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From Soldier to Civilian: Essential Strategies for Military Families in Transition
Episode 2217th December 2023 • LaQuita’s Toolbox • LaQuita Monley
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Imagine being on the verge of homelessness, desperately searching for a lifeline to ease the burden of transitioning from military to civilian life. Now, picture a ray of hope named Franchette Dyer, whose unwavering dedication is about to change everything.

Her journey began with a simple conversation, but what unfolds next is a testament to the power of compassion and resilience. Brace yourself for a twist that will leave you inspired and hungry for more, as we delve into the remarkable story of Franchette Dyer and her mission to rewrite the destinies of military families.

My special guest is Franchette Dyer

Franchette Dyer is an impactful advocate for military families who have dedicated her life to ensuring that the transition process from service to civilian life isn't just about shifting jobs, but creating careers. As the founder and CEO of Vet Tech Business Services, Franchette brings a uniquely holistic approach to her work, prioritizing each and every family member from service members to spouses, children, and even pets. With over three decades of experience and an unwavering commitment, she assists these families not only in creating resumes but also in strategizing future plans, navigating financial preparations, and understanding the long-term benefits of transition.

Resilience is key when transitioning. We have to know how to transition with resilience and look for the future, even when it's hard to see. That's what we do at Vet Tech Business Services. - Francetta Dyer

In this episode, you will be able to:

  • Conquer the challenges of transitioning from military to civilian life with your family intact.
  • Gain access to comprehensive tools and support to ease your family through the process.
  • Master the art of creating result-driven resumes for military spouses and dependents.
  • Understand the crucial influence of military transition on dependents and pets.
  • Build resilience and adaptability to streamline transitioning without a hitch.

Gain comprehensive support tools

When transitioning from military to civilian life, obtaining complete and accurate information is vital. Support tools, like the Boots to Business program or advice from experts like Francetta Dyer, play an important role in providing essential guidance and insights. With their assistance, military families can articulate their experiences and skills effectively, understand the nuances of the civilian job market, and plan strategically for a smoother transition.

Conquer challenges of transition

Transitions from military to civilian life pose unique challenges for military families. These hurdles may involve adapting to a new professional environment, relocating to a new home, or facing misconceptions about military experience. Navigating these challenges successfully requires understanding each family member's needs and attitudes towards the shift and implementing a holistic and inclusive strategy.

Master result-driven resume creation

Building a result-driven resume is a critical step in securing job opportunities post-military service. However, the task of translating military experience into civilian terminology can be daunting. By understanding employers' expectations and keeping up to date on current resume trends, families transitioning out of military service can create engaging and relevant resumes that reflect their unique skill sets and resonate with potential employers.


The key moments in this episode are:

00:00:04 - The Importance of Identity,

00:00:23 - Introduction to "Redefining Success",

00:02:00 - Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life,

00:06:03 - Supporting the Entire Military Family,

00:16:18 - "Accomplishments and Importance",

00:17:10 - "Understanding Transitions and Knowing Your Audience",

00:18:21 - "Differing Advice and Preparation",

00:19:54 - "GS System and Resume Writing",

00:22:27 - "Preparing for Retirement",

00:30:54 - Writing Your Resume for the Right Audience,

00:31:58 - Tailoring Your Resume to Highlight Value,

00:33:43 - Customizing LinkedIn Profiles,

00:36:12 - Varying Resume Requirements,

00:38:09 - Recognizing Opportunities Designed for Specific Individuals,

00:45:49 - Struggles with Job Search,

00:46:21 - Passion for Helping Military Spouses,

00:47:05 - Importance of Sharing Information,

00:48:19 - The Impact of Transition on Mental and Spiritual Well-being,

00:50:49 - Recognizing Your Value in Transition


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Laquita Monley and Y'all. Let me tell you,

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I'm just going to say this is the day that

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the opportunity to come on into the room,

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but I've got an amazing guest in studio

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with me today, and she is going to be

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giving us some great gems on what? It

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means not only we're going to be talking

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about not only what it means to be a

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military family, but the topic of the hour

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is this what do we need to do to prepare

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ourselves for properly transitioning from

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active duty service as a military family

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into full on civilian life? And those

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changes, many people are going through

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that. And my guest today, Ms. Francetta

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Dreyer. She is a subject matter expert on

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this, a fellow military spouse. I'm happy

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to have her. And y'all, I know this is

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going to be good. I know this is going to

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be so good. Not just because Frenchetta is

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the boss, but y'all would not believe the

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amount of drama that it took today to get

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on this broadcast. I'm like, oh my God,

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the devil is alive. So look, you all I

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see, we got some folks coming in the room.

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without further ado, Ms. Francetta, how

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are you doing today? How is your day? I am

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doing fantastic. Thank you for having me

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tonight. Thank you for your yes and your

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patience. We're military spouses, so we're

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used to this. We have to know how to

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transition resiliency, right? Resiliency.

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You got to keep it moving in the midst of

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transition. Keep it moving. Find the

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solutions as you go. But look, take a

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moment to let everyone know who you are

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and what you do. As you know. I'm

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Francetta Dyer, and I'm the CEO and

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founder of Vet tech business services. And

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what we do here at Vet Tech Business

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Services is that we transition families.

