Let's dive into emotional dumping. We've all done it and we've all had it done to us! Sometimes there is stuck/pent up energy inside that just NEEDS to be released. How does one do it in a healthy way? How does one be a vessel for others to do it in a healthy way? This episode will give you all the deets.

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hardships going on. There are challenges there are

difficulties happening in the family, someone's going through

something really hard. Something that is difficult is off trying

time. And they need to be able to speak to someone they need to

be able to release what they're feeling, what they're going

through what's happening inside of them. Because it is very

important to release it is extremely important to get out

what you're feeling what you're thinking. But you have to be

really careful because you can really negatively impact other

people, too.

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Hello, Hello,

today I have a really awesome and important topic of

conversation to talk about. Now, this is going to be important

for you, if you are a human being this is important, whether

you're a parent, whether you're in a relationship, whether

you're a business owner, whether you interact with people ever in

your entire life, this is for you. And this topic is important

to talk about. And this came up recently in a client in a

coaching clients, sessions. And I realized that I've never

really talked about this particular subject before, on a

public note, but this issue is something that we all deal with,

on a constant basis, myself included, this is something that

needs to be talked about needs to be shared. So here we are. So

what we're talking about today is emotional dumping. What is

emotional dumping, how to channel it and how to not do it

to other people. So basically, emotional dumping is when you

have stuff going on inside of you. inside of your body, you

have different emotions, different feelings, different

thoughts, and you don't really know how to process them very

well. And you need to get them out, you need to release them

from your body, you need to dump them out of yourself because

this energy is just like stuck inside you and it doesn't feel

good. So you just need to release it. So I don't have you

ever heard of the concept of the chain of yelling. So like a

higher up in an organization yells at, you know, a manager, a

manager then yells at an employee, an employee then yells

at, you know, goes home and yells at their kids, their kids

go to school and then start yelling at people. So the chain

of yelling is complete emotional dumping, that's the entire

chain. It's someone has something inside of them that

they need to dump off on to other people. And then once they

dump that load on to someone else, that other person is now

holding that emotional load inside of them. And so then they

need to go and dump it off onto someone else. And then that just

continues. This is something that happens all the time in

families or loved ones when there are hardships going on.

There are challenges there are difficulties happening in the

family, someone's going through something really hard something

that is difficult is trying time and they need to be able to

speak to someone they need to be able to release what they're

feeling, what they're going through what's happening inside

of them because it is very important to release it is

extremely important to get out what you're feeling what you're

thinking. But you have to be really careful because you can

really negatively impact Other people, depending on how you are

emotionally dumping, depending on what state of mind, the

person who you're dumping on is whether or not they're aware

that of the energetic exchange that's going on or not. Because

if they're not aware of the energetic exchange that's going

on, they're just absorbing your emotional dumping. And all of a

sudden, now they have this need to dump on other people. I'm

sure you've experienced this before, have you ever had

someone who just got really frustrated at you, and you

couldn't figure out why. And then it just put you off in this

other kind of weird space, and you find yourself going off on

someone else. Or maybe it's not necessarily like they're going

off on you, maybe it's just, they're having to release what

they're going through at that moment. And maybe you start to

feel like you're carrying their weight as well, you feel like

you are now having this the same burden that they are carrying.

And

the thing

with emotional dumping is, one, it's extremely important to be

able to dump emotions. Just because you don't want to keep

that negativity inside of you, you don't want to keep those

thoughts and all of that stuff inside of you, you do need to

let it out. But the second thing about emotional dumping is it

can also

be very dangerous

to other people like in ways that we can't necessarily see or

understand at the moment. So I'm going to just dive into this

concept more how you can become a channel when people are

dumping on you how you can become a channel so that you're

not perpetuating the chain of yelling, you're not perpetuating

the emotional dumping, and you're actually allowing this

person to release without absorbing. And then I'm also

going to talk about how you can dump your emotions, how you can

release this pent up stuff energy, without doing it to

others and without it affecting others. You might be asking,

Why

do you want to teach me how to channel it. But then you're also

going to teach me how to not do it to others? Why can't I just

like teach others how to not dump on me and how they should

do it?

Well, the thing is,

that's not always something that is possible to do. People are

not necessarily as quote unquote, woke as you, most

people are not in the same headspace as you and not self

aware. In fact, the majority of our population is extremely,

extremely, not self aware. And you're going to find that there

are going to be you know, loved ones in your life, who don't

have the self awareness to not dump on you. And they, they

don't see it as anything except for them just trying to talk to

you about what they're going through or what's going on. So

that's why it's important to be able to learn how to be a

channel for these people, because it is extremely,

extremely important to release those emotions, emotions, those

pent up feelings and those thoughts. So you, the last thing

that you want is to box them away, put them in a drawer and

close it up, because it's just going to resurface as a bigger

problem, it's just going to manifest itself in other ways

into your life. So we want to, you know, allow people to

release this emotion to release it, but we don't want them to.

