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Transforming Lives Through Coaching: Insights from Townsend Wardlaw
Episode 9293rd December 2024 • Your Ultimate Life with Kellan Fluckiger • Kellan Fluckiger
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In this episode of Your Ultimate Life, Kellan Fluckiger sits down with Townsend Wardlaw, creator of the Coaches Operating System, to discuss the realities of building a thriving coaching business and making a meaningful impact.

Key Highlights:

  • From Passion to Impact: Townsend shares his journey into coaching, driven by his gift for helping others generate income and transform their lives.
  • The Coaching Reality Check: Coaches often struggle with marketing and client acquisition, believing their services will sell themselves. Townsend emphasizes the importance of shifting from passive waiting to actively creating genuine relationships.
  • Serving with Authenticity: Townsend encourages coaches to focus on clients who reflect earlier versions of themselves, building trust and connection through care and understanding.
  • Beyond Transactions: The conversation explores how coaching fosters self-awareness and personal growth, elevating societal consciousness by empowering individuals to thrive.
  • The Coaches Operating System: Townsend introduces this resource hub and community, designed to help coaches achieve financial success and a sense of belonging at every stage of their journey.

This episode is packed with actionable insights for coaches seeking to overcome challenges, connect authentically with clients, and embrace their role as transformative guides.

👉 Tune in to discover how to unlock your coaching potential and create a lasting impact.

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Kellen:

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Hello there.

Kellen:

Welcome to today's episode of youf Ultimate Life, the podcast dedicated to helping you create purpose, prosperity and joy by serving with the gifts, talents and life experience that you have.

Kellen:

I'm excited today to have a special guest, Townsend Wardlaw.

Kellen:

Welcome to the show, Townsend.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Thank you, Kellen.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Great to be here.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Great to see you again.

Kellen:

Fabulous to see you.

Kellen:

So I'm going to start with a question.

Kellen:

I may have told you ahead of time, but I usually don't.

Kellen:

And I don't want you to.

Kellen:

I don't want you to, you know, make an effort to be modest or to anything.

Kellen:

I just want you to talk about it.

Kellen:

And the question is, tell us, how does Townsend add good to the world?

Townsend Wardlaw:

I love that question.

Townsend Wardlaw:

If I'm, if I'm not being honest, if I'm not being modest, I am being honest, not being modest.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Remember, the greatest good that I bring to the world is sharing my gift of helping people make money.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I've always had a gift for, for making money.

Townsend Wardlaw:

For a lot of years, money was the.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The end, not the means or even just some sort of fun prize at the end.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I, I sorted through that in my own, in my own mind.

Townsend Wardlaw:

But throughout my life I've.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I've worked with all sorts of people, all kinds of different environments in my, My passion is playing a game called Build, Build a business.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Make.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Make money for the sheer fun and joy of it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And these days I get to do that in a couple of different realms.

Townsend Wardlaw:

One of my favorite realms is something I call the Coaches Operating system, which is a community I've created to serve and support coaches on the journey to mastering the business of coaching.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I have a tremendous passion for the profession of coaching for coaches and believe deeply that coaches had the capacity to move the needle on the world, have a massive impact on the consciousness of the planet.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's just one little challenge and that is they don't really know how to build the business around coaching, oftentimes one that even supports their life.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So a lot of folks get into the profession of coaching, go through a training or certification program, really passionate about it, and they sit there on the other side going, this isn't working.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And they are constrained and limited and frustrated by the fact that they, they are not able to share their gifts with the World and they're not able to create what they want in the world and the entire community.

Townsend Wardlaw:

We're coming up on a thousand members right now is entirely a service project, a gift to the world and to coaches, and it is assisting coaches in lily transforming their ability to go out and earn an income doing something they love that serves the world.

Kellen:

Tell me why you think coaching as a whole has the ability, power to move the needle in changing the consciousness of the world.

Kellen:

Talk a little bit about that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah, well, let me think of the most compact answer.

Townsend Wardlaw:

People do really well when they are fully expressed.

Townsend Wardlaw:

People do really well when they are at peace.

Townsend Wardlaw:

People really enjoy life and, and create love and kindness and joy in the world when they can see clearly.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And there's a lot of things I mean by see or clearly or not seeing clearly.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And there's a lot of people in the world who don't see clearly.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's a lot of trauma, there's a lot of challenge, there's a lot of frustration.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's a lot of just people running around trying to sort stuff out in their lives.

