Unlocking Communication: From Gridlock To Compromise, Part 1

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Episode 28 • 16th August 2023 • Master Your Marriage • Sharla and Robert Snow

When do perpetual problems in our relationship become a PROBLEM? When do we need to worry?

When partners get so entrenched in their positions, they go into 'gridlock.' And gridlock leads to emotional disengagement and a cascade of isolation – bad news if you're looking to stay in a loving relationship.

So how do successful couples handle problems? Sharla and Robert are sharing a powerful communication process that can help you identify what is really going on when you get 'stuck' with your partner. This process fosters real empathy as you seek to understand, not solve.

Because the real win-win that we are striving for here is to support each other in our dreams. As we learn to listen and not judge, understand, and not persuade, we learn to grow.

And therein lies the opportunity in what we may perceive as an insurmountable problem: personal growth that fuels our capacity for love.

Learn too about how 69% of conflicts are perpetual and what it takes to make strides in dealing with them, as well as how to identify the value that lies behind the issue that we are stubbornly staking our identity to.

With Robert and Sharla at the wheel, we can soon be well on our way to getting out of gridlock and driving off into a sunset of mutual understanding. Please join us.

"Problems aren't the problem. Problems actually provide adaptive value to the individuals who are in the relationship. They increase our capacity to love and find mutual understanding for one another. They essentially grow us up." ~ Sharla Snow

"When you pick someone to have a relationship with, you inherently pick the problems that you're going to have for the next 20, 30, 40 years. And if you don't like those problems, you can pick somebody else. But you'll just have a different set of problems for the next 20, 30, or 40 years." ~ Robert Snow

In This Episode:

- Why problems aren't the problem: seeing the opportunity to grow

- When you choose your partner, you choose your set of problems

- Time, Sex, and Money: the 3 biggest sources of conflict for most couples

- Understanding the three different types of conflict: solvable, perpetual, and gridlocked

- A listening process for cultivating emotional safety and productivity

- Learning to understand, not solve

And so much more!

MYM Resources:

- 8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

- Website: http://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/