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High Performance Goal Setting for the New Year
Summary
In this episode, John and Angie discuss their approach to goal setting rather than traditional New Year's resolutions. They talk about the importance of creating specific, achievable goals and how to break them down into manageable steps. They touch on the value of reflection, the necessity of understanding one's 'why,' and the importance of adaptability and flexibility. The conversation also covers the need for personal and professional balance, the benefits of delegating tasks outside one's zone of genius, and the idea of rewarding oneself for achieving milestones. Additionally, they highlight the significance of having accountability partners or coaches and the relevance of incorporating service and contribution goals. The episode is filled with practical advice and motivational insights to start the year on the right note.
Takeaways
Happy New Year!
Annual goal setting is preferred over resolutions.
Resolutions often lack specificity and become unrealistic.
Creating awareness around goals is crucial for success.
Setting specific objectives leads to better motivation.
Reflection on past goals helps in planning future ones.
Delegation can free up time for more important tasks.
Understanding your 'why' is essential in goal setting.
Visualization can inspire and motivate towards goals.
Don't wait for perfection to take action. Motivation is temporary and needs to be renewed regularly.
Accountability partners or coaches are essential for goal achievement.
Setting specific, measurable goals is crucial for success.
Regular check-ins on progress help keep you on track.
Choosing your challenges wisely can lead to better outcomes.
You must embody the person you want to become now, not later.
Experience is the best teacher; practical action leads to learning.
Celebrating milestones is important for motivation and morale.
Finding balance between work and play is essential to avoid burnout.
Service and contribution can enhance personal goals and accountability.
Chapters
00:00 New Year's Resolutions and Goal Setting
01:36 The Importance of Specific Goals
04:40 Breaking Down Goals into Manageable Steps
06:08 Personal vs. Professional Goals
09:01 Reflecting on Past Successes and Failures
11:43 Delegation and Outsourcing
17:07 Accountability and Consistency
27:48 Finding Your Own Productivity Formula
28:51 Overcoming Mental Roadblocks
30:11 Becoming the Person You Need to Be
31:52 The Importance of Practical Experience
34:46 Balancing Inner and Outer Goals
38:16 Celebrating Achievements and Avoiding Burnout
44:58 The Power of Play and Balance
46:46 Wrapping Up and Looking Ahead
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Transcripts
John,
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John: Angie,
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Angie: Happy New Year.
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John: Happy New Year to you
too, and to our listeners!
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Angie: Did you set any
New Year's resolutions?
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John: No, I prefer to do annual goal
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setting instead.
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Angie: Yeah, same here.
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In fact, I wonder if our listeners
might like to join us in that.
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John: Oh, I think they might.
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Hang on, let
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me ask them.
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Hello, listener.
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Would you like to join us for a
session on high performance goal
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setting to get the year started right?
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Angie: What do they say?
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John: Let's see, let's have a look.
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Yes, hell yes, get on with it.
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What's the best way to keep yourself
entertained on long coach rides?
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Sorry, we're not that
kind of coaching podcast.
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Yes.
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Okay, we'll take that as a green light.
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Angie: Awesome.
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Let's get to it.
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John: Let's do that.
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Angie: Yeah, so it's that time of
the year, I know we're a little
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into the new month, the new year,
but it's like the time, everybody
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goes, let me get excited about these
resolutions, which we've talked about.
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I'm not a big believer in a resolution.
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That doesn't work for me.
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And I think it doesn't
work for most people.
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John: I think one of the reasons why
it probably doesn't work for most
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people is that most of us have had
that experience of maybe creating those
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resolutions and probably not having
them last more than a couple of days
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or a couple of weeks into the new year.
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And That's disheartening, which is
one of the reasons why it's better,
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just better, just not to do them.
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But I do think any sort of significant
point in your life or in the year and
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the new year is one of those is a good
opportunity to at least reevaluate your
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goals if you're already on your way
with them, or if you haven't got clear
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goals set out for yourself right now to
start doing that and thinking about how
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you want the rest of the year to look,
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Angie: Absolutely.
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I think creating awareness around
what you want is important.
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I think it's just like any
goal that you set for yourself.
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If you're going to take a journey, you're
going to take a trip, there's a map.
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There's a way that you're
going to get there.
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I always refer to an actual map
because people get the visual.
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And I'm like, where's that red pin going?
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What is the goal?
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If you want to go from like New
York to California, then put the
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pin in where you want to go because
You have to work that backwards.
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How are you really going to get there?
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I think resolutions become a little
bit more pie in the sky and I think
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you know many of us and you've
probably experienced this personally
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or with clients that a lot of their
Resolutions are the same ones year
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after year like I'm gonna lose weight.
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I'm gonna get healthy I'm gonna go to the
gym And they don't work because there's
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no or little map process kind of a thing.
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John: Yeah, I think there's
a lack of specificity
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to those kinds of things as well,
which is a problem I do regular group
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coaching and one of the things that
I notice comes up that there's a big
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difference between the people on
those coaching calls who have nice
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specific Objectives that they want
to hit and they're clear goals and
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you can think you know You would
definitely know when you've hit
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that goal and then there's people who have
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vague Goals of oh, I want to grow
Professionally, I think it's one
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I had just this week or I want to
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I just want to be more.
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I want to
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have more.
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I want to earn more
money Like these are not
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specific enough really
to be that motivation.
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I was like how much more money do
you really want to have how much?
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What would that even
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look like?
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You do need to be able
to ask yourself, how
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will I know when I have hit
where hit the goal that I want
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to hit, or at least we'll be able to note
a milestone or a point where, which shows
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me that I'm moving in the right direction.
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Angie: I think we, first of all,
I think we need that anyway.
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I think it's important for everybody
to realize even coaches for themselves.
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It's that those little dopamine
hits are what keep you going, right?
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So it's easiest with weight loss.
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For example, if somebody says I want to
lose 25 pounds it's great to be like,
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all right, I want to lose it But by
when do you have some did you assign
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something because I could say I want to
lose 25 pounds In the next five years.
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That changes the scope of how
I'm going to approach it, right?
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That's five pounds a year, right?
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But if I want to lose 25 pounds in
the next just say 12 months What
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does that then equate to this way?
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I'm aware of what those little goals need
to be along the way and When I hit those
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goals it is going to give me the boost
I need You want to keep going, right?
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It's a little mini goal, and
although somebody might pooh
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Oh what's the difference?
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A pound is nothing.
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Pennies equals dollars.
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I don't care what you say.
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One pound, eventually, when you
compound it over time, is going
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to turn into those 25 pounds.
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You're not losing 25 pounds overnight.
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It's not happening, right?
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Yeah, it's important
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John: let me ask you, Angie,
when you're planning your year,
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cause then we both do this.
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We've talked about it, which is
why we wanted to do this episode.
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Yeah.
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How do you start that process?
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And what does it look like?
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Angie: I definitely decipher between
my personal and my professional
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goals without a doubt, right?
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Some of my personal goals are very
different than, and some of them
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cross over, but I literally think
about is there a need versus a want?
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And that's important because,
I have to figure out my why,
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like why is this important?
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I don't just willy nilly go, Oh,
I want to make 300, 000 this year.
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Okay, but is there a reason for that?
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Why?
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Why do I want that?
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Versus why isn't it just 100, 000?
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So I get very deep into, and you
know this, I'm a big processor.
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I get big into my why so that I
can actually decide whether that
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even should be a goal or not.
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Is, or is something going to get
in the way of my real priorities?
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So I do that first and then when
I write down like three I, I think
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sometimes we overburden ourselves with
way too many goals, way too many goals.
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So I really break it down then
to like the top three in each of
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those categories, the personal, the
professional and set them right now.
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I've got my why is this important
to me and that there is necessity
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because I'm not going to do
anything without necessity.
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Okay.
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Being a component and now, then I can
get into the how am I going to get there?
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So that's the baseline of where I begin.
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John: Yeah, I look for where do I
want to be around this time next year?
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What would I like to be different?
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What needs some work on what are some
of the things that maybe I need to stop
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doing and what are some of the things
that I need to start doing that are going
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to ultimately support me in these goals.
