59# - Life Update: Cutting Out Toxic Relationships, Post Healing Programme Results and Why I Closed Down My Profitable Membership

Episode 59 • 3rd June 2026 • She Who Becomes • Sharn Khaira

Hi, everyone. Welcome back to the She Who Becomes podcast. I am so excited to have you here today. So today's podcast is actually gonna be really raw, down to earth, and I am literally just going to talk because it's a life update. And I feel like coming up to nearly six months into the year, this feels like a really potent time to share what's been go him- going behind, behind the scenes, but also share my lessons, share my learnings.

So in this episode, I'm gonna be sharing a lot of things. I'm gonna be sharing around how since I cut out toxic people in my life, my business has literally blown up. I'm gonna be sharing what's actually working right now in terms of attracting premium clients, and also the identity and subconscious shift that you actually need to get to your next level, as well as sharing things like why I actually closed down my very profitable membership.

So you're gonna get so many valuable lessons from this podcast, especially if you are in a season of upleveling, you're stepping into your new identity, you're maybe going through a really bad, rough time, like a rock bottom. And in a- in, in every sense, this episode is really gonna support you. So let's get into it.

So before I go any further, I want to share something really, really exciting. So last month we ran My brand new masterclass, Get Fully Booked with Premium Clients this Year. So premium clients is something that I am a master and an expert in. I've generated over £1 million in online sales from premium marketing historically from an Asian market.

And lots of people always say to me, "Asian people don't buy, they haggle." But actually, I have found the opposite in my wedding planning business and now my mentoring business. And this month, literally in two weeks' time on the 15th of June, I'm hosting a three-day absolute free masterclass series. So make sure you do come along to that.

It's totally free. You can sign up in the show notes below. We are gonna be going through what's been working in my business, how to attract premium clients. We're gonna be talking about how to release subconscious blocks. You're gonna get amazing bonuses if you show up live, including EFT healing sessions around money blocks and safe to be seen, and also, a free AI guide as well.

It's honestly so valuable. Limited time replays will be available as well if you can't show up live. But literally just head to the show notes. We're gonna leave the link in there, or you can DM me workshop on sharn.kirat.mentor, and I would absolutely love, love, love to have you there. And honestly, it's gonna be super, super valuable.

I'm so excited to show up and serve you. So where do we even start? So as this episode was titled Life Update, so I wanted to share what's been going on behind the scenes, mainly in the last five to six months. As you probably know, if you've been listening to the podcast, last year was such a excruciating, painful year for me.

I'm not gonna, get into, you know, the ins and outs of it. I'm pretty sure that you know.but I had a re- really tough year, and I could actually only work for seven months last year because of grief, because of trauma, because I had some really, really personal challenges going on behind the scenes And it was really difficult.

And at one point I was just like, "Do I just close down my business?"because I just, I just couldn't handle it, you know? And not like my clients, it's more, you know, the ins and outs of running a business. I think we are not in an era now where you can kind of do side hustles and, like, completely blow up.

I think to run a really successful company, it's like if you had a high-profile job, you have to put in the hours. And I think this is where I see a lot of female founders not getting the results they want in their business, but then you actually look at what effort are they applying to their business, and they're just doing part-time hours.

And if you're doing part-time hours, you're gonna get part-time results. Now, it's completely different if you are going through health challenges, maybe a parent's died or maybe, you're on maternity leave. Of course, of course, that's different. but I just think that you have to really apply the effort.

And even though last year I only worked seven months of the year, I think the reason why my business is still relatively successful last year, we still did over 100K, sales- Was because I've been building this brand for years and years and years. Like, I've got a lot of credibility, I've got a lot of testimonials.

I know what I'm doing. But then from last year to this year has been a complete transformation, and I know we hear that word so many times, but it really has been. We are having p- I think the best year in business ever. We've just wrapped up, in May we alone generated close to 30K in sales, so my, my launch was e- e- extraordinary

I d- we just wrapped up a launch for The Rebirth Mastermind, and it was incredible. And we did a solo masterclass at the beginning of May, and that went really well, and opportunities have just been coming in. I have been invited to speak at a few places, invited to a couple of podcasts. I was in a podcast panel in Brighton last week.