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We first sit down with that service member

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and we make sure that we have a career

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path for them. Because Vet Tech Business

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Services, we don't do jobs. We do careers.

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That's the first thing you need to

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understand about us because we have to

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look for the future for you, because

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sometimes you can't see it. So the first

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thing we do is make sure that that service

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member is taken care of and make sure that

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they're on the right path to their goals.

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Then we go to the military spouse. And I

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feel that every military spouse should

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have a resume no matter what you do,

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because you have to be prepared for the

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AHA moments. And AHA moments sometimes do

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come. So we want to give them a free

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resume and then we go to their dependent.

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Most people forget about the dependence,

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but if you have 11th and twelveTH graders

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that are out there looking to go to

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college, they need a free resume. And that

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is what we also give to them. And we sit

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them down. If they need help looking for

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scholarships, grants, thinking about

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certain degrees, they pick the right

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degree for their career path as well later

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on down the line. And then we even take

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care of your animals. We have other

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military spouses that can talk to your

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animals if they need help or they're

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acting up. So we transition families from

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the military. We don't transition just a

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service member. We do families. That's

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what makes us different. And we do it as a

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group and we ask those hard questions amen

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a resume writer, but I am a coach. I am an

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influencer. I am a resume. That is what I

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want my clients to walk around looking at

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is hashtag, I am a resume. That's awesome.

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Look, you just dropped some gems right

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there. Because as you were speaking, it

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made me think about every time we talk.

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And I'm just always amazed at the value

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that you bring to the military family. The

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transition process is not an easy process,

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and I know we've had several conversations

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about it, and I love that you help the

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entire family transition because as I

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shared me and my family story as we were

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preparing for the transition, our total

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mindset was, how is this going to impact

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my husband? How is this going to impact

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him psychologically, emotionally? How is

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that going to impact him shifting into a

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completely different lifestyle? Because

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for almost 25 years, he was a soldier. In

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my opinion, he was the best non

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commissioned officer in the United States

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Army. And I'm entitled to that, and I will

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argue anybody about that. Okay? And so was

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mine. He was number one. Go army. Right?

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So we were focusing on that that we didn't

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put a lot of energy into thinking about

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how was that transition into civilian life

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going to impact me and even more into it,

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as you were saying, the services and the

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coaching that you provide as it related to

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our children. We didn't think about them

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at all until we were at Frankfurt on the

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plane, and they said some things to us.

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They spoke to us. And they were teenagers

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at the time. The two older ones were in

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college, but they had been going to

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college at the education center on

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Raffenbier. The youngest one was a

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freshman. All of my children had never

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known anything outside their dad being in

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the army. And so the questions that they

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asked us, well, will we still get to go on

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post? Do we still get to keep our ID card?

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How will this work? It's like you don't

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think about how that impacts that move

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will impact your entire household and the

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dog. Yes. We didn't think about how that

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would impact the dog. No. Because the

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animals start acting up and you're

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thinking they're being bad, but they're

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not. They have anxiety differently. It's

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not that no one thinks about the

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dependence. When you say dependent, they

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normally think of the military spouse.

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They normally say the military kid. No,

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the dependents are the military spouse.

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And the children. And the children. And to

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the family pet. The family pet. Very much

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so. Because when we got here, not thinking

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about know, we figure Inga is going to be

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okay. Inga is our know, Inga is going to

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be okay. She's been with us. She's coming

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home with us. But just because Inga was

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with us did not mean that Inga was okay

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with being in this new environment. And we

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ended up eventually having to take her to

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the vet to find out she had anxiety and

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separation and the things that she was

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doing was a result of that because we had

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her in this brand new place that she did

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not want to be in because she had spent

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her whole life in Germany. And now you

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bring me to Texas and it's two degrees

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cooler than hell. Like, what are you

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doing? Exactly? Everybody transitions so

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people forget that when you're

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transitioning, it is the entire family.

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It's not just that service member because

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when he transitioned, he's not the mission

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anymore. Now who is his battle buddy? His

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battle buddy is the military spouse and

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his children or her children or just a

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spouse, depending on if you have

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dependence. So everything changes. The

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dynamic in the family changes. Everyone

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has an opinion, but everybody is afraid to

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say it, to say something and ask those

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hard questions we ask about your finances.

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Before you even start trying to find a

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job, I need to know that you can be

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focused on that. If your monies are good

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now, most people are going to worry about

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that. And so they can't start doing it now

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because vet tech business do it. So don't

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start asking about your money. We do that

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because they're going to get tired of it.

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I've been doing age of 16, so this is

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something that my parents taught us. And

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certain things you can't get in a book you

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either have. Don't you have to have that

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experience? Yes. So vet tech businesses

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have that experience because we've been

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doing it for over 30 something years. So

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it's important that we understand about

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transitioning the entire family. That is

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so awesome. Listen guys, if you are just

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So again, when you get into the broadcast,

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get in the comments, let us know who you

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are, where you're from, and please add

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some value to this conversation. Now, I

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know that we're both military spouses and

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there's millions of military spouses

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across the globe and we do a number of

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different things for both our vocations

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and our occupations. But you have chosen

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to specifically focus in on transitioning

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and helping the entire family transition.