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And so I do think about it at least
initially from that beginning.
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Bigger perspective about the general
journey that I'm on the year ahead.
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And then I pull it back to
the first quarter because I
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don't think realistically we
can plan too far beyond that.
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And I would think, okay this is the
first quarter I look at my, like
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yourself, I do this professionally
and personally look at my.
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Personal goals for the next quarter.
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What the, what are the priorities?
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What are the things I really must
focus on and that are important
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to me that I've decided I want
this I'm clear on why I want it.
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And then do that same with
my professional goals.
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I do the same with my
professional goals as well.
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It makes it so much easier to
start breaking stuff down because
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then, I use planners and stuff.
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Then I can start transposing that
stuff into my planner and start
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looking at it from a monthly overview.
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And then from weekly overviews, then Much
easier to figure out the day to day What
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needs to be happening day to get you to
your end golden and I love that Starting
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from the end backwards work from the end
backwards reverse engineer the whole thing
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Angie: Yeah.
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And you know what, the other thing that
I started to do, and this is in recent
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years, Which is so funny because I've done
this while consulting for companies like,
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what works what doesn't so I actually
now will reflect on the year prior or
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two And say, you know what are my habits?
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Like what really is working
for me and what isn't.
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And that's just part of getting
to know yourself as an individual.
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And in this case for
me as a business owner.
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So for example, this is the first year
that I have employed an assistant.
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And I just have to say, by the way,
what a game changer that was for me.
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So anybody who already has an
assistant might be like, hello,
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duh, welcome to the party.
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But it was something that I resisted
because I'm the one man band now.
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I don't really, I didn't want to
give up, not necessarily the control,
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but I was like, I have the mindset.
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If I can do it myself,
I should do it myself.
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And that was a mindset thing.
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So once I got past the mindset piece,
I was like let me ease into this.
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Let me do a couple of hours a
week and let me see how it goes.
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No contracts.
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I don't want any of that.
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So I had to find something that made
it okay so that I could have that
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exit strategy if it wasn't working.
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So guess what?
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You know this.
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I've said it to you for
a couple of months now.
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Like it's changed.
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my life.
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Love it.
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I'm like, why did I not?
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Because I didn't really know any better.
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And so what did I know about myself?
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I cannot stand administrative work.
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I hate it with a passion and
I'm never going to like it.
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I think I know that.
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My birthday's coming up at 56 years.
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I think I know.
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I hate administrative work and why not
hire somebody who's much more proficient.
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And isn't wasting time.
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And now I honestly, I'm going a
little crazy with this, but that's
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I've been reborn in my business.
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Now I'm excited about my business again.
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Because I'm focusing on the
things that I'm really good at.
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So that was me.
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That may not be somebody else's
experience, but part of me being honest
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with myself was what do I, what am I
really good at and where do I suck?
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And not that I suck at
administration, but I don't love it.
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And it was way too time consuming and it
made me not want to do a lot of things.
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And it left no room for
creativity, I feel or little room.
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We need to have those conversations
with ourselves and be honest and
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say, What works, what doesn't?
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What, where am I great,
and where am I not so good?
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And how can I delegate?
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John: I love what one of my business
mentors says, which always stays in my
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mind, that as a business owner, as a coach
and a business owner, your goal should
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be ultimately to hand off anything that
is not your zone of genius to someone
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else, even if you can do it, even if
you're okay at all, even good at it.
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There's probably someone you could
hire who's actually that is their zone
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of genius And you're always going to
be better off handing those things
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on focusing on where your areas of
genius are the stuff that you need
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stuff that you love doing and that
you want to spend your time doing
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and Give the other things to someone
else who can do them better than you
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Angie: Excuse something.
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Oh, John, I'm putting you
in the hot seat right now.
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This might not even make it to the air.
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John: Might cut this out
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Angie: You might.
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Don might cut this out completely.
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But, so here's the thing.
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You know how to do, you
know how to build a website.
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John: Yes
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How long has your new website
been taking you to build and
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get going and put out there?
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John: Several months
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Angie: Three?
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John: No, more two, two and a half months
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Since I actually bought the website and
worked on the domain is more or less.
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Angie: So let me ask you this, and this
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because you know how to do it, right?
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If you had said to somebody, build my
website, and these are the parameters.
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Do you think that would
have been published by now?
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John: I'm going to say no.
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And the reason is the same reason
that it's not published yet.
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Although.
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It very soon will be because you've been
on my case about it but that it was the
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content that needs to go in there which
I had to which I had to create it had to
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come from me So the brand statement the
products all of those things That had to
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be in there whether I created this or not.
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I still had to come up with that
stuff so putting it into the
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website took almost no time at all.
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Angie: Great.
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No, but do you think that if you
hired somebody that there would
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have been a little more fire?
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John: Yeah, there might have been You
May well have been more urgency you
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probably right about that I probably
would have given myself more urgency
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of like i'm paying someone to do
This is going to cost you money.
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Let's get this taken care of and yeah,
it's definitely one of the things that
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I do struggle with is Creating urgency
and I need that I need my deadlines.
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I need stuff to no high levels of
accountability And perhaps having
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given myself that on my website is true
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Angie: Listen, and this is a good thing.
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I'm not, listen, I'm,
I love John to pieces.
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I'm not poking fun at him to, because
I, there's things that I still need
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to, for as long as I've been coaching,
doesn't mean that I've got every
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single thing dialed in every minute.
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I'm still learning As the world
changes and the atmosphere around
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what we do changes, we have to change.
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When John and I became coaches, there was
no like not that there wasn't Google, but
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it certainly wasn't to where it is now.
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There's so many things that have changed,
so we have to change along with it.
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Hence, why John's even
creating a new website.
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Bigger, better, stronger, faster.
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that, It's hard for us as professionals,
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especially as coaches sometimes to be
aware of what we really need as a business
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owner and me throwing out that this is
the first time I've ever had an assistant.
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I resisted it and resisted it.
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I tried finding people
a couple of years ago.
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I didn't see the financial value.
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So I said no, and then revisited it and
bam, it's changed everything for me.
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It's brought me back to feeling like
I'm falling in love with what I do all
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over again, because I'm not focused
and there's so much back end stuff.
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So John is great at back end stuff.
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John: It's been said
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Angie: cut this out
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John: in, in many environments.
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Angie: sorry.
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So John is great at back end
stuff, but that doesn't mean
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John should be doing it, right?
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Because what is John,
what is it costing him?
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So you know, we always think in terms
like I'm very financially aware,
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and I think that's another thing
that might hold people back from.
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Maybe, doing some of the things
that they'd like to do and then
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say, no, I can just do this myself.
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What it's costing me financially
is nothing compared to what it
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has cost me over years of time.
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There's just no comparison
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John: Yeah.
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Angie: to
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John: Yeah.
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Angie: And sometimes that derails us.
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John: yeah, it's it's easy.
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It's easy to get stuck in stuff as well.
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For sure.
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I am very up for the idea of
delegation, but no, there are probably
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a bunch of reasons why I didn't
particularly want to do it with my
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website at this particular time.
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Although I think.
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Maybe in a couple of years time when
it's going to be time to revamp it
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again I'm going to be getting someone
else to do that because the content's
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going to be there and i'm not going to
want to spend time on it but yeah, it's
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it's easy to get lost in the weeds with
our own goals and we do have to have
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urgency clarity deadlines about what
we're heading towards and give those to
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ourselves and Give my own example about
where I perhaps haven't been as effective
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as that recently with myself as I would
like to have been although I will say
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this By the time this episode goes to
air the website will be there You can go
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and have a look the link's going to be in
the show notes for you present influence.
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com Go and check it out.
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It will be there.
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It won't be perfect, but it will be there
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Angie: I love that you
just said that, right?
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Let's point that out to our listeners
that don't wait for things to
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be perfect before you promote.
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Now, I understand the whole premise of,
Hey, it's you only get one chance to make
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your first impression and all of that.
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But I think some people take
that into Olympic event.
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status, and I'm not saying
John, I don't mean him.
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I just mean that I've worked with people
that in any of their goals might have been
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like and this is the reason, and that's
the reason, or maybe I wanted to get
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one more little certification and that's
just your fear holding you back, right?
