Dr Demartini shares the reasons you may be experiencing self-doubt, the valuable guidance it is offering you, and powerful steps you can take to dissolve any form of self-doubt.

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And when you inject the values of outer authorities into your life,

you create what Freud called the super ego,

the moralizer inside you that self judges.

I rarely do a presentation without discussing values

that requires that. So again, take some notes.

First, that every human being,

regardless of age or culture or gender spectrum,

lives moment by moment by a set of priorities, set of values,

things that are most to least important in their life.

And let that sink in because every human being has a

fingerprint specific hierarchy of values, list of values.

And although it's evolving and changing through their lives at any one moment,

it's a set of values. No two people have the same set of values.

There may be somebody with a complete opposite set of values than you,

and a spectrum anywhere in between, just like antonyms and synonyms in language,

but you are you.

Whatever's highest on that list of values you are

spontaneously inspired to act upon. It's an intrinsic value.

And it is something that nobody has to motivate, remind you,

incentivize you to get into action, to take action on it.

But as you go down the list of values progressively more and more,

as you go down lower and lower and lower and lower,

you'll require extrinsic motivation to get you to take action on those.

They're less fulfilling.

And I use the analogy each time of a young boy who loves video games

because the boy does not need motivation to his video game at the top,

but you may have to motivate him with punishment if he doesn't do it,

reward if he does, the the chores,

cleaning the room, homework, et cetera.

Whatever is intrinsically highest on the child's value,

he will spontaneously do. If he love sports, he'll go out and play soccer.

If he loves video games, he'll go do his video games.

If he watches a certain movie, he loves a certain movie,

he'll watch that movie over and over again. Everybody regardless of age,

that's a young boy, but everybody's a young boy, a young girl, to somebody.

But no matter what the age is, you have this same phenomenon.

You have this same hierarchy of values, and whatever the hierarchy values is,

is determining what you perceive, decide, and act upon.

And every decision you make is based on what you believe will give you the

greatest advantage over disadvantage at that moment.

So I can rely on you to do whatever you believe at that moment will give you the

greatest fulfillment in your highest values. I can trust you.

You're going to be loyal to that. I know you'll be committed to that outcome.

You can rely on that boy to be doing his video games.

You can rely on me to be teaching and researching.

But you won't rely on me to be cooking and driving.

Now,

anytime you do an action that is highest on your value,

that's congruent and aligned and you can perceive doing this is fulfilling your

highest value,

anytime you perceive an action is helping you fulfill your highest value,

you will be spontaneously inspired to do it.

And as you take action on it, your self worth goes up. Your

self confidence goes up because you tend to walk your talk in that area.

My confidence in teaching is very high because I do it every day.

I don't have to be reminded. I don't need motivation to do it, I just do it.

But as you go down the list of values, if you set a goal, for instance,

to do something that's really low on your values, you'll procrastinate,

hesitate, and frustrate, you'll tend not to do it.

And you will then depreciate yourself and lower your value on yourself because

you're not walking your talk. You're not doing what you say.

So anytime you say you want to do something that you say is important,

but if it's not really truly intrinsically important, you'll self depreciate.

And your confidence in yourself,

your belief in yourself will go down and down and down the lower you go down the

value list.

Your self-worth is a reflection of how congruent you are with your highest

values and your self-worth deteriorates and goes down as you go down the list of

values. So low on my values is cooking and driving,

so if I was to sit down and go, Oh, I got to go cook,

I would feel self depreciated. I wouldn't feel self inspired.

But getting to teach, I love that. That's something I spontaneously do.

The way you know you're doing something high on your values, you go, I love it.

I'm inspired by that. I'm grateful for the opportunity to do it.

There are about six things that I call transcendental feelings that are

confirmations and letting you know that you're being authentic.

Because whatever's highest on your value, your life identity revolves around.

So my highest value is teaching. So I'm a teacher.

It's also where I excel in knowledge in my highest value.

It's also what I feel my purpose is, my highest value.

So knowing what your highest value is,

why I have on my Value Determination process on my website for free,

for people to give people an opportunity to go and do their values because it

will give them a competitive advantage over somebody that doesn't know what

their values are.

