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Our blood pressure, our blood sugar,

our salt secretions, our fatty acids,

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all of our body is creating signs

and symptoms anytime we're judging.

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In fact, you can't judge

without altering physiology.

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Is it possible that your physical

body's symptoms are offering you a

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feedback on how to be authentic in life?

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My topic today is the correlations

between authenticity and wellness,

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or illness in some cases. So if you

have something write with and write on,

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that would be probably a good

thing to have some notes taking.

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When you meet somebody,

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it's pretty difficult to

be completely neutral.

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In most cases when you meet them,

you make an assessment of them.

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Sometimes they say in the first

few seconds you make an assessment,

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the first minute for sure.

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But anytime you perceive

that they are above

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you or below you and you

are exaggerating what

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they are intellectually, or their success,

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or their wealth, or their

stability in relationships,

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or their social positioning, or

their physical beauty or fitness,

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or possibly their spiritual awareness,

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anytime you put them up on a pedestal

and exaggerate any of those capacities,

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and in turn minimize yourself to them,

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where you're too humbled to admit what

you see in them is inside you, that

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minimization is an inauthentic or imposter

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response. We call that

the law of contrast.

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We're comparing ourselves to somebody

else and we're contrasting ourselves with

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them. And as a result of it,

we're minimizing ourselves

when we exaggerate them.

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We also do that in reverse. We

look at somebody, we think, well,

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that's an idiot, and we think we're

smarter, self righteously. Or we think,

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well, they're a failure, they're

stupid . And you think, well,

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we're successful.

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We can actually put people down in

the pit and exaggerate ourselves.

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When we exaggerate ourselves, we're not

authentic. When we minimize ourselves,

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we're not authentic. Anytime we

exaggerate or minimize somebody else,

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we'll minimize and exaggerate ourself.

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And anytime we exaggerate

or minimize ourself,

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we'll tend to minimize

or exaggerate others.

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Whenever we have an unequal

perspective on somebody,

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which we think is accurate,

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which is really our subjectively

biased opinion of them,

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based on our own experiences

of the past, the moment we do,

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we create an imposter. We create

an exaggerated or minimized self.

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And as a result of that,

we're not being authentic.

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The moment we're authentic,

something really magical occurs.

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And most of you have had moments

when you have tears in your eyes,

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a chill up your spine,

goosebumps, a feeling of wow,

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there's a hidden order in

the events that's going on,

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and in that moment when

there's a perfect equilibrium,

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when you're not exaggerating,

minimizing yourself, you're authentic.

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It's an unconditional state. See,

when you put people on a pedestal,

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you're conscious of their upsides,

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unconscious of their downsides and

therefore unconscious of your upsides and

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conscious of your downsides,

minimizing yourself.

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When you put somebody in the pit,

you're conscious of their downsides,

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unconscious of their upsides,

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and now you become conscious of your

upsides and unconscious of your downsides.

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In fact, what we see in

others is a reflection of us.

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I think it was in Romans 2-1 in biblical

statements in the New Testament it

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says,

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beware of judging other people for what

you judge in them you too do the same.

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And I've been doing an exercise

in the Breakthrough Experience,

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which is one of my signature

programs doing the Demartini Method,

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which is the method I teach

there on a hundred and something

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thousand people.

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And I have found that there's nothing

we perceive on the outside that we don't

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have on the inside.

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And we resent somebody and put them down

when they're reminding us of something

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we're feeling ashamed of, but we're too

dissociated and too proud to admit it,

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so we basically project it onto them.

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But it's really a projection of

our own stuff. In other words,

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what we're ashamed of,

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we tend to resent in other people 'cause

they're reminding us of what we feel

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ashamed of and trying to dodge it. And

the same thing on the things we admire.

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We have those traits.

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I went through 4,628 traits that I

found in the Oxford English Dictionary

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and I found out that I had every single

one of those traits, nice, mean, kind,

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cruel, et cetera.

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So the moment you deny and

exaggerate or minimize yourself,

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which is another way of saying I'm too

proud or too humble to admit what I see

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in others inside me, and I put people

down or up in pits or pedestals,

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I've just lost my authenticity

and I have an emptiness

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inside.

