The feminine is rising. And she's asking men: Are you coming with us or falling behind?
In this episode, Kayla explores the massive relationship reckoning happening right now as women step into their power, reclaim their bodies, and refuse to carry emotional labor anymore. She connects this to the global rise of the feminine — and what it means for couples navigating this seismic shift.
She's honest about her own marriage: hard times, disconnection, the question "should I leave?" — and how she's come to a place of choosing to stay, not from obligation, but from love and the belief that her husband is showing up, even imperfectly.
But this episode is really a message to both men and women:
For women: Stop trying to pull your partner along. You cannot fix them. Your perfectionism, your hypervigilance, your need to control — these are patriarchal conditioning. Strip them away. Focus on yourself. Love yourself more. Stop dimming your light. The feminine is screaming for rest, for safety, for time, for pleasure, for authenticity. Listen to her.
For men: Your partner loves you desperately and she's terrified you won't come with her. But she can't do your work for you. The answer isn't understanding her better or doing more tasks. It's doing the deep internal work: understanding yourself, your patterns, your triggers, your relationship to masculinity and femininity, your family wounds. Start there. That's what she's asking for.
This is about sacred union — the divine feminine and masculine in harmony within all of us. And right now, the world is asking men to show up differently than ever before.
She also announces: Online Holy Rage Circle (June 30, 4-5:30pm PT) — for anyone grieving, raging, or questioning their relationships.
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Welcome to Liberation Wisdom. I'm Kayla Moore, a Sacred feminine priestess in training and guide on the path of walking as love in a world of chaos.
This podcast is for seekers, healers and anyone who feels the old world crumbling and the new one trying to be born.
Each episode we explore how to liberate ourselves from patriarchal wounds, weave the divine feminine and divine masculine back into harmony and witness the real tangible evidence of the new earth manifesting through collective consciousness shifts. This isn't about bypassing the darkness, it's about alchemizing grief and rage into fuel for co creating what comes next.
We are the light and the love. When we choose love and peace internally, we are also sending those vibrations to be mirrored the world around us. This is Liberation Wisdom.
Always choose love. Welcome beloveds, back to the Liberation Wisdom podcast.
I'm Kayla Moore, your host, priestess and training feminine liberation coach and I'm here to help you continue to walk as love in the midst of the chaos and the darkness that we have in our world right now.
We are walking as beacons of light and this podcast is really a way for us to continue to learn about ourselves, continue to learn and grow in our spirituality so that we can continue walking this path as light and love. So welcome.
Today I'm going to be talking to you about the rising of the feminine and how that has been a theme in the last month and how this is showing up for couples.
I have spoken about the divine Feminine, Divine masculine previously and this is an ongoing conversation that I think is so important to have and how is really rooted not only in a global sense that we're seeing on a global stage, but also in a very micro sense in our own personal lives. And what I'm seeing and hearing about how people are experiencing this in their own relationships.
So before I get into that, of course I always have to talk about my holy rage. Circle is going to be next week, Tuesday, June 30th from 4 to 5:30pm Pacific Daylight Time. And again, this is a great space.
If you are somebody that is feeling a lot of energy moving through you.
If you are dealing with a lot of grief, with a lot of rage around what is going on in the world or in your own life, this is the space to feel witnessed and seen.
I personally have been going through a lot over the last few months and I think so many of us are really being thrown into hard situations because we're really at a crux point where we are needing to really go through some of our old conditioning and the universe is really giving us a platform to unlearn and finally move through these old patterns so that when we have this breakthrough moment that's coming, that we are not carrying those into the new ways of being.
So it's really hard right now, and so many of us are trying to push against it instead of going with the flow, which is completely normal and makes so much sense. But this circle is really a space for you to get out everything that maybe you're holding in.
Anything that is feeling like, I haven't been able to express this to my partner, to my family, to my coworkers. Whatever is coming up for you is so welcome in this circle.
So the beginning of the circle is doing some guided meditation, just getting into our bodies, doing a couple minutes of journaling just to get your emotions and thoughts kind of put together and on paper and so you can kind of organize how you're feeling. And then doing a sharing circle for whoever is wanting to share.
