00:00:30Welcome to the third pedal, podcast recorded at the Vandal Lounge. In beautiful Southeast Portland, Oregon, why the third title? Because even the most badass entrepreneurs, get stuck up and visit Management Consultant. Jennifer McFarland is your third paddle helping you get unstuck a b and e Pryor as healers sales for his own, their power, and they're worth. So they make more money and have more powerful impact on the World by doing work. That really matters. So Tandy, I'm so excited to have you on the show. How are you doing today? I'm doing great. I'm glad to be here. I know like it. I'm just glad to see you cuz I I was in Cincinnati hanging out with you not that long ago, but haven't seen you since then. So I'm just really glad to see you. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Yes. I am really glad to see you too. I would let that was a really fun time. So Tandy, can you tell the listeners a little bit about your work?

00:02:30A real estate agent. It's about standing in in your value and and what you bring and all of the gifts that you bring and charging for it, even though I kind of started on his own, your power piece. I was sitting in a room last year and it was a power panel that was up on the stage and it was amazing. Women that have achieved all kinds of great things to online businesses and their price six or seven of them. And somebody asked a question about power and why it's important to have your power and all of them almost. I would pretty much stay exclusively. I can't remember. I remember a few were like, oh no, no, no power, you know, they immediately equated it to a male more of a dominant overpowering. Like it's a bad thing and I think,

00:04:30That special kind of power. Not something you wield of over other people not necessarily the kind that really makes you pushed through when maybe it's time to allow, not just push. I'm talking about the kind of power when you're lined with your life's work and your purpose and you take action and you have intentions and you have physical space and you listen to that inner voice. I love that. I mean, I think that so often we forget that power isn't just somebody wielding something over us. Power is standing within yourself having that inner guidance. That tells you right from wrong, how to act who you want to interact with, who you want to work with, in terms of Entrepreneurship and owning your own business. That inner guidance is really power and it's what allows us to

00:06:30To take over and you changed, you know, according to the world in some people do it more than others and in different situations. Nobody is ever the same but, you know, you really tuned in that inner inner World in that inner. Peace. You do, you get intentional, you can be very intentional and start to begin to attract ideal client and you know automatically know that you're enough in that charging what you said you were going to charge and standing in it and not letting somebody tell you to discount it and creating a physical space. That aligns with your highest intentions, beautiful clear, clean decluttered spakes, you know, space and you begin to release the old stories around that. In one of the things that I see a lot with women is they don't speak their needs. They don't speak their voice and I do have a few men that I work with primarily on.

00:08:27Well, I didn't get here because it was perfect. I got here because it was anything, but perfect, and I made a lot of mistakes. And I guess the best way to start is, I was adopted in 1961 by an amazing family and I still grew up with a shame around secrecy of of what that system was. And without getting into that. I will say that shame, we know so much more now than we did, then that you make so many choices from that place of disempowerment. And I mean, that's more. If you are a part of a closed adoption system, you don't have access to answers and that's just the way it was, but that's the way the system was. And I think that set me up for needing to prove and set up things that I just

00:10:27Same time. I was leaning more towards again. The funk shui in the healing peace. And but what happened was, ultimately at 50. I wrapped all of these experiences up into a known. That I was a coach that I have been training to be a coach that I have had a life experience and education around every piece of this. And I wrapped it up and here we are six years later, do it, you know, the divorce was rough that there were a lot of things that that didn't go well. And I didn't want to spend the rest of my life doing that and I wanted to help other people and every aspect of their life learn how to own their power, and make empowered choices in their life. I think that's amazing. And I think that what really pisses ditions you as a really excellent coach and helping people stand in their power, is that you have such an amazing, hero's journey story, and it

00:12:27We did is still choose the word trickling down and really settling in and impacting her currently still. And I I was blown away by that cuz she's with amazing. And I, you know, I just hadn't talked to her for a little while but I love staying in touch with her and I had another woman who was an attorney that I worked with that, just reached out and said, thank you that, you know, she still reaping the benefits of the work years later. So sometimes people stay working with me for a long time and some people come in. They do like one one round. I have packages and sometimes they say two or three, but I'm always, I'm just blown away by when I still hear that. The impact is years later, and it's probably the most rewarding amazing thing ever. I just, I love it, isn't it? I mean, I can honestly say that when I'm in your presence, I feel like I'm receiving a healing.

