On this episode of The Ascension Codes Podcast, host Natalie Paterson delves into the topic of overcoming self-sabotage. She candidly shares her own experiences of making mistakes and teaches valuable lessons on how to combat self-sabotaging behavior. Listeners are encouraged to grab a pen and paper to take notes as Natalie delivers insights on breaking free from negative patterns and ascending to a higher level of consciousness. Join Natalie on this transformative journey to conquer sabotage and step into your highest potential.

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Timestamps

00:00:00 - Introduction

00:02:09 - Investing in Self-Improvement

00:04:13 - Breaking the Cycle of Fear

00:05:49 - Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Behaviors

00:11:17 - Ego and Self-Sabotage as a Shadow

00:13:56 - Meditation and Mindfulness

00:17:06 - Manifesting and Setting Tangible Steps

00:18:19 - Imposter Syndrome and Overcoming It

00:20:14 - Avoiding New Opportunities and Taking Risks

00:25:31 - Excuses and Laziness in Self-Sabotage

you know what you need to do and you're choosing not to do it, you

will continuously perpetuate the same pattern and the same cycle.

And the question I would love you to ask yourself is, so your ego

is a shadow and the shadow is telling you this negative self-talk.

The shadow is telling you you're not good enough. The shadow is telling you

that you should stay the same as your friends. It's okay for me to go to a mechanic and

get my car serviced, but then why is it not okay for me to get someone

to do a better job at something that I'm actually okay at? Calling

in all entrepreneurs, lightworkers, starseeds who are here ready

to make impact, more money on this earth and shift to

the fifth dimension. Are you ready to ascend? What's

up, you crazy fucking aliens? I'm Natalie

Paterson, and this is The Ascension Codes Podcast, your favorite spiritual

entrepreneur podcast. I know it, you know it, we both know it.

And guess what? Today, we're going to dive into the

topic of overcoming self-sabotage. Guess

what, guys? I fucked up. I fucked up not

once, not twice, but 100 motherfucking times. And

today, I'm going to teach you how

to overcome something that

is really shit called sabotage. Sabotage.

Okay, so first fucking things first. Everyone

sit the fuck down, this is gonna be a big episode, you ready? Go and get your pen,

go and get your paper, take some notes, you're welcome. By

the way, this is episode 33, TAC. I

just found out that my code word for the Ascension Codes podcast

is called TAC. I said to the podcast crew, I was like, what does TACEEP33 mean?

And then I'm like, totally, it's The

Ascension Codes podcast. The

Ascension Codes episodes 33. Fuck,

that was hard, wasn't it, everyone? Okay, it's been a big day. Again,

you're welcome. Self-sabotage. First things first,

that I did when I first started the coaching industry, that

I did, was I was like, I've invested

enough mentors and I know what I need to do next.

Guess what? That was bullshit. My little

self-sabotage This cunt, we'll call him a little cunt. This

guy, he's over here saying, Natalie, say

Natalie, please do not become rich and famous because

And guess what? I listened to this cunt for a while. And

guess what it did? It kept me poor. It

wasn't fun. Do you want to be that cunt? No, you don't. So

here's the truth. The first thing that really

fucked me over with self-sabotage was the fact that

I thought what I knew was enough. And

look, sometimes it is. And sometimes it's just not. I

believe that we always need to up-level. And

whether it's that you've got a coach right now for structure and strategy,

whether it's that you've got a mentor right now for accountability, whether

you've got a coach for development and

mindset and actually transformation. I

believe that you can continuously grow. And so

the thing that got me from stuck to fuck

yes was actually continuing to reinvest in

myself. And I know I speak about this all the time. And the reason I

speak about this all the time is because if I could go back to that past version

of myself that started in the coaching industry two years ago and

said, Hey, Natalie, you mad dog, just

letting you know in two years time, you're going to become super successful. Just