Like, it's just, it is just going really, really well, and you know, this isn't, for me to come on here and gloat. It just shows you what's actually possible after having your rock bottom. Guys, my rock bottom was so bad last year. At some points I was just literally questioning my whole identity. So yes, s- success doesn't always protect you from hard seasons, but it's who you become back as after the hard season.

So let's first of all dive into identity and healing, 'cause I really wanted to get into this part, and I think I've kind of thought spoken about this across my newsletters. But if you're not on my newsletter, I just wanted to share what's actually really helped me, because obviously this podcast is always to help and support you wherever you are listening.

Whether you're on a walk, whether you're listening to this on your commute, I want you to have lessons from this that you can actually apply to your life and business that are actually gonna help you move forward and propel you forward. So I think obviously having my rock bottom year last year, I think the things that- Really helped me were therapy.

I am someone who always gets support, and I think going through a lot of trauma last year, therapy was a non-negotiable. So I had quite a few therapy sessions, between kind of n- like November to February, and my therapist has known, known me on and off for the last few years, and she said, "Actually, you're not gonna need that many," because she knows who I am.

But, you know, I am a qualified mindset coach, and, you know, part of me is like, "Oh, do I need therapy?" But I think that any woman that is a high achiever, that is holding a lot of responsibility, that is holding a lot of space for people, when she goes through big T or little T trauma, I think it is really important to get help and support, no matter who you are.

You might be the most qualified mindset coach in the world. I don't think there should be stigma or shame attached to it. So I think that was incredible, like it really helped me. So I've kind of spoken before actually that I cut out quite a lot of toxic people last year. and I really wanted to speak to this actually, because I've been getting quite a few DMs and emails, 'cause I wrote about this in my newsletter last week, and I feel like this is something that comes , up for a lot of people.

And I think it's twofold. I think that when you change, like, so say, for example, you're building something, a business, right? You're in a season of building. You, I think, automatically become more self-aware. And I think for loads of you, loads of you that are listening now, I think that you are choosing growth.

You are choosing your vision. You are choosing to be extraordinary. And what actually comes with that is people not being able to handle that you're changing, and I think that's the biggest thing. People can't handle your change because when you suddenly start to become successful or you start doing things differently or you put your boundaries in place or you don't put up with toxic people, people just don't like that.

And I think that especially when you become successful or people can see that you're becoming successful, you've changed, it almost signals to that person what's missing in them, and you almost become a mirror for that person. Because anyone can have anything they want. I don't care what people say, whether they're in toxic jobs, whether they're in toxic relationships, whether they're in- You know, the worst scenario...

I, I watched a podcast episode l- yesterday on YouTube where this incredible woman who was addicted to drugs, and her parents had committed suicide from drugs, and drugs had been in her lineage for, for centuries. I saw a podcast episode where she was 10 years clean, and she was homeless. She nearly died multiple times.

She was prostituting herself. I know I'm going off on a bit of a tangent, but the point of the matter is anyone can change, right? Anyone can change. And when people say to me, "Oh, I can't change because, ugh, my husband doesn't want me to change," or, "I can't change because I'm living with toxic people," or, "I can't change because of X, Y, and Z," you can always change.

You can al- well, you've always got a choice. And I don't say this from a place of being mean or nasty, it's just that I've changed myself so much, and I've seen my clients change so much, and you can change if you're listening to this. So what actually happened was that certain people in our lives did start becoming jealous and triggered.

It was very, very obvious. And someone... I'm someone who's very, very, very self-aware, especially in relationships, and if that I've done something wrong, I'm more than happy to take responsibility. I'm more than happy to be kind. I'm more than happy to change.but in these certain relationships and certain dynamics, it was really obvious.

And by the way, this wasn't even people we were close to. This was just kind of extended, extended people.it was really, really obvious that people were jealous because I was bending over backwards for people, and I'm not gonna go into the details of what happened, because you can learn the lesson without it.

But I was bending, bending, bending over backwards for certain people, really putting in the effort into these relationships, really going out of my own way, really spending time, money, effort And these people were just never gonna like me. And I think what was happening was I was wanted to be liked. I wanted to be understood.

I didn't want to be misunderstood. I didn't wanna be the black sheep. I, I just wanted to be liked. And because of this, I was overextended, people-pleasing, giving a lot. And these people, they didn't like me. They were just jealous. They were just jealous because they had terrible lives. They're in situations they can't get out of.

