How to Stop Reacting in Relationships | FT: Sabrina Zohar

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Why Am I Like This? is available for pre-order now:- https://sabrinazohar.com/book

RELEASE DATE: October 13TH, 2026

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Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur and dating coach renowned for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. With a clear, no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, Sabrina's podcast has resonated globally, ranking in the top 0.05% of all podcasts. Each episode features practical tips backed by board-certified and licensed psychologists, aimed at helping listeners improve their dating lives by fostering self-worth and personal growth

Timestamps:

00:00 — Intro: Meet Sabrina Zohar

03:00 — Why Her Work Is About Patterns, Not Just Dating

05:00 — Her Hot Mess Era: Moving to New York and Self-Abandonment

08:00 — The Relationship That Hit Rock Bottom

11:00 — Why She Said “He’s the One” Before Really Knowing Him

14:00 — Intermittent Reinforcement and Repeating Childhood Dynamics

17:00 — Taking Radical Accountability Without Blaming Herself

19:00 — The Turning Point: Starting Therapy and Tapping

22:00 — Healing Isn’t Linear: Dating Differently Over Time

26:00 — You Always Have a Choice

29:00 — Where Patterns Come From: Caregivers and Early Attunement

32:00 — You Don’t Need “Big T” Trauma for Patterns to Matter

35:00 — The Story Behind the Book Title

38:00 — Self-Compassion as a Dopamine Hack

41:00 — Starting Small: Teaching Your Nervous System Safety

43:00 — Are You Asking “Is This the Right Person?” or “Am I Creating the Right Relationship?”

46:00 — Attachment Styles: Explanation vs. Excuse

48:00 — Sparks Don’t Mean Compatible

50:00 — Burn the Checklist: High Standards as Avoidance

52:00 — What Is Discernment? Running Toward vs. Away

54:00 — Her Favorite First-Date Questions

56:00 — The Conventionally Handsome Guy Story

58:00 — How She Met Her Partner

1:00:00 — Showing Up Differently: The Power of the Pause

1:01:00 — First Step to Healthier Relationships: Understand Your Patterns

1:02:00 — Where to Find Sabrina and Her Book