In this episode, discover the 6 steps to Living a Life of Inspiration and Meaning. You have the ability to live a very inspired life, by being objective, extracting meaning and living focused on what's really purposeful in your life.

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[Inaudible] Your life demonstrates what you value,

because even though you may momentarily be distracted by other people,

you spontaneously are called to do certain things in your life.

If I look at my life daily

nobody has to remind me to get on my computer and research,

and nobody has to remind me to get on and do the webinars or the podcast or

writing articles. I mean I do it every day, every day, seven days a week.

And your life demonstrates your values.

And if you look at what you do spontaneously every day,

the things that you fill your space with, the things you spend your time on,

the things that energize you, the things your money goes towards,

the things that you're very highly organized in,

the thing that you're most disciplined, spontaneously in,

the things you think about and visualize and talk to yourself about,

about how you really want your life that is showing evidence,

and I'm emphasizing it that shows evidence of coming true,

the thing you keep bringing in conversations to when

the thing that inspires you with tears in your eyes or the thing that's common

to people who inspire you,

the things that you have on goals that are coming true in your life that you've

written, and the things you can't wait to learn,

spontaneously you just want to learn it,

look carefully at what you keep wanting to learn.

All of those point in the direction of a very clear path of values,

that you value,

because you spontaneously want to learn about what's valuable to you.

Spontaneously want to do what's valuable to you.

Your brain is designed to do and live and fulfill the telos,

the telos is the highest value. So your identity revolves around that,

everybody wants to be loved and appreciated for that.

And you want to be fulfilled that. But just know this,

don't expect to be loved and appreciated for being yourself

if you're not willing to be yourself.

That's an eye-opener to people because you can't expect others to love you for

who you are when you're not even willing to be who you are.

And so many people conform, inject the values of others,

cloud the clarity of their own highest value and don't look objectively what

their life is demonstrating important to them,

and then having internal conflict between what they think they need to do by

duty, deontological duty, 'should', 'suppose to', 'got to's',

'have to's', 'must', 'I got a job', 'I got to drive', 'I got to do this',

'I got to do that', 'I have to do this', 'I should do this',

'I'm supposed to do this'.

That's an imperative world that splits people up,

run by the pseudo self,

which vacillates your self-image of yourself instead of living authentically,

according to your own highest values,

where you have a free willed state and you're working with the universe.

And so identifying the top value is most important.

The one thing that is most important in your life.

And maybe the second or third, or maybe the fourth at the most,

that's where most of your life is focused. My highest value is teaching,

second highest value is researching and writing,

third highest value was traveling,

and that's my focus because I travel 20 million miles.

So if I look carefully what my life demonstrates, it's really blatant.

So if you look anywhere, but what your life is demonstrating objectively,

you're looking probably based on what you think it should be,

an ideology around you, mothers, fathers, preachers, teachers, mores,

conventions, traditions around you about how you're supposed to be.

And I don't give a damn about that when I'm trying to work with my clients in

Breakthrough, because those are not where you're going to excel.

You're going to excel in your highest value.

And so I in the Breakthrough Experience and also my a website,

I got a value determination process. It's free. I tell people to go to it every,

now go a week from now, a month from now, a quarter from now,

and every quarter from here on out and document it and answer those questions on

there,

13 questions as objective as you can and get clear about what it is that's

really important to you. And don't lie.

Don't compare it to what it used to be or what you fantasize or what you wish it

would be,

but get real and look at what you spontaneously can't

because the second you structure your life and fill your day with those high

priority things, that serve ever greater numbers of people,

that allow you to have fair,

sustainable exchange and economics to delegate all else down the list,

off your plate, you're on your way to having an inspired life.

And that is absolutely doable and livable,

but that's not going to happen unless you identify that. So, number one,

in those six steps of living an inspired and meaningful life is identifying what

that is.

That one thing in the top three things where your life revolves around it and

that's your greatest momentum building identity.

I took a lady who was a a pole vault specialist in Melbourne,

Australia who's

going for the Olympics and was a medalist. And this girl,

when I went down the value determination process, it was, I mean,

100% pole vaulting. It was amazing congruency.

I've run into very few people that are congruent.

Most people live in a delusion about what their values are.

I've been doing assessments of values for 42 years. This lady was congruent.

I met another lady from Israel, unbelievably congruent,

but most people have skewed ideas and have internal conflicts between what they

think is important and what's important in your life.

Go by what your life demonstrates, not your words.