invest in yourself and go all in now. Who knows? I

would, I might be already a multimillionaire. Right. And of course

I wouldn't change anything for the world because I do believe that everything is perfect, whole and complete

as it is. You know, I had to weave the

depth of the self-sabotage. I

had to overcome those fears. And here's the

thing, guys, if you're in a position right now where you know what

you need to do and you're choosing not to do it because you're in fear, guess

what? You will continuously perpetuate the

same pattern in the same cycle. And the question I

would love you to ask yourself is, are you

willing to get the same results? this

time next year? And if the answer is no, then

what is it that you're going to do differently to change your behavior

to completely change your life? And

it may seem really small or it may seem really big. Either way,

it is something that I want to call you for to do. Because

what I see a lot of clients doing, and what I see a lot

of my other friends doing, and a lot of other mentors, and like, I see

this a lot in the industry, is that people get

okay with being where they're at. And

that's okay if you want to live a normal life, by

all means. But I'm not fucking normal. And

I know neither are you. If you're listening to me, you know I'm fucking

crazy. I've got crazy motherfucking codes. And I know you do too! So

I wanna unleash them from you! And I wanna inspire you

and give you the permission right now to unleash yourself

from the hook that you're currently on. If

you're in a self-sabotaging, looping pattern, there

are two things that I would love you to do. First

things first, you need to recognize where this behavior

is actually playing out and why. When

you come to terms with why and

how you've created this, journal on it. I

don't care what level you're at. I don't care if you're a multi, multi, multimillionaire, you're a

10 figure fucking business owner, or whether you're, you know, doing

70K a year or 50K a year. If you

journal this town and take full ownership for

where you are currently at, The

law of correspondence says that everything is

our reflection. And so when we can truly dive

into the fact that this is us, and we're creating

this, and when we can recognize that, that

is where the timelines will start to shift. So that's the

first thing, right? If you're in self-sabotage around fear, first

thing is recognizing and taking acknowledgement of where this is you.

The second thing is, And this sounds really simple

and yet done effectively can change the paradigm for you completely. It

is definitely what has allowed me to get to seven figures. I

want you to breathe into your nervous system. And

I mean, breathing in through your nose, breathing

out through your mouth with a longer exhale. and

continuously breathing when you're acknowledging this

is going to expand the energetic capacity for

you to get to your next level. And guys, I'm telling

you this because this is me. I've just done this for the last

few months as I've been noticing the self-sabotaging patterns coming

up as they rear their little fucking head. What I

do is I breathe into my nervous system and I allow them to be

there. I acknowledge them and then I

breathe into my nervous system and these are the two key pieces that

have been literally like little key pieces that have

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entrepreneur, When you start to get to a new level, you

need to really look and recognise where

and how you can start to delegate things. There's

an amazing book called The 4-Hour Workweek. And in it, he describes

how you actually delegate and how delegation actually allows more

freedom. And that freedom overpours into being

able to be a better mentor. One thing that I know is that

the women that are coming into the Oracle, I teach them how to onboard a

VA. I teach them how to create a team so that they have different

pillars of the structure to build a higher empire. Okay,

and it's really about being able to delegate. When we are so

in flow and always doing everything all the time, we're

starting to have many different roles within a business, wearing

so many different hats, right? And what actually kept me stuck for a moment

was not realizing when I needed to hire

team. And it was that it was what was happening for

me was like, Oh, um, I

don't feel like anyone can do it as good as me. It was a truth. I

was like, I'm so fucking good at everything. I'm so good at this. If I, like

for instance, my Instagram, I love my Instagram so much and I

loved creating it. And I was like, I'm so good at this. If I hand this over,

will they do a good as job as me? And then I realized something. Every

single person has their own expertise. I

don't do my own nails. When I go to the nail

shop, they have their own expertise of doing my nails. And it's

OK for me to let them do my nails, right? It's

OK for me to go to a mechanic and get my car serviced. But then

why is it not OK for me to get someone to do a better job at

something that I'm actually OK at? And so it's recognizing that.

