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What if you have the power to alter your reality by merely rewiring your brain? Get ready for a transformative journey, as we unearth the invisible forces that steer the course of our lives and decode ways to unlock untapped potentials within us. Buckle up for a deep dive into personal development 2.0 as we navigate through traumas and misconceptions inherited from past generations.
Do you want to know the secret sauce behind the success of many entrepreneurs? It's all about energy - our focused attention and the emotions we feel. We'll explore the concept of First Principles and how harnessing our energy can lead to creating the results we desire. We'll also tap into how being more present in relationships can bolster your business growth.
To round it off, we're connecting the dots between our thoughts, ideas, and energy. David shares a riveting story of a client who was at the brink of a financial crisis and how reconnecting with her passions paved the way to tackle it. Let's dive into this exciting exploration of personal growth, energy, and success together!
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What We Explored This Episode
- 0:00 - Overcoming Trauma and Limiting Beliefs
- 6:23 - First Principles and Energy's Power
- 15:22 - Unleashing Energy for Success
- 21:18 - Subscribe to stay connected
Memorable Quotes
"Our journey today is not about mere success strategies; it's about understanding the invisible power of mindset that truly shapes your life."
"If you can find a way to tap into higher levels of energy, you can overcome any challenge and you can produce any result."
"Energy is the solution. The life you love is the result."
Resources Mentioned
Gandhi - https://www.biography.com/political-figure/mahatma-gandhi
Frank Kinslow - https://www.amazon.com/Frank-J-Kinslow/e/B004AQ1UCS
When Nothing's Working, try Doing Nothing - https://www.amazon.com/When-Nothing-Works-Trying-Nothing/dp/0984426422
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Welcome back to A Changed Mind, a sanctuary for your human spirit, a place where I will remind you each and every episode of the certainty of a good future. My name is David Baer, friend, host, your personal development Sherpa. And man, I am so excited about today's episode. If you have been doing the personal growth thing, if you've read the book, if you've gone to the event, you're tuned in to these personal development motivational channels on YouTube. You listen to a podcast like this and you're doing the work, but there is still a disturbance in your force. You get that your thoughts are creating your reality. You're wanting to personally grow. You're wanting to spiritually grow, but you're still experiencing more hustle, more grind, more stress, more anxiety than you would like, and you're trying to find a way that you can create even more without having to strip yourself down emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, you're going to love today's episode because I'm going to be sharing with you a game changing distinction. And this actually came out of a question that a very successful entrepreneur asked at a very intimate retreat I was doing at my home around personal growth. He said, listen, I get that I'm creating my own reality, but I'm learning through the things that I'm creating that I don't like. In other words, I'm learning through the challenges. I'm learning through the contrast. I'm looking at my reaction to the experiences of my life that I don't want anymore, and I'm uncovering the limiting beliefs that have actually created them. And I was like, wow, you're doing a great job. What's the problem? And he said, do I always have to learn through the materialization or the manifestation of my childhood traumas, of my limiting beliefs? In other words, do I always have to wait until the car accident to become a better driver? And I thought that was such an amazing question. And the answer is no, you do not have to wait until you're creating chaos in your life in order to understand the inner workings of your mind, in order to discover, become more self-aware of your limiting beliefs. There's a way to actually get out ahead of all of it. And I'm going to be talking to you about that during this episode of A Changed Mind. Now, if you have listened to other episodes and you have not yet given me a review or rated the show on your favorite podcast platform, please do so and subscribe. And if you happen to be watching in studio here on YouTube, subscribe to the channel, leave me a comment, a question, and just let me know if you love this episode or not. And by the way, if you're a first time listener, welcome. So let's dive right in. Is there a way that we can get out ahead of the materialization of our consciousness? Is there actually a way that we don't have to wait until we create something that we don't like in order to more deeply understand our thoughts, our emotions, our limiting beliefs so that we can change them? Can we get out ahead of the car wreck? Yes, we can. Now, here's how this works. It is true that earth is a trauma-based learning environment that we have passed down from generation to generation to generation, all kinds of traumas and misunderstandings and limiting beliefs. And that the purpose of our life in many ways is to actually work through those misunderstandings. And we do that because we're powerful creators and our thoughts or our beliefs become our reality. And so this is the spiritual game that we're all involved in. And it's the way that personal development has been encouraging us to manage our life. Let's take a look at the experiences that we're having. Pay attention to what you think about those experiences, because those thoughts aren't actually an effect of the