I will spotlight you, and I will hold space for you, and you can share what's on your heart. And then once we've kind of shared what we want to share, then we go into the semantics of it.
And I will either play a song that we will just listen to and move our bodies to, or I will be singing some songs also with my drum that I just created that I love so much. So there will be singing involved, as well as movement to music. And the movement is not necessarily dancing, quote, unquote.
If you are not somebody that feels like you know how to dance, that is totally okay. It is just moving your body in the way that feels good for you.
We are moving the emotion through your body, and you are feeling it fully in your body. So if it's swaying back and forth, if it's punching, if it's kicking, if it's like bending over and swaying it, like, it does not matter what you do.
It just matters that you feel it and that you move it. And so we will go through grief, rage, and then we won't stop there. We're gonna alchemize or turn. Turn it into joy and pleasure.
So I usually have, like, a transition moment of kind of moving from the more grief and ragey space into the joy and pleasure space.
And we will really turn up the dial on that and feel so alive and so just like, in our bodies and knowing that we don't have to stay in the yucky yuck, we don't.
It's important to experience those emotions, but we don't have to stay there and Then once we are really feeling into that joy and pleasure, then we take a breather for a moment and we collectively hold a vision for what we want our life to look like, what we want the world to look like, to really hold a vision of light and love moving forward.
So we are manifesting that together, bringing that into our awareness and into a collective consciousness, so that we are telling the universe like this is what we are moving towards, not what yucky stuff is out there right now.
And then we will have a closing, and you will be hopefully leaving that space feeling lighter, feeling heard, feeling seen, feeling like you can walk back into your life with a little more ease and a little more love to give to that situation. So I very much want to see anyone and everyone who feels called to this.
This is for all genders because there's a little bit more anonymity with being online. Obviously, depending on how many people there are, people can still see each other.
But you can always turn your camera off if you feel uncomfortable being viewed or go off camera. You don't have to share if that's not something you want to do.
So that's why I open this up to all genders because we have a little bit more flexibility and a little bit more privacy when it comes to being online. You're in, you know, the comfort of your own space instead of being specifically in a space with other people. Of course it's intimate.
Of course you are still going to get a lot out of this. But that is why I wanted to open it up to all genders. Whoever feels called is able and willing to be here. So it is $55.
You will get the replay sent to you when you purchase it. So if for some reason you can't make that time, that's okay, you can still purchase it.
And then I will send you the replay so that you can have it and do it whenever is convenient for you. And all that information is down in the show notes. So I hope to see anyone there that feels called and resonates with this.
All right, so over the weekend, we had the solstice. It was the summer solstice for those of us in the northern hemisphere, the winter solstice for those in the southern hemisphere of the earth.
And I viewed our ceremony that we have in one of the temples that I am a member of, the Living Temple headed by the priestess Sarah Jenks, and she is based in Massachusetts. So I've been a member of her community and temple for like two and a half years now.
And so she does wonderful Wonderful ceremonies for all the big earth holidays, the solstices, the equinoxes, and then the cross quarter holidays that we have in between those which are Imbolc, Beltane lamas and Samhain. And so we had our ceremony for the, for us summer solstice.
And one of the things that came up in kind of the collective in that ceremony was that there's a lot of women that are really questioning if their husbands are coming along for the ride or if those relationships are not gonna sustain the growth that they have. And I have been seeing this in my own experience, in my own relationship, as well as in some of the clients that I see too.
I really think that this is from the feminine that is rising in all of us. And it's not just women, it's also men. There are also a lot men that are turning more to healing modalities.
As I kind of talk more with some of the people that I know and colleagues of mine that are healers in this space that do similar things to what I do, a lot of those practitioners who are women are seeing a huge influx of male clients right now. And so I do think that there are a lot of men that are seeking more healing modalities and really looking internally more.
But there are also a lot of men that are kind of stuck flat footed, that are seeing their partners really take this next step in their evolution and are kind of feeling like, what the fuck just happened? Why are so many women now, you know, refusing to do the things that they used to do and are asking for significant change right now?