But we don't want we don't want to absorb it. We don't want to

then take on that emotional, you know that emotional stress and

then go and perpetuate the chain and continue to dump onto

others. So I'm just going to give you a quick couple

examples. So for example, you know, after school a lot of

times when I pick up my daughter, she will emotionally

dump on me. And I get it the school day can be a lot It is

extremely overstimulating there all kinds of kids all kinds of

interactions, all kinds of energetic stuff happening

throughout the day at school, that when she gets home, she

sometimes can be extremely rude and say things I know that she

doesn't mean and just like be in a emotionally unstable Place,

but I realize that this is just her process, you know, after

1015 minutes at like one more home, when we're alone when

we're away from everything, then she will return back to her

normal, happy, energetic self, but she has to go through this

emotional dumping process just because there was so much

emotion so much that she took on throughout the day that she now

needs to release it from her body, so that she can even go

back to herself. Another example is, you know, with my family of

like, sometimes when different things are going on with our

family, whether that be someone sick, someone is, you know, in

and out of the hospital, and

tibbett you know, what

the the sick person might dump on someone else, one of our

other family members that family member might go and on another

family member and it just like, it continues in that way.

So how

do you channel it? How do you channel these emotional dumpings

when people are doing it to you. So the first thing is, you need

to realize what's going on, you need to realize, Oh, this person

is dumping right now. So basically, that's their

complaint. It's either like a complaint. Um, I mean, you can,

you will be able to tell when people are emotionally dumping

on you, it's typically complaining about something or

speaking about something in a way that obviously is, you know,

has been weighed weighing on them, they're obviously holding

on to a lot of pent up emotion about whatever the topic is, and

they're trying to release it. And in releasing it, they're

speaking to you about it, so that they can release it. So the

first thing you need to do is you need to identify it. The

second thing you need to do is you need to realize that you are

playing an extremely important role in that person's life, you

are there to help them get rid of this stuff pent up energy

that they're feeling that you are there to help be a channel

for them. To get rid of this stuck energy that they're

holding on to, you are playing an important role. So you The

second thing you need to do is you need to understand how

important the role that you're playing is. And instead of, you

know, maybe getting upset at the person or feeling like upset is

not necessarily the right word. But just like feeling like maybe

it's a burden to be the one that everyone always goes to with

their problems. I know like growing up that was kind of

always me is that people, a lot of people would dump their

problems on me I was someone that people always felt like

they could talk to you really well. And so they would do, they

would dump their problems on me. And I think that's one of the

reasons why I've learned, you know, kind of this the art of

the emotional dump. Because I've had to kind of learn how to

channel a lot myself, so that I'm not soaking up the dumping

that's happening. Um, so you have identified that they're

dumping on you. And you have now realized that your role is

important. And now you can be thankful, be thankful that you

have this awareness of what's going on, be thankful that you

are in the state of mind, but you can be this channel for that

person, be thankful for your position. And now this is where

we're gonna like start going down a little bit more of the

Whoo, energetic quantum path. So at this point, what you're going

to want to do is you're going to want to just breathe in and out

one or two times, and say a little mantra to yourself, in

your head and just, you basically it's going to depend

on your specific spiritual beliefs, whether that be source

universe, God or any other diety. You're basically just

going to say, you know, for me, I would say source or universe,

I'd say thank you universe for allowing me to be this channel

for persons name. Allow this information to flow through me

and back to you source because you have all of the answers.

Thank you for watching. calling us to release these emotions.

And that's it just like do a couple deep breaths like that.

Just like say a little mantra doesn't have to be you know,

word for word, the same as that mantra. That's just what I do.

But just, you know, say a couple little deep breaths, say a

couple deep breaths, take a couple of deep breaths, say your

little mantra, basically, just being thankful, being grateful.

Understand, coming

from a place of awareness, understanding that the role that

you're playing is extremely important in this person's life,

it is going to help them but you don't have to carry the weight

of it. You don't have to carry the weight of it at all, the

universe has your back, God has your back, you know,

what any,

you know, whatever day it you know, all that, well, anything

that you believe in, like you are being protected, you're

taking care of you don't have to carry the burden alone, you're

just there to be a channel, whether you know, even like your

ancestors, anything, spirit, anything. There is a force

greater than us in this world. That's something that I am

unwavering about how that manifests in your life is up to

you. But there is a force that's greater than just us human

beings on this planet. And use that force, use

the Force,

allow yourself to just be a channel back to the to the

source and, and know that sources going to, to take care

of you and reproductive protect you. So that's that it's really

simple. That's how you channel it. And then after you're done

with, you know, their conversation, you're done.