Townsend Wardlaw:

People that are unhappy, people that are unfulfilled, etc.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, what do they do about that?

Townsend Wardlaw:

We got the pharmaceutical industry who's certainly more than willing to help, and a lot of people choose that path.

Townsend Wardlaw:

We have the, the industry and, and there's a lot of usefulness to it in, in and around the world of psychotherapy and what have you.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It seems there's a lot of people in the world on a journey to try and be happier, be more fulfilled, be more creative, have more fun, have more love in their life.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Coaches are one service provider to that and it happens to be very scalable set of resources.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's actually a very low bar to entry and they have the capacity to help set people free from their thoughts, from their ideas.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I mean, I think anybody who just listens to you or watches what you do would get the very clear idea that if I take some of these ideas in, I'm gonna have a better quality of life.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I'm gonna appreciate, enjoy it more.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I'm gonna be nicer to my spouse, I'm gonna be more loving to my children, my co workers.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Coaches are one tool in that arsenal and I think a very productive and scalable tool.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I'm all in on them.

Kellen:

That's wonderful.

Kellen:

And I totally, 100% agree with you.

Kellen:

I have a bunch of fun names I call coaching the People Encouragement business and the Anxiety Annihilation business and the Obstacle obliteration business and blind Spot protection service.

Kellen:

And I like have a dozen of those that are kind of fun, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah.

Kellen:

And that I have three or four of them that I just said, but there's a whole bunch of them.

Kellen:

And you've hit on something really important.

Kellen:

Our coaches, who is a person who, through whatever life circumstance they've been through, has come to the place where they feel like you expressed that their best expression of themselves is to be a light, a catalyst, a guide, an encourager of others who are trying to deal with, you know, the daily traumas and old stuff that happened to us and all that.

Kellen:

And yet that very same group who've chosen that profession have this difficulty doing it in a way, in a format, in a structure to make enough money so that it is good for them.

Kellen:

Because when you're doing.

Kellen:

When you're pouring your heart and soul into helping people and yet your bank account doesn't let you be in at least reasonable certainty or ease to some degree, then there's this energetic conflict.

Kellen:

And so that's an interesting dichotomy that people that are very.

Kellen:

People that are trying to do this struggle with the necessities and the societal pounding that more is better.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There is no such thing as a product or a service that sells itself, that speaks for itself, that is inherently valuable.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I used to do a lot in the world of corporate sales training, corporate sales, team building and development.

Townsend Wardlaw:

One of the exercises I would run teams through to help dispel this idea that there's anything that would sell itself was play a game called you need to bring to market a pill that cures cancer.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So the.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The setup was you work for a company that's developed a cure for literally all kinds of cancer, and it's a simple pill.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You take the pill once and cancer is eradicated.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You've got 10 of them at your disposal to bring to bear and to go out and seed the market.

Townsend Wardlaw:

How are we going to go out and sell this and generate what we call a go to market strategy?

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I won't go into all the details, but there's this idea, oh, well, who wouldn't want that?

Townsend Wardlaw:

That will just be easy.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Who wouldn't want.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, the problem is, as soon as you go out there with a pill that cures cancer, you realize there are people who are in denial that they have cancer.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There are people that have cancer, but they're already receiving treatment for it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That will probably kill them, but they're committed to.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That's the treatment.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There are people who are of the belief that surely Something that cures cancer in a pill can't be real.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It must be a scam.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It's not straightforward.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It's not easy.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So no matter how valuable the service, no matter how powerful the coach, if they can't sell their services, if they can't acquire clients, they're going to be sitting there coaching friends and family and flogging Facebook.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And to me, that's a tragedy.

Kellen:

I love that, and it's so true.

Kellen:

And when you add to that the often the very thing that made a person choose the people encouragement business, you know that the very thing that made them do that also made them doubt their own worth and feel less than and feel like they're not important and be down on the who cares about me scale, which is another juxtaposition.

Kellen:

I went through a bunch of crap.

Kellen:

I'm not that important, and why did I have all this crap done to me?

Kellen:

And on top of that, the issue of money and everything else.

Kellen:

And so there's two, at least those two things that are hurdles.

Kellen:

Though coaching has a low bar to entry, it has some heavy barriers to success because of those kinds of things.

Kellen:

Talk a little bit about that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, I'll talk about the supply side.