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What ignites your passion for the military

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family in that way? Like, what pushes you

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and what's your why? The reason why I

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focus on the military family is one word

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homeless. All right? That's a powerful

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word. It is no reason that a family of a

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military family should ever be homeless.

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Not even a service member. Yeah, because

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we're very compassionate about that. And

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what I mean by that is when I say that we

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take care of the whole family. We ask them

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about benefits, we make sure that, are you

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going to the VA? And if they're not, we

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know people who can help them. That's

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good. So homelessness is my word, because

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it's no excuse for a military family to be

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homeless or without a career. I don't want

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to say jobs because vet tech business like

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to do careers. So that for longevity, so

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you can make something of your family, so

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you all can be stable. So very important

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to me that when I have clients, we look at

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careers. I don't do jobs. I do careers to

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make sure that they are stable within

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their family. As one unit. As one unit.

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That's real good. Because homelessness in

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the military community happens more often

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than people realize. And I live outside of

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Fort Hood. It's the biggest military

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installation out of all of the branches,

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bar none, it's the biggest one. And we

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have an amazing amount of homeless

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veterans. And to be fair, even some active

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duty and reservists. And people might be

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listening to this and thinking to

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yourselves, well, how are you homeless and

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you affiliated with the military? Life

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happens. Yes. They don't care. Life

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happens. And it happens without your

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permission. Correct. And a lot of times

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they have to be prepared. So, again, you

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have to prepare that service member. You

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have to prepare them so that they are

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ready to transition and people forget who

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they are talking to. That's why it's

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important to know your audience. What I

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mean by that is when they are talking to

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transitioning service members, they stand

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up and they let them know, you can do

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anything that you want to do. That is not

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a true statement. You cannot. Come on, we

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need to hone in on what you are really

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great at and talk to them for less than 15

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minutes. I can already do their career

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path and tell them what jobs they can do

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and pretty much create that resume for

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them so that when they look at that

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resume, they sit up like this instead of

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like this. Yes. Come on. Pride in

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themselves. I show them. This is what you

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have accomplished out of one year, four

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years, ten years, one years, 30 years.

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It's no little people or big people. And

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what I mean by that is a specialist is

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just as important as my three star

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general. Come on now. That's real good.

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That's real good. Is treated the same

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across the board, which is called. And

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that is what we have to make sure that

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these families understand about

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transitioning. You have to know who you

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are. Talking to, because if I'm still a

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green suitor and I'm talking to someone

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who's transitioning and they're not fully

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out, and I say to them, I want you to do

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ABCD and never get a resume done, they're

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still in the mindset of still being a

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service member. Yes. So they're going to

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believe what you tell them. I wait two

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years to come back to me to ask for help

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because people told them, don't do this,

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don't do that. Come on, that's real good.

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You have to know your audience. So when

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I'm speaking to individuals, I make sure

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they understand. Here is what I can give

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you. You want my help, right? And even if

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they don't use vet tech business services,

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I still give them tips to help them in

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their next. Like, I remember when my

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husband was going through the tap process

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and I went to a couple of sessions with

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him that was recommended to bring your

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spouse. And we purposely signed up. At

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that time, it was called Boots to Business

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because we knew that one of the things we

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wanted to do upon his retirement would

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become successful entrepreneurs. But we

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needed to know what was the good place to

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start. We wanted to know what was the

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military offering in way of assistance and

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who could set us up guided tracking. So

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with that, that helped us a great deal.

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But I also noticed in some of those

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classes, especially the resume writing and

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all of that, it was highly recommended

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that you don't pay for a resume. Correct?

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And then we happened to have some

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conversations. My husband was a coach for

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the football team for Cys and had some

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conversation with some of the parents who

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had already transitioned out and they were

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civilians. And so the information that we

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got from them was the exact opposite of

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what was given to us in Taps. It's like,

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no, you need to pay for that. You need to

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pay for that because there's so many

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nuances to this. And the translation of

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your active duty certificates, your job

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descriptions, the different things that

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you have on how to write it in a way that

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it won't get kicked out. At that time, it

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was resumes for USA Jobs. It was easier,

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though, with resumes. It was easier

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because that's how I started my company in

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Germany. I heard two service members say

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they couldn't make a list and I told them

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I could help them. And that's how I

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started overseas with doing resumes. And I

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started helping enlisted because at one

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point, and I'm very compassionate about

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enlisted, they would always tell enlisted

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that you could be a GS five or seven or

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nine. And so I wanted to go against the

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ODS, and so I did. So I made sure that my

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enlisted are 13, 1415 and on, up and on.

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Because really, depending upon what your

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career field is, what certifications you

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made sure you got while you were on active

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duty, civilian education, military

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education, experience, all of these great

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things, especially as you get to be senior

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noncoms, it didn't make sense to nothing

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wrong with a GS five, GS six, GS seven,

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eight, or not. Nothing wrong with that. I

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was when I came in and I had an MBA.

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Exactly. That makes sense. Yes. Right. You

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have to look at it and understand TDAs and

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manpower. So when I speak about manpower,

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I'm talking about what is your TDAs, what

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is the highest grade in that area? And

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sometimes the highest grade in that area

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is a GS six. So you got to know different

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things about the government side as far as

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GS, because you will be thinking, well,

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I'm equivalent to a 13, but they only have

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a nine, so you may have to apply for a

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nine. So you have to understand the TDA

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manpower. What does that really look like?