They're in places they can't leave, and I had to make peace with that. So I came out of a toxic WhatsApp group. And by the way, what-- when I say toxic, what I mean is- Some of these people were toxic to me towards, to my face. But some people it's like, you know when it's like the undertone, you can't quite put your finger on it, but you know people don't like you, but they haven't outwardly been nasty to you, they haven't out- outwardly said anything, but you just know in your soul and your gut.

So I made this big decision last year, at the beginning of last year, and something really actually bad happened around my podcast launch, which I won't go into. I will share all of this actually at one point, but today's not the day.and I just made this decision. I just thought to myself, "I'm done with be- trying to be understood.

I'm done with trying to be liked, and I'm just now gonna cut out these people. I'm not gonna bend over backwards, and I'm just gonna see if they get in contact with me." Let's see, after I'd put in so much effort into some of these relationships, what happened? I haven't heard from them in about a year, and nor have I gone to, gatherings where I would put myself in situations with these people.

And that's not because I'm trying to be mean, it's because I really value myself. I really have a lot of self-respect, and I'm not gonna continue to put effort into things where it's just not reciprocated. Will I, will I always be like this? No. but it was those certain times I couldn't attend certain events because, you know, I, I had my healing program, for example.

I wa- I had a client event, something like that. So I think that's really important, and if you are listening to this and you're going through this, and I know sometimes, you know, I know, I know a lot of people that listen to this podcast are, like, potentially from an Asian culture. Even in that culture, you have to cut out people for your own sanity.

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When you are in a life that has a lot of emotional baggage- You've got those energetic things hanging over you from an energy perspective, and it's just blocking up space. It's just taking up space that you don't need. And to feel lighter, this is exactly what you should be doing. Right. So the second part of identity and healing, I feel like this is gonna be a very long podcast episode, so stay with me, is obviously I did a four-day healing program last October.

So it was like towards the end of October, and it was very, very transformational. It was incredible. I'm looking to do ... I'm looking to actually do, more work with this, company, not just yet, but definitely in the future 'cause it was really transformational. And I know that the work that I did last year is really also gonna help my clients moving forward as well.

So basically, with this, with this program, there was like a four-step process, and I'm not gonna go into the details of everything. But step one is obviously, you know, awareness. Step two is like that f- f- that feeling of bliss and freedom and feeling like on top of the world. Step three is when your old story or your blind spot floods you.

So the blind spot that I was working on last year was that I'm not worthy, and I think it's funny because you can create so much success even if you don't feel worthy. And I think I do feel worthy, you know, even last year, of money, of clients, of success. Of course I do. But there was this underlying thing of not feeling worthy, and this is something that I've

I, I'm, like, still working on today, I wanna be really honest. But it's, it's like 20 times better than last year. Like a hu- like 100 times better actually. and this is, this is the process of healing. It's not linear. Like, it's not like you do a healing program in four days, and you just, you're, you're just one and done.

It just doesn't work like that. And obviously after that healing program, I was literally dying, dying, crying in my lounge on my sofa, thinking, "What the fuck am I doing with my life? Who am I? What value do I have? Am I not ... Am I good enough?" Everything was triggering me. I remember going onto LinkedIn and seeing my speakers posting, and I was getting flooded with, "I'm not good enough.

I'm not good enough. I'm not good enough." It was flooding me. And this is basically what they tell you in the, in the program. It's gonna flood you. You have to just ... You just have to be with it, which is really, really difficult actually. And then once it had flooded me- And I think after kind of January, February, things start- after my event, definitely things started to really shift for me.

And here's the thing I wanna share with you is sometimes we don't feel like doing anything. Leading up to my February event, I did not want to do that event. I've shared openly before, I didn't-- I wanted to do the event as in like I wanted to see people, I wanted to create impact, I wanted to hug people, I wanted to be in community, but part of me just didn't wanna do the event.

Like, I really had to push myself to do it. And it's not because I wasn't aligned to the event, I don't think it's that. It was more the identity piece. Like, could I sell out 185-person event? And I did, right? So what actually happened after the event and kind of like the life date update that I'm coming onto now is that there has been a lot of unraveling over the last few months, especially the last month, I would say the last two months.