And many times people think they know but they actually don't.

After doing Value Determination for 45 years,

I guarantee you most people don't know what their values are.

They think they know.

When I actually go and determine them and what they actually are thinking is

important to them and what's actually important to them are two different

things.

Most people inculcate and inject the values of other people into their life

that they look up to, society's norms, traditions, conventions,

belief systems,

et cetera and they have internal conflict between what's really valuable and

what they think it should be. And anytime you hear yourself saying, I got to,

I have to, I must, I should, I'm supposed to, I have to, and all that stuff,

you know you're feeling,

you're doing something that's not really important to you,

and you feel trapped by it. And it devalues you and you feel less fulfilled.

And you're designed to. You know, people think well that's a weakness. No,

it isn't a weakness. That is a normal biological,

physiological response for doing something that's not intrinsically important to

you and feeling trapped doing it,

which depreciates you to get you away from that and onto what is

priority. It's a mechanism,

a feedback mechanism to go back to get onto what's priority.

Be authentic with yourself.

You're inauthentic when you're not doing what's highest on your value.

Now if you can't delegate that, which is the smartest thing to do,

if it's important to do, then you can temporarily link it.

I don't mind linking things along my journey, I've done many of those.

But ultimately you want to delegate things that are not inspiring to you in life

if you want to have self-worth.

Every time you're doing something that's low on your values,

you're devaluing yourself, and so will the world.

But the second you actually stop and reflect on what's really important to you

and get on with doing that, your self worth goes up.

So your self doubt is a biological feedback system to let you know that

you're pursuing something that's not really important intrinsically and that

you're feeling pressured and having to do it or got to do it or supposed to do

it or should do it according to somebody outside you,

which is an outer authority.

And when you inject the values of outer authorities into your life,

you create what Freud called the super ego,

the moralizer inside you that self judges.

A lot of autoimmune responses and illnesses come out of that state.

And the illness and the self-doubt are feedbacks to let you know you're not

pursuing what's truly meaningful to you,

what's truly inspiring and not delegating lower priority things and sticking to

what is highest in priority.

Automatically if you don't fill your day with highest priority actions,

it fills up with low priority distractions.

The low priority distractions are there to get you frustrated enough to go back

to higher priority actions. We think it's a mistake out there,

but it's actually a feedback mechanism.

Now let me elaborate a little further.

Hope you're taking a few notes or just letting it sink in.

And I know a bit of it's redundant for those of you who've heard a few of my

talks before.

But I don't think it's any harm in listening to something that's solid that's

useful for the rest of your life over again. So listen carefully to this piece.

Anytime you're doing something low on your value, your blood, glucose,

and oxygen goes from the higher part of the brain to a lower part of the brain,

it goes to a subcortical part of the brain. When it does,

it activates what is called systems 1 thinking,

which is an emotional responder and basically

a survival responder.

So what happens is you tend to go into amygdala function instead of

executive function, which is the desire center. So now what happens if you do,

if you set a goal to do something low on your priorities,

that's low on your value system, your amygdala comes online, the blood, glucose,

and oxygen goes there,

the amygdala wants to avoid difficulties and seek ease,

avoid pain, seek pleasure, avoid negative, seek positive, avoid predator,

seek prey.

It's trying to separate the poles of a magnet instead of integrate the

poles of a magnet and allow you to bring objectivity to your life and embrace

both sides of life.

So what happens is now you start to expect a pleasure without a

pain, a happy without a sad, a positive without a negative,

a peace without a war, a comfort without an uncomfort,

a freedom without a constraint.

And anytime you expect a one-sided world,

you have set yourself up for an unrealistic expectation,

that is going to bring out the other side to break your addiction to that one

fantasy and get on with being objective. And that's again,

a symptom to try to get you back to your highest value where you're objective,

where you embrace both sides of life and see both on the way.

