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Hello,
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and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host Aurora
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And I'm very happy to b spending some time with yo
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today. I hope you're doing well I hope you are in a good place
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And if you're not, I hope tha by the end of this episode
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you're gonna feel a little bi better, feel empowered, hopefu
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for the future. And, yeah, jus good about yourself. The bette
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you know yourself, the bette you feel about yourself. th
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happier you are, the bette decisions you will make in th
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future, for yourself, and fo others. You will not mak
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decisions for others, but you decisions will deeply affec
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others. If you liked thi podcast, make sure to subscribe
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And if you want to give me five star review, go onto Appl
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podcast and leave a leave Sorry, a little review there.
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would appreciate so much. Toda I want to talk about life. Jus
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a small side topic. Why doe life seems so unfair at times
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Why are we being phased wit decisions that are impossible t
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make in order to make everybod involved happy? Why is it tha
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so many people live in poverty Other people live in craz
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richness? Why is it that yo keep trying so hard? But i
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seems like you keep failing What is it that makes life s
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unbearable at times? Well, m friend the sad The sad thing is
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and maybe the good thing at th same time is that it is part o
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life. You know the people wh seem successful, always contend
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always happy. They go throug intense stuff as well. An
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they're maybe only successfu because they went through s
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much stressful pain, that the just got tired of it and kep
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fighting and just are livin their best self right now an
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enjoying their life. When yo look at rich people, successfu
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people, please never think tha they had an easy path. They wer
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able to overcome adversity an have a mindset that allows the
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to be successful. So why is i though that we face situation
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where we feel that life i totally unfair? I feel we fee
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that way. When we give powe away. When we feel we are
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victim of circumstances. When w feel life is unfair
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unpredictably. And don't get m wrong, there's things tha
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happen that nobody can explai and pain that people have to g
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through. And you just think whe is it gonna stop? Like didn'
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that person get enough? Like didn't that person have enoug
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on their plate already? But want to tell you a little secre
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today on how I learned t approach situations that see
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hopeless situations where I' like, holy shit, like, Why me
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Why do I have to go through thi did not go through enoug
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already. I learned to se difficult situations as a
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opportunity to grow and t learn. Because again, successfu
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people don't have an easy life Don't have never failed, neve
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making mistakes, life and eas path. They fail many, man
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times. They get rejected many many times. But they don't coun
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the failures. They count thei little successes. They look a
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their failure and see, what ca I learn from it
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Can I learn from it? Yes or no? If no, move on? If yes. What am
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I supposed to learn from it? Now, if you are faced with a
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situation where you feel like oh my god, like, what am I going to
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do?
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Why is it happening to me? Just go inwards. And try to ask
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yourself, What is the secret message here? What am I supposed
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to learn? I had a friend reaching out to me the other
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day, and he said, Ah, I've been so lonely during COVID. And now
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I met this girl, and she's so sweet. We expressed our feelings
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the other day. But now I'm going to be leaving here for in the
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next 10 days for a year, I think he said, to live far, far away
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from her. Why is the universe God, whatever you believe in?
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Why is it testing me? He asked me. And the only answer I could
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really give him there was, I feel you need to find out what
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is best for you. And this little love story that starts to
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blossom here is going to be tested, every love story is
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going to be tested, there is no deep, meaningful love story that
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went through and was not tested. So I think your story there was
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this beautiful girl is being tested. And you're supposed to
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make a right decision. Maybe in the past, you were that kind of
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person who is always pleasing everybody. You make decisions to
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make other people feel comfortable. And maybe this time
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around, you're supposed to learn to feel what is right for
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yourself. Do you want to take that job and explore new
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territories? At the same time, keep in touch with this girl and
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have long distance relationship, you know, it's just for one
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year? Or do you want to reject that job and stay in your
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comfort zone and start a serious relationship with that girl. I
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want you at the end of the day to be proud of yourself. I want
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you to feel secure and want it in your relationships. So I'm
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more for a move outside of your comfort zone. Because when we do
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these moves, we not only test our little relationships that we
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have around ourselves, we test ourselves and we put ourselves
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in a situation where we will grow and blossom. And yeah, we
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might go through failure. But we also might as well succeed very
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well. And to miss out on that experience on that opportunity
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is a big thing. But of course you're going to find out for
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yourself. This is just my little advice. Some people lose
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everything overnight. Gambling, a house fire. Your wife has
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cheated on you. And you know, there's no way out you will have
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to separate. You get fired, you lose your job. And you just sit
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there for a while and think Why me? Why is this all happening to
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me? And you put yourself into that victim mentality again, you
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you are the victim of life. You are the victim of society. You
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are the victim of circumstances. And I'm here to tell you that
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yes, you can sit in that victim mentality for a little bit. But
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you can also after a little while, get up and see what are
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the trying to teach me here. And I know some situations are so
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hopeless and so painful and devastating that you will not
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feel like standing up and asking yourself that question. But for
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me, it proved to be the only way to get out of it. And to know,
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okay, I'm supposed to be learning to be independent, I'm
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supposed to be feeling my worth, my beauty, my preciousness
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outside of this relationship
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that I was so dependent on. I'm supposed to learn to, if I
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attach to my money, and all my belongings, and it's all been
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taken away from me overnight, that I'm still endlessly worthy,
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and beautiful. And an important member of society. I feel, you
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know what I'm trying to say here, there will be situations
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until you die, that feel hopeless, that feel crazy
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painful. But at the end of the day, you can see them as
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liberation from something old. And if you have the right
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mindset, if you can focus on what am I supposed to learn?
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Where can I go to find support? And where can I go to move on
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from all this mess, then you can not only grow and be so proud of
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yourself in the end, but also feel empowered, and not as a
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victim anymore. There's women out there who keep getting
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abused by their husbands, and there's husbands out there keep
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getting abused by their wives. And they keep staying in this
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situation, because sometimes they feel they deserve it.
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They've been bad in the past, and now they deserve that shitty
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treatment. But you deserve so much goodness, so much
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appreciation. You deserve to be heard and seen and felt. And you
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have to stand up for yourself, you have to learn to set
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boundaries. And you have to learn that you are not a victim
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of situations. Sometimes you are an abler. Sometimes you are
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allowing people to treat you the way they treat you. And you have
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to speak up, you have to leave a situation. And you have to do
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everything in your power to put yourself in a safe, empowered
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situation again, sometimes with help of others, sometimes all by
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yourself, but never feel too shy, too ashamed to reach out
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for help. Thank you for listening to this episode here.
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I hope you know how endlessly precious you are. And we need
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you to be out there shining your light, we need you to set clear
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boundaries. In order for people to know how to treat you. We
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need you to express yourself because your light is so
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incredibly precious out here on planet Earth. Thank you so much
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for being here with me today. Make sure to subscribe. Make
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sure to leave me a review on Apple podcasts. And if you have
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any questions if you have any requests, messaged me on
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Facebook, let me know that you're listener of this podcast,
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and I will get back to you right away. Talk to you. And if you
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feel like you need a little bit more, you need a one on one
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session. You need meditation or a little bit more guidance. Feel
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free to reach out to me as well and I can help you out. Thank
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you so much from the bottom of my heart and I will be out there