Townsend Wardlaw:

First of all, there are immeasurable, innumerable, whatever you would call it, entities out there that will, for a fee, some low, some high, mint a new coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They'll give you the process, the tools, the techniques to be a coach, what have you.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They'll get you all filled with the juju that I can go out and coach people.

Townsend Wardlaw:

What they don't do is tell you, well, how are you going to go and present that?

Townsend Wardlaw:

How are you going to share this?

Townsend Wardlaw:

How are you going to market yourself?

Townsend Wardlaw:

How are you going to sell to people?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Now that's the bad news.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The worst news is a coach gets out there in the marketplace going, okay, now, now what do I do?

Townsend Wardlaw:

How do I create demand for this?

Townsend Wardlaw:

How do I let people know?

Townsend Wardlaw:

As you said, there's all sorts of fear, uncertainty and doubt and insecurity that exists.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Like, who am I to even be doing this right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Sort of like you're given a magic wand and you're sort of reticent to let people know, which end do I hold?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah, which end will people look at me like I'm a craz crazy thinking I can grant wishes.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So they.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They go out and they.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And they pretty quickly experience some frustration at trying to pick this thing that they love and are passionate about.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, it gets worse because now in their Facebook feed, our Post after post after post from other coaches who make it look like they're killing it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Every, everybody's making a million dollars a year without even trying.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And every third or fourth post is an advertisement, is a promotional post from some entity that says, oh, we've got the secret to growing your coaching.

Townsend Wardlaw:

We've got the secret to a hundred thousand dollar a year clients.

Townsend Wardlaw:

We've got the secret to grow into 10k overnight without everybody's pitching.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So they take a little more of their money because they had to put the coaching school on the credit card and they say, okay, I'm going to invest in this company.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They're going, they're going to help me sell.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They go through the program, they put more money in their credit card, they're more in debt and they don't get any results out of that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Now, of course, nobody out there is saying this is all a scam.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Everybody, because that's what you're taught, is told to share how great they're doing, how successful their practice now full it is.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So you think it must be me, I must be the here, I must suck at this.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I don't deserve.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Right.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It's just this incredible typhoon of dysfunctionality that pisses me off.

Kellen:

Dude, I love it and I love that it pisses you off and I love how well you've described it.

Kellen:

So let's get to some teaching that is there.

Kellen:

The Facebook feeds are there.

Kellen:

The ads are there.

Kellen:

Every other one on LinkedIn I get 15, literally 15 outreaches a day.

Kellen:

Maybe 10, maybe I'm exaggerating a little, but 10 of someone that's going to set appointments and bring clients into my business.

Kellen:

And I never ignore all of them, but we get them.

Kellen:

And before I knew what I was doing and some years ago I would see that and I felt just like you thought, oh gee, I wonder if that's cool.

Kellen:

I wonder if I should.

Kellen:

Should do this, that and the other.

Kellen:

So what is the antidote to this whirlwind of.

Kellen:

I won't even say people are lying or phony, but this whirlwind of essentially energetic poison.

Kellen:

Now what?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah, well, the first thing is I would say an acceptance of.

Townsend Wardlaw:

As with any business, building a successful coaching practice will take time.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There are no overnight successes.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

What I will say to folks very, very comfortably is it will take you at least six years from the time you turn pro.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You say, I'm going to be a coach, I'm going to make money off it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It will take you at least six years to build a practice of coaching that will sustain yourself, that will pay your bills.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Now that seems like a long time to compare to what people are saying, but I've been in the world of helping people grow businesses for decades.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That's actually pretty common.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It takes some time to learn enough about how all of it works.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's positioning, there's engagement, there's social media, there's outreach, there's list building, there's the discovery project, there's making proposals, there's learning to talk about money, there's follow up.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And underneath it all there's another, I would say, more important and fundamental dynamic going on, which is the idea that there is a market of people waiting for coaches waiting for you to announce that you're a coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They can say, oh good, I've been looking for a coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Here we go.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That, that is the fundamental illusion here.

Townsend Wardlaw:

What I say to new coaches or even aspiring coaches is part of the reason it takes.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The time it takes to build a coaching practice is one.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's a lot to learn about running a business.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Most people getting into coaching have never run a business.

Kellen:

Never run a business.

Kellen:

Right.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And newsflash, coaching is a business like anything else.

Townsend Wardlaw:

If you want to be a lawyer, you can go to law school, then you have to learn how to build a law business.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yep.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The fundamental distinction here is that you will not build your coaching business with people out in the market who are looking for a coach, who are ready for coaching.