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Coming up with the next thing that sounds
amazing, but all it is a distraction
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to either launching or diving into the
new goals that you have for yourself.
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I'm always excited at the beginning
of the year because it's although I
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think we do, you and I talk about this
constantly, we're always self reflecting,
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we're always throwing things at each
other and bouncing things off of each
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other, but I think, historically, it's
become a little bit like, hey, it's
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the new year, what's going to happen?
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John: I don't think you can really look
forward without looking back as well.
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And so I think I, I did this with my,
with one of my coaching groups recently.
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Like we had a call just around Christmas.
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We had another call around new year.
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So the Christmas call, we
did a review of the year.
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And what were the goals and things
that maybe didn't work out for you?
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And what, why didn't
those things work out?
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to give yourself this clarity around
What is maybe some of the things that you
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know, are those were they the wrong goals?
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Do you need to be
focusing on other things?
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Or were there things that you just
weren't doing or paying attention to
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that needed to be Worked on they're
going to help you for whether these
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need to come back into your goals this
year back into your attention or whether
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they're relevant to the new things
that you may want to Work on as well.
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I think that kind of reviewing is really
helpful to know ourselves to understand
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where we've been and what maybe has
stopped us or held us back from getting
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to where we might have hoped we could
have got to not to beat yourself up
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over it, which I think a lot of people.
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It's very easy to do but to have awareness
around all right Yeah, I have maybe a
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record realization that I didn't have
enough accountability around this and
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didn't get this done or Lacked the urgency
or other two took on too many things
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whatever it is for you what has been
blocking you from getting as far as you
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could have gotten that you can learn from?
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And improve on over the next year.
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Angie: I think that reflection
piece, I mentioned that earlier,
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I think it's really important.
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What worked?
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If you've had a goal, let's just
say, and it's been a goal for the
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last five years, it keeps showing up
because you're not getting it done.
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I think that's one of the big,
flashing neon lights at signs that
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saying is should this even be a goal?
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usually say to people like, okay,
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nothing wrong with great health.
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Why are we not reaching the goal?
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But sometimes you have to say.
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Should this even be on the radar?
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That's what I mentioned earlier about,
is that just another distraction
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holding you back from other
things that are true priorities?
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It's like when, anybody ever been
on an interview and the person
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interviewing you says, where do you
see yourself in 10 years or five years?
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And I'm like, are you kidding me?
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I don't like, yeah, I have a vision
and sometimes maybe if you have a
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very big ambitious goal that you
want to hit and you know that it
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literally is something that you
have to plan for a couple of years.
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And I've had some of those.
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You, it's, again, no matter how far out
it may be, I'm sure there's going to
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be certain steps or requirements that
are going to get you to that point.
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I still have to put assigned time to it.
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What are the steps year over
year that have to take place?
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So it doesn't matter whether it's
a short term quick fit goal or if
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it is something that's longer term.
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Again, I'm a little leery of what
do I want to do in five years?
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At this point.
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But when I started out as a real coach
and turned it into a real business for
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myself, I did have a really big vision.
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I did.
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Now even as a speaker, I always,
it's funny how my vision has changed.
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I used to see myself on these little
teeny tiny stages and now when I
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envision it, I want those big old stages.
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I want, I almost want to be
like, where's Joel Osteen?
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I want that room.
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And who knows someday I
might, what'd you say?
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John: The Church of Angie.
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You have your own
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Angie: We don't know if you want
the Church of Angie, unless you
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want the express train to hell.
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I don't know about that.
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But anyway, I was thinking
like, my ambitions are changing.
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And and my point is that if I see
that, if I'm really Oh, daydreaming,
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that should actually be on my list.
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That should be something that I'm
not just stuffing away and going, Oh
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please, when am I ever going to be?
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That's not that's, you're not
gonna hit that goal for sure.
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You never, the answer is automatically no.
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With that mindset.
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So sometimes it's even about just
how do I expand on what did work and
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make it even a little bit, the one
degree or the 1% bigger than it was.
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John: This it's interesting to know
something that's come up in coaching
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calls and for about this daydreaming
kind of thing of there is a form of
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positive procrastination and this is
it, where you're dreaming about the
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future or what could be and what can be.
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It's not a bad thing to be doing.
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It's inspiring yourself.
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It's really positive.
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It's not really that you're doing
it instead of trying instead of
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stuff that you should be doing.
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You're doing it to create that picture
for the future to inspire yourself.
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I think often We do devalue that
the visualizations, the creating the
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images of it, the daydreaming about
this to being less important as,
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just write it down and there it is.
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It's why not have your, if vision boards
are your thing, get your vision board
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or write your goals down, but have them
somewhere where you can see them and
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check in with them and re inspired.
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by yourself with the
things you're working on.
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Because one thing's sure I think it was
Jim Rohn motivation is like bathing.
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It doesn't last.
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So we recommend it daily.
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It's it won't last.
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I think it was Jim Rohn but yeah, it's
so motivation will not last Stuff will
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take longer than you think it's going
to take curveballs will get thrown at
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you Life will get in the way and it
even if you have a good why Life may
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stop you from achieving your goals If
your why isn't as big and as strong as
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you can possibly make it for yourself
And so we need to have that we need
441
00:24:32,325 --> 00:24:35,995
to check in with it and keep ourselves
motivated and on track And ideally
442
00:24:35,995 --> 00:24:38,035
accountable and this is your coaches.
443
00:24:38,045 --> 00:24:42,285
You're a coach listening to this If
you don't have your own coach, I know
444
00:24:42,315 --> 00:24:45,085
we've talked about this in an episode
You may not have heard of if you don't
445
00:24:45,095 --> 00:24:49,519
have your own coach Who are you being
accountable to for the goals that you set?
446
00:24:49,770 --> 00:24:53,690
You want to create here who's gonna
who's going to give you the proverbial
447
00:24:53,690 --> 00:24:57,700
kick up the butt to get into action when
you need It or the encouragement or the
448
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:02,110
cheerleading if that's what you want Who's
going to do that for you if you don't
449
00:25:02,120 --> 00:25:04,300
have your own coach or coaches in your
450
00:25:04,465 --> 00:25:05,565
Angie: That's a great point.
451
00:25:05,725 --> 00:25:09,014
That's a great point,
because you might set a goal.
452
00:25:09,015 --> 00:25:09,995
We usually do, right?
453
00:25:09,995 --> 00:25:11,415
We set a goal for the year.
454
00:25:11,415 --> 00:25:12,895
This is what we'd like to see.
455
00:25:13,175 --> 00:25:17,775
This is what we're projecting, but you
can't wait until November to see if you're
456
00:25:17,775 --> 00:25:20,045
on track to hit your goals by December.
457
00:25:20,325 --> 00:25:25,335
So accountability with somebody,
an accountability partner or a
458
00:25:25,335 --> 00:25:28,175
coach is, I think, super important.
459
00:25:28,725 --> 00:25:34,135
And at least, if you have a, an annual
goal, let's just say, and you break
460
00:25:34,135 --> 00:25:37,915
it down into quarterly goals you need
to check in on it every quarter and
461
00:25:37,915 --> 00:25:42,585
maybe even every month and say, am I
on target to hit this quarterly goal
462
00:25:42,715 --> 00:25:44,295
that's going to bring me to the next.
463
00:25:44,605 --> 00:25:47,525
It is really that important
to check in on that.
464
00:25:47,575 --> 00:25:50,615
You have to, otherwise, you don't
want to get caught with your pants
465
00:25:50,615 --> 00:25:53,205
down at the end of the year and
say, Oh no, that didn't work.
466
00:25:53,840 --> 00:26:00,325
John: A thousand percent i'll say this
If you don't actually know What you
467
00:26:00,325 --> 00:26:05,555
need to be doing on a daily and weekly
basis in order to hit these you don't
468
00:26:05,635 --> 00:26:09,625
really have goals You just have a bit
of pie in the sky a bit of oh, yeah,
469
00:26:09,625 --> 00:26:14,025
that'd be nice These aren't really goals
You need to be able to know how you're
470
00:26:14,045 --> 00:26:18,545
going to achieve it and what you should
be doing on a consistent Basis that you
471
00:26:18,545 --> 00:26:22,415
can even check in with yourself and say
am I doing this if it's a relationship
472
00:26:22,425 --> 00:26:24,545
goal You Are you doing your date nights?