And so I have complete empathy for all parties involved don't have so much empathy for men that are actively trying to take advantage of women right now are trying to control women. The people in power right now that are actively trying to limit women's rights and women's ability to vote and be free citizens is not okay.
And I don't really have any empathy for that.
Also, like men that are trying to now turn violent against women and feel like they are being discriminated against, I like have slight empathy for that, but only to a point. So, yes, I, I know that this world is changing and for a lot of people, that is hard to swallow.
For people that are so used to and are really like benefiting from the old structure that was created. I get that it's really hard for this crumbling to happen around you and it needs to happen.
And it's, it's happening regardless of how we feel about it, it's happening. The feminine is Rising. And she is screaming for, for what we have created to stop. I feel this deeply in myself.
I am so done with patriarchal structures. I am so done, especially around, like, work and time. I am so done with work, especially like my husband's work being what our life revolves around.
I'm just done. I'm done.
I. I really want everyone to be able to have the flexibility and the time that they need to heal, to rest, to be a part of their family, to raise their children, not just babysit, not just like, be there for 30 minutes to an hour a day with them and barely like, really know what's going on with them, to raise them, to be in the know of what their struggles are, of what things that we need to be working on as parents so that we are creating a better environment for our child.
There are so many people, and this is women included too, there are so many people that just feel like they don't have any time for their families, for themselves, for creativity, for rest. And these are all things that the feminine needs. These are all things that the feminine is screaming that we need in our world.
And for the, the people that are creating the systems that are taking that away to fucking stop. I just, like, I feel it in my body. I feel done.
I feel done with this old paradigm that work takes precedent over everything, especially over health, over wellness, over mental health, over body needs. I'm just fucking done. I'm so fucking done. And I am someone of privilege.
I am someone who has owned my own business now for six and a half years, and I really don't feel like I can go back to working a normal job. If I, like, had no other option and really, really had to, I would.
But I am very privileged that I've been outside of that system for long enough that I, I can call a spade a spade. And I know that so many people are not in that privileged position.
And I also am in a relationship where, you know, the financial abundance that we have at the moment comes from my husband's job that is a, you know, quote unquote, real job, W2 job. So I get the irony around that. But I, I just, I'm so done. And I'm.
I've pushed really hard against this paradigm for so long, not only within my own relationship, but in the work that I do. And working with sex and pleasure with people, we, I mean, that is part of the feminine.
We need rest, we need safety, we need to feel like we can put the to do list down and open ourselves up to receiving and our world just doesn't let us stop to do that. And so it's. It's really hard right now. But that is. That is the dynamic that's trying to shift.
And so in that, a lot of women are saying, I am not doing the things that I've done for a long time. I'm no longer willing to be the project manager of this household and do it all by myself.
I'm no longer willing to carry the emotional load in the relationship by myself anymore and try to take care of everyone else before myself. I am no longer willing to, like, fake fake orgasm or fake being anything else beyond who I truly am.
So many women have lived lives of fakeness, of putting on a mask, and so have men for sure, too. I mean, so much of our society is built on just, like, perception of others instead of who we truly are.
And I think women, specifically, because we have been the oppressed gender, along with the other parts of the spectrum in the LGBTQIA communities, a lot of us are just like, we are done. We are done because we've done a lot more of the work. And we're finally at a place of saying, I am no longer willing to do the things that I used to.
To do.
And again, some men are rising to the occasion as they start to feel some of that feminine energy is rising within them, and some men are having a hard time with it. So this all comes into a microcosm when there is a couple, usually a heterosexual couple, that is dealing with a lot of these dynamics.
And again, I'm also feeling this in. In my own relationship as well, of really wanting my husband to do more internal work than he ever has before.
And thankfully, I have a husband that has done some internal work, but I don't think it's gone very deep. And, you know, again, it's that, like, I'm done carrying the emotional load.
So looking at the question, the biggest question that I think a lot of women are feeling right now is, should I leave? And I know if there are any men listening, that is, like, one of the scariest questions.
And I promise you, it is a very, very scary question for women too. Should I leave? I will give my own just, like, anecdotal experience to how I am coming to a decision around this question.