Don't go by what's expected from the world around you,

go from the heart within you. I said on 'The Secret',

when the voice and the vision on the inside is louder than all opinions on the

outside, that's when you get to master your life.

So the first one is identifying and knowing the top three

top one most important. If you can delegate everything but the top one,

you're on your way to an amazing life.

[Inaudible]

Now what that means is the second you identify what that highest value is,

as Aristotle said, your highest value, your telos, is your purpose.

It's your mission in life. My mission is teaching. My purpose is teaching.

I got a pretty good track record of 47 plus years, almost 48 years of doing it.

And that's it.

And what happens is the more congruent you are with that,

the more you've structured your life around that,

the more you've delegated everything off your plate but that,

the more you build momentum, achieve,

your self worth goes up, your space and time horizons expand,

your executive center is able to see a vision in V5 V6 of the visual cortex,

the associative areas of the cortex. You get a bigger vision,

you expand your vision in space and time,

and you give yourself permission to do something greater. So that highest value,

knowing that, and then structuring your life according to it

so you can live a purposeful and meaningful and fulfilling life,

because when you live by your highest value you have the most fulfillment.

Your purpose is the most efficient and effective pathway to fulfill the greatest

amount of voids in life with the greatest amount of value.

And the voids in life come from all the disowned parts that we're too proud or

too humble to admit we have when we judge people. We're here not to judge,

we're here to love. Empedocles, sixth century,

fifth century BC said very clearly way back when he talked about the four

elements, he originated that, he says there's love and strife in the world,

and there's a path we can take, we can live by our path of love,

which is living by our highest value,

or we're going to end up in a world of strife because we're not following what

the calling in our heart is. So yes, finding out what that highest value is,

that's our mission.

And that expands our vision and our vision becomes lucidly clear.

And if we got a clear vision, we have vitality,

your vitality in life is directly proportionate to

and your vision is automatically,

when it's clear that you have vitality and energy.

And also that any detail you leave out of that vision means you're not really

caring to fit in the details. One of the signs you're living congruently,

is that you love to metric what you're doing, you love to get refinement of it.

You get to look at what's working and not working.

And you fill in the gaps and get clearer and clearer and more refined on the

mission and the vision. Those with a vision flourish.

Those without a vision perish. Those with a mission make a difference.

Those without a mission wander around and subdue themselves to subordinating to

other people, conforming, not really standing out, they fit in.

You're not going to make a difference fitting in.

You're going to make a difference

standing out. Well, this is in conjunction what I've said already,

but if you're not asking the question,

what is the highest priority action I can do today that can help me fulfill my

primary mission, highest value, my purpose in life?

That's a very important question.

Mary Kay from Mary Kay cosmetics asked me that question,

told me to ask myself that question every day.

And I did that and I wrote them all on index cards for a long time.

And then I looked at what was the common answer that kept showing up day after

day after day. And it showed up very simple; research, write, travel,

teach. And so I basically spend my day doing exactly that; research write,

travel, teach.

I don't do as much traveling temporarily because of the Corona virus or

whatever, the St. Corona, but I'm doing it on zoom.

I've been in more countries now since the Coronas come around than any before,

because I'm reaching people in every major city.

The other day I did a Breakthrough Experience,

there was somebody in Madagascar listening and somebody in Mongolia listening

in. They would not normally be able to be at the programs,

their flights not as easy and they don't come, but now they can come.

So I'm now reaching people in every country on the face of the earth,

which was my long-term vision. So yeah,

by prioritizing and filling your day with high priority actions,

you gain the most momentum, gain the most energy,

end up with the most creativity,

because genius and creativity occurs when you're pursuing challenges that

inspire you. And when you're filling your day with high priority actions,

you love tackling challenges. And that's how you wake up your leader.

Your leadership automatically emerges when you're going after and pursuing

challenges that really inspire you.

So following your highest priorities and doing that every day is amazing.

If you live by highest priority, your energy is going to go up,

your achievements are going to go up, your accomplishments going to go up,

your leadership is going to go up, you're expand who you are is going to go up.

Your space and time horizon is going to go up,

your executive center function's going to go up,

your clarity of vision is going to go up,

your magnetism of opportunity is going to go up.

The people are gonna look up to you and respect you is going to go up.

You're more real in the objectives that you set.

You're less likely to set up fantasies that are self-defeating.