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Before you just decide to say, I don't

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want to do this, but then back to the

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resume. You have to be able to talk your

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resume back. It wasn't that big of a deal,

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but as they changed the systems,

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everything got kicked out. If you didn't

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have this, if you didn't have that. But

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they start making mistakes as well. So you

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have to know what you want before you even

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get out of the military. They may not tell

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you this, but 120 days is not enough time

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to have a resume. Come on. Now. Clients

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had resumes, and they was 15 years in 20

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years. Come on. Their resume was already

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there. All we had to do is go back and

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retweak it. And I'd already taught them

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how to understand USA jobs. So most of my

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clients don't come back because I have

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them set up for the grade that they're in

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the next grade and the grade after that.

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So they don't need to come back because

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they already prepped and prepared for the

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future. For the future difference. With

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Vet Tech, we try to sit down and make sure

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that in most cases, you have to keep

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coming back and forth. I don't need to see

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you four or five times, because if I don't

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five times, I haven't done my job. Come

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on, that's good. I have to make sure that

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resume is where your family connect sale,

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and you can make profit and you can get

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promoted. Listen, you all, if you just

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tuned in, you're missing some gems. But

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don't worry. This is a podcast. It's a

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live stream. Hashtag replay is in effect.

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You can go back, rewind this thing and

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listen to it, because I already knew Miss

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Francetta was going to drop gems on us.

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Listen, military family, the family

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members of military families share this

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broadcast. She is giving great wisdom for

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military families. And what you just said,

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look, you all hit them like share and

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subscribe. Get this out, because this can

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bless some people. It can bless a whole

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lot of people, because that 120 days.

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That's a drop in the bucket. You own crash

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mode. Like you're trying to do too many

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things in such a short amount of time. And

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I know, like, when Ben was getting ready

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to come to retirement, the recommended

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time at that point to start your process

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was two years out. But we also know that

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just because that's recommended don't mean

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you was going to get in them classes. So

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if we already know the standard says you

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need two years out before you do it,

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before you drop that packet, start doing

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these things, then you probably should go

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into if you at 15 years and you know

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you're going to do 20, you need to look at

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what you're doing at year 15. Do I need a

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degree? What do I need a degree in? What

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can I be doing in these last few years to

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prepare me for where I want to go? And

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that's something that Ms. Francella just

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dropped on you. But one of the other

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things that she just really explained was

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she gave a little bit of insight into how

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the GS system really works. And so what

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I'd love for you to do right now is either

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dispel the error let me say it like this.

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Give us some truth on well, just take this

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GS position now and you can work your way

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up in the system. Okay, that's a true and

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false statement. Come on, let's talk about

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it. Now, depending on how you was picked

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up, if you picked up from the VRA or Veoa,

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different statuses allow you to do

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different things. Yes, VRA. Three years.

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Veoa, ten years. Now you're going into a

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whole different area. So you have to know

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how they picked you, if they picked you

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off of this list or that list, and what

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was the status? Was it VRA? Was it

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military spouse? Was it veoa? How were you

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picked up? Okay, so a lot of people don't

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ask that. They just get it. And then when

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I ask them, they don't know. I mean,

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people don't even know to ask it, though.

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But the reason why they don't know,

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because during the 120 days while you out

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processing and taps, you are on your phone

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looking at, I need to get housing. I need

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to make sure everything is being moved. Do

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my daughter's son have school ready?

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That's not top priority for them is to

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look at that resume. Priority is that I'm

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about to retire. I got to make sure

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retirement is ready. If we buy in a home,

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is my family safe? Right. Resume writing

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is important, but normally it kind of just

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kind of passes by because I've went to

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Taps and stood outside the door and

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watched them. In my class, you wouldn't

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have a phone, but when you walked out, you

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would have a government resume. A

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government resume to apply for a position

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when you walked out the door. I love that.

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Now break that down in the difference of

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the resume types, whether you're going in

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to apply for because I know. Let me just

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talk about for probably when our spouses

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were in, and we're talking old army, 30,

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40. Years ago but seem like current army.

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That way of thinking is still lingering

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and it's having some negative impact on

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some senior noncoms and probably even some

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field grade officers or junior officers

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who thought that my bachelor's degree was

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just going to be enough. It'll get me

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where I need to go in my rank or with the

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senior noncoms. I don't have to worry

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about getting my bachelor's or my master's

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or whatever. I'm going to just stay in my

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field and if I can't get into GS, I'm

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going to walk into the contracting. Help

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us get rid of that erroneous, way of

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thinking. You have so many people that

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they're in the government, so the

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government system, so when they say that

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to service members who are getting out,

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they're going to take their words. I

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worked at CPAC, I've been manpower, I've

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been a personnel assistant. I've done in

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out processing. I've downsized a whole

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finance battalion. I've done TDAs, I've

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done it all. The problem is you need to

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understand that in some cases I know they

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say this a lot on LinkedIn, that if you're

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this rank, then this is your GS level.