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Every time you're too humble or too proud

to admit what you see in others inside

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you, you feel empty. Because you're

denying something in yourself.

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And you're denying in a sense the

part of you, the missing part.

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Once you actually own the traits

that you see in other people,

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the behavior you see in others and

realize you have it in your own form,

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maybe in your own expression,

but you still have the behavior.

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Because we all have those behaviors.

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Once we actually see that and level the

playing field and don't put people on

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pedestals or pits and don't put

ourselves in pits or pedestals,

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we have equanimity within

ourself, which is authenticity,

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and equity between ourselves and others,

which allows us to have communication.

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If we tend to go and exaggerate ourselves,

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we tend to become narcissistic and

want to get something for nothing.

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If we tend to minimize ourselves, we

feel that we owe people something,

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we want to give something for nothing.

Both of those are non-sustainable's.

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But the second we level the playing

field and have authenticity,

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we have now sustainable fair exchange.

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And both people want to

continue doing business.

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When you have a win lose

or a lose win scenario,

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which is a zero sum game,

somebody wins, somebody loses,

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it's different than if you have a

non-zero sum game where both people win.

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A win-win some people call it.

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Now that win-win state

is healing to the body.

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And that non win state, where I am

greater than you or lesser than you,

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creates autonomic responses and creates

symptoms in the body. Let me explain.

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When you infatuate with somebody,

they represent prey in the amygdala,

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in the subcortical area of the

brain, and we tend to seek it.

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When we're infatuated with somebody,

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we want to seek them out and we want to

kiss them or do other things. ,

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I always say that we have an

attraction to them, right?

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And we want to consume

them. Whenever we do that,

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we activate our

parasympathetic nervous system,

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which is a rest and digest nervous system.

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That nervous system creates anabolic

behavior, which is building in the body.

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It activates mitosis, which

is growing in the body.

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It gets alkalinity, it

creates a reductionism in

the enzymes in the pathway,

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and you create symptomatology,

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epigenetically alteration in the gene

expression to create symptoms in the body

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that are the rest and digestion

symptoms, which lowers the heart rate,

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makes the digestive system secrete,

makes the bowels move faster,

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it makes the the skin

different oiliness or whatever.

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Each of these symptoms are letting you

know that you're now perceiving more

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positives than negatives,

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more upsides than downsides

and you're attracted to it.

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You have now an impulse out

of your amygdala to seek it.

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You have a gut impulse towards it. So

you want your mouth to go towards it.

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, you want to kiss it ,

If you see somebody that you resent,

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you activate your

sympathetic nervous system,

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which is catabolic and breaks

down and acidic and oxidative

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and undergoes apoptosis, which

is the destruction of cells.

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It does exactly the opposite

in a complementary fashion.

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It creates epigenetic methylation instead

of acetylation and it actually causes

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the opposite behaviors and it

basically shuts down the DNAs,

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histone and transcription processes and

shuts down protein manufacturing and

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lowers, it raises the

blood pressure ,

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but lowers the digestive functions,

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and makes the body ready for

fight or flight responses.

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So those symptoms are feedback mechanisms

to let us know that we're infatuated

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with somebody and putting them on

a pedestal and minimizing ourself,

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or exaggerating something

and challenging us and we're

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exaggerating ourselves. When we feel

challenged we tend to get defensive,

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when we get supported, we tend

to become juveniley dependent.

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And if we get challenged, precociously

independent. One's rest and digest.

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One's fight or flight. One's

parasympathetic. One's sympathetic.

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One causes the blood sugar to go down

and the other one causes it to go up.

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So our blood sugar and our pancreas

secretes in a sense glucagon or insulin

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to regulate blood pressure, blood

sugar, I mean in order to do it.

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It also affects blood pressure. So

our blood pressure, our blood sugar,

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our salt secretions, our fatty acids,

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all of our body is creating signs

and symptoms anytime we're judging.

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In fact, you can't judge

without altering physiology.

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And you can actually test those.

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We have an autonomic

dysregulation syndrome the

longer we hold onto judgments.

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And the more we hold onto judgments,

the more inauthentic we are.

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That's why the judgments are there to

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let us know when we have

an emergency situation.

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To either capture prey

or to avoid predator,

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but it's not necessarily the

way you want to live your life.