473
00:26:24,545 --> 00:26:28,625
Are you having time to communicate
and be intimate with each other?
474
00:26:28,835 --> 00:26:33,645
If it's a fitness goal, are you actually
showing up and putting in the work or
475
00:26:33,955 --> 00:26:36,555
joining the gym or hiring the trainer
that you said you were going to hire?
476
00:26:36,555 --> 00:26:39,535
What, whatever it is same
with your professional goals.
477
00:26:39,585 --> 00:26:41,855
Are you doing the prospecting?
478
00:26:41,865 --> 00:26:43,375
Are you publishing your website?
479
00:26:43,375 --> 00:26:45,475
Whatever it is that needs to be happening.
480
00:26:45,755 --> 00:26:46,915
Get that stuff done.
481
00:26:47,785 --> 00:26:51,875
Get that stuff in place and know what
you need to be doing on a daily and
482
00:26:51,875 --> 00:26:57,305
weekly basis and protect it Protect
your time around that and that all how
483
00:26:57,305 --> 00:26:58,835
much time do I need to be doing this?
484
00:26:58,835 --> 00:26:59,965
Am I working full days?
485
00:26:59,965 --> 00:27:02,435
What are the hours that you
need to be put into doing this?
486
00:27:02,755 --> 00:27:06,395
And how are you going to make sure that
you actually have the time to do those
487
00:27:06,405 --> 00:27:08,945
things that you said are important?
488
00:27:09,265 --> 00:27:12,285
And need to be prioritized
above those other things
489
00:27:13,145 --> 00:27:16,505
Angie: And I think that, you know what,
that's so important to, to recognize that
490
00:27:17,105 --> 00:27:21,065
sometimes you're going to overestimate
the time necessary to do certain tasks.
491
00:27:21,195 --> 00:27:25,985
So do it so that you can
actually create, a more Oh,
492
00:27:26,035 --> 00:27:27,405
what's the word I'm looking for?
493
00:27:27,955 --> 00:27:29,575
Daily routine for yourself.
494
00:27:30,100 --> 00:27:30,850
You know what I mean?
495
00:27:31,050 --> 00:27:34,840
So for example, most experts, I'm
not going to get into this whole
496
00:27:34,850 --> 00:27:38,870
thing, but most experts would say
to you, you need 30, 30 minutes of
497
00:27:38,870 --> 00:27:41,030
exercise a day, which is good for you.
498
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:44,250
Now, again, what we do, how we
do it as a whole different thing.
499
00:27:44,500 --> 00:27:48,330
But somebody's already put that
formula into place for us a bit.
500
00:27:48,690 --> 00:27:50,540
You need to figure out your own formula.
501
00:27:50,810 --> 00:27:53,050
You need to figure out
what's, what works for you.
502
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:57,490
And this could be something, some
people are really hell bent on, because
503
00:27:57,490 --> 00:28:00,600
of so many, other influences, get out
there, do everything first thing in
504
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:01,810
the morning and do the hard stuff.
505
00:28:02,150 --> 00:28:02,890
I'm going to say this.
506
00:28:02,890 --> 00:28:06,910
Some people do not have that bandwidth
in the morning or that brain power.
507
00:28:07,130 --> 00:28:10,380
Some people literally are
not morning people, right?
508
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:14,220
And they can't, if you ask me to do
my heavy thinking between two and
509
00:28:14,220 --> 00:28:17,710
five no, Not a good look for me.
510
00:28:17,970 --> 00:28:18,820
I invest in
511
00:28:18,855 --> 00:28:19,915
John: it wouldn't work for me either.
512
00:28:19,915 --> 00:28:20,024
Yeah.
513
00:28:20,025 --> 00:28:20,465
Yeah.
514
00:28:20,515 --> 00:28:22,455
I'm for brain power stuff.
515
00:28:22,785 --> 00:28:24,775
I'm best mid morning, mid afternoon.
516
00:28:25,115 --> 00:28:26,695
Those are my peak times.
517
00:28:26,975 --> 00:28:30,595
Although my idea generation
seems to happen more closer
518
00:28:30,595 --> 00:28:32,085
to bedtime for some reason.
519
00:28:32,405 --> 00:28:35,645
And I am that kind of person, you'll
be going to sleep and thinking stuff
520
00:28:35,675 --> 00:28:39,115
up as I'm drifting off to sleep.
521
00:28:39,125 --> 00:28:40,135
That's the way my brain works.
522
00:28:40,395 --> 00:28:43,205
I do, but to some degree I would not.
523
00:28:43,580 --> 00:28:47,540
generally describe myself as
a morning person, but I can
524
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:49,200
still do stuff in the mornings.
525
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,720
I can still push myself to do something.
526
00:28:51,930 --> 00:28:55,870
It makes me think about this one
thing of having these goals and moving
527
00:28:55,870 --> 00:29:00,690
forward with them is going to be hard,
but not doing it and not getting the
528
00:29:00,700 --> 00:29:03,210
things that you really want to be to
have a create is going to be harder.
529
00:29:03,885 --> 00:29:09,265
So so choose your difficult choose for
want of a better phrase choose your hard.
530
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,320
Angie: Yeah, I definitely agree.
531
00:29:11,376 --> 00:29:13,026
something doesn't feel good.
532
00:29:13,546 --> 00:29:14,886
We avoided our brain.
533
00:29:14,946 --> 00:29:19,126
Our brain is like working against
us in that space because it's
534
00:29:19,126 --> 00:29:20,346
like, let me go do something.
535
00:29:20,346 --> 00:29:20,836
I don't like.
536
00:29:20,856 --> 00:29:21,796
No, it doesn't feel good.
537
00:29:21,796 --> 00:29:22,346
It's danger.
538
00:29:22,346 --> 00:29:22,716
It's this.
539
00:29:22,726 --> 00:29:23,386
It's that.
540
00:29:23,536 --> 00:29:26,246
So we have to push through that.
541
00:29:26,286 --> 00:29:32,966
But, is it hard or is it out of our the
realm of things that we enjoy doing now?
542
00:29:32,966 --> 00:29:36,086
I'm not saying that life should be
a party every minute of every day.
543
00:29:36,466 --> 00:29:40,206
Because I do believe there are certain
things that we need to push through
544
00:29:40,656 --> 00:29:44,506
and get to the other side and break
through our own little, our own little
545
00:29:44,546 --> 00:29:46,816
roadblocks, if you will, our own detours.
546
00:29:47,296 --> 00:29:48,156
But that's the thing.
547
00:29:48,156 --> 00:29:50,226
If you hit a detour, you
don't just sit there.
548
00:29:50,266 --> 00:29:52,096
I say this all the time in
coaching, you know that.
549
00:29:52,486 --> 00:29:55,776
You hit a detour, you're not going
to sit there and turn off the car and
550
00:29:55,776 --> 00:29:57,396
wait for them to move the barriers.
551
00:29:57,396 --> 00:29:59,156
You're going to find a different way.
552
00:29:59,456 --> 00:30:04,090
Give yourself that same grace to
figure out your special sauce,
553
00:30:04,090 --> 00:30:05,620
what really works for you.
554
00:30:06,425 --> 00:30:06,765
John: Yeah.
555
00:30:07,325 --> 00:30:07,485
Oh
556
00:30:07,690 --> 00:30:09,730
Angie: you definitely achieve more.
557
00:30:11,125 --> 00:30:11,895
John: i'll share this.
558
00:30:11,925 --> 00:30:16,005
There was a game changer for me and for
clients that i've shared this with it
559
00:30:16,005 --> 00:30:23,155
has been A game changer for them as well
You do have to think about Who do you
560
00:30:23,285 --> 00:30:28,405
need to become in order to achieve the
things that you say you want to achieve?
561
00:30:28,405 --> 00:30:33,075
You Who do you need to be showing
up as now to make that happen?