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They go by ranks. But what would you say

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if you have a person that has an associate

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degree that's a GS 14 that retired as a

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master sergeant? Oh, that's one of my

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clients. Or first class that got some

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education. He's a 13. So for me, I go

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against the ODS. I'm the one that go

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against the ODS. That's why I call myself

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a badass military spouse. Come on now.

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Someone tell me how to take care of my

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clients. Come on, that's real good. So a

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lot of people are going to agree with me

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and a lot of them won't. But guess what?

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I'm okay with it. I'm still not going. But

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you can't argue with results. So what I do

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is I look at what they have to offer and

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then I can tell them what career path they

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need to go and what grade level they need

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to be at. Right. I sit down with every

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family member after I break them down. So

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it depends because a lot of times they're

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going to tell you, you have to have a

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doctorate for this master's and BS in some

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cases, certain things do need to have a

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degree. It depends on the position that

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you're applying for. You have to have

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certain certifications. But before you

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just go panicking, you need to come talk

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to me. I'll give you 30 minutes for free,

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but that's all you get between 15 minutes

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and 30 minutes. After that, the clock

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starts ticking. Okay. Right. Come on. Now.

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But this is information that you need to

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invest in. Yes. But you have to take time

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out and close out everybody and pick the

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company that's best for you to have

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transition. And a lot of times, yes, they

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will tell you don't pay for a resume and

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guess what? Don't if that's what you want

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to do. But no one ever told me what I

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could not do because offered to help me.

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No one offered to tell me these things. I

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had to research and learn off a trial and

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error. And in nine years being overseas

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military spouses, I never interviewed for

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a job. I knew how to network. Come on. How

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to network and you do it correctly by the

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book. Believe me. When my husband was

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moving to and and he was in Grappling

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deer, I was actually already reaching out

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to people. Hello. I am Francetta Daya. I

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know you need an admin assistant. I can do

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RPA. All I need is yes or no. Yes. Okay.

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Thank you. So you have to know how to

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network. And a lot of times your pride is

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on your shoulder because of your degrees.

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Foreign country, you need to play by the

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rules and understand that you're going to

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have to do some work. Yes. GS four for me.

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I started out as a GS four, but the things

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that I've done, some of the things that

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I've been in and saw, most military

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spouses have not seen them, but probably

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officers have. Yeah. So again, you have to

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understand the right attitude. You have to

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have the right attitude when you are

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transitioning because you was called sir,

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when I speak to you, I'm going to call you

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by your first name. Either Keith, Bob,

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Joe, Harry, because in the civilian in

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corporate America, they're not about to

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call you colonel or general. Not at all.

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Now they're going to give you that respect

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because you are general. But most of the

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time some people who have never heard

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about the military or like the military,

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it's not going to give you that type of

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respect. Come on. That's real good thing

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you have to think about as you writing

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your resume is who are you presenting it

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to? Please stop putting secret claimants

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on all of your resumes and not applying

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for. A job that requires it. Yeah. Because

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you're telling too many people I was in

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Germany doing 911. So that's why I'm very

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adamant about don't put all these secret

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clearances and stuff. And another gem that

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you really need to remember is just.

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Because certain awards you've got, they

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don't need to be on the resume. I talked

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about this before. I had a client that did

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not want to take off his Purple Heart. And

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I told him, I said, It's not that it's not

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important, but I need you to understand

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that's going to open some doors. He

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suffered with PTSD. He left it on there

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because at the end of the day, I can't

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make you do anything. Now, I'm not a

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bully, but I'm 411, and I kind of know

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some things. I kind of been around for a

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while. You're 411? Well, when you went to

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the interview, guess what they started

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asking? Oh, you got a purple horse. So how

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did you get it? What happened? They

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started asking some questions that took

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his PTSD to a whole different level.

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Another level? Yeah, because guess what?

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They weren't in the service, and this was

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something new to them. They'd heard about

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it. But can you tell me your experience?

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No. And he said, Ms. Dyer, I think we need

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to take that off. I said, are you sure?

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Yes. So you have to know what to put on

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the resume and what to leave off as well.

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Right. So I love that what you've covered

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there, because that has me thinking about

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not just the resumes, but the LinkedIn

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profiles, your other social media

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profiles, where your header, that first

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thing that people are going to see that

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describes who you are and what you bring

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to the table. What's your value? How can

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you be of value to the company? And I love

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that. I see a lot of times because my

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husband is in that intel community, a lot

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of my LinkedIn friends are, of course,

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from our time as a military family. And I

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guarantee you 99.99% of them have that TSI

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poly or whatever they have. You know what

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I'm saying? Tstcsi. They have all of that

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in their LinkedIn descriptions. But what

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does that have to do with anything on your

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LinkedIn? I understand that companies want

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to see that because some companies look

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for that. That is what they are

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researching for. But you may want to hide

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it within the resume so they can still.

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See it, like within your about section.

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Yes. But again, everyone will have their

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own opinion on a resume. So let's make

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sure we understand that. And also, if one

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of my clients, I do a resume for them and

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then a recruiter tell them, I don't like

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this resume. I want it done like ABCDEFG.

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We flip real quick and put it ABCDEFG

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because they're trying to get a job. So

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understand that a resume is never hear

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this clearly is never written in stone.

