Sex Spoken Here:  Non-Monogamy – Friends with Benefits

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.   This week we are talking about friends with benefits and other forms of non-monogamy.

Donna Davidge of Sewall House Yoga retreat is joining me today.  She has worked in the self-growth field for over 30 years, has a masters in nutrition, meditation, and yoga.  Donna spoke about writing an article for Yourtango.com on friends with benefits some years ago which was the impetus for this conversation. 

We talked about the fact that there are many different reasons to enter a friends with benefits relationship.  Some of these are casual relationships and others are relationships that are long standing .  She spoke about feeling that many times women aren’t aware of their motivation entering relationships of this type and that they might want a monogamous relationship but not be willing to admit that to themselves.

I clarified the differences between polygamy, polyandry, polyamory and other types of non-monogamy.  We spoke about the different challenges in relationships that are non-monogamous.

We talked about people over 50 entering relationships of this type because they do not want to give up their independence and don’t wish to have to compromise too many areas of their lives.  We spoke about how when someone is older, they may well have built a very full life around them and that the desire for a sexual partner and companion can be met through friends with benefits type relationships or other non-traditional relationship structures. 

Donna talked about how often people find relationship issues very difficult and that she believes it is particularly important for women to be really clear about their own wants and needs before entering into any relationship. 

Today we spoke about friends with benefits, non-monogamy, and sexual relationships when you are over 50.  If you were triggered or if this resonates with you, do email me at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com .

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