Townsend Wardlaw:

If I take 100 coaches and line them up and say, what do you, what are you looking for?

Townsend Wardlaw:

What's the Perfect client?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Probably 98 or 99 of them will say something like, well, I want somebody who understands coaching, knows what it is, values it, has the money ready, is committed to their chain.

Townsend Wardlaw:

All these things, it's nonsense.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Building a business around coaching is actually the art of reaching out and connecting with people who have real issues, have real problems, have real needs, but are not currently looking for coaching and don't have a desire for coaching, don't understand coaching and probably have an aversion to coaching because of all the noise out there.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So you're not going to build a business with people who are what we call problem aware and solution aware.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You're going to build the business by beginning to create relationships with folks, not as a coach, but as a human, to help them learn about you as a human, not as a coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Help them build credibility and trust in you as a human, not as a coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And over time, their problem ain't going away.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And over time, you'll have the ability to educate them about how coaching works, serve them in other ways that don't generate revenue.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And over time, they will, I will say, gradually have a readiness for coaching.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You have to create your own market.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It's like if you're gonna have a salad for dinner, imagine you got to go and plant the lettuce and the tomatoes and the carrots, water them, nurture them, feed them, et cetera, harvest them to make the salad.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That's how you're going to build a business.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Not by saying, well, you know, I'll just go to the store and buy lettuce.

Kellen:

I love it.

Kellen:

And I want, I want to just for a moment ask you if you've listened to this episode and you're a coach, go back and listen to that segment again.

Kellen:

Because people think nobody, nobody wants coaching.

Kellen:

Nobody walks around and says, give me some coaching, man.

Kellen:

I need coaching.

Kellen:

People have problems.

Kellen:

Maybe they've tried 5 things, 2 things, 27 things to solve it, or maybe they've never even told themselves about it, really, honestly.

Kellen:

And.

Kellen:

But yet everybody wants to solve whatever that thorn is in their side.

Kellen:

And so when you said they're not problem aware, solution aware, that is so important.

Kellen:

And the idea that you're going to have to go plant the lettuce and it's going to take you a season to grow the lettuce and the tomatoes and the radishes and whatever the heck you put on your salad is so true and so valuable.

Kellen:

And so I'm just putting a comma here saying the last five, three minutes, four minutes, whatever it was, is dense, it was important, and it's a good summary of the beginning processes of doing this.

Kellen:

So that was fabulous.

Kellen:

So then what?

Kellen:

So you've now you've told me I'm a beginning or intermediate or it doesn't matter coach that hasn't heard this before.

Kellen:

I finally realized I'm not going to go out and say, find people that are singing the song, give me some of that sweet coaching.

Kellen:

And they're.

Kellen:

And I finally realize I have to do that.

Kellen:

And then I think, how long is that going to take?

Kellen:

And what am I going to do to pay my bills and holy crap, and the rest of the stuff that goes with that, Then what?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, let's assume you've come to grips with it's going to take some time.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So what's the journey one should be on?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Right, that's the, that's the frame I'm taking.

Townsend Wardlaw:

What I will tell you and I'll put an asterisk Here, this is the purpose of the coaches operating system, to guide people on that journey, to give them the resources to give them everything they need to learn this stuff.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's a lot to learn.

Townsend Wardlaw:

But zooming out to the, you know, whether you're a coach or anybody, what I say is bringing your product or service to market in a non technical way, not using any fancy jargon, is simple.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You have to identify people that might be willing to get into a conversation with you.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You have to find a way to get into conversation with them and have them interacting, not just bombarding them.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Once they've begun to interact with you again, not about your product or service or coaching, but just interact with you.

Townsend Wardlaw:

At that point you can start to play the game called let's explore.

Townsend Wardlaw:

If there's something you want, you want a problem removed, you want access to an opportunity and, and you can't just say to somebody what's your problem?

Townsend Wardlaw:

What do you need?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Because often they don't even know.

Townsend Wardlaw:

After that is the process.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I think of all these as discrete processes.

Townsend Wardlaw:

People say, well, how do I sell?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, selling is a series of processes, like I said, figuring out who might talk to you, getting them to talk to you, having conversations.

Townsend Wardlaw:

In those conversations, beginning to discern and help them discover what they really want, when they want it, how they would value it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Only after that is it appropriate to implement the process that I call presenting the idea that we could help them with it and they may not be ready for it at that point.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They may be grateful that you've helped them see the problem.