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You want to live in a more an executive

function where you have more objectivity

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and more centeredness and

more authenticity because

we all want to be loved for

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who we are, but if we're

not being who we are,

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we're not going to be loved for it.

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And as long as you're going around

and judging people, you know,

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quick judgment is an understandable

thing, our first assessments,

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but then we need to go back and

make sure that we balance that.

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In the the Breakthrough Experience

Program, which is my signature program,

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I ask people to go in there and

identify what specific trait,

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action or inaction do you perceive this

individual displaying or demonstrating

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that you resent most? What exactly is

the trait that you despise about them,

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dislike about them? Oh, they verbally

criticized me, let's say. Okay, great.

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Now you go to a moment where and when

you perceive yourself displaying or

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demonstrating verbal criticism to

somebody just like they were doing.

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And at first you go, I would never do

that. I pride myself on never doing that.

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Well that's the problem. You're

priding yourself, disowning the part,

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they're reminding you of it,

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you're upset with them because they're

reminding you of what you're hiding from

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yourself and dissociating from. So you

go in there and identify where it was,

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when it was, to whom you did it

to, and who perceived you doing it.

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Until you own the trait you see in them

until it's a hundred percent owned.

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Which calms down your pride,

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makes you realize that they're your

teacher bringing into your own awareness

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about something you've been denying and

help you actually start to appreciate

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them for being a teacher and appreciate

yourself without having to avoid it.

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You realize if you do the next question

in what I call the Demartini Method,

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now go to a moment where and when you

perceived them displaying this and how did

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it benefit you?

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At first you're going to think it's a

terrible behavior and you're going to want

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to withdraw from it and it's going

to be a fight or flight response.

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But once you start to

see the benefits to you,

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you calm down and you bring

your autonomics back into

balance and you stop the

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judgment.

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And then if you go and find out when

you've done it to who you've done it to,

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how did it serve those people and find

the upsides to them because the only

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reason you're feeling guilty about it's

you're assuming there was a drawback

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without a benefit.

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The only reason you're

resentful to somebody is

because you're seeing a drawback

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without a benefit. The same thing

if you're infatuated with somebody,

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you're only seeing the

positives and not the negatives,

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the benefit without the drawback.

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And you're only proud when

you're perceiving what you

did was a cause of more

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positives than negatives to someone else.

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And these imbalances are what keep us

storing these judgments and keep us

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inauthentic and put on

the imposter syndrome.

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The imposter syndrome is really

a carryover from an octopus,

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a mollusk ,

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a cephalopod where they would basically

go and change their chameleon effect and

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their appearance in order to fit in to

not be seen by prey or not be seen by

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predator. So we carry around these

imposter facades, these personas,

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these masks which are basically imposters,

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which are inauthenticities when

we ever have autonomic responses.

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And that's because we want food, rest

and digest, or we want to not be eaten,

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fight or flight.

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So our symptoms are there to wake

us up to what we're in judging,

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that we're storing in our subconscious

mind that aren't balanced to give us an

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opportunity to go back and balance it

and liberate ourselves from that emotion

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and go back into authenticity. And

the moment we have authenticity,

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we have an equanimity

state, we have equity state,

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we get to love and appreciate

another individual and ourself.

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And then that brings autonomic regulation

instead of dysregulation and brings

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wellness. And then now we change the

physiology into a wellness quotient.

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So we can either live

in illness or wellness.

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We can be sitting there in judging

or loving. It was Empedocles,

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the Greek philosopher 2000 5/600

years ago that basically said

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that there's love and strife in

the world. And if we have love,

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we've integrated ourself in the

four elements as he called it.

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And when there's strife,

we've disintegrated ourself.

Well that's the thing,

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dis-ease, which is disintegration

verse ease, which is integration.

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And if we're basically

in the flow in life,

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that's why I tell people in

the Breakthrough Experience

how important it is to

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do the Value Determination

process and live by priority.

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If you feel your day with the highest

priority actions, you are most objective,

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least judging.

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If you've had a day where you really were

working really focused and get staying

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with the highest priorities

you felt on top of the world,

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you can handle emotions or handle

situations without strong emotions.

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But if you were doing low priority

things, you're more of a bear,

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you're more reactive.