And what happened when I first got my beautiful VA that

does all of my graphics, when I first got her, I

was so nervous that she was going to fuck it up. Yet

what I didn't even take into account was that she could even make it better. And

this was the same thing when coming back to mentors, right? What I was first talking about is when,

you know, I had paid all these mentors and I was like, yep, I'm

at this level now. It's all fine. I don't need a mentor. So I went to quite a

few months without having a mentor. And then I actually recognize and

notice is, okay, if I do get more expertise from

other people, then I'm going to be more of a master in my own craft.

And it was then that I realized that actually paying

people might be a little ticket to the next level

here. And guys, you know, I believe we're in a simulation. I

believe all we're doing is just up-leveling and up-leveling, up-leveling,

up-leveling. Then if we can start to up-level in every single area of our life, boom,

boom, boom, babe, we come into alignment, we make more money, we activate

our soul even deeper, right? And you know that's what I'm here to fucking talk about. One

of the things that really kept me stuck was not

hiring team when I could have hired team. And

just being able to delegate that, and there may be a period where

you need to teach them for two or three weeks, but that commitment to

teaching them for two or three weeks may save you years and

so much time, and time is money, baby, and you already know

that. This is when like, you know, the self-sabotage, I believe, is

almost like associated with your ego. So your ego,

I like to see it as like a being inside your body that

is a shadow. And the shadow is telling you this

negative self-talk. This shadow is telling you you're not

good enough. This shadow is telling you that you should stay

the same as your friends. And what often needs to happen is

we need to encourage our shadow, our ego,

our self-sabotage to come and be our friend, to walk with

us. And also tell your ego that you are

fucking in charge. You are large and in charge, baby. And

one thing that I know is that when we challenge ourselves, or

when we, you know, start to go into maybe

a new environment or we start to associate with higher level

people, we can, you know, have this negative self-talk that

comes up. And guys, I still have this. I'm fucking human. You know,

I actually sometimes still get nervous to interview people

on my podcast. Like, that's just the truth. And although

mine's not necessarily negative self-talk, it's more

like a, oh, I hope I'm doing a good enough job. So it's still like an

insecurity that I have. So it's just like telling myself and

breathing into my nervous system like, Natalie, you've got this. They're just a

normal person. You can have a chat to them. It's actually OK. You're a human, babe.

You can do this. And so it's just reinforcing positive

self-talk. And it's so simple to do. OK, let

me tell you this. I haven't drunk an alcohol in years,

so, eh. And when I used to be, you

know, the party girl that I used to be, I used to get fucked up and

I'd be in the bathroom, I'd be like, vomiting, and I'd come out and

I'd look in the mirror, ah, and I'd be like, come on,

bitch, get your shit together. Get your shit together, Nat,

come on. Oh, there's hot boys outside. You

know? Now, why is it

that when I was pissed off my face, that

I could literally give myself that pep fucking

talk, yet now as an entrepreneur, I don't? What?

You're crazy. So what I like to say to

some of my clients is, bitch, go and look in the mirror, give yourself a fucking slap,

and fucking come on. You can fucking do this. And

I tell them this. Because let's

be honest, most starseeds that come to me, they've had a fucking dark

night of the soul. They've seen the fucking death. They've been the

black sheep. They've fucking done it all, right? You've taken drugs. You've

partied. Blah, blah, blah. Wah, wah, wah. We've all had a past. And

that past has also allowed us to be who we are today, right?