I could go on and on and on, on the value of living by the highest priority,

highest value. Priority, if you go to back to Immanual Kant,

you'll see that a priority,

which is basically a divine deducted will coming through,

is a state that Christians called the Holy spirit touches an individual and

calls them into action from a theological perspective.

From a scientific perspective is when the forebrain is maximizing its executive

function and allows you to have the greatest self-governance and the least

amount of distraction. So from religious or scientific point,

that same priority leads to the same outcome and it's been stated in religion

and science and mysticism and philosophy and physics ever since.

So give yourself permission to go live by priority.

That's where you get the greatest self worth.

Your self worth will grow if you do that.

The executive center, which is the medial prefrontal cortex,

it's in the telencephalon, which is the outer layer of the brain,

in the forepart of the brain, underneath the front, prefrontal.

So it's right underneath the front of the brain.

This is the most significant area, the medial area,

right in the center inn the front.

This area has fibers that go right into the nucleus accumbens and the striatum,

the pallidum,

and it actually calms down the impulse pleasure seeking area,

which distract you with infatuations and calms down the instinct

avoidance of pain areas and calms down the subconsciously stored BS

that's been running in your head,

that's ruminating in your head as brain noise and calms it down,

centers you with what they have gaba,

which is an inhibitory transmitter and glutamate,

which is a stimulatory transmitter,

that comes in there and regulates those impulses and instincts and keeps you

from being distracted. And we call that self-governance,

that's why it's called the executive center.

Cause the executive center in the brain is able to give you self-governance.

And self-governance means that you stick to your strategy and objective,

not get swayed by impulses and instincts.

If you go into shopping and you go in there with a piece of paper,

and you've got a list on the piece of paper and the list on the piece of paper

has got your priorities of what you're going to go buy,

you have a higher probability of getting what you set out to do, going to it,

getting in there and getting out of there and not getting distracted by impulse

buying and just wandering around and aimlessly doing that.

Because people that have no meaning and no purpose when they go shopping and are

aimless and wandering and just impulse shopping are more likely to be

swayed by external sales processes, gimmicks,

deals and overpriced stuff and brands from the external

world.

But the people who are centered are more likely to build a brand that they get

paid and they build a great brand.

One is self-defeating economically one is building economically.

So yes,

you automatically have governance over your own mind when you're living by your

highest value, because it activates the executive center.

The blood glucose and oxygen goes into the forebrain and executive center when

you're living by highest priority,

it goes into the amygdala and the hind brain where you learn by teleonomics and

trial and error,

which is the least effective way of living when you live by the lower values.

I cannot emphasize how important it is to do that.

And your life is attempting to do it.

But the thing that stops you is the infatuation with people around you.

That's why in the Breakthrough Experience I have a tool on how to dissolve that.

So you're not subordinating to people.

You're giving yourself permission to be yourself because when you're authentic

is when you get the most power.

Well, that's what that happens. See when you're infatuated with somebody,

you minimize yourself.

We've all had a situation where we admire somebody and go 'Woah' and we felt

intimidated around them and minimize ourself and didn't

introverted around them because we let them dominate.

And we've also been self-righteous looking down on somebody,

resenting somebody and be the one that tells them what to do.

That's why we inject the values more likely to inject the values when we're

minimizing and project values extrovertedly onto

down on. So when we're looking down and exaggerating ourselves,

we're not authentic.

When we're looking up and we're minimizing ourselves we're not authentic.

If we're not authentic, don't expect to be loved for who you are.

You're not even being who you are.

It's only when you're centered and you don't put people on pedestals or pits and

you don't judge them, you love them and you see them with equanimity and equity.

Now you're authentic. And when you look up and you minimize yourself,

that's low self-esteem. And when you look down on somebody and put yourself up,

that's so-called high self-esteem. But high self-esteem is a puffed up pride,

a false ego, an inflated self.

And the one that's low is a deflated itself. And neither one of those are you.

You're not here to exaggerate or minimize you, you're here to be you.

Be thyself, know thyself. Thy self is basically that highest value.

That's where you're, that's the key.

So when you're in your center and you're living by the highest value,

you're more likely to have a centered state, which I call true self-worth.

And that's why you grow your self worth when you're living by priority.

And you vacillate yourself with manic depressive cycles,

cyclothymia in some cases, manic depressive disorder.

When you're living in your amygdala. And the more you live in your amygdala,

the more you degenerate the oligodendrocytes and shut

your astrocytes absorb the myelin in the forebrain and destroy the executive

function.

That's why I'm here to stop people in the Breakthrough Experience from running a

racket stories about being victims and their fantasies.