If you are in a relationship with somebody and you expect them to be up,

never down, positive, never negative, nice, never mean, kind, never cruel,

you're going to end up with anger and aggression, blame and betrayal,

criticism and challenge, despair and depression, a desire to exit and escape,

futility and frustration, grouchiness and grief, hatred and hurt,

irritability and insanity,

and you're going to end up jaded and feel like they're a jerk.

And you're going to end up having to ABCDEFGHIJs of

negativity because you've now set up a fantasy of a one-sided world.

It's not going to happen. And every time you do, you have futility.

And so guess what happens? You get self-doubt.

And self doubt is trying to get you out of the amygdala,

back onto your executive center to crack your fantasy addictions and to get into

reality. Anytime you're addicted to one side, the other side comes in,

it's the shadow as Jung called it, to balance you. And so your life,

if you're addicted to a fantasy, you make your life a nightmare.

If you're addicted to peace,

you get a conflict and a person comes in with aggression to balance it out,

to make you grow.

It's when you pursue an objective path where you embrace both sides of life that

you get it, because that's what life's going to offer. You.

Imagine a coin with one side. Can't.

But that's what people strive for. I want the heads without the tails.

Do you know that the more the experiences you have in life,

the more you come to the realization that every thing you have has two sides.

If you flip a coin in life and you have little experience in life and only

flipped a coin once in life, you could get a heads without a tails.

If you did it two times, you might get two heads without a tails.

If you did three times, you'll probably get two heads and a tails.

But the greater the number of flips you do, the higher the probability of 50 50.

The more you go through life,

the more you realize that life has the pair of opposites.

Heraclitus described this, Parmenides described this, Aristotle described it,

Hegel described it, great philosophers, CS Lewis,

I could go down the list of people, Pythagorus.

They all knew that you don't get a one-sided game.

So anytime you're in your amygdala and it's trying to avoid a pain and seek a

pleasure, you're vulnerable to fantasies and creating nightmares in your life,

you're vulnerable to self depreciate,

you're heading up for futility and frustration.

And those are going to give you feedback and frustrate you enough to go back to

high priority things to start filling your day with what's meaningful,

to set reasonable goals. Because when you're in executive center,

you mitigate risk, you set real goals,

you cancel fantasies and get back to true objectives.

A true objective is a balanced pursuit. If you're in a relationship,

you're going to get nice and mean. You support their values, they'll be nice,

you challenge their values, they're going to be mean.

But throughout the weeks and months you're going to have more sample sizes and

it's going to be 50 50.

You're going to get things you like and dislike in a marriage,

in a relationship, in a goal, in an objective. You buy a house,

you're all enamored at first. After a while you got to maintain the place,

clean the place, deal with security, deal with marketing

or the landscaping or whatever. You got to deal with all the breakdowns,

you got to buy furniture for it, you got to pay mortgages, you got to pay taxes.

And all of a sudden you go, oh,

this fantasy has turned out to have just as many drawbacks as benefits.

And then you realize, oh, I overlooked those Initially,

I was all enamored and blinded by my amygdala.

But if I'm objective and I run the numbers and I'm prepared for the real thing

and I set realistic expectations and I get it, I'm grateful.

That's why the executive center in the forebrain is also called the gratitude

center. But the amygdala is not the gratitude center,

it's the pursuit of immediate gratifying buying things, immediate gratification,

consumerism, addiction, overeating.

Almost all the ills come from that response. It's a survival response.

If you want to live in survival, pursue one-sided outcomes.

If you want to thrive, embrace the two sides of life. Well that's the thing.

People that are self depreciating are people that are wanting a fantasy about

how life's designed. They're not living by priority,

they're automatically in their lower values, they're activating their amygdala,

they're searching for hedonistic pursuits of immediate gratification.

Life is smacking them left and right.

They're basically doubting themselves because they procrastinate,

hesitate and frustrate,

and they're not engaged and inspired and fulfilled in their life.

And that doesn't have to be you,

all you have to do is start prioritizing your life.

And also learning how to balance out your equation.

And I'm going to take a moment about that.

Out of all the 50 years of research that I've had on human behavior,

and literally next month it's 50 years,

I've been looking at what is the distillation,

what's the highest priority things that I could be sharing with people.