There couldn't be dark without the positive. Blah, blah, blah. It's all perfect. And

remember, remember, they gave yourself the pip

talk. The next time you're feeling like your self-sabotage is

taking over your brain, remember, bitch, come

on, you can do this. Now, the

other way that has really been able to transform my life is

being able to meditate. And I love meditations. So

if you go into my other episodes, 26, 17, and

14 are all meditations slash light languages where it

can bring you back into balance, into mindfulness, into peace. And

it's something that I do every single day as a ritual. It's

a non-negotiable. I meditate for 10 minutes at the least. I

bring myself back into balance. back

into a calm, central state where

my nervous system can rest. What happens when we rest is

we're actually telling our mind, our ego, our self-sabotage

to just come back into harmony, come back into alignment, come

back into love so that you can start to

conquer your own mind. Now,

I actually have read this incredible book called

Untethered Soul by Michael J. Slinger, and what he speaks about,

the essence of this book, is talking about how you actually

allow yourself to notice the thoughts that are coming through. We

have this monkey mind, right? We have this monkey mind that's always overthinking, always overacting.

Right? This monkey mind, it's always overthinking. What happens is if we

can start to become more peaceful or more mindful of what our

words are saying, what our thoughts are saying, then

we can start to control and start to use those

words to our advantage in our own reality. And

you know that I love speaking about the power of our thoughts

and our mind and our bodies and our frequency. We

are spiritual beings having a human experience. And so

how I like to see this is if everyone is vacuuming,

let's say I'm vacuuming right now, and I'm vacuuming

without the plug actually turned in, sorry,

without the plug in the wall and turned on, all you're doing

is you're just doing the motions. You're just doing the movements. I

kind of see how that is life. If no one's meditating, I

don't even believe you're turned on at the wall. When

you start to meditate, you turn on at the wall into

source energy, guys. We're just using meditation as

a plug, as a powerful source into source,

literally. Oh my God, guys. Oh my God. So

fucking powerful, right? And so, babes, I

hope this has inspired you. When you go back to

thinking about self-sabotage, when you go back to start thinking

about challenges that are coming up into your life, notice

and recognize that it's these thoughts that are keeping you into the same

reality that you're actually at. When you break free from that,

imagine what you could become.

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if I didn't listen to that download and I chose to stay in

the fear and the scarcity and the, I don't know if this is for me,

I don't know if I'm good enough, then I wouldn't be who I am today. And

so it's taking that leap of faith when you get that

download or when you feel like you're the imposter, when you feel like you're a

fraud and going through it anyway, because this is just your ego trying to

keep you small, babe. So really just giving yourself

that positive enforcement, making sure that you're breathing

into your nervous system, making sure you're acknowledging where you're truly at. This

is going to help you. And you know, this kind of weaves into the next thing

of avoiding new opportunities. There has

been quite a lot of times where my

spirit guides have asked me for the next thing or, you know, you should

do this or you should try this. And I'm like, oh, I don't know. And If

I didn't step into courage, I wouldn't

have been able to step beyond the fear, which

then wouldn't have given me the results that I've given. And I

believe in business, we need to track our results. And

when I see a lot of coaches that are staying at the same amount of money for

long periods of time, the first thing I ask them is, what

are you doing to put yourself into courage, to shift you

into a different state? What are you giving yourself as a gift to

step into courage, to go into a

new area that feels scary, that

is going to give you a good reward? Because this is the thing.

If you start with small risks, To

build your confidence, you will then start

to be able to face bigger fears. Now let me tell

you something. If you're balls to the motherfucking wall like I am,

the more of the fear you take, the bigger the

reward. Every single time, there is,

let's say there's two opportunities right in front of me. It's like, this

is gonna give you a little bit of fear, this is gonna give you a lot of fear, what's

gonna make you more money? Bing, bum, boom.

You're right, guys. The one that is going to give you most fear, that is going to give

you more money. And

I'm here for quantum shifting. I've been able to

quantum shift so much faster than actually anyone I know. And the

reason I've been able to do that is because I consistently put myself into this fear

or into this courage where I'm able to alchemize myself into

that next level. By being able to grab my

ego, by being able to grab my self-sabotage and say, come

on, my friend, walk with me. I am now the

leader. So I was speaking to one of my beautiful clients today during our

one-on-one session, and she's already doing 20K cash months. She

really desires to do 50K cash months.