experience that you're having, but they are that which created the experience in the first place. And I go into great detail on all of this. If you haven't yet listened or watched episode two and episode three of Chained Mind, right? I lay the foundation for this conversation, Personal Development 2.0, how we can really go beyond self-awareness, learn how to rewire our brains and re-engineer our reality. And if you go back and listen to those episodes, I provide you all kinds of amazing tools that are on the leading edge of personal growth, not just to become more self-aware, but how to actually change the way you think and rewire the neural network of your brain. But the challenge with playing that game is that you have to wait until you've created something in your life in order to grow personally, in order to grow spiritually, in order to transform what I would call the unintelligent thinking that has materialized or made matter or has manifested whatever that experience is in your life. But there's a really powerful distinction called bound and unbound energy that I want to share with you today that's going to allow you to play the game in a completely different way, rather than waiting for the experiences that you don't prefer in your life, learning from those experiences. You can actually get out ahead of it so that you don't materialize your trauma and your limiting belief. Aristotle had this concept called the first principle and first principles, Aristotle said, are a deep philosophical understanding of what creates the experiences of our life or what is the original cause. He says, most people pay attention to the effects of life and they try to model those effects and by modeling those effects, they don't produce the results that they want. Elon Musk, by the way, says that it's at his adherence to first principles that he attributes his great business success and his ability to accumulate so much wealth, so much of the world. So here's a basic example of that. You can have two people who want to, scratch that, a first principled approach is not looking at a strategy that produces an outcome. For example, a strategy to grow your podcast or a strategy to make more money or a strategy to overcome your chronic health condition or a strategy to grow your business to a hundred million dollars. A first principle is not looking at the strategy, understanding that that strategy is an effect of something that is a prior cause. And what the prior cause of successful strategies is, is mindset. Your beliefs determine thoughts you have, your thoughts determine what emotions you have, and your emotions determine what action you do or do not take. And the mistake that we make is we see all of the actions that people are taking, we try to model those strategies, but you can take two people who are implementing exactly the same strategy and they produce different results. Why? Because the invisible forces that are creating those strategies and the end result are actually your thoughts, your emotions, and your belief system. And so if we were really to look at what the original cause of everything that we're creating is, I would suggest it is energy. If you can find a way to tap into higher levels of energy, you can overcome any challenge and you can produce any result. Now I'm not talking about energy like vibrancy and vitality or getting a good night's sleep. I'm talking about energy in terms of where you're putting your focused attention and energy in terms of how you feel. And it just makes sense. If you can be in a powerful state of being, states of emotion like courage and curiosity and excitement and joy, you're going to be more resourceful. You're going to have more resourced ideas. You're going to be taking more consistent action. And no matter whether or not that action produces the immediate result, you'll continue to put the energy and the effort out there through inspired action and eventually create the success that you want. So the name of the game is actually energy. Now, what does this have to do with getting out ahead of the car wreck? What does this have to do with not having to wait until the problems or challenges in your life to become aware of what you believe and then transform your thinking, but instead be able to unlock untapped potential in your life without having the chaos hit first? Well, here's how this works. I had a client who said to me, Hey Dave, I want to grow my business. And in order to do that, I want to be on more stages speaking. I want to generate more high paying clients. I want to be able to generate more consistent and predictable revenue. And he said, what strategies can you give me to be able to get out and speak on more stage? Now the traditional personal development approach would be, well, let's take a look at what you believe about speaking or whether your message is good enough or whether or not you're deserving or good enough, or what do you believe about people paying you high prices for your services? Or what do you believe about marketing your business in the midst of a recession or with all the inflation going on? And we might identify some limiting beliefs my client has and use the tools that we teach to transform those limiting beliefs into what we call new empowered And that's a highly effective way for you to approach growing your life. The challenge is you have to first experience not being on as many stages as you would be on, not having as many clients as you would like, not generating as consistent and predictable of revenue as you desire. So what does unbound and bound energy have to do with this? I asked my client, I said, listen, if you were to scan your life and you were to look at the area of your life feels like it's creating traction or it's draining your energy or where