Midlife doesn’t make women quieter.

It makes us feral.

In this bonus game episode, Suzette and Lisa of The Midlifers play “Finish the Sentence: Feral After 40 Edition” — and the answers go exactly where you think they will.

No overthinking. No soft answers. No editing.

From the most overrated midlife “shoulds” to the social rules we’ve quietly burned to the ground, this rapid-fire round proves one thing: the older we get, the less interested we are in pretending.

If you like your midlife smart, unfiltered, and slightly unhinged — this one’s for you.

In this bonus episode of The Iconic Midlife, Suzette and Lisa of The Midlifers take on a rapid-fire game that exposes the funniest and most honest truths about life after 40.

Through a series of fill-in-the-blank prompts, they reveal:

• The midlife “shoulds” they’ve officially retired

• The personality traits that were actually trauma responses

• The social rules they no longer follow

• The glow-up no one talks about

• And what midlife confidence really looks like

It’s sharp. It’s fast. It’s unapologetic.

If the full episode unpacked why women get dangerous after 40, this one shows exactly what that looks like in real time.

The moment I truly knew I was in midlife.

My first colonoscopy prep. That's like a line in the Sandman. You're like, yes, I am. I'm in it.

That little sleep you get when they give you the colonoscopy is like a little vacation. Isn't it?

The best?

The thing younger women panic about, that I now find hilarious.

I don't know if I find it hilarious, but wrinkles. I think the wrinkles and the lines tell the story, and I'm now glad I have a story to tell.

Yeah, no, I agree not to say that Botox isn't helpful.

We're big fans of you. Do you?

Yep.

We're not going to yuck anybody's yum.

Welcome back to the iconic midlife Midlifers. How are you?

Yeah, great.

Well, I am so excited that we are playing a game today, because I know you guys are just going to do so well with this game.

This.

The name of this game is finish the sentence. Feral after 40 edition.

Ooh. Yep, yep.

So basically, what I will do is I will read the prompt, and you just finish the sentence, whatever comes to mind. You can be as feral as you want to be. All right, the first prompt is the most overrated midlife should is blank.

Should stay awake after 9pm there's no nothing happening after 9.

Nothing.

Oh, I'm gonna say the most overrated should. Like, should life. The most overrated thing is not being able to talk. The most overrated midlife should is.

Oh, I was gonna say cleaning up your diet like you already made it this far. I love Diet Pepsi. I'm sorry. I'm not gonna give it up. No. So that's. You should. I should give it up. Aspartame, all this.

That's overrated.

It's. It's not overrated.

No. You're confusing this.

I don't understand the question. Maybe.

And there's two of us. We don't have to answer each question once.

Oh, we do. Oh, okay.

It was.

We both had to answer.

Oh, my gosh.

I love it.

My bad.

Okay. No, it's so good.

Okay. Okay.

The moment I truly knew I was in midlife was when blank.

Ooh. I did my first colonoscopy prep. It's like a. I know. That's like a line in the Sandman. You're like, yes, I am. I'm in it.

By the way, that little sleep you get when they give you the colonoscopy is like a little vacation. Isn't it the best?

Oh, My gosh. I know. I'm due for one this year, and I'm excited, right?

Excited.

50.

50.

50, 50. I just.

I remember waking up from that anesthesia and just being like, oh, man. Wow. Wow. Yes.

So good.

Had a nice sleep. But.

Yeah, it's like that in airplanes. Yes.

They do.

You know, just like, filter it through the air ducts. Oh.

And just have, like, the best sleep. Just done. Check, check. I'm in. All right. The thing I will absolutely never apologize for again is blank.

I have one of you, so I will never apologize for my belly. I gave birth to twins and a singleton. I. My skin is messed up. And you know what? I'm not going to apologize for that. That was a. That's part of me.

Yes.

You know what I mean?

You went to battle. We went to battle like, it is 100. Our war scars. Right? We got this.

Like.

I'm gonna apologize for that.

Yeah. Yeah.

Thank you. Thank you. I mean, we. The belly, it's. It's taken its own life, right?

Totally.

Yes. Yes. Midlife taught me that being quote, unquote, nice is very different from being blank.

Rude. Yeah.

How so?

Yeah, I mean, I think you're trying to, like, you're just trying to be you, and people say, well, that's okay.

You know what I mean?

Yeah.

Yeah. Now I. I see where you're coming from now.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Right?