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You have to change it. So the resume that

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you would use for USA Jobs, is it in the

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same format or layout as the resume that

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you would use with a contractor? Because

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you're mentioning, know, getting getting

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your information in the hands of the

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recruiter in these big contracting for the

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contracting world, how different does that

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resume need to look? Something that I'm

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going to submit to USA Jobs versus

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something that I'm going to submit to one

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of these contracting companies. It's going

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to vary because and I'll give my example,

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when I went for my contracting job in DC,

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my government resume was good for them. I

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didn't professional resume, it's going to

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be determined. So what I would do is I

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would ask what is the format that you

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prefer for my resume to be in? Because you

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can ask that question because they may say

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we just want two pages. Bullet point.

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Well, some people want to see what you've

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done for the military and that's good

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because they can look at it and say, okay,

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yes, they actually did hold this position.

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Yes, they did do this. And others will

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only want two pages. So it will vary. It

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will vary. Yes, ma'am. Because I think

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every contract company is different. Some

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contract companies, just like I said, they

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took my USA Job resume. But then another

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contract company, I had only wanted two

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pages, only wanted two pages on who you

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are applying with and what is their format

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for resume submission for resumes. So

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basically my takeaway is it depends upon

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the employer's preference. Whether we're

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trying to stay in the GS world, whether we

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are trying to go into the government

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contracting world, and even maybe in the

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true civilian sector. Coming into

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corporate America and just walking away

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from federal government. Well, state

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government or into true civilian world

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corporate America. It depends upon what

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the company wants or needs or what the

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state government might want or need to see

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from you. So it's not a one size fits all.

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No, because even in the USA Jobs part of

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it, USA job has a little format that you

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can put your information in. And my format

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is different than theirs. I upload my

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resume so it's different. And sometimes

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they'll have it where it should look more

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like a professional resume, which I know

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for a fact has none of the words in it.

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And people who have gotten normally people

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who have put a two page resume in for a

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USA job had to hook up. They won't tell

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you that, but nine times out of ten,

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that's what they have because the job was

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already designed. For them in the

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beginning. They just had to go through the

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formality. So let's talk about that a

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little bit. I know we winded down on our

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time, but that's important. I'm really

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glad you said that. Because to me, as a

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military spouse, we understand that there

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are some unwritten things that go on in

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our culture and that certain jobs are left

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for certain spouses of certain key

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leaders. And so even though those jobs are

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open and available for a short period of

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time, or they may never close. Like it's

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just always open. But you got 99,000

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spouses applying, but nobody's getting the

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job. I really love that you said that. So

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to help other military spouses, military

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dependents, don't get discouraged if your

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resume if you're not picked up for

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certain. You know, as Francetta just said,

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sometimes those positions have been

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designed specifically for a particular

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individual, but the law got to be

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followed. Yes. They got to open it. They

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got to accept applications. Yes. And

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normally I can read a job announcement and

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tell you what rank that job announcement

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is for because I really pause them. I'm

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like, okay, no, that's not what they read.

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Okay. This is for this level of

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individual. Because I had a client, it was

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funny, I did a resume for her and she

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wanted to apply for a position, and I

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guess she was testing me and I didn't

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know, so I told her the rank it was for

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and she said, that's funny because that is

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for my colonel. That's his position out

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there. They're not going to pick anyone

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but him. Yep. So, again, don't get

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discouraged because of that. It is little

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tricks that you have to do in USA jobs,

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whereas before you did not have to and

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people are going to say, well, don't say

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that. Yes, you need to know that. You need

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to know that upright. Yes. Because if you

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don't, you will not make a list most of

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the time and depending on that resume and

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how you answer questions. So you have to

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know what you want and make sure that when

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you put that resume out there, that you

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check the check mark that says searchable

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because I've had too many people tell me,

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ms. Dyer, I'm not making the referral

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list. And when I go look at everything,

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they don't even have a check mark checked

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to make their resume. Searchable.

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Searchable. Okay, that's real good. Look,

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y'all, we have been having a great

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conversation. I see we had a couple of

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more people pop in. Ms. Lori, thank you

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for coming onto the live. Chris Sanders,

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my brother, thank you for coming on the

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live. We've got a few more Facebook users

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that have come into the conversation. We

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appreciate you. Miss Lachelle Atkins,

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America super mom and fellow military

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spouse, thank you for coming into the

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live. I hope you guys have been blessed by

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this conversation. Ms. Francetta has been

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dropping tools, usable, practical tools,

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y'all, military family, y'all need this

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information. Family members of other

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military families, you all get this in

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their hands. I really love how you just

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broke that down and reading the position.

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My sister in law is a relatively new

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military spouse to me. My brother in law

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hasn't been active duty very long and she

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had applied for a couple of positions and

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she was discouraged because she couldn't

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understand. She was overqualified for some

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of the positions and we had a

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conversation. And what we ended up talking

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about in that conversation is exactly what

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you just said, baby, this was written for

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a particular person. Don't be discouraged.

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You saw it, and then it was gone for a

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reason. It's not that you didn't qualify

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because you're not you're not capable of

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doing the job. It wasn't meant for anybody

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else. But it's two things that you need to

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remember, okay? Make the resume

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searchable, but if you should happen to

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get the hookup, please go back and do a

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resume that is a USA job. Resume. Resume.