Speaking with

that person,

again, just take another minute, like, it doesn't have to be a

big deal. It doesn't have to be this big, whole hour long

frickin ritual thing. Like everyone tries to overcomplicate

everything, no, it can literally be like, two or three deep

breaths in and out, and just again, thanking yourself for

being able to be this channel for that person. And then just

stating, again, like, I release this emotional state, I release

this energy from my body, and just breathe it in and out. And

literally visualize, like, that emotion, that stuff, that energy

that they just like, poured into you. Now just imagine that

flowing out of you flowing through you, you are not, you

know, the pool to collect all of this stuff, you're just the

channel, you are just a vessel for it to leave that other

person's body.

Okay,

so now let's talk about how to not do it to others, how are you

going to not emotionally dump your shit onto others. Um, now,

I do just want to be very clear, like, sometimes you do need to

speak it out and talk it out with another human being. Um,

so always

make sure that the person that you are dumping on is in the

right mental space to be able to dump on them. Um, you know,

like, don't, it's just, it's everything is really about

awareness. Make sure you're not dumping on your kids, they don't

understand it, obviously, like, make sure that you're going to

someone who has some level of awareness, and you can just

straight up tell them like, Are you in a un? Are you in a state

of mind right now? Where I can dump on you? Like, ask that

question. That's always a good, a good thing, because sometimes

it might be a very normally pretty emotionally stable

person, but they might be like, going through some shit at that

moment. And maybe they're not, it's not a good time for you to

dump on that. So before you're gonna dump on someone, unless

it's someone like me, who is who's a coach and who, you know,

is does more personalized, you know, therapy type sessions, you

don't necessarily have to ask me if it's okay to dump on me

because that's, you know, what I'm being paid for. But if it's

just a friend, or you know, a family member or something like

that, just ask them. Are you in an emotionally stable place

right now where I can dump on you, or I can dump what I'm

going through on you? And if they say, No, don't be offended,

because it's nothing personal. It has nothing to do with you.

It just has to do with them. And that's, that's, that's fine. So,

ask and then just make sure that they understand that you're

dumping. If, if that's, you know, what needs to happen, and

I believe that sometimes, it doesn't need to happen with

another human being because we are humans and we crave

connection and that is just Like wired in us, we want to speak to

other people about things. And sometimes we need to, like talk

it out with a third opinion, right.

But

for the things that you need to

dump, that you don't necessarily need to,

you

know, tell two other people you don't necessarily need to dump

on others. What I suggest for you, is figure out how to dump

it for yourself. So for me, like journaling, wow, that has been

powerful. journaling is so powerful. The other thing that I

do his voice memos, because sometimes my brain is going like

way faster than my hand can write. And I just need to get

the shout at me, I just need to release it, I just need to get

out, get out. And I will just word vomit. And I'll just do a

voice memo recording on my phone, whatever, just to like,

dump everything that I'm feeling dumped this shit. Again, I don't

know if I said it on my podcast, but I know I've said it on

Instagram. Sometimes you're going to write down things that

aren't positive. That's going to happen in this emotional dumping

phase, you're gonna write down shit that's not positive. And I

know a lot of manifestation teachers and coaches are like,

you should always, you know, write down, you know, positive

things like writing is so important to manifestation and

like don't attach it to anything negative, I totally get that.

But this is a different process, when you are dumping your

emotions, you need to just stream of consciousness, write

it down, however it's coming, whatever you're feeling, and you

just need to release it. A fun practice that you can do is you

could even, you know, you can if you're journaling, and you're

writing it down, this is you know, a little bit extra. But it

can be fun. And it can be like a cool ritual to have is when you

are having these emotions that you need to dump, you can dump

them, dump them out on paper, write them all out. And then you

can actually like burn them and release them into the universe

and just kind of do a very similar mantra, little

meditation. As I was saying before, if you are becoming a

channel for another person, just you know, release those

feelings, those emotions back to source, think about that,

visualize that as you like, burn the paper or whatever. Again,

like totally extra, like not necessary. But the cool thing

with this with this process, if you're doing voice memos, or

whatever, you can now go back, you know, when you're not in

such an emotionally charged state, like maybe the next day

or the next couple of days, and you can really listen to it and

then you can dissect it. And you can basically poke holes in your

emotional state in like the negativity, you can look for

anything that you can start poking holes in. That's not

true. And that's just going to help with the process

completely. So that's emotional dumping. That's how I feel about

emotional dumping. That's what it is, look around you, like

really look around you, you will start to notice people dumping

all over each other all the time. This is something that

happens constantly, because like I stated at the beginning, most

people are not aware, most people don't really understand

what ripple effect their actions have the the complaints will

ever they don't. They just don't have the level of awareness that

you have, or the you know, it's, it's something that takes time.

And now that you are aware, you're gonna start seeing it

everywhere. I I'm serious, like especially if you're a parent,

you're gonna see it happening at on the playground and like with

your kids, like everywhere. So if you enjoyed this episode, it

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