It's not just be you.

Just be you. Just be you. Nice, rude, whatever that is. Yeah.

My nice is your rude. I don't care.

Yeah. The personality trait I didn't know was a trauma response until midlife is blank.

Ooh. In ourselves or just in general in yourself? In ourselves. I would say.

Having to be perfect.

Or a people pleaser is a trauma response to having people in your life who are easily angered or, you know, short fused or something like that. So I didn't realize that. I. I thought that was just how I was wired. And I want to be a good kid. I'm the oldest, so.

But I realize now that some of that is due to me trying to make sure there's no waves in the ocean. Everybody's cool, calm, smooth.

Okay, so you guys. But are you guys both reformed people pleasers?

I still have vestiges of it about you.

I definitely still have it.

Are you there?

I think there is a part of me that is a little bit too, like, you're saying, kind of trying to keep everything calm, you know, and, like, whatever that means. Like, I need to adjust, you know, and there is some of that left. But you know what? Sometimes, like, stormy weather, like, that is okay, you know?

Like, sometimes when there are waves, it's okay, you know?

Right, Right. That's what he learned. Yeah.

I agree. I agree. The most aggressively midlife sentence I've said recently is blank.

These are tough, Roxy.

I know. You know what? I'll tell you. You know what? I'll tell you what mine is. Mine is saying, hallelujah when plans cancel.

Oh, that is totally, totally, totally.

There is something so exciting about when plans cancel.

I would say my most aggressively midlifer sentence lately is, I'm so glad my vitamins are on auto refill. You know, through Amazon.

Yes. Yes. Same goes for my HRTS, too.

100%. An auto refill. We love an auto refill.

Yes. Don't you love, like, patch day? You're just, like, right there on the bum.

Yes.

You're like, I'm getting my dose. It's good.

Yep. It's good. Everybody's happier. Yes. Me, everybody. Yes.

100%.

Okay.

The glow up nobody talks about in midlife is when you finally stop blank caring. Totally caring. Especially about the things that you don't need to care about.

Yeah.

You know, 100%. The thing younger women panic about that I now find hilarious, is blinking.

I don't know if I find it hilarious, but wrinkles. Oh, yeah. They tell stories, and I think I look at them differently. There's a beauty to somebody who can. You can tell their story.

Like, we talk about our hands looking like our moms or our grandparents, and that, to me, is beautiful. But if you told me I was going to embrace my grandma's hands in my 20s, I would have panicked.

So I think the wrinkles and the lines tell the story, and I'm now glad I have a story to tell.

Yeah. No, I agree not to say that Botox isn't helpful. No.

We're all big fans of you. Do you? Yep. We're not gonna yuck anybody's yum.

Don't pull it. Grow gray.

Don't grow gray. We don't care. Just be happy.

Just be happy. Whatever that looks like. Right. The biggest lie women were were sold about aging is that blink.

I think that you would become obsolete or less important. I think our generation, or at least the people I hang with and run with, we're just coming into our power.

I think we're coming into where we shine and show up and be heard and have all that. All that expertise. And truthfully, I don't think I really acknowledge that people my age.

When I was, like, in my 20s, I didn't think people in their 50s always had things that I should have. You know, I should have listened, but it didn't always. So I love that now we're like, yeah, it's there.

Share it.

Right? Share it. Share it. So important. Okay, last one. Midlife. Is when you realize your piece is more valuable than blank.

Other people's. Yes.

Yes. Oh, my God.

Yeah. Listen, I'm gonna. I'm gonna. I'm gonna make myself happy.

Okay, Exactly. It starts with our piece. Right? Your own piece.

Right, right.

I could not agree more. Yes. 100. If I'm not peaceful, nobody is, you know?

Right, right. It's the truth.

Oh, I am so glad that we got to share this time together. You guys are so amazing. Everybody, check out the midlifers. Underscore. Correct. On Instagram, you will find these ladies.

You will have such a great laugh. And also go back and listen to their full episode from Tuesday. Because we touch so many important topics, from identity to aging to everything.

Midlife. I mean, I think it was just such a great conversation, and these ladies are amazing.

And please don't forget to rate, subscribe, and comment wherever you listen to podcasts, ladies. I cannot wait for the next time we have to hang out offline, too.

I would love that. Deal.

Promise?

Yes. Yes. Thank you so much, Roxy. We had a blast.