00:13:39Back with that when she had you had, if you had no tan Deelishis was coming in, right?

00:14:46I just love reading them because you could just tell that it was genuine heartfelt, you know, they're not people who like, oh, I just got to do this testimonial. Think these are people who really experienced change. Yeah. With the initials behind it or something and you don't know who it is. You have. These are these are names and people you're right. I love him know. I think it's, I think it's so amazing. So if you've kind of talked a little bit about the space, but I'm wondering if you wanted to dive in just a little bit more because, you know, if people go to Tandy prayer, coaching.com, what are the things that they can download from? You is your five ways, you're blocking your power and I'm not going to give away all 5, but I will say

00:16:31The results that I've had especially working at home offices, around that, the physical space is very important. It is an outer extension of what's going on within you. And you can see it. It's. I can see it right away. If I see, somebody's face, what's going on in their life. They may say they don't have any issues with money. But if I go there and I see it, it's all cluttered. And, you know, it's, I saw one woman one time that had an armoire that was catty-corner and hadn't been moved in 20 years and she had serious money problem, and nothing in it. Had been moved in 20 years and there were blankets piled on top of it. You know, that's one of the first things we did was move that and get things moving around. It is an integral part of success, for when you position a desk for Success, like what I have calling the command position, which means it has a solid.

00:18:31Skills or training to know what that's doing to me, besides making me crazy. So it's, it's interesting. It's just fascinating to me. Clutter is skewed. Clutter is a block like we talked earlier that is a power block, but it is a block. I mean, clutter is anything that is unused unloved, stagnant, lower vibration. I mean, there's no other way. It allows people to stay stuck. At allows people to not move forward and then people use it. People use stuff. They use disorganization to stay small disempowered, kind of victim Me. Maybe. I mean, you can even bring that in a couple weeks ago. I interviewed Tim McCain and I was in what was so interesting. I was in Cincinnati with you and then within a month, I was in Idaho. Taking a train from Tim mckain who's talking about releasing.

00:19:34I went through and I was making a list of all the things I didn't like about my business. And then the next day it was like, well, whose fault is that? And I realized to a point like I'm responsible for all this shit. I created this mess, you know, and it wasn't a big deal. It's just, you know, when you see the things that make you crazy and then you realize that you're in charge of it to me, that's a real chance to kind of just stand in it and own it and then clean it, which is what I did. And to also ask what you get out of it, being like that. Yeah, and I think that was the other part. That was so aggravating. I was like, oh so this is what allows me to complain. That's what I'm getting out of it. And then people feel sorry for me and I was like, I don't want people to feel sorry for me. That's that's stupid. I want to be successful. I don't want to complain to my husband and have him. Pat me on the head and tell me it's okay. That's who I am. And that's part of the

00:21:18I think you I just really like working with you. I think I don't I think hanging out with you is like magic. So I just appreciate you being on here. And before we go do you have if there's one piece of advice, knowing that most of the audience are solopreneurs women and small businesses? Is there one piece of advice that you could impart to the audience? What would that be? If you are? And you're feeling very stuck, get some new information. Don't stay there, whether it's a coach or a technology person, if that's what, you're what ever it is. Don't you don't have to stay in pain. There is a way out of it and I see a lot of people walking around in a lot of pain, even though it might look really good on the outside if something's really going on reach out and get some new information and some new strategies and the new techniques.

00:23:14You. Third paddle.com., The third pedal podcast is sponsored by Foster growth, LLC online at ww.w., Foster growth.