Blind spots have been revealed to me, and once you see blind spots you can't unsee them. And basically what a blind spot is like almost like a limiting belief that you have that gets revealed to you through someone else. So I've been working with a mentor. I have been, had the same mentor since March last year, which has been really powerful, and, blind spots have been revealed to me and, and it's just been

I think the biggest lesson that I've had from those blind spots is anything is fucking possible for you. I truly, truly believe that literally if you can just get out of your own damn way, if you can get support, if you can get mentored, if you can just invest in yourself, maybe you don't even need a coach or mentor, but like really work on getting out of your own way, and if someone can identify those blind spots for you, and this is the work that I'm doing with my clients, like life can really shift.

However, however, letting go of blind spots, of old identities, of old versions of yourself is fucking painful, and excuse my language, but it's been really painful. It's been so painful. Like on Saturday I was driving home from the gym and literally I just burst into tears because I was like, I literally have everything that I've ever desired in my life.

You know, amazing, beautiful friendships and relationships. I just celebrated my 11-year anniversary with my husband. We are like madly and deeply in love. We spend so much time together and we're still, we're still so in love and so like it's such a beautiful marriage. My parents are amazing. I've got amazing friends.

I've got amazing clients. And it just, I lit, you know, I've literally been manifesting so many incredible things, but then it was like that identity floods you of like, "Oh my God, are you worthy? Can you have this? Can you keep on going?" And that's the work. And I think letting go of your old self is so painful.

I think people don't talk about this enough, but when you're literally shedding and you're literally, like, going, shifting into a new person and it doesn't happen overnight, you're literally killing an old version of yourself. And of course, like, that's what your subconscious wants you to do. It wants to pull you back, it wants to keep you safe, it wants to keep you steady.

But when you actually make the decision, like, "No, I'm moving forward," it's so painful. It's-- and it, for me, it's been really painful, and it still is really painful. I'm literally transcending, transcending into the next we- le- level of myself. I've got one foot out into the new door and one kind of foot dangling in the, in the old door.

And at this, at this period, because it hasn't fully, like, integrated, it hasn't fully, fully, fully been embodied, although so much has been embodied, it is painful. It is so painful. And I think this is the difference. So many women know, they have the awareness. They, they're aware that they're hiding. They're aware that they're not doing the thing.

They're, they're aware they're not doing the content. And they're almost fantasizing about their vision, right? "Oh, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do that, I'm gonna do this." But fantasy doesn't get you anywhere. I've been there myself, doing the vision boards, visualizing, that's all great. But until you actually commit and devote yourself to your vision, no matter what the outcome...

Because lots of people think if you've got a vision, and you've got this beautiful dream, and this beautiful fantasy, it's gonna be really easy. Let me tell you that business in this day and age, yes, it can be really easy, but when you're breaking through an identity, it's really fucking hard. It's really difficult.

Not because the actual thing is difficult to do the thing, but it's actually getting your identity on board is difficult. So you have to be committed and devoted, no matter what the outcome. You have to be committed and devoted if the launch doesn't go well. You have to be committed and devoted if your reel gets 100 likes.

You have- views. You have to be committed and devoted if people are ghosting you. You have to be committed and devoted if people are rejecting you. This is the level of what I've realized in business is it's commitment and devotion, and having that unwavering vision. Unwavering, uncompromising of what you actually want to gain in your life and what you want to co-create with the universe.

That's what it comes down to, right? And I think the other thing that I've really learnt is what gets you to a certain level will not get you to where you're going. The things that I'm doing in my business now is the things that six figure sh- like, obviously we've hit six figures in my business multiple times, but to get to the next level of what I wanna create in my business, I can't have the same actions as six figure Sharn.

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Like, you have to be willing to test things, willing to learn, willing to change, willing to literally test ... Look, we're testing so many thing- I've never tested this many things in my business that as I have this year. We're just about to test two more new things I've never tested before, but this is the level that is required for you to get the result that you want.

And you've gotta think, like, whatever your goal is, whatever your mission is, like, are you, are you willing and prepared to take the action that your result demands? And I think that's where female founders need to get really honest with themselves. The other thing that I've also been doing- Is I've been in building season in the last few months.

So I haven't taken loads of time off. I've taken off, I think I had a week off in March, kind of had last week off because it was half term. But really, I have been at it, and w- the reason for that is I'm actually at the moment fully booked with my one-to-one practice. I've got one space coming available at the end of June, so if anyone is interested, reach out for one-to-one mentorship.