there happens to be some lock up potential or energy, where would that be? And his answer to me was in my relationship with my wife. My recommendation to him was, hey, if you want to get on more stages and you want to have more consistent clients and more predictable income, you need to go and become more available in your relationship with your wife. And he said, what do you mean? What does that have to do with my business? And I said, that's where the bound energy is in your life. And wherever there's bound energy, it means in the language I use, you're not being available. I said, what are you, for example, not available for or resist to in your relationship with your wife? And he said, well, sometimes she comes to me with frustrations or complain. And I said, well, what do you end up doing? His answer was, I end up defending my position. I said, got it. So you're not available to receive her frustration. I said, if you can become available to receive her frustration and allow her the space to speak or vent or claim or whatever it is without taking it personally, energy can start to move in your relation. And if the energy can start to move in your relationship, energy can start to move in your life. I said, where else, for example, are you unavailable in your relationship with your partner? And his answer was, well, a lot of times she has a demand for my time, but I need to grow my business over here. Once I can get our income coming in more predictably and start making more money and I can be growing the business, then I can go back time my wife. And I said, well, you're actually getting it backwards. I said, your business plan is to be more available for whatever concerns or complaints or emotional release that your wife has. And for you to be spending more time with my wife. And he said, how is spending more time with my wife and being more available in my relationship going to help get on more stages and attract more clients? I said, because you're looking at your life in an inappropriately siloed and segment way. Your life is holistic and the quality of your life and everything that you're trying to achieve is going to depend upon the availability of energy within the ecosystem of your life. Right now, your energy is being compressed or bound in the relationship realm of your life. And so we need to look at what you need to become more available for in order to unlock that energy. And in this case, again, it's being emotionally available, even when perhaps it doesn't feel good and not taking things personally, but allowing his wife to move her emotional energy and also spending time with your wife rather than thinking that's something that you will do after you grow your business. And I explained to him that energy understands where it needs to go once it's unbound. In other words, energy is what's required in order to get on more stage, new thoughts, new ideas, more productive perception, opportunities that are in front of my client, more synchronicities and coincidences and timing that materializes and manifests in his life. And so if he can unlock energy, energy is free flowing. In a sense, I think of this type of energy as a feminine energy. You've already placed your request to spirit or the universe or God or Jesus, Allah. What's required is that enough energy is available in order for him to get on more stages. He's got to release the energy that is trapped in his relationship. And so this was a massive breakthrough for him. He said, wait a minute, you're telling me that my job is actually to go do the things that I'd like to do now that I feel like I can't because I believe I have these other priorities and that will actually feed into creating success out of the other priorities I have. And I said, yeah, that's exactly the answer. I believe that we live in a creative, loving intelligence, no matter what you want to call your higher power. And that our higher power is actually asking us to move out of the fear-based system that we've been indoctrinated in and start living according to faith, to start reprioritizing where we put our time and energy and attention and putting first things first. First things first is being available and present for your wife, both emotionally and physically. And this, by the way, is what all of the great teachers talked about. They said it in a lot of different ways. Gandhi has a beautiful adage, which is, I have so much to do today, I must meditate two hours instead of one. Gandhi understood that life was about energy. And then no matter how much you work or how hard you hustle or how willing you are to grind, you can't outwork timing and you can't out-hustle intelligence. If you're able to show up with a full resource of energy in any activity or goal that you've set, you're going to be able to accomplish that goal in a much less period of time. So this is the opposite of the hustle and grind culture that we've been indoctrinated into. And by the way, it also allows us to get out ahead of the challenges, the problems, or the materialization of the traumas from our childhood that we bring into our life, waiting to create transformation until, like I said prior, right, the car accident happened. I had another client, she was at one of my live events and my coaches came over and said, Hey, we've got one of our people and she's having a nervous breakdown. I said, like a real nervous breakdown? And they said, yeah. I said, it happened to be when one of my other trainers was speaking on stage. And so I said, Hey, why don't you come over and we have a conversation? What's going on? And she said, I'm so freaked out. I've only got four months of cashflow left. I should have never started this business. I'm not even sure what I'm doing. It was a crazy idea in the first place. She was in a