562
00:30:33,325 --> 00:30:35,175
Because it's not the case with goals.
563
00:30:35,185 --> 00:30:38,245
And I think this has often been taught
wrong in the personal development world.
564
00:30:38,545 --> 00:30:41,455
It's not the case with goals that
you get to the thing and suddenly the
565
00:30:42,195 --> 00:30:46,795
click, I know the switch clicks and,
you, poof, you are now this thing.
566
00:30:47,205 --> 00:30:48,405
You have to be that now.
567
00:30:48,405 --> 00:30:51,135
You have to be showing up as the
person you need to be showing
568
00:30:51,135 --> 00:30:52,315
up as in your own life now.
569
00:30:52,715 --> 00:30:53,645
Not perfectly.
570
00:30:54,185 --> 00:30:57,795
It's not going to be perfect, but it
needs to be that you're doing that
571
00:30:57,825 --> 00:30:59,805
and becoming consistent with it.
572
00:31:00,660 --> 00:31:05,750
For you to actually make progress here
like these targets goals are targets that
573
00:31:05,750 --> 00:31:10,090
we're aiming for You may hit it and you
may hit it by the time you say you want
574
00:31:10,100 --> 00:31:15,190
to hit it by or you may not But have you
failed if you don't it's not a pass fail.
575
00:31:15,470 --> 00:31:19,290
It's maybe you got close to it Maybe
you're actually somewhere on the target
576
00:31:19,290 --> 00:31:24,600
board But not bullseye where you want
to be or maybe you've exceeded your
577
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:29,420
goals, but you're gonna be Somewhere and
you're still Even if you don't get it,
578
00:31:29,420 --> 00:31:32,480
you're gonna be closer to the outcomes
you want than you would be if you
579
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:33,950
didn't have these things in your life.
580
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,460
So don't even look at it as a pass fail.
581
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,460
It's not it's the direction
that you want to move in.
582
00:31:39,850 --> 00:31:45,580
And if you have too many targets
that you are aiming for, you
583
00:31:45,580 --> 00:31:46,810
are not gonna hit one of them.
584
00:31:46,810 --> 00:31:47,891
So you do want to.
585
00:31:48,465 --> 00:31:51,955
Limit yourself and the amount of targets
that you're actually aiming towards
586
00:31:52,665 --> 00:31:55,375
Angie: Listen, it's so funny because
as you were saying all of that,
587
00:31:55,375 --> 00:31:58,795
it was, it brought me back to, I
used to play some serious softball.
588
00:31:59,185 --> 00:32:00,135
I'm a lefty.
589
00:32:00,185 --> 00:32:00,585
I throw a
590
00:32:00,735 --> 00:32:03,905
John: I wouldn't want to I would not want
to go up against you in softball angie.
591
00:32:03,905 --> 00:32:04,635
That would scare me
592
00:32:05,675 --> 00:32:07,445
Angie: Seriously, but I was a pitcher.
593
00:32:07,485 --> 00:32:10,845
I either played, I either pitched or I
was first base because I was a lefty.
594
00:32:10,855 --> 00:32:16,645
Anyway, and the interesting thing
was that I, what I got to know
595
00:32:16,645 --> 00:32:20,605
about myself along with my coach,
by the way, when I was really young.
596
00:32:20,970 --> 00:32:24,930
And I don't know, I played softball
from 12 years old up until about
597
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:28,730
35, 34, something like that.
598
00:32:28,910 --> 00:32:29,580
Long time.
599
00:32:30,150 --> 00:32:31,210
Pitching, that's me.
600
00:32:31,580 --> 00:32:38,600
But I learned very young that I have
this natural twist when I release the
601
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:46,685
ball that would bring, no matter what
I tried with my hand to, to navigate
602
00:32:46,685 --> 00:32:50,705
and manipulate my hand that I was still
throwing the ball in this same way.
603
00:32:50,705 --> 00:32:54,185
I have this like inner spin that
I just didn't know how to undo.
604
00:32:54,595 --> 00:32:58,015
And my coach tried and tried and he was
like, I don't know what to tell you.
605
00:32:58,485 --> 00:33:00,655
And then one day what I did was.
606
00:33:01,205 --> 00:33:03,555
I moved over on the pitcher's mound.
607
00:33:03,765 --> 00:33:06,525
I moved to the left a little bit.
608
00:33:07,125 --> 00:33:07,875
And guess what?
609
00:33:07,925 --> 00:33:09,555
All of a sudden the spin didn't matter.
610
00:33:09,585 --> 00:33:11,225
The spin was strike after strike.
611
00:33:11,605 --> 00:33:15,055
And it wasn't the thing that I
thought I had to keep trying, right?
612
00:33:15,055 --> 00:33:18,185
I wasn't going to stop playing
because I couldn't pitch great.
613
00:33:18,665 --> 00:33:19,845
I was a good pitcher.
614
00:33:20,435 --> 00:33:24,295
I just had this twist and I couldn't,
I didn't know how to stop doing it.
615
00:33:24,295 --> 00:33:25,835
I'm holding my hand going, stop it.
616
00:33:25,835 --> 00:33:26,305
What are you doing?
617
00:33:26,585 --> 00:33:27,735
I have no control.
618
00:33:28,155 --> 00:33:31,975
So instead of trying to fix the
hand, I just moved a little bit left.
619
00:33:32,445 --> 00:33:38,555
And now, that natural twist that
I had was right in alignment.
620
00:33:38,565 --> 00:33:41,345
Right where it should
be, most of the time.
621
00:33:41,595 --> 00:33:42,975
Which is what a good pitcher did.
622
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:45,040
Right here.
623
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,450
I was trying to fix something
that really wasn't broke.
624
00:33:47,450 --> 00:33:50,310
It was natural and I had to embrace it.
625
00:33:50,310 --> 00:33:53,540
So I know that's a crazy story, but
that's what I thought about when you
626
00:33:53,540 --> 00:33:56,270
said that, because that was one of
the times in my life where I could
627
00:33:56,270 --> 00:34:00,090
identify the natural challenge.
628
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:01,700
I tried to change it.
629
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:03,430
I had no luck.
630
00:34:03,430 --> 00:34:04,760
So then what did I have to do?
631
00:34:05,180 --> 00:34:09,005
I had to shift the whole body
so that the wrist, And the hand
632
00:34:09,045 --> 00:34:13,034
movement made sense and brought me
to the goal, which was a strike.
633
00:34:13,745 --> 00:34:14,025
John: Yeah
634
00:34:14,054 --> 00:34:15,264
Angie: That's a crazy story, but
635
00:34:15,324 --> 00:34:18,495
John: You could but you could only
have figured that out by being in
636
00:34:18,495 --> 00:34:22,435
the game By continuing on with it
and that same for all of us as well.
637
00:34:22,435 --> 00:34:26,485
As I many people will wait
until everything is perfect.
638
00:34:26,485 --> 00:34:30,565
All the stars are aligned before
taking action and going for it before
639
00:34:30,565 --> 00:34:34,074
moving stuff out from being that
sort of conceptual stage in the mind.
640
00:34:34,385 --> 00:34:36,324
To being more of a manifest reality.
641
00:34:36,324 --> 00:34:39,835
I'm always reluctant to use that word
because there's so much shit around
642
00:34:40,175 --> 00:34:42,114
manifestation, but you get what I mean.
643
00:34:42,114 --> 00:34:45,844
It's like manifest reality, just being in
the, something that's in the real world.
644
00:34:46,295 --> 00:34:50,364
And and I see this all the time with
people of when they're when I work
645
00:34:50,364 --> 00:34:53,875
with people, I'm creating actions that
are going to start moving forward.
646
00:34:53,875 --> 00:34:54,985
The, we want strategies.
647
00:34:54,985 --> 00:34:58,065
We want actions that are going to
move forward these goals towards these
648
00:34:58,065 --> 00:34:59,725
targets that we have for ourselves.
649
00:35:00,365 --> 00:35:02,955
You can tell pretty quick the
people who are going to see
650
00:35:02,955 --> 00:35:04,705
results sooner than the others.
651
00:35:05,505 --> 00:35:11,450
And to me, the ones who are working
both the inner and the outer game.