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Low priority things activate the

subcortical area of the brain.

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High priority things activate

the executive center,

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the cortical area of the brain and make

you have foresight and make you have

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more objectivity instead

of subjective bias.

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So if you fill your day with high priority

actions and you come and learn the

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Demartini Method at the Breakthrough

Experience on how to dissolve and ask

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quality questions to bring

yourself back into balance.

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See your intuition is it constantly

trying to get you back into equilibrium.

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It's trying to bring

you back into wellness.

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It's trying to get you

back into authenticity.

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But what happens is we go round in our

judgments and then we run our story and

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then we go to some therapist or

somebody that tells us to say our story,

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and then we keep that thing going along

year after year after year and become

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victims of history instead

of masters of destiny.

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So I'm a firm believer in taking the

time 'cause the quality of your life's

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based on the quality of

the questions you ask,

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if you ask quality questions that help

you have reflective awareness and bring

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balance back to your perceptions,

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balanced perception creates a balanced

hormones and transmitters and regulators

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in the brain and allows you to

basically have an authentic state.

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Our intuition is constantly trying

to get us into authenticity.

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Our impulse and instincts are constantly

trying to make us seek or avoid.

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So if we let the instincts and impulses

run our life, we'll be in judgment,

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we're feeling empty,

unfulfilled, ungrateful.

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If we actually go in there and let our

intuition and learn the questions I teach

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in the Breakthrough

Experience and the method,

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which is about

strengthening the intuition,

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we automatically wake up and

appreciate what's going on.

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And we have a gratitude attitude

instead of an ingratitude attitude.

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And that's what brings healness,

healing, healness, healing and wellness.

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Put the two words together.

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So the moment we actually prioritize

our life and learn how to ask questions

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that bring us back into balance and

allow us to see people not on pedestal or

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pit, but in our heart and have

reflective awareness, not deflections,

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we'll have fulfillment

in life, not emptiness.

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So I just wanted to take a few moments

to look at the correlations between

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authenticity and your wellness

quotient, or illness quotient.

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When you have an imbalanced ratio

of perceptions, you've got illness.

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When you have a balanced ratio

of perceptions, you got wellness.

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I've been demonstrating that for many,

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many years since I've been teaching

the Breakthrough Experience.

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I've had thousands of people

in Breakthrough who've

had illnesses and symptoms

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in their body dissolve,

just completely dissolve,

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the second we bring our perceptions back

into balance, their perceptions back.

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They go, you know,

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I've had irritable bowel syndrome and

all of a sudden it just stopped after the

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Breakthrough Experience.

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Or I've had migraine headaches for

years and internal conflict about my

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relationship with somebody and now

I'm appreciating them and it's gone.

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Or I've had skin condition.

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I had guy who had skin conditions

all over his body with psoriasis.

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He broke through his perception

of inferiority to his

father and feeling like he

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can never please his father and that

was all leveled in the Breakthrough

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Experience. And all of a sudden over

the next three days it started to heal.

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Within a week later he had pink skin and

about two weeks later the psoriasis was

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gone he's had most of his life.

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So I've seen physiology transform the

second we have psychology brought back

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into balance.

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So in case you're sitting there having a

chronic illness and you haven't figured

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out what it is,

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just know that sometimes we

store subconsciously stored

baggage in there that's

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not balanced.

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And if you ask the quality questions of

the Demartini Method in the Breakthrough

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Experience, you can possibly change

those in your life. I've seen it,

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I've watched it week after week.

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So just know that we have more power

in our life and in our body than we

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realize. And when we're authentic,

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I believe that every one of the signs and

symptoms of our body is trying to help

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us become authentic and help us

go back to love, return to love.

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So that was my topic today and I hope

that that was just something that was

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stimulating for you. Something

you can take some notes on,

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something to be pondering and just know

that if you join me at the Breakthrough

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Experience and start and go online to my

Value Determination process and go back

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and get into priority,

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focus and fill your day with high priority

action so it doesn't fill up with low

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priority distractions,

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you'll have more love and gratitude

in your life and instead of illness,

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'cause the illness is a feedback to

try to get you back to authenticity.

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So I look forward to seeing you at the

Breakthrough Experience and please take

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advantage of the Value Determination

online and I'll see you next week.