Townsend Wardlaw:

But we're humans, we have this little weird personality trait which is we like to go try stuff ourselves and fail a bunch and get really frustrated before willing to get help.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I need to have a whole process around, even a conversation related to you're ready for help.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Are you desirous of help?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Will you value help?

Townsend Wardlaw:

If I get through that, then I've got a process called talking about money and the relationship required to do so and proposing it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So what people think about selling, which is making the offer, well, that actually happens pretty far down the line and requires a lot of building of trust, of credibility, of authority, of intimacy.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Because we're not talking about buying gum or concert tickets or whatever.

Townsend Wardlaw:

We're talking about the stuff that's up here and in here that people have been carting around for, you know, most of their lives.

Kellen:

I just love that.

Kellen:

It's funny when I have, I have a challenge that I run called crush your client enrollment.

Kellen:

And I also call it, love them, coach them, sign them as a sort of a framework to walk, talk about that journey.

Kellen:

And one of the things I say is the first thing you need to learn to do as you become a coach is you need to learn to exercise your give a crap muscle because you have this idea that you don't have to do that.

Kellen:

And people aren't going to talk about, they're not even going to explore internally with you until they feel like, you know the old phrase it.

Kellen:

Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care.

Kellen:

Yeah, that has to be there in coaching.

Kellen:

It doesn't have to be there in tennis shoes or in bolts or in anything else because I don't need to tell you my deepest problems.

Kellen:

If I want to buy a pair of tennis shoes, do they fit and do they feel good?

Kellen:

And that's the end of the conversation.

Kellen:

Coaching, especially when you're talking about, you know, higher ticket, bigger problem kind of stuff, it requires trust, it requires a relationship, it requires people willing to look in a mirror and be truthful about it instead of hide behind the stuff.

Kellen:

And so there.

Kellen:

Your five or six discrete processes are powerful and important and help people along that journey.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And they take time to learn.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They take time to learn.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And mastery only comes after doing it a lot.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Right.

Townsend Wardlaw:

What I often say to folks is if you spend your first year just learning how to get people to nicely say not interested, that's a winning formula, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

The practice of identifying a prospect as we call somebody who's not a customer yet, the process of getting their attention, not in a, in a, you know, I want to coach you way, but just, just simple attention.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And this is very much the prosperous coach methodology.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I love what Rich Litvin and Steve Chandler wrote.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You know, at this point, going on something 13, 14 years, it is about connecting.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You have to learn to connect with people.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And a lot of those connections aren't going to go anywhere.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That doesn't mean it's wasted time.

Townsend Wardlaw:

For one, you're planting seeds or what's going to happen down the road with them, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

They might begin to develop need over time.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The other is you're building the muscle of how do I just get people to hear me and say, no thank you, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

You got to build up a little bit of a skin around that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Most, most people are not wired for rejection.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Most people are not wired for.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You're going to get a lot of no.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So simply the process of practicing consistent, systematic outreach is absolutely valuable.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And then there's, well, what do I say?

Townsend Wardlaw:

What Do I tell people?

Townsend Wardlaw:

What am I reaching out of?

Townsend Wardlaw:

I mean, there's.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I read some place, this was a while ago, that learning to ride a bicycle is actually the sum of something.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Maybe it's 15 or 16, 17, discrete, separate things.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You have to learn about centripetal force, about counter steering.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I mean, there's all these physical components of riding a bicycle, which is why you watch somebody riding a bicycle and they're wobbly, they don't get it, and then they get it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And that's the best metaphor I can have for coaching, is it's going to feel like you have no idea what you're doing.

Townsend Wardlaw:

This is all a mess.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Nothing's working until it starts working.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So you have to have the time, you have to have the trust, you have to have a system, you have to have the means.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Somehow you got to support yourself.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Because if you're waking up every day going, man, if I.

Townsend Wardlaw:

If I could tell you the number of people who tell me, I just launched my business as a coach, I've got six months to replace my income, I'm like, well, you should start looking for a job now because you're not going to do it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And more importantly, that, that neediness, that urgency is going to create rep compulsion everywhere.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Nobody's going to want to work with somebody who's trying to get a client so they can pay their bills.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I mean, that's, that's the antithesis of coaching.

Kellen:

And overlaying that with the whole whatever you went through in your life that drove you to be a coach in the first place, like if that isn't.