There are definitely, definitely hard times, and there are so many. There's so much specifically, I will just, again, talk from my own relationship. There's so much in my relationship that I would like to be different.
And I see my husband trying so much. He has been through the ringer. We have all been through the ringer. The last two months.
Last two months have been, like, some of the hardest times I've ever gone through in my life. This year has been hard. And I see my husband showing up.
Even if it's not perfect, even if I sometimes would like him to do something completely different than what he's doing in the moment, I see him showing up.
And when we are able to connect, when I'm able to, like, let go of my perfectionism and expectations and my resentment around the fact that he hasn't been home as much as I would like him to be, when I'm able to let go of some of that, we are really able to connect. And just, like, his presence around me feels so good still. And. And that's one of my biggest things, is, like, I just want him more.
And so my biggest thing is, like, stop working, because I need you home, because I want you home. I want you to be here because I like you here. Everything feels better when he is here.
So once I kind of got over the fact that, like, he's not where I'm at in his spiritual journey, and even though I would love somebody to, like, dance with in this spiritual space, it's okay that he's not there. And I've. I've just definitely come to the fact that, like, I want him in my life. That is.
That is my biggest want and need is just for him to be there more. And when we connect, it feels so good and so loving. And I still love the father that he is.
Of course, I would love for him to be home more so he could be more of that father.
But he tries so hard, and he is so loving and so kind and has done as much as he possibly can within the circumstances that we are in to, like, show how much he loves me and our family. So that, for me, feels like we're in it. We're. We're still in it. We're still, like, having to take one step in front of the other.
But for me, it is a hell yes that I'm in this relationship, and we're gonna keep moving forward. And I would love for him to do more internal work on himself, and I have hope that he will in the time that comes, but that's my answer to that.
So if you're feeling like there's so much rockiness in my relationship, but there are definitely beautiful moments that we have, and I.
And you're grateful for that relationship, and it's more like the Outside crap that is influencing your relationship, then I would say, like, hang in there and see what happens. Again, there's so much to that. There's so much nuance to that.
So if you need support, please seek someone out like me or, you know, another therapist, somebody that's doing couples work. I am doing couples work in a therapy sense and also working on creating some couples containers in my coaching work as well.
So reach out to me if you are wanting to work on that. So there's so much to that. But if that's kind of the realm that you're in, I would say, hang in there, hang in there. It's so hard, but hang in there.
If you are in a relationship where you're like, this person does not give a shit about me.
This person is actively creating harm in my life and is not supportive of who I am as a person, is not allowing me to fully, like, be the person that I want to be, is not supportive, is actively trying to go against me and what I need, then I would say, get out of that relationship. So I think you ultimately have to be the one to discern for yourself what is going on for you and how to best navigate that situation for yourself.
But I think there is a contrast that I'm seeing where there have been a lot of women that have been like, this relationship is toxic. I've stayed in it way too long. I've made so many excuses.
I have dimmed my light to the nth degree, and I'm no longer willing to do that, that have left relationships and good for those women that have now stepped into their power and are saying, no more, Absolutely no more. And then there's this other camp of us that are like, there's a lot in this relationship that I need and want to change, but I love this person.
I love, love, love this person.
And I'm, like, growing and changing and moving through these portals and transformations, and it's becoming something that is, like, an inevitability of me becoming this beautiful, like, light being and sacred spiritual person for me, a priestess and moving into this new space and territory in my life that has taken more inner work than I have ever done in my life. And I've been doing inner work for a long time.
I think a lot of people have been feeling like I've been doing inner work for a long time, and yet, fuck, I have been, like, thrown in the lion's den and been asked to do more, more, more. And we're shedding, shedding, shedding, shedding, shedding. Shedding. Shedding. The men are also shedding too, by the way.
They just don't really understand what's happening to them.
So those of us that are, like, conscious of what's happening and are tracking what's happening and are actively learning about what's happening and moving through it at a very rapid pace are starting to look over at our partners and be like, are you coming or not? Are you gonna do the work? Are you gonna look inside yourself? Are you gonna start loving yourself for who you are?
Are you gonna start, like, meeting me at not just a physical safety level, but also a mental, emotional, and spiritual safety level?