652
00:35:12,010 --> 00:35:15,630
So they're working on themselves, but
they're also working on making something
653
00:35:15,630 --> 00:35:16,990
happen in the world around them.
654
00:35:16,990 --> 00:35:22,160
I think when you have a good plan of
making sure that you look after the
655
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,600
inner game, that's going on for you,
the mindset and everything else your
656
00:35:25,610 --> 00:35:27,290
health, your wellbeing, your energy.
657
00:35:27,830 --> 00:35:31,060
That's all stuff that's really
important and supports everything
658
00:35:31,060 --> 00:35:32,230
else that's going to be going on.
659
00:35:32,230 --> 00:35:35,230
You have to have it and you
have to have stuff that's
660
00:35:35,270 --> 00:35:36,540
taking action in the real world.
661
00:35:36,850 --> 00:35:37,400
I see.
662
00:35:37,995 --> 00:35:42,625
way too many people, and I do call
this out when I see it, who just
663
00:35:42,635 --> 00:35:44,715
have the internal stuff going on.
664
00:35:44,715 --> 00:35:45,795
That's their action steps.
665
00:35:45,805 --> 00:35:47,525
It's all stuff I'm going
to work on with myself.
666
00:35:47,525 --> 00:35:50,385
I'm going to spend some time
to think about this as well.
667
00:35:50,805 --> 00:35:55,065
We need something that takes you
out of thinking and into practical
668
00:35:55,145 --> 00:35:59,125
action, because that is where
you're going to see results.
669
00:35:59,395 --> 00:36:03,750
My, my favorite I often be, I often
will be asked what my top favorite quote
670
00:36:03,860 --> 00:36:09,730
is, and it is from Lao Tsu, who was
a teacher to Confucius, that to know
671
00:36:09,790 --> 00:36:12,890
and not to do is to not truly know.
672
00:36:13,310 --> 00:36:16,930
So you can know something in your head,
but unless you actually do something
673
00:36:16,930 --> 00:36:18,740
with it, you're not really going to know.
674
00:36:18,740 --> 00:36:21,800
It's conceptual knowledge, it's not
practical knowledge, and there's
675
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,260
a big difference between the two.
676
00:36:23,660 --> 00:36:25,870
You can figure things out
when you're in action.
677
00:36:26,230 --> 00:36:28,820
You can't figure them out just
all together in your head.
678
00:36:28,850 --> 00:36:30,340
You will never get to that point.
679
00:36:30,610 --> 00:36:33,990
You have to put the stuff into
action and do something with it.
680
00:36:34,050 --> 00:36:39,240
And then our ability to be adaptable and
flexible and all the good things that
681
00:36:39,250 --> 00:36:43,610
get us past any obstacles or problems
that come up will come into play.
682
00:36:44,020 --> 00:36:47,850
But our brains are just not capable
of figuring all those things
683
00:36:47,850 --> 00:36:50,590
out before we take any action.
684
00:36:51,395 --> 00:36:52,535
Angie: Absolutely, how do you learn?
685
00:36:52,535 --> 00:36:53,545
Through experience.
686
00:36:53,545 --> 00:36:56,905
I could learn anything in a tech,
think about a surgeon, right?
687
00:36:57,025 --> 00:36:58,375
Oh, top of the class.
688
00:36:58,425 --> 00:37:02,245
I graduated top of the class, but
I've only done one of these great in
689
00:37:02,245 --> 00:37:04,455
depth brain surgeries, Miss Angie.
690
00:37:05,025 --> 00:37:05,515
Really?
691
00:37:05,745 --> 00:37:08,615
And then I get somebody who's maybe
graduated middle of the class,
692
00:37:08,615 --> 00:37:11,335
weren't the best, weren't the worst,
but they've done a thousand of them.
693
00:37:11,345 --> 00:37:11,365
Yeah.
694
00:37:11,365 --> 00:37:11,505
Yeah.
695
00:37:11,845 --> 00:37:13,135
Where do you think I'm going?
696
00:37:13,215 --> 00:37:16,645
I'm going to the thousand guy because
he's got the experience, what could
697
00:37:16,655 --> 00:37:20,905
happen, what did happen, just knows
how to do things in the moment.
698
00:37:20,925 --> 00:37:21,135
Like.
699
00:37:21,620 --> 00:37:23,220
All day long, think about it.
700
00:37:23,750 --> 00:37:26,490
So yeah, and you have to
give yourself again that
701
00:37:26,740 --> 00:37:26,970
John: Yeah.
702
00:37:26,970 --> 00:37:27,290
I agree.
703
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:28,340
Angie: do it.
704
00:37:28,860 --> 00:37:31,370
John: I've often used the example of
if you need business, if you need a
705
00:37:31,370 --> 00:37:35,230
specific business advice, do you go
to the to the college professor who's,
706
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:40,830
he's been teaching business for decades,
but never actually had any practical
707
00:37:40,830 --> 00:37:45,510
business experience, or do you ideally
go to, I'm giving this away, but do you
708
00:37:45,510 --> 00:37:49,280
go to the person who's been in business
and has lived it and put all the stuff
709
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:53,520
into action that the professor probably
only has a conceptual knowledge of,
710
00:37:53,790 --> 00:37:57,890
maybe ideally, Go to both, get a bit
of both, but more than anything else
711
00:37:57,940 --> 00:37:59,870
you want the practical knowledge.
712
00:37:59,870 --> 00:38:03,270
You want to see what things look like
in action and to speak with somebody
713
00:38:03,270 --> 00:38:09,080
who isn't just in the conceptuality
of things or the knowing the data and
714
00:38:09,080 --> 00:38:13,070
information, but someone who knows
what happens in business and what you
715
00:38:13,070 --> 00:38:14,740
need to be doing to make that happen.
716
00:38:15,430 --> 00:38:15,840
Angie: Yep.
717
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:16,590
I agree.
718
00:38:16,870 --> 00:38:17,760
Good stuff today.
719
00:38:18,260 --> 00:38:19,480
John: Where do you stand?
720
00:38:19,490 --> 00:38:21,880
This might be a sort of closing
off thing, but where do you stand
721
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,610
on rewarding yourself for goals?
722
00:38:24,933 --> 00:38:26,013
Do you think that's important?
723
00:38:26,380 --> 00:38:29,530
Angie: I think for me,
let me start with me.
724
00:38:30,010 --> 00:38:32,120
For me, the reward is the achievement.
725
00:38:32,170 --> 00:38:34,150
It's hitting the goal, right?
726
00:38:34,220 --> 00:38:34,770
I did it.
727
00:38:34,830 --> 00:38:35,800
I worked at it.
728
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:36,680
I fell.
729
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:37,960
I lip skidded, but I hit it.
730
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:38,460
I did it.
731
00:38:39,765 --> 00:38:41,995
There's great value in that.
732
00:38:43,215 --> 00:38:47,065
I'm not, I have to be honest and I'm
sure there's some psychiatrists and
733
00:38:47,065 --> 00:38:50,985
psychologists out there with really
pretty letters at the end of their last
734
00:38:50,985 --> 00:38:52,705
name that are going to go, you're wrong.
735
00:38:53,435 --> 00:38:58,475
I'm just going to say that in my
personal experience and my experience
736
00:38:58,515 --> 00:39:02,825
as a coach, the reward system
stops working when you're five.
737
00:39:03,930 --> 00:39:08,020
It's just, if it's do you need to have
a reward for everything that you set
738
00:39:08,020 --> 00:39:10,020
out to do as an adult professional?
739
00:39:10,390 --> 00:39:14,750
So I don't really know, I'm not really
a fan, obviously, trying to say that
740
00:39:14,750 --> 00:39:20,510
graciously, but I'm not like, oh maybe
if you lose 25 pounds and you want to
741
00:39:20,510 --> 00:39:22,630
go buy a new wardrobe, go for it, right?
742
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:26,040
That's great, but it's not just a
reward, it's probably a necessity.
743
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:27,850
You lost 25 pounds, go do it.
744
00:39:29,020 --> 00:39:30,310
Go buy the new clothes you need!
745
00:39:30,310 --> 00:39:32,232
John: I have mixed feelings about it.