When I see people running their stories about fantasies or running their stories

about being victims,

they are actually training their amygdala to dominate their executive center and

giving away their power. Stop the story, get objective,

get back on priority,

focus on what's the meaning and purpose in life and prioritize your daily life

and go and serve. Woah, what a different life there is. Massive life difference.

[Inaudible] I found out that in, my twenties,

after reading a book by Alec McKinsey,

'The Time Trap' I realized that I had on my plate,

a lot of actions that were not high priority.

I made a list of everything I did in a day.

I looked at what it produced per hour,

and I realized I was majoring in minor stuff and mining in major stuff.

And I was not living by priority in my twenties, 27 years old,

and I was overwhelmed. I was scattered. I was frustrated.

I started my distraction resolution process then because I had to figure out a

solution for it.

But once I realized that you're not here to live by lower priority things that

devalues you. And by the way,

when you're devaluing yourself and doubting yourself and questioning yourself

and self minimizing yourself and beating yourself up, that is not a mistake.

That is not a weakness. That is not,

that is your body and mind doing what it's designed to do

when you're not living congruently with who you are and your highest values,

it's there to show you that's not the path.

It's there to create entropy and breakdown and frustration to give you pain

associated with going away from who you are, and to get you back to who you are.

It's misinterpreted by self-help people and positive thinking people that, 'Oh,

you're supposed to live with your fantasy and go off on these positive things'.

They actually throw you off track.

You need to know those are delusions and get onto objectives.

A real objective has got two sides to it. A fantasy is a one-sided fantasy,

which beats you up. So when you're living by your highest values,

you don't have self depreciation, but if you're not, you're going to.

And that's why it's essential to learn to delegate lower priority things

and get on with higher priority things. But until you can delegate,

when I first found out I was doing low priority stuff,

I didn't have anybody to delegate to. So I thought, okay,

I got to find somebody to delegate that stuff to.

So I put a system together that until you can do delegate,

temporarily,

while you're doing low priority things until you can find the person to delegate

it, that little transition zone until you find that delegation individual;

how specifically is doing this action temporarily,

until I can delegate it, helping me fulfill my highest values,

so I can see that no matter what's happening, at least it's on the way,

it's not in the way. So I'm not drudging. I'm not depressed.

I'm not frustrated. I'm not weighing myself down,

which slows down the process of achievement.

So I basically find out how whatever I'm doing temporarily until I can delegate,

is helping me get what I want. When I do, I reframe what I'm doing.

I'm now inspired to do it temporarily. It increases the energy level,

increases the probability of me getting somebody to delegate it.

Because I don't get away from what's purposeful and what produces that serves

people. I make more income and then I can afford to delegate that.

And that's the system.

So either go and do what you love through delegating or go love what you do

temporarily until you can delegate by linking.

And linking is finding out how doing it temporarily is going to help you fulfill

your mission and answer that 30, 40,

50 times until you're actually grateful to temporarily do it,

to learn about it until you can delegate it.

But then the second you get somebody to delegate, get it off your plate.

I learned many years ago, 38 plus years ago, I have not written a check,

looked at a balance, bank balance,

I don't even do anything to do with that topic,

all I do is make sure I've got my automated structures into my investments.

I can see what the net result is and net worth.

I can see the accumulation and projections,

but I don't waste my time on anything that I can hire somebody for 20 to $50 or

$60 an hour to take care of. Anything under the a hundred dollars mark,

why would I be doing that? Anything over the 10,000 mark, I'm to do,

per hour, anything under the thousand dollar mark, I delegate.

Because if I'm doing things that devalue me, so does the world.

And if I do things that value me, so does the world,

and the universe has given me every single indication of that.

And the moment I released it,

it liberated me and allowed me to grow and accomplish and achieve and build

empowerment in all areas of life.

So I'm absolutely certain that it's important to master

but to see that no matter what happens in your life, it's ultimately on the way,

but eventually it's going to be delegated.

So take whatever you haven't been able to delegate immediately,

ask how's it on the way until you can delegate,

then delegate it as soon as you get the person to delegate it,

get it off your plate. And find somebody who loves doing it,

so you can truly delegate it and not have to micromanage it.

You can release it and get on with what really produces, what really serves,

what's really meaningful that you love doing that you feel you're called and

designed to do, that one thing that makes you great.

That way you can be great at something, build momentum around it,

build a brand around it,

and people identify you by that thing that you're great at.

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