Everything that I've spoken about, we do that work, deep work and the strategy work in one-to-one. But also, my mastermind is literally filling out. We've got this week start four pe- four to five new people starting, which is amazing. So I'm in a season where I'm client-facing, client-delivering, and then I'm also building my brand And I've been working Sundays.

I just wanna be really honest. Like, some weeks, you know, last week I was in Brighton on Thursday, I had to be in London for a client meeting on Friday. I had three working days or two and a half. You know, I had to work, I had to work this Sunday, and I'm probably gonna have to work a couple of Sundays in June, and yes, it's hot, and yes, it's summer, but I've been listening to a lot of Emma Grede recently, and she's really inspired me because I think in, especially in the industry that I'm in, people feed this narrative that, you know, passive income, you should be sat on the beach 24/7 drinking cocktails and money's just flowing in.

And for me, that is true. I have built up a lot of passive income. Like, I think if I wasn't to work, like, from today onwards, I just wanna be really honest, I've got thousands of pounds coming into my business for the rest of this year now, going into next year actually. Like, money is not a problem. I've got my investment properties as well, and there is passive income per se to some extent, but that doesn't mean that I'm not putting in the work.

And Emma Grede actually says that to have an extraordinary life, you need to put in extraordinary action. And like, before I, you know, last year and even the beginning of this year, I'd have a lot of shame, like, "Oh, why am I working on a Sunday? why am I, like, having to work, like, past 4:00?" So context, I don't work evenings just because my nervous system can't handle it.

I need- I'm a, a manifester in human design. If you haven't checked that out, please do. I need downtime. So especially if I've exerted a lot of energy, I can't work in the evenings. Also, just d- I just need downtime. I'm very mindful of the health stuff that I've had in the past. I need to regulate my nervous system, and one of the ways I do that is in the evenings.

So that time is for me. Plus, I just don't have the energy to work till, like, 9:00 at night or even 8:00. The only thing I can really do is mentoring calls at 6:00 till 7:00. I do that once a month, and that's kind of it. I can't work in the evening. So if you're someone, like, who hasn't got the energy to work in the evenings, please, like, don't put that pressure on yourself to, like, work 24/7.

I think that it's really important as a woman, so many of you are maybe mid to late 30s, maybe you're in your 20s, maybe you're in your 40s, you're, you're gonna be going through maybe, you know, pregnancy, post-pregnancy, menopause. Like, we can't work like men. And you know, one of the reasons- In the first place I ever got, you know, PCOS and endo was because I was working like a man in my early 30s.

So that is like a hard boundary I'm not prepared to give up. so I won't work evenings, but what that does mean sometimes is I do have to work Sundays, and I don't have children, full disclosure, I don't have children at the moment. I don't live with my in-laws or anything like that. I don't have tons of family close by, so everything is always in my diary, like pre-planned weeks ahead.

If I'm seeing a friend, it's planned like two weeks before. You know, I don't have loads of people that like around me, so I have that time normally on Sundays. I do-- don't mind working. If I'm, if I'm not doing anything else and I've had a relaxing Saturday, I don't mind working on a Sunday. But that's a choice that you need to make, and I think that when I was listening to Emma Greed before, when she was saying she does work evenings, she does, work weekends.

And this isn't right for everyone, it depends what you want out of your life. Like I have clients who have children, and they wanna spend time with their children, and that's amazing. And you have to, you have to find what's valuable to you and what works for you. Like what are your values? Do you want to spend lots of time with your children, or do you wanna be like Emma Greed and spend three hours, like she says, on a Saturday with her children?

and she was actually on Steven Bartlett's podcast as well, and Steven said to her, "Can you-- do you think like women can have an extraordinary business and life without working evenings and weekends?" and she was like, "No. Show me who they are, and if you do find someone, they're a liar." That's basically what her words were.

Now, do you have to work weekends to build? I think you can get to six figures and beyond six figures without working weekends. I really do. If you're working full-time in your business Monday to Friday, you can absolutely do that. Ca- if you're working of, in corporate and you're building on the side, then yeah, you're gonna have to think about evening or weekend working if it permits.