And I'm like, babe, for you to get to your next step, you

need to make sure it's a possible outcome for you. So

what that means is let's put in action steps for you to get

there. And she's like, I'm just going to manifest. I'm just going to manifest. And I'm like, yes, you can.

And Let's put the processes in place and

the systems and then the energetics to amplify both

of those, right? So it's like strategy

and energetics is what's going to really propel you forward into the

next step. And when it comes to manifesting, you know, if

we're looking so far outside of ourselves, if

something's so far out, let's say, for instance, I

want to do a million dollars in sales in a month. That's

actually too far out of my scope right now. I could put it in time for

next year. But right now, the biggest month I've ever done

is 318,000. So for me to go to 318,000 to a million is

a lot, right? So the next tangible step for me is

actually 500,000. Then the next tangible step is

750,000. Then the next tangible step is a million. So it actually needs to come

into increments. And I'm all four people being like, fuck that. I want to do a million.

I'm like, yes, babe. Because, you know, the more you

believe it to be true, the more you can actualize it. And also

by being able to focus on little actionable, tangible steps,

you're more likely to start trusting yourself more, which means your

self-sabotage and your ego is going to come alongside you. And

you're going to start to build this like union together so

that you can start being boom, boom, boom. You can start to actually

like flow together and start to move together and start to weave together and start

to connect together. Otherwise, what will happen is you'll

be like, I want to make a million dollars in sales in a month. And your ego

will be like, bitch, you can't do that. And opposed to you being

and doing what I've just been telling you, which is a breathing to your nervous system and

be acknowledged where you're at. If you

are choosing to go fucking balls to the wall and it's not

actually in alignment with you, what's going to happen is you're going to create more

distance and separation between your self-sabotage slash

your ego and yourself. And all that's going to do is

keep you perpetuated in the same bullshit story and cycle that

you're in. So what you're better off doing is taking more tangible

steps that is going to be more in alignment with you

so that you start to trust yourself, your ego starts to come with you more, and

you start to win together. So here's the

thing. My best mate Tony Robbins always says, if

you raise your standards but don't really believe you

can meet them, you've already sabotaged yourself. You

won't even try. You'll be lacking the sense of certainty that

allows you to tap the deepest capacity that's

within you. And that links into what I was just saying, guys. If

the standards are way too far out, you're not going

to be able to tangibly take action steps to them, which

means you're just going to be in a kerfuffle and you're going to fuck around. And

that means when you start fucking around, guess what? You get

lazy, you get sloppy, you make excuses, and

you literally, you self-sabotage yourself in a pattern. Like, who

here has been in a self-sabotaging pattern? Yes, I know you have. Me

too. We're all guilty of it at some degree. And

though, it's about bringing yourself back into a sense of certainty. back

into a sense of trust, back into a deeper capacity of

what you know to be true. So that the tangible steps is

what's going to be really cool and helpful for you. So let's, when

you start to really acknowledge where you're at, the law of correspondence is

going to come back to you. Okay? You're

going to be able to see the deep reflection from within you, and then

the timelines will shift. The second thing is, Breathe

into your nervous system, your energetic capacity.

If you're always in a flight or flight response, all that's going to

happen is you're going to keep looping and keep being in fear, and

you're going to keep being in a self-sabotaging pattern. The only way

for you to really truly break free from this is for you to breathe deeply into

your nervous system. I don't care what fucking level that you're at

in business. This is crucial to your evolution. And

the third thing, take actionable steps for

you to be able to take and trust and be with

your ego and your self-sabotage so that you create unity

together. Beautiful babes. I

hope you've gotten heaps out of today. I feel like this is an awesome

podcast. I fucking actually really love doing this podcast. I was like, damn, this

is good, Natalie. This is some good shit for these fucking people. So

I hope you're taking into notes. If anyone has any questions, feel free to DM

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