746
00:39:32,232 --> 00:39:36,002
I've certainly used coaching been
in coaching programs where rewards
747
00:39:36,002 --> 00:39:40,402
have been encouraged and we get people to
Create and take rewards for themselves.
748
00:39:40,852 --> 00:39:42,472
And part of that is because there are
749
00:39:42,492 --> 00:39:46,427
some people who just don't they don't
Do really do anything for themselves.
750
00:39:46,427 --> 00:39:51,187
They don't even think they don't
spend any time to play and have fun.
751
00:39:51,237 --> 00:39:54,467
And I think just in terms of if that, if
it just helps some people have a bit more
752
00:39:54,467 --> 00:39:56,447
balanced, then it's a good thing for that.
753
00:39:56,867 --> 00:40:01,807
I'm unsure about how effective it
is in terms of personal entrainment.
754
00:40:02,842 --> 00:40:06,902
It's given we're not dogs Although some of
our psychology may work in similar ways,
755
00:40:06,902 --> 00:40:08,832
but we don't just they're all good boy.
756
00:40:08,852 --> 00:40:11,332
Good girl Here's a treat, you
know because you did the trick.
757
00:40:11,662 --> 00:40:15,162
Yeah, exactly that I think
there's a limit You're right.
758
00:40:15,162 --> 00:40:18,782
There's a limit to how much that stuff
really works One of the things that I
759
00:40:18,792 --> 00:40:23,242
have used and you're welcome to take it or
leave it if you find it helpful or not But
760
00:40:23,242 --> 00:40:26,992
for some of my clients who felt that they
needed something more with their goals
761
00:40:27,372 --> 00:40:33,312
can be to tie in some of your service
and contribution goals particularly,
762
00:40:33,322 --> 00:40:37,272
this is particularly for professional
goals that you may have, financial goals
763
00:40:37,272 --> 00:40:41,242
that you may want to hit, to tie in some
of your service and contribution goals
764
00:40:41,242 --> 00:40:45,112
to those that because it's a reward to
yourself as well to be able to maybe make
765
00:40:45,232 --> 00:40:50,842
a donation to an organization that you
want to support or to be able to Sponsor
766
00:40:50,842 --> 00:40:56,612
somebody or to do a good thing for your
community or whatever else that you create
767
00:40:56,702 --> 00:41:01,142
service and contribution goals and link
them to your own goals because you're
768
00:41:01,142 --> 00:41:06,652
going to be turning up your accountability
massively because the goals, the
769
00:41:06,662 --> 00:41:08,882
outcomes of your goals are no longer just
770
00:41:08,882 --> 00:41:13,832
about You getting what you want is
also that Other people are going to
771
00:41:13,832 --> 00:41:17,602
get something that's going to be really
valuable to them as well your goals
772
00:41:18,642 --> 00:41:22,572
Suddenly become about much more than
you They become about being able to help
773
00:41:22,592 --> 00:41:23,882
others and being in those positions.
774
00:41:23,882 --> 00:41:27,532
So I think if you don't have service
and contribution goals, currently
775
00:41:27,532 --> 00:41:32,022
linked to your more specifically to your
professional goals, have a think about
776
00:41:32,022 --> 00:41:36,802
doing that because I think it could be a
great way to, to turn up the urgency and
777
00:41:36,802 --> 00:41:41,262
accountability for what you want to be, to
have and create in your professional life.
778
00:41:42,551 --> 00:41:44,221
Angie: Yeah, I think I
want to be really clear.
779
00:41:44,221 --> 00:41:45,421
I want to clarify something.
780
00:41:45,421 --> 00:41:46,441
I think that's great.
781
00:41:46,471 --> 00:41:50,001
I think, paying things forward
or giving back contributing is
782
00:41:50,001 --> 00:41:52,151
just something that I think I do anyway.
783
00:41:52,631 --> 00:41:55,201
There's things that I
just do personally as, and
784
00:41:55,201 --> 00:41:57,411
sometimes it's about
doing things pro bono.
785
00:41:57,411 --> 00:41:59,961
Sometimes it's about
tying an outcome to it.
786
00:42:00,241 --> 00:42:04,141
So I'm all about that, but I also
want to make sure I'm clear, like I
787
00:42:04,301 --> 00:42:07,061
believe that we need to celebrate our
788
00:42:07,351 --> 00:42:08,351
accomplishments.
789
00:42:08,881 --> 00:42:15,131
So I don't know if reward is the word
that I use, but I do think that we can't
790
00:42:15,171 --> 00:42:19,751
achieve any milestone to, get to the
bigger piece without celebrating it.
791
00:42:20,266 --> 00:42:21,346
Because it's important.
792
00:42:21,356 --> 00:42:22,296
We are working.
793
00:42:22,296 --> 00:42:23,516
We are accomplishing.
794
00:42:23,516 --> 00:42:24,686
We're doing something.
795
00:42:24,986 --> 00:42:25,136
and
796
00:42:25,136 --> 00:42:26,676
I think that's very individual.
797
00:42:26,676 --> 00:42:29,526
I think how we do it is
really what I was saying.
798
00:42:29,576 --> 00:42:32,756
I don't respond well
to Oh I lost 25 pounds.
799
00:42:32,766 --> 00:42:35,196
I'm going to have a piece of chocolate
and that's counterproductive.
800
00:42:35,206 --> 00:42:35,986
We're not doing that.
801
00:42:36,276 --> 00:42:42,766
But but still celebrating them and giving
yourself that positive reinforcement.
802
00:42:42,776 --> 00:42:44,716
Like I really can do this.
803
00:42:44,756 --> 00:42:46,366
It really is working.
804
00:42:46,676 --> 00:42:47,846
This is exciting.
805
00:42:48,316 --> 00:42:52,336
I still get excited about goals after
all these years, and I know you do too.
806
00:42:53,016 --> 00:42:57,966
So you want, you can't just
overlook and bypass, otherwise
807
00:42:57,966 --> 00:42:59,330
there's no sense in having them
808
00:43:00,303 --> 00:43:01,337
.
Otherwise there's no dopamine.
809
00:43:01,867 --> 00:43:05,627
So we definitely need to make sure
that we do to some degree or some
810
00:43:05,627 --> 00:43:08,327
level celebrate the milestones for
811
00:43:08,479 --> 00:43:11,559
John: I know you're one of I
know talking about burnout is
812
00:43:11,559 --> 00:43:13,899
one of your specialized areas.
813
00:43:13,899 --> 00:43:18,839
And I do think we are, I do think we
are still very much in a culture where
814
00:43:18,839 --> 00:43:20,989
it's all about hustle, hustle and grind.
815
00:43:21,539 --> 00:43:24,689
And everyone thinks that's what
you have to do all the time.
816
00:43:24,699 --> 00:43:26,129
But it does ultimately,
817
00:43:26,439 --> 00:43:29,119
If that's all you do, it
will lead you to burnout.
818
00:43:29,139 --> 00:43:30,949
There's no two ways about it.
819
00:43:30,959 --> 00:43:31,429
That's the
820
00:43:31,429 --> 00:43:31,859
road that
821
00:43:31,859 --> 00:43:36,789
you're on If you don't know how to play
and celebrate and have fun in your own
822
00:43:36,789 --> 00:43:37,939
life That's just not
823
00:43:37,949 --> 00:43:40,449
something that you feel
guilty about it that famous
824
00:43:40,489 --> 00:43:45,069
entrepreneurial guilt that people
often talk about because it's not work.
825
00:43:45,069 --> 00:43:45,939
It's not moving
826
00:43:45,939 --> 00:43:47,679
not advancing not moving the needle
827
00:43:47,679 --> 00:43:52,199
on my professional life, whatever else
Start giving yourself a break, Brené Brown
828
00:43:52,199 --> 00:43:55,059
talks about this exceptionally well in her
829
00:43:55,079 --> 00:43:55,699
content.
830
00:43:55,779 --> 00:43:57,709
About becoming more wholehearted.
831
00:43:57,709 --> 00:43:58,869
Like the whole thing she saw about these
832
00:43:58,869 --> 00:44:00,789
people, she was describing as wholehearted
833
00:44:00,789 --> 00:44:02,389
was that they knew how to play.