Kellen:

If that isn't handled or handled at least enough.

Kellen:

Like I always say, a coach that doesn't have a coach is a fraud.

Kellen:

And people get pissed off when I say that.

Kellen:

But the truth of that is, if you're not actively engaged in the process of being vulnerable, looking in the mirror, being open and that sort of thing, then you're going to have a real barrier to that sort of thing, all the way from the neediness.

Kellen:

And the phrase needy is creepy.

Kellen:

And that either came out of that book or Chandler said it at one of the meetings or something.

Kellen:

All of that is foundational.

Kellen:

And that neediness is so it's like poison.

Kellen:

It poisons the energy, it poisons the atmosphere.

Kellen:

It's repulsive, just like you said.

Kellen:

And so my phrase that I use to encapsulate that for myself, and I put it in my own PTAC personal truth documents, it says, I look for.

Kellen:

This is my business plan.

Kellen:

I look for people to love, opportunities to serve and problems to solve, and clients come in abundance.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah, I love that.

Kellen:

And that's.

Kellen:

Yeah, that's it.

Kellen:

And getting that not just heard, but internalized, which is what you said about the process of internalizing each of those five or six discrete steps.

Kellen:

You're not going to read it and hear it and then get it done.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's another element I think, that complements what you're talking about, and that is.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I stole this from somebody.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I can't remember who I stole it from.

Townsend Wardlaw:

But fundamentally, you can go through all the coaching certification, training that you want.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, here you are as a coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The question is, who are you qualified to coach?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Right.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Who do you really have the knowledge, the expertise, the ethos, the compassion, the comparative experiences to coach?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Particularly when you're a coach in the first, I would even say five, maybe ten years, your practice.

Townsend Wardlaw:

This does change over time.

Townsend Wardlaw:

But early in your practice, and five to ten years is early, you're literally not qualified to coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Most people on the planet, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

People say, well, I'm now a coach and I want to coach millionaires or billionaires.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You ain't a billionaire.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You don't know anything about that world.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You have no relatedness to it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You don't understand it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

In theory, you can.

Townsend Wardlaw:

What I'm going to tell you is they're not interested.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So when they're looking at who do I want to coach me, they're not going to have somebody just came out of coaching school, has never made more than $35,000.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That's not how it's going to work.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Who are you qualified to coach?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, you're qualified to coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The person you are most qualified to coach are those that have the same experiences that you have had to process through, learn through, work through, figure out, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

The people we are most qualified to coach are actually earlier versions of ourselves.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So that, to me, is the most logical place to start.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You don't have to be there forever, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

You can go on to coach billionaires.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You don't have to be a billionaire.

Townsend Wardlaw:

But you have to have enough confidence, certainty, worth, that you've generated internally from having served people and created transformations and insights, et cetera.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That's not going to happen.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Going after, you know, the biggest giant lion on the Serengeti, let's start hunting quail or dove or something, you know, that's a little more closer to our heart.

Kellen:

I have a phrase that I say, and one of the most profound experiences in a coach's life is when they come to the realization that they are their own avatar.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It literally is an aha.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I say it to people and they'll come back three, four years later saying you were right.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It is again, duh.

Kellen:

Yeah.

Kellen:

Well, that realization, it's so freeing because people say, who do you want to coach?

Kellen:

Well, I want to coach CEOs and they say that sort of thing because they have the idea that they can afford me and I won't get as parade of I can't afford your fees conversations.

Kellen:

So obviously I want to coach.

Kellen:

And unless you've been somewhere near the C suite and had some comparative experiences, your language won't allow you to relate.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah, you really don't understand the world.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You l.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And and people want to feel understood and heard before they're going to trust you.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Right.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They're not going to, they're not going to give you the real deal if you have no idea.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And they're not going to educate you on their experiences because they can't.

Kellen:

I love that.

Kellen:

So I want you to talk now for a minute about what, what drove you, like you've done a lot of business work for a long time, et cetera, et cetera.

Kellen:

What drove you to create the coaches operating system and process coach ideas?

Kellen:

And Chandler and some of you that watch this, you're not going to know who these people are.

Kellen:

So Steve Chandler is a very, very renowned coach.

Kellen:

He's written more books than me and that's, you know, I've only written 20 and he's got 40 something so way past there.

Kellen:

And Rich is another coach, Rich Litvin and et cetera, et cetera.

Kellen:

So what drove you to create and do this coaches operating system?

