is. I can show you and you will do it. I'm going to ask you questions,
Speaker:I'm going to hold you accountable. You're going to answer questions,
Speaker:you're going to see both sides of things.
Speaker:You're going to have certainty when you're done,
Speaker:a tear of gratitude and you're going to realize, wow,
Speaker:this liberates me from a lot of myths.
Speaker:There's so many myths that we run our life by,
Speaker:and then torture our lives because we trying to be something we're not going to
Speaker:be. I want you to be able to love you for who you are,
Speaker:not who for you think you're supposed to be all the time.
Speaker:So if you're interested in that,
Speaker:come and join me at the Breakthrough Experience and thank you for joining me
Speaker:today for this little presentation. I look forward to seeing you next week.
Speaker:I'm Dr Demartini. Till next week, have an inspiring
Speaker:week and sign up for the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:I'll spend 26 hours with you and I'll have you show you this
Speaker:experience and you will have it for life.
Speaker:And it'll change the trajectory of your life and it'll give you more empowerment
Speaker:and less reaction, more proaction, more foresight, less hindsight,
Speaker:and you'll be able to be more of your angelic self and not your
Speaker:animal self, if you will.
Speaker:Your animal self is always under impulses and instincts.
Speaker:Your angelic self is poised and enlightened, fully
Speaker:If you want that, come and join me at the Breakthrough Experience.