Are you gonna, like, rise to the challenge of, like, meeting me where I'm at, or are you gonna fall behind so far that we're gonna actually grow apart? And I think that is devastating for all parties involved internally.
I mean, there's so many beautiful things about that, and it's an opportunity to look at the relationship and see what is there to hold onto and what is there that needs to crumble and be let go of. But it's hard. It's really hard.
So I will give two kind of tips or things that I think are important to hone in on when you are dealing with this situation. The first one is for the women. We cannot pull our partners along. We have to really deal with the uncomfortability of we cannot fix them.
I know we want so badly, myself included, we want so badly to, like, climb in there and fix them and make them the partner that we are really wanting them to be. We cannot do that. Unfortunately. Unfortunately, that is not how it works.
And if we're thinking on a spiritual or if we're thinking through a spiritual lens, we all have our own soul's path.
And trust me, this has been one of the hardest things for me to understand because we always talk about soul's path very singularly of, like, what is my soul path? And what are the obstacles that are supposed to be put in front of me for me to learn?
And I've been learning that a lot of those obstacles also have something to do with another person. So it's not like just my obstacles. It's also my partner's obstacles that then I also have to deal with because I'm his partner.
And, you know, maybe there are obstacles for both of us to learn and grow from, but our partners have their own soul path, and they have to be the ones to walk it and be the ones to move through the lessons that they are given. And we are not here to fix them and we cannot pull them along.
And so it's been really hard for me too, because I'm somebody that, you know, both my husband and I are very independent people. We don't need to, like, be chatting and things all day, every day.
But again, like, I really want him to be home and in my life and for us to, like, spend quality time together.
And this time has really been a hard moment for us where we've kind of had to live like parallel lives a little bit and we come together as much as we can. But it's really taken me to also feel like I have to work on some of my dependence on him, actually. And for me, like, I have anxious attachment.
So I think this was also an invitation for me to work on some of that for myself and learn how to kind of cope and stand on my own two feet and not just rely on his nervous system to help regulate myself.
But I think this is a really important thing that a lot of women come at this moment from a place of perfectionism, which again, we've been taught in this society to be perfect and to control so that we can feel a modicum of safety and to feel like we can, like, fit into society again. We are over functioning to compensate for the discrimination that we experience.
And so we become hypervigilant, we become kind of controlling, we become very perfectionistic and we want everything to be done a very specific way.
And we have to recognize that, although of course we, like, need to get certain things done for a household to run and for our children, that a lot of the perfectionism that we've been taught is part of the patriarchal system and part of our conditioning and that we have to strip that away and allow our partners to just be the people that they're going to be. Again, you get to decide whether or not you want to stay with that person.
But we have to just allow them to be the person that they're going to be and continue to, like, nourish ourselves and do the things that we need to do to keep ourselves going and to live our fullest and truest lives. It doesn't mean for you to stop growing.
It means for you to stop trying to pull them along and just take your hands off the rope or the reins and really just focus on you and can be like, we have a conversation and ask for more from that partner of like, I really want to see you do more work on yourself. And this is where I'm at. And I would love for you to come alongside of Me. But if that's not where they're at, then we have to just be okay with that.
And if you're wanting to stay with that person, then you have to just let them do it in their own time and follow the windy path that they're on, just as we have for ourselves. So that's my tip for women. My tip for men that are in this situation, especially those that might be like, what the fuck is happening?
I love my partner. I want to be in this relationship.
But I have no idea why she is all of a sudden asking for all of these things, for why she wants more from me or, you know, if the conversation of the end of your relationship has come up because of some of these things. One, I want you to know that she is terrified that you are not going to meet her where she's at.
She is terrified that she may have to end this relationship if you are not meeting her where she wants and needs you to be. So, yes, she has to give you the space and the room to do it. But men, we are terrified.
We are terrified of having to say goodbye because we love you, we love you so, so much. And yet right now we are starting to love ourselves more. The feminine, the goddesses are telling us it is time to love yourself more and not more.
In like your partner doesn't matter more. It's a more of you need to start listening to yourself.
So many of us women have been taking care of everyone else and putting ourselves dead last, if at all.