So and that's really the identity and healing piece. I know I've gone off on a, on a bit of a tangent, but hopefully you found this valuable.the other thing I wanted to share was something around co- control and surrender, which has been coming up for me a lot So historically, I have been a controlling person.

So not in my marriage, not in my friendships. I'm- I've got literally zero control with my husband and my, fam- like, my friends. But because I was brought up in a family where I had to control to be safe, control has been part of my identity. So what- actually, what happened was, if you don't, if you guys don't know, I come from a very working class background.

My parents couldn't speak English. I have a brother with learning difficulties, and I almost became what I was the, the, the parent of five years of age. I was translating when I was five years of age. I was filling out mort- mortgage applications at 10 years of age. I had a lot of responsibility from a very, very young age, and because I was in this world where things could always go wrong, because my parents couldn't speak English, I had to be hypervigilant.

I was always looking out for danger. I was always, like, you know, filling out forms. Like, I remember, like, any kind of form, like job application form for my dad, like, I, I used to be filling them out at, like, seven or eight. Like, I've had a lot of responsibility from when I've been very young. So control is something that has been in my identity for a long time, and what I've realized in business is that, yes, I'm an action taker, I'm a doer, but I have to let go of control, and that's been a really difficult lesson for me.

And I've been in, in business, I've had seasons where I've completely let go, but I think in this season it has to be ... You know, I'm building so many things in my business right now, and when I say building, I mean my brand, I mean funnels, I mean lots of other things behind the scenes. There has to be this fine balance between control and aligned action, which I think for a lot of female founders is really difficult.

So what I wanna speak into this is that at the moment, and all will be revealed probably early- later this year and early- or early next year, 'cause I love sharing with my community what's going on behind the scenes. That although I'm building at the moment, there is certain things that unfortunately I'm not able to do right now because I'm going through some things, and it kind of feels like my hands are tied.

My hands are tied. I saw this, post on Instagram a couple of weeks ago, and someone had been really, really sick. Really sick, and I think she's maybe going through chronic disease. And she was saying she wants to do lots of things in her business, but she feels like she's got this invisible tie, like her hands are tied through this invisible handcuff type vibes, type analogy.

And that's how I totally feel at the moment as well. Like, there's so much that I can do, but there's so much I can't do right now as well, like, and I do feel like my hands are tied. And why I'm sharing this is because maybe you're in that season as well. Maybe you're in a full-time job. Maybe you're just had a baby.

Maybe you are, navigating some health challenges. Maybe you've got aging parents. Maybe you're going through IVF like a lot of my clients are. Like, there are things in our life, especially as we get in our 30s and 40s, that are outside of our control. Aging parents, that's outside of our control. Sick parents is outside of our control.

you know, having fertility challenges is outside of our control. Having menopause is outside of our control. Like, all these things I think feed into womanhood as we get older. But what I have learned is rather than focusing on what I can't have, focus on what you can have, what you can do, right? 'Cause there's so much you can do even if you're going through a really hard season.

And the other thing I want to also share is, and this is a podcast episode for another day, but, like, who are you being, and where are you generating from? So when I say who are you being and where are you generating from, are you being someone who's always stressed out, always in resistance, always in fear, always scared to be seen, or like just not stepping into your next level?

And where are you actually generating that from? What is the past self that is generating this for you? And this is the work that I love to do with my clients. But control what you can and release what you can't. And control, I mean an ali- aligned control. And I also think that, like, people are in this massive rush, and I've definitely felt this myself, in the last, you know, few months.

But actually now I just don't give a damn. Because Instagram is feeding you not the reality, but obviously we're normalizing now that, like, you become a billionaire at 25, you become a millionaire at 20. Like, you have this massive platform at, like, 23. And I think a lot of people, especially if you're in your 30s and 40s, are feeling like, "Oh, I'm behind," or there's this massive rush or I need to do this, I need to do that.

But let me tell you in, from being in circles of, like, six to seven-figure entrepreneurs, like, people don't have it figured it out, people don't have it figured out. And also, Whatever you see on Instagram is marketing. It's a highlight reel. It's not the truth. I know so many people, I know someone dear to me, she's amazing.

She's a multi six figure business owner, half a million pound business, and cashflow is a business- cashflow is a problem in her business. You know? So you never know what, what the real truth is. But I think rushing just creates more resistance. It creates this energy of lack. And when you're in lack and control, you can't have flow and abundance.

