Feeling behind in life? You’re not.

In this episode, Yaya breaks down why your “slow season” isn’t punishment; it’s preparation.

Listen to learn how to find peace, confidence, and clarity even when life doesn’t look like the version you imagined.

You’ll learn:

• how to stop comparing your current season to your old lifestyle

• how to be content without settling

• why “quiet seasons” often prepare you the most

• how to build confidence when life feels uncertain

Perfect for anyone in a rebuilding era or trying to trust the process again.

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Hey, girl.

Hey.

Welcome back to notes to her, the daily pep talk.

I'm Yaya your confidence and mindset coach, here to remind you that even in the seasons where you feel like you're losing you, you're actually being positioned.

I know these end of the year months can feel heavy.

Everyone's doing the where am I in life?

Review comparisons start creeping in.

The I thought I'd be further by now thought get really loud.

But today's note, I'm here to shift your entire perspective.

Have you ever been in a season where it feels like nothing is moving?

Where you're doing everything right and life is like, cute?

But no, you're praying nothing.

You're applying nothing.

You're trying to stay positive, barely.

And it feels like life has you on pause while everyone else is on fast forward.

I know that season, and I know the panic that comes with it.

But the seasons that feel like setback are usually the ones that are setting you up the most.

Not because you're failing, but because you're finally being prepared.

Let me keep it real with you for a second.

Right now, I'm not working a traditional job.

I'm building my business from the ground up.

Brick by brick, client by client, day by day.

And listen, I love luxury.

I love a brunch.

I love a cute outfit, a new bag, expensive, especially designer one.

A little add to the cart moment, okay?

But this season, this season requires a different version of me.

I had to pause the shopping.

I had to really learn the difference between wanting something and needing something.

And I had to stop trying to keep up with my old lifestyle and figure out how to be content with where I am now.

And, girl, let me tell you something I did not expect.

When you stop distracting yourself with more, you start noticing what you already have.

I started shopping in my closet.

I found outfits that I forgot about, tags still on, shoes I barely wore, accessories still in the packaging.

Makeup I hadn't even opened.

Some still sitting in the Sephora bag.

Like, if you could see me right now, I'm putting my face in my palm, sis.

I was not lacking.

I was overlooking.

And it made me realize something.

Sometimes we think life is denying us when really it's redirecting our energy.

I kept saying I don't have, but the truth was I had plenty.

I just wasn't present enough to see it.

This season didn't come to punish me, but it came to really teach me discipline, gratitude, focus, and intention.

It came to develop me into a woman that could handle the level that I am.

Asking for.

That's what I mean by setup.

Now let's be honest.

We all hate the slowed seasons.

We hate pause seasons.

We hate wait seasons.

But here's something else that I've learned.

God removes distractions before he delivers blessings.

Sometimes the quiet season you're in is the one that protects you.

Sometimes the slow season is the one that builds you.

Sometimes the uncomfortable season is the one that grows your character.

And sometimes the season where you feel like you've lost is the one where you finally learn that you are not defined by things, status or external validation.

That could be hard to stay consistent when your life doesn't look like your expectations.

But here's how to start.

First, stop comparing your current chapter to your old lifestyle.

This one can be difficult.

I'm not even gonna lie to you.

Especially when you are looking at your friends around you and their lives seem to be flourishing.

But you're not who you used to be.

You're in a rebuilding error.

So honor that.

Then be present with what you do have now.

When you stop chasing more, you realize how much you already have.

That clarity feels like peace.

Then ask yourself, what is this season teaching me?

Not punishing, not blocking, not delaying teaching.

You'll be shocked by how many answers you get when you ask better questions.

And then lastly, stop waiting to feel successful, to act like it.

Confidence is an action, not an accomplishment.

You don't get stable confidence from winning.

You get it from consistency, discipline, showing up even when you don't feel like the best version of you.

So I need you to hear me when I say this.

You are not behind.

You are not failing.

You are not forgotten.

You are not late.

You are not less than.

You are not stuck.

You are in a season that is shaping you.

This is your character season, your stretching season.

Your grounding season.

And one day you're going to look back and realize this wasn't a setup.

This is where everything started.

So the next time you feel like you're losing, remind yourself my season is not a setback, it is a setup.

And if you're tired of navigating those seasons alone, if you are ready to feel aligned, have confidence, boundaries, clarity and identity, work that actually sticks, then I truly encourage you to apply for my one to one coaching program Journey to Confidence.

This is where I help women rebuild from the inside out.

Your next level isn't waiting for someday.

It starts with how you think today.