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What happens if the person who hooked you

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up decides to leave and you don't like

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that position no more and you have a

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crappy resume? Come on, you better talk

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about it. So you might as well go ahead,

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pay someone, go free, but do something and

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have it professional, because that's a

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representation of you. So if you want to

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be lazy and give a two page resume that

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looks like crap that represents you, that

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don't represent them, because then when

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you get tired of that position, you still

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got to go back and get a resume done. And

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you could have done it right the first

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time. Right the first time. Even you make

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me think about especially those that are

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stationed overseas, not that Spousal

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preference doesn't work in country, but

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that's usually and please correct me if

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I'm wrong, but that's usually something

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that's a really big thing when we're

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overseas. And if you've got that position

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under Spousal preference and you got the

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hookup and your service member, either ETS

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is because they got a job and you stayed

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in country, or they retired and got a job

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with Sofa agreement and you stayed in

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country, and now you have to reapply for

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your job. Yes. Well, it's not even

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reapplying because you have to, again, see

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if your management is willing to see if

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they can get you on your own status. And

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that normally means that you have to

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reapply for your job. And if you're not in

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the top three and a vet blocks you, you

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could lose your job. So normally they'll

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just close it out. They wanted me to get

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my status, and I was a management analyst,

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and two veterans blocked me, but they

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really hadn't been doing the job. A lot of

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times, servicemen would just put stuff on

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their resume so they can make the list. So

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they can make the list of them. They still

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active duty, and I think that's why they

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start putting different rules into place.

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But it allowed them also to see where

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their grade level was as well. And if

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their resume was good to go, then they

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just put it aside. The second thing is

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this. Just because you don't get on a

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referral list, you need to check why they

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told you you didn't make it. This is a

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free gym now. Not going to do it. Look she

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doesn't gave you a lot of free gyms

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tonight. So you all better reach out to

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her when she give you her contact

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information that's no need to ask. So

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really what happened was one of my

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clients, they told her she didn't make the

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list. I looked at it and I was like go ask

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them this specific question. And she did,

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she got her twelve. Come on, look at that.

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I'm telling you. Is this just because they

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tell you they don't do some homework? Get

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off your butt. This is your resume, this

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is your career path and do some work. Yes.

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Come on. Don't just rely on USA job and

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someone telling you that you didn't

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qualify. Go back and look and say hold on,

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I do have this, I do have that. Here you

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go. Yes, it is important that you

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understand that because if you don't many

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people have let individuals tell them they

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didn't make the list and they leave it at

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that. My clients, no, I give them

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questions to ask so they understand if

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they truly didn't make it. And some of

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them have come back to say, ms. Daya, I

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got the job because they didn't see this,

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this or this. Yes, it's accountability as

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well. When you're doing resumes with me

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and I'm talking to the whole family,

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everybody is held accountable and that's

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very important. And another thing is that

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when you on USA jobs, I know you all like

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to have 15 different resumes, but you have

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to pick one resume to have searchable.

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Just understand that it has to be only one

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resume wisely. Remember the reason why I

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said that you need to come have a meeting

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with me to find out that answer. But you

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need to have one resume searchable.

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Searchable. Look you all, this has been

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the most impactful interview that I've

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had. Like, I've had several great

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interviews in this 2023 that the Lord has

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made. But this right here has been truly

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impactful because just as the military

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family, because of the prevalence of

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homelessness is your motivation the same

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thing with me as a military spouse? My

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motivation is there was a lot of years

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that I was a military spouse and could not

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figure out why. I couldn't get a GS job, I

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couldn't get a NAV job, I couldn't get a

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wage grade job. Then I switched over to

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contracting. I couldn't get a contracting

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job until somebody sat down and gave me

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some wisdom and gave me an opportunity,

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opened a door for us. I went ten years

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thinking I wasn't good enough to get into

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these jobs. It really messed with my head

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until somebody took the time, as they say,

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put me on game and then I got into these

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positions. So I'm very passionate about

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giving information and being a point of

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contact for military spouses. You don't

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have to have that struggle. You do not

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have to have that struggle that a lot of

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military spouses have today because they

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don't understand how the system works.

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Yes, they don't know how to work within

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it. So you all look, get in contact with

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Francetta. There is no excuse. There is no

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excuse. She already told you she's going

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to give you 30 minutes for free and in the

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30 minutes you're going to want to make

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the investment. Look, she didn't gave you

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I can't see because I'm on this phone you

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all she gave us about 47 minutes for free.

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Let's say she didn't gave us 45 count of

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two minutes for my little commercial. No,

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but also you can go to my website and get

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a free professional resume. My daughter

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went and did a free professional resume

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and she got her job at a really good

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night. Well, a very Fortune 500 company.

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Come on. You said that's a free resume.

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Yes, a free resume is on my. You don't got

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no excuses now. But once you need to reach

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out to me because I'm going to train you

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on how to use it and show you some other

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areas that can help you look for a job as

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well. Listen, come on now. Ms. Candy

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Martin, thank you for popping in the line.

