Are you struggling with people pleasing in dating and relationships or saying yes when you really want to say no?
In this episode of From Mrs. to Ms., Andrea sits down with award winning leadership coach and master hypnotherapist Amy Green Smith to talk about how to stop people pleasing, set healthy boundaries, say no without guilt, and stop abandoning your own needs to keep other people happy.
Andrea gets personal about the ways people pleasing has shown up in her own dating life, including a date she knew she wanted to cancel, her tendency to accommodate other people's preferences, and even a recent moment when she realized she was looking to someone else for approval.
Amy explains how to recognize when compromise has crossed into self abandonment, why someone's reaction to your boundaries can tell you a lot about the relationship, and how to stop overexplaining every time you say no.
You'll also learn Amy's simple three step framework for having difficult conversations, how to practice speaking up in low stakes situations, and why taking inventory of what you complain about can reveal exactly where you may need stronger boundaries.
Then Andrea puts Amy through “Compromise or People Pleasing?” with real dating scenarios including changing plans for someone you're dating, agreeing to keep things casual when you really want commitment, and staying quiet about something that hurt you because everything else is going so well.
Amy leaves us with one powerful reminder:
“Do not allow your silence to make you a liar.”
If you've ever worried that setting a boundary will make you difficult, selfish, or unlovable, this conversation is for you.
⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Meet Amy Green Smith
02:07 Why We Say Yes When We Want to Say No
07:02 What People Pleasing Really Looks Like
12:03 Healthy Compromise vs. Self Abandonment
20:03 How to Recognize People Pleasing
22:07 How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty
25:33 Why We Overexplain Our Boundaries
28:41 Can You Take Back a Yes?
31:16 Andrea Gets Vulnerable About Seeking Approval
37:06 The Three Step Boundary Recipe
40:12 When Someone Pushes Back on Your Boundary
47:18 How to Rebuild Trust in Yourself
48:30 The Complaint Inventory
50:27 Game: Compromise or People Pleasing?
58:50 Do Not Let Your Silence Make You a Liar
💡 I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:
This week, pay attention to the moments when you’re about to say yes when you really want to say no. Before you answer, ask yourself: Am I choosing this because I genuinely want to, or because I’m afraid of disappointing someone? Start with one small moment and choose yourself.
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