Because I've been devouring every imaginable discipline

your hands on to help maximize human awareness potential around the the planet.

But one thing I'm certain about and why I put so much emphasis on it,

is on values. If you don't know what your values are,

your hierarchy of values,

and you're not living by priority according to what is most important and

meaningful to you,

you're increasing the probability of having self depreciation, self-doubt.

Almost guaranteed. I've been watching it for decades.

But if you have somebody that knows what they're committed to, their calling,

they're metier, their most fulfilling purpose in life,

something that's deeply meaningful that they're pursuing,

that they can't wait to get up in the morning and do,

that they spontaneously are inspired to do that,

have less likely to self depreciate, because they're inspired by their life,

they're grateful. And they synchronous, they're more likely to be synchronous.

The way the brain is set up, the higher you go in the brain,

the more the interneurons, and the more the interneurons, the more options,

and the more options,

the more the sample size and the higher the mean distribution of objectivity.

So that's why the individual who lives in executive center lives objectively.

It's already gone through its subjectively

biases and realize that the things that they think are going to be positive also

have negatives and the thing they think has negatives, has positives,

and life has both.

And they finally embrace both instead of fantasizing about a one-sided event.

When they do,

they also realize that they're going to set goals that match that,

so they have the ability to meet those goals and to have fulfillment.

Anytime you expect something that's not obtainable and life doesn't match it,

you're depressed. Depression is not some illness.

Depression is a feedback to let you know you're pursuing a fantasy and an

unrealistic expectation of one sidedness or that somebody else is supposed to

live in your values because you're addicted to pride

everybody else that they're supposed to live in what's important to you.

They're going to live in what's important to them and their values.

So if you expect them to live in your values, not their own,

you're going to end up self depreciating and angry at them and then you're going

to have futility and then they're going to be alienating and then you're going

to reject yourself,

be rejected and then you're going to end up beating yourself up.

All those lead to self depreciation. But it all boils down to values,

which is why I take every seminar I ever mention,

I'm going to talk about values. So that's a gold mine to learn that.

So on my website is a Value Determination process,

I would encourage you to go and take advantage of it.

But I also address that and I train people on how to do the values,

because some people will lie to themselves,

they'll write down what they wish it would be.

The answers to the questions that I'm asking in the Value Determination process,

which is 13 questions, if you sit down and write down what you wish it would be,

hope it would be, what it used to be, what it should be, ought to be,

supposed to be, got to be, instead of writing down what your life demonstrates,

you'll lie to yourself about the answers to that. So to not lie about it,

I basically offer the Breakthrough Experience to

their values are and they have a higher probability of actually getting really

clear on it.

If they get clear on it and they start organizing their life and prioritizing

it, which I train in the Breakthrough Experience on how to do,

so they can free themselves up of lower priority things that depreciate them,

their self worth's going to go up, their objective goals are going to go up,

they're going to meet those goals more likely,

they're going to have more planning and strategic objectives.

They're less likely to be impulsive,

less likely to be distracted by impulses and instincts.

Immediate gratifying things, immediate gratification costs you your life.

Long term vision pays your life. And most people don't realize that.

And when it comes to money,

if you immediate gratifying and want to go consume and buy now instead of defer

and buy assets to accumulate for the future,

you'll never get financially independent.

If you do it in relationships and you impulse on it,

you're probably going to get blind by an infatuation and then go, Oops,

wasn't what I thought. And have a fatal attraction.

Every area of life is hindered, except in emergencies, by the amygdala.

And every part life is enhanced by foresight and planning.

People who fail to plan, plan a fail is an old proverb.

And people that don't fill their day with high priority actions,

fill it with low priority distractions.

And those that follow the highest priorities, grow in self-worth,

those that don't, lower self-worth. These are basic principles of life.

So that's why I put the Breakthrough Experience to help people get clear about

what that is,

to structure their life accordingly and to take all the subconsciously stored

baggage that they accumulate when they're not inspired,

all the wounds and all the fantasies, and how to dissolve those.

And by the way, when you dissolve those,

you're left with a true objective again.