834
00:44:02,729 --> 00:44:05,809
And the lesson that she took away from
that was that she needed some play in
835
00:44:05,809 --> 00:44:10,859
her life for herself, with her family,
for the connection time, that piece, that
836
00:44:10,879 --> 00:44:12,999
balance piece was really missing for her.
837
00:44:13,379 --> 00:44:16,659
And I think, if you want to tie
celebrations, rewards, whatever else
838
00:44:16,709 --> 00:44:20,679
to your goals in that respect, that's
a healthy thing, it's going to help
839
00:44:20,679 --> 00:44:22,409
you have a much better life balance.
840
00:44:23,979 --> 00:44:27,299
Stay off that hustle and grind train
is like there are times for hustle
841
00:44:27,299 --> 00:44:32,239
and grind, but it has to be in balance
Whatever balance looks like for you with
842
00:44:32,249 --> 00:44:34,019
those other aspects of your life as well
843
00:44:35,162 --> 00:44:36,182
Angie: Oh, no, absolutely.
844
00:44:36,182 --> 00:44:40,232
If you're grinding all day, every day,
you are going to hate what you do and
845
00:44:40,232 --> 00:44:41,092
everybody around
846
00:44:41,092 --> 00:44:41,322
you.
847
00:44:41,882 --> 00:44:43,062
That is a true outcome.
848
00:44:43,072 --> 00:44:44,912
You're going to be like,
I don't even want to see
849
00:44:44,912 --> 00:44:45,662
these people.
850
00:44:45,692 --> 00:44:47,862
I don't care about the
kids, the dog, the spouse.
851
00:44:48,252 --> 00:44:49,632
I don't care about my food.
852
00:44:49,632 --> 00:44:50,762
I don't care about anything.
853
00:44:50,792 --> 00:44:52,942
I'm too tired to even
think about all of that.
854
00:44:52,942 --> 00:44:53,982
So I won't get into that
855
00:44:53,982 --> 00:44:54,952
But yes, you're right.
856
00:44:55,302 --> 00:44:55,902
John: And chat with us.
857
00:44:55,902 --> 00:44:57,042
We'll we'll have fun with you.
858
00:44:57,042 --> 00:44:57,602
We'll play
859
00:44:58,305 --> 00:45:01,145
Angie: Yeah, we need to
have, we need to be playful.
860
00:45:01,425 --> 00:45:02,995
That's one of my intentions this
861
00:45:02,995 --> 00:45:05,665
year is to be more intentionally play
862
00:45:05,675 --> 00:45:08,025
like just because that's
who I am naturally, right?
863
00:45:08,295 --> 00:45:13,085
So to just take off the hat and just be
who I am and be a little silly and playful
864
00:45:13,095 --> 00:45:15,295
because I feel good when I do that.
865
00:45:15,835 --> 00:45:16,525
Silly.
866
00:45:16,712 --> 00:45:18,062
John: for this year playful?
867
00:45:18,505 --> 00:45:19,015
Angie: It might be.
868
00:45:19,665 --> 00:45:20,495
It might be.
869
00:45:20,545 --> 00:45:22,095
Playful Is a great word for me.
870
00:45:22,305 --> 00:45:24,345
I was doing some things
while I was hanging
871
00:45:24,345 --> 00:45:27,125
out with my daughter recently,
and she literally rolled her
872
00:45:27,125 --> 00:45:28,235
eyes at me going, like, how
873
00:45:28,235 --> 00:45:28,575
old are you?
874
00:45:29,545 --> 00:45:30,815
I'm like, who cares?
875
00:45:30,915 --> 00:45:34,205
I still, my brain doesn't
realize how old my body is.
876
00:45:34,295 --> 00:45:35,515
It doesn't really care.
877
00:45:35,875 --> 00:45:37,865
So yeah, so silly and playful?
878
00:45:37,865 --> 00:45:41,835
is definitely going to lead to more
smiles by the end of the year for sure.
879
00:45:42,497 --> 00:45:43,087
John: I love that.
880
00:45:43,087 --> 00:45:46,287
Yeah, I think play is a great, at
least a great intention to have
881
00:45:46,567 --> 00:45:48,507
in their play and balance and fun.
882
00:45:48,787 --> 00:45:49,937
And I certainly have that on.
883
00:45:50,007 --> 00:45:51,627
Yeah, my, my word for this.
884
00:45:51,627 --> 00:45:52,827
Yeah, I think I see a
lot of people doing this.
885
00:45:52,827 --> 00:45:54,387
I think I have a word for this year.
886
00:45:54,427 --> 00:45:58,907
My word for this year is, oh, gosh,
I really haven't thought about this.
887
00:45:59,187 --> 00:45:59,727
Energy.
888
00:45:59,897 --> 00:46:01,037
I'm focused on energy.
889
00:46:02,445 --> 00:46:02,995
Angie: Okay.
890
00:46:03,495 --> 00:46:03,775
And I
891
00:46:03,877 --> 00:46:04,207
John: my word
892
00:46:04,245 --> 00:46:05,035
Angie: about energy.
893
00:46:05,655 --> 00:46:08,965
I love energy because it's
all the things, right?
894
00:46:09,025 --> 00:46:10,225
So that's great.
895
00:46:11,967 --> 00:46:13,787
John: us know what your
word for the year is.
896
00:46:13,787 --> 00:46:15,037
If that's inspired you to think of
897
00:46:15,037 --> 00:46:16,867
one or what your goals
you're setting for the year.
898
00:46:16,867 --> 00:46:17,277
We'd love to
899
00:46:17,277 --> 00:46:19,827
hear them and any
takeaways you may have had
900
00:46:19,827 --> 00:46:22,067
from the session or anything
we haven't talked about that.
901
00:46:22,067 --> 00:46:24,827
Maybe you think, Oh, I think this
is important for goal setting.
902
00:46:24,827 --> 00:46:27,777
We'd love to hear from you as well,
but by no, in no way do we think we
903
00:46:27,777 --> 00:46:29,117
have all the answers to everything.
904
00:46:29,367 --> 00:46:30,217
You're just getting what
905
00:46:30,967 --> 00:46:34,197
50 years worth of plus of coaching
experience from the two of us.
906
00:46:34,197 --> 00:46:34,817
Angie: For sure.
907
00:46:35,549 --> 00:46:35,759
John: I'm
908
00:46:35,759 --> 00:46:38,059
counting indeed but
it's been a fun episode.
909
00:46:38,059 --> 00:46:38,429
I think this
910
00:46:38,689 --> 00:46:43,189
has been a great way to start the year
and after holidays and bugs that have
911
00:46:43,219 --> 00:46:45,009
been going around and all
of this, we finally got
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around to being able to do this again.
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And we've got much more ahead
and maybe even some guests coming
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up for you . So that's going to
be a little different for us.
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But certainly.
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The people we're going to bring
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you are going to be amazing value for
you, too So start looking out for those
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episodes coming up and who knows what
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00:47:01,669 --> 00:47:04,519
other news we'll have for you But
we'll be back again next week.
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You can expect more regular shows from
us again Now the holidays are over
921
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and we're happy to see
you back with us as well.
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00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:14,534
We will look forward to seeing you on
the next show I Do you go check out
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any of the links that you want to from
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how to contact us in the show notes?
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You can also leave us a voice
message Go to speakpipe.
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com forward slash the
coaching clinic podcast.
927
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You can
928
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leave us a voicemail there.
929
00:47:25,194 --> 00:47:29,054
It's free to do We'll probably feature
you on the show if you do it And we'd love
930
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to hear from you or leave us a message
on linkedin or on twitter Or send us an
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email.
932
00:47:32,774 --> 00:47:34,814
We've already been hearing
from some people who would like
933
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to come and be on the show.
934
00:47:36,064 --> 00:47:36,634
We're looking at
935
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some new features, lots of
things coming up this year.
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It's going to be exciting.
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00:47:40,617 --> 00:47:41,697
Angie: Very exciting.
938
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John: So we'll see you next time.
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Angie: Yeah.
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Bye for now.