suffering state. So she wasn't thinking until once I helped her calm down, I said, Hey, you know, before you got into this place that she does self-described as feeling suffocated, really trying to figure out the problem, solve her financial situation, grow her business on this very narrow time, right? She was under stress. She was in crisis. I said, what were the things that you were doing when you were inspired to start a business, right? When you had the courage to leave your job and create this new business opportunity that is your passion, belief purpose. She said, well, I was going to church once a week. I said, okay, cool. What else were you doing? She said, well, there was this cause that I was really passionate about. So I was donating time once a week to go and volunteer there. I go, that's cool. What else were you doing? She said, well, I was getting together and socializing with friends. I was having dinner with them at least a week. I haven't done that month. I said, got it. So here's your business because we want to be able to unbind the bound energy in your life that will then translate itself, thoughts and ideas and perceptions. Coincidence, synchronicities and timing. This isn't some sort of woo-woo approach to creating success in your life. Understanding from a first principles perspective, that energy is what translates into thoughts and ideas. Thoughts and ideas are what translate into action and strategy. And then outside of that, there is this co-creative element, which is responding to your energy level, which is coincidences and synchronicities. The higher your energy level, the more effective timing and the coincidences in your life. I said, your business plan over the next four months in order for you to generate cash that you need to support your cost of living is to go back to having dinner with your friends once a week, to go back to church once a week and volunteer your time. So if you go do those things, you're going to tap into energy and you're going to unlock that it's going to materialize itself into business plan. Now, of course I could give her strategies, but no matter what strategies I give her to grow her business, if she's operating in this contracted state of energy, no matter what she does, she's not going to be able to produce the result. And so if you're operating right now in your life, trying to face a crisis or solve a problem, oftentimes one of the best things you can do is walk away from the problem, right? Go for a walk, play with the dog, take a bubble bath, go listen to some inspiring music, go to the movies, go to dinner with friends. You have to tap into energy, right? In order to become resourceful enough, solve the problem you have. And again, another very useful activity could be at different points, maybe it's once a month, sit down and evaluate where is there bound energy in my life? And what am I being unavailable to? In that area of my life, right? Maybe you're experiencing bound energy around a chronic health condition. Maybe you're being experiencing bound energy around the fact that you're alone and you want to be in a relationship. Well, what can you be more available? Maybe you can be more available for your pain, knowing that this health challenge will resolve itself if you can move into a higher energetic state. Maybe you could be more available for being alone right now, but not ever. Knowing that if you could lack, you're going to become the type person who somebody would actually want to be in a relationship. So scan your life. Look for where there's bound energy. Ask yourself, what am I being available to? And what would it look like to be more available area of my life? On the flip side of that, where can you source energy? What are the things that you do that fill you up? And go do more of those things, even though it seems counterproductive, right? You may be in a place where you feel like, I don't have enough time. I have to figure this out. I already can't get done all of the things that I think I need to get done within this limited amount of time. That's exactly when you need to meditate for two hours, as Gandhi would say, instead of one, right? This is a more elegant, more effective game creation. Like I've said in other episodes, especially if you go back to our foundational episodes in episode two or episode three, having a powerful living experience, creating change in your life, eliminating any challenges or problems you have, and being expansive and achieving your full potential is not about you figuring out how to do that. It's about having a desire and looking at the resistance that is inside of you to that desire and learning how to transform and let go of that resistance. If you can transform and let go of that resistance, thoughts, the ideas, actions, the synchronicities, coincidences, all of that will align on its own. And I'm not saying that you don't take action, but you'll take inspired act. And there are times where you're just trying way too hard to solve a problem. One of the, a great book title that I read by a guy named Frank Kinslow, who wrote this wonderful book is called, When Nothing's Working, Try Doing Nothing. Right? Sometimes doing nothing is what's required in order for you to get away from traction and to move into a more high energetic state. Energy is the solution. The life you love is the result. So if you enjoyed this episode as much as I did, do me a favor. Uh, leave me a comment, subscribe to the channel and, uh, and share this episode with a friend. A lot of people are playing the game and making a lot harder than they need to. And this distinction of bound and unbound energy and getting out ahead challenges in our life might just be something that someone you care about here today. I'm David Baer, see you in the next step.