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Candy says she done shared this in her

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group and she has an amazing group on

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Facebook. Y'all, look, share this more,

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y'all, that's popping in on the live and

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the replay. Share this to as many people

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as possible because it's going to be a

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blessing in more ways than you know,

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because it got to a point where it wasn't

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even about the financial need that we had

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or didn't have. It really had to do with

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my mental and spiritual well being. Where

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this is why my service member is growing

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in rank. Our family is growing. I got the

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education, I'm doing these things. Lord,

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what is happening? I didn't understand the

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system. This is going to be so much more

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of a blessing, way greater than money that

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you were being able to give to a military

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family by hitting that share button. It's

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free. You all hit the Share button. It's

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free. It don't cost nothing. It takes like

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3 seconds. Click share and send it to

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somebody. We got Miss Linda Gray just

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popped in. Hello, Miss Linda. Thank you.

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And thank you for the LinkedIn family that

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has popped in. She says yes, this is such

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a blessing. Her husband served in Vietnam

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and her daughter is a disabled veteran.

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And this information is valuable.

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Absolutely, Ms. Linda. This information is

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valuable. Look, Ms. Francetta, what is

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your contact information? How can the

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people reach out to you and get on your

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calendar? You can find me on LinkedIn.

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Francetta Dyer. You can go to my website,

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www vetechbusiness. Vetechbusiness

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servicesalloneword.com connect with me on

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Instagram is the same thing. Franketta

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Dyer. And then if you want to talk to me

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on LinkedIn, reach out to me. Again, it's

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a free resume there for the whole family.

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So even if you don't use my services, have

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a conversation with me, and I will leave

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you with some tips that can help you get a

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career. Because, again, I don't do jobs. I

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do careers. So I don't believe in hopping

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around unless it's a know that I'm very

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excited know, helping the military.

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Awesome. Awesome. Ms. Francetta. Thank you

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again. I really appreciate your yes. And

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your patience. And I know absolutely

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without a shadow of a doubt why the enemy

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was fighting this conversation. Okay.

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Thank you. I know why the enemy was

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fighting this conversation. It has been

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such a blessing to have you. Before we go,

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is there anything else that you would like

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to share with the Toolbox audience? The

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one thing I would like to share is before

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you even transition, start looking at

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yourself as someone that has value in

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different positions in your family. Just

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because you're transitioning doesn't mean

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that you're not valued anymore because you

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service them. Just because you transition

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over. You are still important to us. Come

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on. Remember 911? We remember it well to

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every service member. Vietnam. My father

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was World War II. He had PTSD. My mother

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taught us how to handle it when he was

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sleep because he would still have

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conversations. And the thing that I love

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most about doing this job is you, all the

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service members and their families

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understand that you still have value. Yes.

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You still have a mission. You still have a

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purpose. Yes. Don't let no one a recruiter

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tell you that because they take 10 seconds

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to look at your resume that you're not

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qualified. Come on. Because, again, maybe

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if they would take a little bit more time

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with some of our service members and

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military spouses, they wouldn't be having

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turnovers right now in these different

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companies. Let's talk about it. I'm going

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to always push for the military family,

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and I'm always going to push for us having

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employment. Military spouses, you have a

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voice, speak it. Come on. Yes. That is so

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wonderful. Look, y'all, we're going to

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have to have Ms. Francetta on for a part

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two. As long as you open, SIS. I'm open.

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We're going to have to have you back. Yes.

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We're going to have to have you back on

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for a part two, because that right there

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was a mic drop. I don't think a lot of

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people realize how when you've spent 20,

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30, 40 years of service as a family and

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then you come into the civilian world, how

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that impacts your total self, especially

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in the area of knowing I have value. My

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value did not decrease simply because I'm

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no longer serving my country in this

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capacity. Correct. I'm no longer serving.

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But I still am that same valuable person

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that I was when I was sitting in these

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command positions. And even as a military

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spouse, if I'm transitioning and you've

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discovered in this transition you can no

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longer keep that GS, that nap, that

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contracting or whatever, and you go home

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to your small town America and you're

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know, who am I? What value do I have to

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bring? What can I do? No, we have value

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always. We have value always. I love it. I

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love it. Thank you so much Ms. Francetta.

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Y'all, I know this broadcast looked a

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little strange because I'm on this camera

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and normally I'd be putting some things in

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the chat, but don't worry about it. I'm

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going to go back and make sure that all of

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Ms. Francetta's contact information is in

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the comment section of everywhere that

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we're broadcasting live to. So if you

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didn't get it, check the chat. If you did

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not get it, check the chat. Give me about

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30 minutes. You all to get to everything,

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to all these places, we stream it, but all

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of her information will be out there and I

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highly recommend, rewatching, share and

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reach out to Ms. Francetta. I see that Ms.

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Linda says ms. Francetta, thank you for

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encouragement. Laquita, thank you for your

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platform and she will share as well. Thank

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you so much Ms. Linda. Yes, we appreciate

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you. We appreciate you. Look guys, it has

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been a blessing. I don't want to overrun

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my time with Ms. Francitta because I'm

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trying to get her to agree to come back on

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for a part two so she can share some more

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wisdom and reemphasize this wisdom.

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Because I know for me, watching the replay

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is great, but I like to ask questions to

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people so we might reshare some of this

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information again and give the people who

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didn't get a chance to catch it live this

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time. An opportunity to catch you live

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next time and get some questions answered.

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Amen. Amen. Well, listen, you all be

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blessed and have an amazing rest of your

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