Townsend Wardlaw:

I love that question because the answer is, at least to me, really fun.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So back in:

Townsend Wardlaw:

I left the corporate world, started my own company, ran it for eight years, grew it, and I like to say I exited.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And that didn't entail a big check in my bank account.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That entailed landing the plane without killing anybody, as I like to say, and walking away with only a bankruptcy and a divorce and little just, you know, basic things.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I had my experience as a founder and then I spent about 12 years consulting with founders, particularly founders who had failed or were at the journey where I started to.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Things started to break down for me.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Around:

Townsend Wardlaw:

Rich Slippin was my first, I call him my first big boy coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I decided I really want to be A coach.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I want to employ coaching as a tool set separate and distinct from consulting.

Townsend Wardlaw:

My market was the same.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I still serve founders, but rather than serving them from a consulting standpoint where I'm the expert, I have all the answers, I want to serve them from a coaching standpoint, which implies the expertise is in them, the answers are in them.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I simply support them in seeing themselves in the world differently.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So that's my life.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I serve founders typically somewhere on the journey between 2 and 10 million and I have more business than I'll never need for the rest of my life.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I work with typically a handful of folks at a time.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Most of the folks I work with I've been working with for years and will work with for the next 10 or 20 years across three or four companies.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I'm, I'm done looking for business.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So got to 20, 23 and I had the idea, you know, it would be really valuable, I think, for me to find ways to serve those who will never work with you, never afford me.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I had the idea that I could support founders who were on the journey to a million.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And you know, I was going to create a little community around that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I did some, some, some copywriting and I did some marketing and I set some stuff up and I announced this thing that I was doing called Early Stage Founders Business Accelerator.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was a scholarship funded container that I was going to run for founders on the journey to a million to assist them, support them.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was going to be completely scholarship funded for them.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They wouldn't have to pay well.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I've got a fairly extensive network on LinkedIn and other places and I'm good at generating traffic and using copy, etc.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So as the, as the application started coming in, much to my chagrin, I had a handful of founders and I had all these coaches and my initial thought was what, what, what, what's with these coaches?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Why are they in here?

Townsend Wardlaw:

I don't want to coach coaches.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They're not part of my ICP as we call it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I'm not interested in coaching them.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And, and the universe, very, very politely but firmly let me know that actually you're going to do that too.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And, and I've got past experiences with, with trying to ignore or argue with the universe and those didn't go well.

Kellen:

So I said, you don't win those arguments.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I, I've learned that I don't win those arguments, so I don't argue anymore.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I said, okay, I'll give that a shot.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I launched a second container at the Time.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was called Coaches and solopreneurs Business Accelerator.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Same idea twice a month, every two weeks, I would coach the coaches in a live coaching format.

Townsend Wardlaw:

They'd be getting questions, very informal, and 100% scholarship funded.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Well, in about three months.

Townsend Wardlaw:

My founders container had a dozen people, maybe 20.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The coaching container had 80 people on a waitlist.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I'm like, this is fascinating.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I had no idea, A, there was that much demand, B, that I'd be having this much fun.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I was having a blast.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I would just show up every couple weeks and I'm sharing what is obvious to me about building a business, generating clients, enrolling all this stuff, and people are eating it up and it's incredible.

Townsend Wardlaw:

kes us to about the summer of:

Townsend Wardlaw:

And all of this was done on WhatsApp and Google Forms and Google Sheets and very informal.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was very powerful.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was also turning into a lot of work because people would come into this container and the.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The premise was, I want to help coaches get to 100k.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It's just an arbitrary number, but you can actually have a pretty decent lifestyle.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The problem is 0 to 100k is an extraordinarily large range.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And not only do I like working with people who want to get to 100k, the folks on the other side were really struggling with my style of coaching, the directness, the demands.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I mean, they're just trying to figure out which way is up.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I started wrestling with this.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I'd had about 80 people in the container on an ongoing basis, but many folks would come in and then quickly leave or leave after a couple months.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It wasn't for them.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was too much.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was too advanced, what have you.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So I kept thinking, how do I serve more?

Townsend Wardlaw:

How do I grow this?

