Success isn't just luck; it's about dedication and effort. We'll explore the difference between effort and luck in achieving success, with a strong emphasis on the power of determination. Say goodbye to self-limiting beliefs and hello to trying new things with confidence. Plus, I'll share strategies for personal growth and self-improvement, so you can become the person you aspire to be!

Join me on this empowering journey to chase your dreams while being an amazing mom. Tune in!

What you'll hear in this episode:

[0:00] Balancing motherhood and personal goals.

[1:05] The importance of hard work and perseverance.

[2:35] Effort vs. luck in achieving success.

[4:20] Overcoming self-limiting beliefs through effort and practice.

[6:00] Personal growth and self-improvement.

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Most things do not just come super easy to someone. Usually it takes practice. It takes learning, it takes challenge, it takes overcoming. And if you're not giving yourself the opportunity to grow, to overcome to a fault to try by yourself with the abilities that you could have been welcome to mama has goals, your weekly reminder that you shouldn't have to sacrifice your dreams to take on the role of mom. I'm Kelsey Smith, mom of two boys. Why an entrepreneur who's passionate about helping other moms current and aspiring to reimagine mom life. I'm bringing you the resources, support and relatability to debunk that limiting belief that you may have about your ability to achieve your goals while raising acumen we're covering everything from mom guilt, marriage, relationships, careers, finances, mental health, physical health, you name it, your life doesn't have to fully shift once you become a mom, you can have it all. And we'll show you how

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you ever had someone say to you, you're so lucky, or lucky you are maybe you've seen a quote go around, or you've heard this about someone else in you know, it's not about luck. It's about hard work. It's about effort. It's about determination. I was recently talking to someone and they were talking about how certain things come so easily to that person. And I happen to know both people, and I gave them a little bit of love. And I said, you know, I don't think that it necessarily just comes super easily to that person. I think they work really hard. And I think they try really hard. And because of that it looks like they have success. But they're working to create that success. And I want us all to take a moment and remember when we may think things are coming easier to someone else. And so a it's either not for us, we shouldn't keep persevering. We shouldn't keep pushing. Why is this so hard? Or too, we play this kind of pity game with ourselves where we have this jealousy or we look at someone else, and we think, but they have this look at them, that it's easier for them because of XYZ, they don't have those challenges. It's easier for them. Because of this, they're just so lucky, it comes naturally. There are very few things that come super naturally to people, what typically happens is someone has worked a muscle or set a foundation for something prior to trying something new, that maybe makes that new thing a little bit easier to achieve. They have done the groundwork, they have done some version of something to make it easier for themselves. Now, do we all have skill sets? Do we all have things that we are good at? Yes. But that goes back to this conversation of nurture versus nature. Maybe it's because we nurtured those skills, maybe it's because we put in that hard work. So the next time you look at someone a new thing? Well, they're good at that because of or they have that because of it's because they worked hard. It's because they try. It's because they put an effort and determination. And you can have all those things to and the things that you may want the things that you want to achieve the things that you're going after, they might be totally different. And that person then may look at you when you achieve that and go, Wow, they were able to do that. But we have to put in effort to achieve, we have to put in the effort to succeed. If we don't try, if we don't hold ourselves to some version of discipline, or a period of time of trial, and maybe even air, then we don't have the opportunity to see the other side of it. So sure, maybe someone's lucky. Maybe they're good at it. Maybe they're blessed, maybe they have a skill set. And maybe they're working really hard. Maybe they are putting in the reps they are putting in the discipline they are trying. So the next time that you feel something may not be attainable for you or achievable for you or you just say well, I'm not good at that. I want you to take a step back and think have I tried? Have I really given an effort and you don't have to give it effort. It's something you want to do then don't try. But don't say you're not good at soccer when you've never even tried. Don't say I'll I don't know how to draw because I'm not artistic when you've never tried. Sure. Maybe your brain is a little bit more analytical. But have you tried Have you given it a real shot Want to paint a picture? Have you taken a painting class? You may say that person so artistic, they're so good at singing. They're so good at this. Have you tried? Maybe you look at someone else, and you say they're so good with numbers, they're so smart, they can just budgeting comes easy to them, business comes easy to them, have you tried, have you learned? Have you expanded yourself challenged yourself. Most things do not just come super easy to someone. Usually it takes practice, it takes learning, it takes challenge, it takes overcoming. And if you're not giving yourself the opportunity to grow, to overcome to evolve to try, then you're robbing yourself, you're robbing yourself of the ability of what you could have been. And again, if you don't want to be a singer, then don't say. But if you keep thinking that you just can't, you don't want to because it seems hard, then it's not the person's fault. It's good at singing, that they're good at seeing, you have to give yourself that opportunity. You have to push yourself, you have to be disciplined, you have to try you have to put in the reps. I hear this so often. And I see it was so many people in the world where it is so easy to think that something's not for you, or that it's not going to come to you easily just because it didn't fall into your lap. The fact of the matter is, you have to become the person to receive that. You have to become the person to achieve that. So how do you become that person, you learn you try you evolve. I know sometimes it's so hard. I know sometimes you're like, but what I don't want to do that. I don't want to have to go to the gym every day to look like that. I don't want to have to put in the practice to be able to do that. I don't want to have to read the books to learn to do all these things. I don't want to have to take that entry level job before I'm promoted. Okay. But you have to you have to learn you have to evolve. So, allow yourself to be a beginner, allow yourself to start at the beginning, and learn the process to become whatever it is that you want to become. And the next time you catch yourself looking at someone thinking, how good for them. Think about have I even given myself a shot. Have I even challenged myself or pushed myself. And if you don't want to, then that's a choice that you make. But if you want what's on the other end, if you want the result, then you have to put in the work. I'm sending you so much love mama. If you're feeling like you don't know where to get started. If you're feeling like you don't know how to get that support, how to discipline yourself how to challenge yourself. I want to invite you to head over to mama high schools on Instagram right now. Mo MMA has goals. And I want you to send me a DM that says I'm ready, send me a message that says I'm ready. You can put in some context if you want of what it is that you're looking to achieve. And I want to help you find the support or resources to help you do that. It is so much easier to do these reps in have the support when we have someone alongside of us, whether that's a community, a mentor, someone guiding leading us holding our hands and being there with us. And so if you are ready to make moves, if you're tired of seeing someone else do something and thinking it came so easy to them, then I want to support you. I want to either connect you with someone else or myself that can help you do that. And get you to the other end where you can say look I did it too. So head over to mama house goals M O M M A has goals on Instagram, shoot me a message and say hey, I'm ready. This is what I'm looking for. And I'm so excited to support you I'm so excited for you to see the you are able to be that person on the other end that you were once looking at saying look at what they got. Sending you so much love mom in your life that you see and love her by sharing this episode. Giving while your cup is overflowing always pays itself back tenfold when you need it most.