They can't coexist. I've noticed this. You know, I've had my biggest sales days over the last six months when I've literally not been looking at my calendar who's booked in a call. Like, last time, I had my biggest cash day last month. I think we had, like, an 8 or 9,000 pound cash day, which was amazing.

Like, everyone just purchased on the same day into the mastermind, and everyone was paying in full, and I had a full day of calls. And the next day I had to be in London. So, like, it's almost like when you release and surrender and create space for abundance, that's when it can really land and come in.I just wanna finish on a couple of business lessons as well.

Just one or two, because I know this podcast has gone on for a little while. But I also, big life update, I closed down my membership. Yes, I closed down a very profitable membership, and I just wanna finish on this because this is a really massive business lesson.I think, as you can probably tell, is I'm a very deep person.

I like working with people deeply, whether it's in my one-to-one practice, whether it's in my mastermind. I'm not here for surface level shit. And as my work evolves, I want to go deeper with people. I really want to go deeper with people. And I felt like my membership, even though it was bringing in so much revenue per month, we could do a launch for the membership, we'd generate even more revenue, I just felt like it was-- felt surface level.

It didn't feel deep enough. And I also had this-battle where I want to give- Like, if you're in my mastermind or one-to-one mentoring, like you get the best trainings in my portal. Like, you get such detailed trainings. But I felt like in my membership, I couldn't give the same level of support or detail because people are paying literally 44 pounds a month versus what people are paying in my mem- in my mastermind.

And I felt like that just wasn't in alignment, and also I feel like I am working towards deep work, which create- needs deep commitment from people. So now I'm working with people three months one-to-one. That will be l- going, like go- like leaving soon, and then I'm working six months with people in my one-to-one, but then also my mastermind for five months.

And I feel like also, and this isn't any shame or shade or anyone that runs a membership, I've s- had a couple of conversations with people that have closed down their memberships, including a couple of my past clients, and it's just that when people are investing 44 pounds a month, it's literally nothing.

So they're not showing up to calls. They're not doing the work. They're not f- fully taking advantage of what's available, and I just don't want to work with people like that. I, I want to work on a deeper level, and you can't work with someone on a really deep level at 44 pounds a month. It's just not possible.

And I also think despite what other business coaches say, I just don't think you should have a membership just because it's a low cost offer and you think you can get loads of people into it. We had a size- sizable amount of people in our membership, and I've just closed it down. Well, the- it's closing down later this month.

But if you've got a small audience, I would definitely be prioritizing longer packages, even one-offs rather than a membership because I think also membership is a lot of work. It was a lot of work for my team as well. and it just wasn't feeling aligned, and I think that's what it came down to. And I also think that when you streamline your offerings, like we've only- the only way to work with me now is m- mentorship or mastermind or like an- if you want to come to a long-term event, but I haven't got...

A membership's like just another offering that needs another launch, that needs different marketing, that needs different trainings, that needs different emails. Like, it's just too much, and I just wanna streamline. So when you can streamline in your business and you're just focusing on, you know, we're focusing on the mastermind being like amazing, I mean, it's already amazing.

You've probably seen the testimonials, but even more amazing. I'm like, "Okay, how can we make it more amazing?" And then I can spend that time on really improving my offerings rather than just working on something that isn't aligned. So yes. I'm gonna leave that there And I really hope that you enjoyed this life update.

I really hope that you got some lessons and learnings and things that you can implement into your business and life. I absolutely love hearing from you if you are listening to my podcast. Like, it's a really weird feeling when I record here at home. It feels like I'm kind of recording out into the ether.

So if you have loved this podcast episode, I know so many of you are listening. We're getting hundreds of downloads every week, which is so incredible. But if you found this val- valuable, please can you just drop me a DM on sharn.cairry.mentor, just a quick DM saying, "I loved your podcast," or just drop me an email at [email protected].

Don't forget to sign up to the free masterclass series, How to Become Fully Booked to Premium Clients. We're gonna be delving into some of the things that I spoke about today. It's, it's really amazing three-day masterclass, if I do say, say so myself. People find it so valuable. It's literally gonna be the last time we're doing this because it was so popular last month, but we have no plans to run it after June.

I would absolutely love to see you there. So yeah, that is it from me. I'm sending you so much love, and I will speak to you soon

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