Townsend Wardlaw:

How do I create more of a continuum without creating a lot of work?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Around that time, I got exposed to community software companies like School SK o o L or Mighty Networks, which I use and love.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I got fascinated with this technology.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And I had this idea, and I say, I had this idea.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The universe was like, check this out.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That I could create an online community that would solve the problem of the continuum here.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It would.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It would allow for more resources and allow me to move upstream to folks who weren't ready to coach with me.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So In December of:

Townsend Wardlaw:

As of today, we're almost at a thousand members.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's the 100K accelerator, which I teach, which is principally for coaches who've gotten about 35k to 100, there's the 35k Academy, which is for coaches that are just starting.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I don't even teach that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I've got a group of other coaches that are doing pretty well that are teaching that container.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I've got a membership area called Path to Pro, which for a nominal fee, I actually run courses and specific curriculum around that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's a whole community section, tons of resources.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And then I've also in the last six months began running what I called guilds, where I invite other coaches or people that serve coaches to come into the community and have their own sub community to focus on a specialty area of coaching.

Townsend Wardlaw:

And one of the things I've done is gone out and partner with those who are out in the world creating really legitimate coaching schools.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Carolyn Friar Jones runs a school in the west coast.

Townsend Wardlaw:

She's got a guild inside of the coaches operating system, which is kind of an on ramp for who her school anchors.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Jane over in the UK has an incredible program.

Townsend Wardlaw:

He's got a guild, a space within coach's operating system that he teaches and shares his wisdom and then people get exposed to him.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So part of my real goal and vision here is number one, this is not just the Townsend show and I'm teaching everybody in more work, but two, that coaches can come in and regardless of where they are on their journey and what their particular interest is, they can find a little corner of the community that really resonates for them and helps them build their business.

Kellen:

I love it.

Kellen:

So we've used up our time and I want to ask you two things.

Kellen:

One, final messages of invitation or encouragement.

Kellen:

And then I want you to tell us exactly where to find stuff so that people could find you find more stuff.

Kellen:

Where to find out about the operating system and the guilds that you've talked about and everything else.

Kellen:

So any final messages for people that hear it, whether they're coaches or not, and then where to find all this?

Townsend Wardlaw:

My message is pretty straightforward and that is we are truly living in the most incredible time in the history of humanity.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The access to information, the access to technology, the access to opportunity, the ability to take whatever is in here or here and bring it into the world and make a business out of it.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The lines of personal and professional lives have never before been at least as a possibility.

Townsend Wardlaw:

So just completely joined?

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah.

Kellen:

And the truth is, it was always that way.

Kellen:

We just pretended that you were going to leave your at home and come to work and do other stuff.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Yeah.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Now there's no excuse, right?

Townsend Wardlaw:

If you are not living a life where you are full of joy, expressed, loving what you do, feeling like you're whatever the hell you want to do, this is the time to do it and there are infinite resources to assist you in that.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The coaches operating system is just one such example that there's tons of stuff out there because I'm not the only person out there saying oh well I want to help these kind of people.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There's so much out there.

Townsend Wardlaw:

That's my message of inspiration to find the coaches operating system.

Townsend Wardlaw:

You can certainly look me up online.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Anywhere you find me.

Townsend Wardlaw:

On all the socials will be references to the coaches operating System, the coaches OS and it's either coaches with an S or an ES.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It doesn't matter.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The coachesos.com will take you to the landing page for the community.

Townsend Wardlaw:

The community's hosted on Mighty networks.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It is a free lifetime membership.

Townsend Wardlaw:

There is no cost to join and the vast majority, 90% of the resources, maybe 95 inside the community won't cost you a dime.

Townsend Wardlaw:

We're running really, really interesting programming.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Bring in guest experts.

Townsend Wardlaw:

I have a master class every two weeks.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It is incredible, incredible community that's building and so many people coming in to give of their knowledge and their talent to help coaches on their journey to master the business of coaching.

Kellen:

Townsend, thank you for being here today.

Kellen:

And more importantly than that, I want to thank you for who you're being in the world because based on what you just said, you know, you're putting heart, soul, love, time, effort, energy, thought, encouragement and you know, goodness knows we can use all the encouragement we can get.

Kellen:

So I want to honor you, acknowledge you and thank you for that and for being here today.

Townsend Wardlaw:

It was my pleasure, my friend.

Townsend Wardlaw:

Much enjoyed.

Kellen:

You know listeners, whatever you do, there's benefit, powerful benefit and if you're a coach times 10, pay attention because nothing's going to happen unless you do something different.

Kellen:

And I can promise you that if you take action and do something different because of what you've heard and look up towns and the coaches OS if that's what you're doing.

Kellen:

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Kellen:

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