And this is the time that the feminine is rising and she is saying, no more, no more are you going to not listen to your body and not listen to the things that you need. And this is happening for you men too. You also have feminine in you. You have feminine energy. So she is also telling you this as well.
But that is what is happening for your partner. She is off on her own journey, but she is terrified that she is not going to be able to live her dream with you in it.
So this is your call to step up. What I really want you to know is it's not about understanding her. I think so many men really, they feel like their work is to.
I'm trying to understand my partner. I want to understand what she's going through and that's well and good.
Like I, I would love for you to understand what we're going through more and to have more empathy for that, but that's not the focus. Instead of focusing on her and trying to understand her, I want you to focus on you and understand you.
She doesn't need you to, like, understand the full scope of the person she's becoming. Again, great, lovely, want that for you as well, but she wants you to understand you so she can stop doing that.
She wants you to stop being the person that relies on her to understand yourself. She doesn't want to carry that emotional labor anymore.
And for those of you that talk in the language of sex instead of emotions, in order for you to get more sex and for this to be something that can bridge you into a romantic and intimate and sexual relationship, that's where, that's where the work is, is you have to start understanding yourself and doing your own deep internal work. Start understanding your patterns, start understanding how you communicate.
Start understanding what triggers you have in the relationship and how you can cope with them. Start understanding your own coping skills and how you can, like, help give yourself love.
Start understanding your own feelings of not enoughness, why do I feel that way? Start understanding your own relationship to masculinity and to femininity and what stories you have around those things.
Start understanding your own family patterns and what you learned as a child and how those still show up in your relationship today. Start doing the internal work, the deep internal work.
Not just the surface level of I'm stressed out because of work and because I have a million things, things to do and my partner doesn't understand that I'm the one making the money and blah, blah, blah. Like that's all well and good and valid. You need to start doing the internal emotional work, the deep internal emotional work.
Because that is what she's asking from you. That is what she's saying. I'm like, way over here. I've done all of that and I need you if you're going to come with me.
This is the work that needs to be done. So look inside yourself. The answer is not to understand her more. It's not to please her more. It's not to do more things on the to do list.
Again, that's all well and good and we all want help with that, but it's not about that. It's about doing the system changing work. That is understanding and knowing your internal self. So that is where the work lies.
That is what she is asking from you. And if you want to be the partner that comes alongside of her and meets her where she's at, that's the work that's gonna be need to be done.
So there's work on both sides. There's no, like, one person that's just like living in bliss all the time. And they have no work to be done. Everyone has work to be done.
And especially when it comes to the relationship, everyone has something that they are bringing to that cycle or that pattern that is happening within the relationship. So know that it is important that everyone is doing their work on the feminine side.
For women, women need to work on their perfectionism, which a lot of us have been. But perfectionism, when it comes to your partner, you cannot pull your partner along. And also working on again, your wound of feeling too much.
That's what the feminine rising is about. We're not making ourselves small anymore because we are enough. Our bigness, our boldness, our magical self that is coming online. We are enough.
And so the feminine is working on feeling enough, feeling like she is not too much, she is just enough in everything that she is. And also like not trying to control a situation. Men, you need to know that your partner loves you and wants you there desperately.
And she needs you to do the work. She needs you to start doing the internal work that is needed for you to start getting to her level.
And you know, I don't know if we ever need to like be completely on the same level of anything. But in order for this society to move forward in the way that we need it to, the men have to become part of the solution.
And part of that is again working with the divine feminine and divine masculine within all of us.
And this is what we are asking is for you to start doing the internal work to understand what is your divine feminine and divine masculine and how are you bringing it into sacred harmony and sacred union together. So I hope this is resonating with you. I do feel like there are a lot of people that are experiencing it right now, myself included.
So I hope that these tips are helpful if again, if you are somebody that is dealing with rage and grief around where your relationship is at right now, try out Coming to my holy rage circle. You will feel held and seen and it is space to get it all out. So don't feel shy about that. Again, the information is down below.
And until next time, I hope you all are managing the best that you can, taking as good of care of yourself as you can. And I love you all. Thank you so much for listening. Take care. Always choose love.
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