If you've got an infatuation or a fantasy about what's going down,

I can show you how to dissolve it.

If you've had phobias and anxieties and fears and depressions,

I can show you how to dissolve it. And I can give you your power pack.

Not take some psychiatric drug, not go for years of therapy,

but show you exactly what's initiating it and exactly what dissolves it.

And I can show you how to do it and make you do it on the spot and learn how to

do it. And you can get the experience and feel the result right on the spot.

You have to wait weeks, months or years to do it.

It's something you can learn right on the spot,

and experience and feel the difference.

I want to share with you that because I know it'll make a difference in your

life. And if you're having self depreciation and you want to not do that,

come to the Breakthrough Experience.

If you want to be able to start being prioritized and live by highest priorities

so you're not keep running yourself with drama,

come to the Breakthrough Experience.

If you're in a situation where you're sitting there angry and resentful over

something that somebody did,

possibly because your own unrealistic expectation or you somehow expected them

to live in your values or you expected them to be one sided,

or you're maybe judging yourself because you expected yourself to be one sided,

beating yourself up because you think you're supposed to be positive all the

time, nobody's positive all the time,

and it's delusional to think you're going to be.

But if you have any of those emotions,

you got baggage accumulating there and it's affecting your physiology,

it's affecting your psychologist, affecting your relationship,

affecting your productivity,

it's affecting your wealth production and income and business -

come to Breakthrough Experience.

Let me show you how to take universal principles and dissolve those

subconsciously stored imbalanced perspectives and rebalance them again.

The quality of your life's based on the quality of the questions you ask.

The Demartini Method, which is what I teach in the Breakthrough Experience,

is designed to help you ask questions that liberate yourself from those

imbalances so you return it back to objectivity so you

that you say you want to accomplish.

If you set a real goal in real time with real strategies,

you're going to help yourself get it.

But if you set up an unrealistic expectation and delusion based out of your

amygdala of trying to get a one sided world,

you're going to get smacked with futility, frustration.

You're going to have the ABCDs of negativity and you're

there's something wrong with you and something wrong with the world.

And then you're going to think everything is in the way instead of on the way.

But the real truth is that everything that's going on in your life is acting as

a feedback mechanism, including self depreciation, including depression,

including failure in business and not growing finance.

All those are symptoms guiding you to live authentically,

to create a sustainable fair exchange with other people in authentic pursuit in

something meaningful to you that serves people.

There's not going to be fulfillment unless you're doing something that's

meaningful to you that serves other people.

So if you would like to have a more meaningful and more service oriented life,

you'd like to be able to get ahead and empower the seven areas of life,

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objective in life, and wake up the natural born leader that you have inside you,

the second you do,

and not be caught down in the amygdala and trapped by fantasies and

nightmares and emotional baggage and frustrations and self depreciations

and depressions, come to the Breakthrough Experience.

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I mean literally guide you through the process, show you how to do it,

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allow you to learn how to dissolve emotions along the

you,

take traumas and tortures and turmoils and terribles and all these

things that you think that's been baggage and all these excuses you got and

quote limited beliefs you come up with,

I'm going to show you how to dissolve each one of those,

navigate through those and methodically,

literally scientifically show you how to dissolve them.

I guarantee that's worth something.

I guarantee that that makes a difference in your life.

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I've done it in many,

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not self doubt, everything else,

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Use the Demartini Method to dissolve the baggage in your life so you can get on

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If you're not saying thank you and you're not basically going through and

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goes by quicker than you think.

You don't want to end up with Bronnie Wares 5 major regrets at the end of your

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You'll have the tools for the rest of your life to impact your life.

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You don't have to sit there and self depreciate and self doubt all your life.

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I was asked one time on a TV show, Dr Demartini,

do you believe that people can really change their life in 60 days?

I came out with a book in 60 Days to change your life and I looked at him

straight in the eye and he says, You don't really believe that now do you?

And I looked at him and I got a tear in the eye and I said, Listen,

my life changed in 60 minutes with one thing one man said to me one night when I

was 17 years old.

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me with as many people as I can.

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Start with what you know and let what you know grow.

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